How and why do you end a relationship of more than 5 years?

How and why do you end a relationship of more than 5 years?
Give a Sup Forumsrother some food for thought.

It was unfulfilling and I was bored with it. Fancied a change to be honest. That was my GF of two years.

When she escapes from you dungeon and gets the cops to arrest you

The chemical part of love fades after 2-3 years. That's when you get to know whether you really are interested in each other or not as life partners.

Because monogamy is unnatural.

By explaining that fact

Just make sure you fuck her one more time.

Get back to bed, Jason.

Few words yet very accurate, tell some more of how you did it please. And still 2 years isnt nearly as much as 5-10

And that last time, cum in her vagina.

Exactly the same for me. I just up and left my GF of 7 years. Moved out, saw her once and talked a little haven't seen her since. About 4 months ago. No regrets

I am having a debate with myself wether to do it at all

How old are you? And how hot are you?

I KEK'D AT THIS IMAGE

But don't tell her that you did, so the next guy she is with thinks that is his child >:)). Actually your offspring... raised by others, so you can make more!

7 yrs damn, was it mutual eventually or she went hysteric?

Mid 20s and probably average as in not bad nor exceptionally hot. My face is good tho

I'm on the verge of breaking up with my gf, 5 yr together. The date is set, till then we just live together in one room rented flat.

Nevermind all those virgins claiming "eat her pussy then gtfo", user.

Tell me. What's wrong with your relationship? I'm having troubles in mine too, been for a while, but I'm not a quitter.

Whats the reason? Generally what would you consider good reasons which are justifying giving up many years history

She pretty much went hysteric, she had been talking about kids and marriage and shit. I was never into that. I miss her sometimes, but I'm still feeling good about it

break it off if you're not happy. Everyone deserves to be happy

Its many manifestations but the core reason the same: i grew up to be a responsible and hard working person in order to reach my life plan, and she didnt. She is practically dragging me down now. Tell me about yourself

'Everyone deserves to be happy' resonates well with me

I believe that talk we're given that girls are more mature than boys is BS. What's up with your girl, exactly?

About my case, short story, but you know how in certain movies there's that guy who spends too time much at work, gets home and even though he really loves his family he is too tired for anything? That was me 2 years ago. It's in the past now, but she never really got over it, and I don't blame her.

Lazy, unambitious, stuck professionally in a spot she hates and i hate even more and doesnt do anything about it. Same goes to physical fitness and overall she made some dedications in the past that she doesnt hold up to. A year ago i said to her in a very dramatic discussion that i CANNOT go on like that. Yesterday it struck me out of nowhere that in 1 year nothing changed

And since im at it already: by now i dont even feel any desire to help her, i like her becsuse of the history i suppose, but i dont value her highly as a human and partner

Yeah, go for it. You'll be bitter holding on to a relationship that does nothing for you

Breaking up is rough, it sucks having to make someone you loved and probably still respect sad and upset. But you'll probably both be better off in the long run

Yea i know itll be rough, but thats not the only thing, getting to know new people is also a little scary, first and only gf.

>MFW whe I agree to enter relationship with bestie
>first 5 months are amazballz.
>Virgin pudge bff is 3rd best lay ever
>Month 4 sex trails off
>Month 5 and I'm considering suicide

Ugh, break up is going to be the messiest catastrophe ever, but I know I have to do it eventually

Some people grow up and really don't see time pass by them, I have seen friends go that way, ending up like that. I believe you have tried talking her out of her laziness and her bad job. What's her side of the story? I mean, did she ever tell you why she's lazy or why she doesn't feel like working out for her man or changing jobs?

The sooner the better righ? You reaaly dont want good memories when breaking up. Its crushing

Yeah it is. I met my gf when I was 17, broke it off at 24 years old. Meeting new people was scary at first, bet gets easier. Now I really enjoy it

Hey me...
mind telling the story?

simple, i gave her 2 years and 6 chances to stop fucking drinking & get a job.

She didn't, infact so much so I saved a 10 year old bottle of Pinoit Noir and she chugged 3/4 of the bottle no questiones asked... so i fucked a milf like a bitch and really ended the realtionship with a lasting message: you want to do nothing? you wanna be nothing other than a sad drunk when hes the only one working to make us work?? well your partner could always do better of you want to be nothing. so there ya go enjoy. nothing

that's the worst part, I have to stay with her at least another couple of months. I can't break up with her before I go to EDC in june
>MFW surrounded by molly rave chicks and tryin' not to cheat

Daily reminder.

It's bad to never have found love, but it's worse to find it and then feel like it's gone.

Its just a constant 'i know' and 'you can point it ou in nicer ways' and when she notices it without me poking its 'why am i so lazy??' And basically nothing else. I think she is mentally overwhelmed and would be happier in some simple fun job rather than her degree, even if she says its not true. It looks like cant handle constantly putting effort into her life unless its fun

Its reaally dragging me down. I was really stuck few years ago and it took hard work to become a capable man that gets shit done.

I've been with my GF for 8 years, I was 14 when we got together, I'm now 22.

I don't even know if I want this anymore. She's never been with another guy, and I've never been with another girl.

Bur that's just the thing, if I did split up with her I wouldn't even know where to start. Like I can speak to other girls all the time, but on a sexual and intimate level I would feel so unconfident. And like, imagine if she fucked another guy and he was better than me

I've grown up with her and I know nothing else, it feels strange to move on

If you are not happy just do it, people tend to feel some sort of compromise to the other person, cause of money, favors, friends etc etc. but if you stay whit some one you dont lover anymore it can be a codependent realtionship, and you gonna end up hating her instead of fucking her once in a while by just ended up being friends win/win

Found the single virgin faggot.

theres always gonna be somebody better skilled than you at everything. Deal with it.

sexual inadequacy stems from poor self-esteem. most times girls dont even care, its the principle that shes with someone she trusts enough to let you put your cock in her hole.

But still, when I find out someone has fucked her, and most probably before I fuck someone else, it will be strange

Op here, i was like you without confidence few years ago (see post where i say i couldnt get shit done). Now i feel pretty confident and can flirt even, even if im not the king of it, im human after all

And still it scares me. What if i get unlucky? Stayunhappy? Will it be better than in this 'stuck' relationship?

You know I used to think like that when I was single, like "if it doesn't work out anymore, break up". I can even mention my parents relationship as an example, they haven't worked out in almost 20 years yet they're still together.

But when you love someone, you understand that it's a little more complicated than that. You don't want to suffer, but you still love the other person and you want them to be good for you, because you really love them, and wouldn't stand letting them go. Love is quite complicated just as it's simple.

Wrong post reply:

I don't think I'd have a problem pulling a girl, I just would't know what I'm doing is right.

Plus, as you mentioned, should I actually leave this relationship or not, would I be happier? I have no idea

10 year fag here still going strong no complaints from either party
What's wrong in yours?

>>but still

you are putting too much forethough on a minute issue that is neither tangible or worth stressing over. most women are lying about their sexual partner numbers due to factors such as levels of contact, the `bases` scale or just because they fear the label `whore`

Perhaps she's putting her effort in the wrong ways. Is it final, though? I mean, even if she magically changed her ways to be a better and more mature person, would you still think of leaving?

Exactly, I know I love her and probably always will. But would my life be better without her, should I experiment with other girls since I have never before, am I missing anything?

It's not easy to just say bye to someone you've been with almost everyday for most your life, no matter how much you dislike them at a given time

Jealousy is unnatural and harmful, strive towards ridding yourself of it. Nothing good can come from it

I for one am a lot happier being single. It feels hard to leave someone behind, but good to shed deadweight

Your last line has been bugging me reaaly badly 24/7 for 2 days. So far my conclusion is: 1 life - go out there and discover it, i dont want to miss on anything just cause this bad relationship feels comfy

Am I the only one who entered cuz of the amazing tattoo?

What, your're implying she's fucking someone else?

read goodnight punpun

Exactly my thoughts, but what happens if we really did have it good, and we didn't realise what we had until its too late, until they move on with someone else?

>don't miss out on anything cause your bad relationship is comfy

completely different guy from any posters in this thread but holy fuck, today was my year and a half and honestly what am i doing, i let so many good ones go

OMG seriously user, who the fuck knows??

Your insecurity is showing... bad thing to bleed in the waters when sharks are near.

Well, by now im so unsatisfied that im beginning to think missing on possible exciting flirts etc is too good to miss. If she magically got BEYOND my expectations and stsrted boosting me ahead in life, then i would stay maybe

>should I experiment with other girls since I have never before, am I missing anything?
I'm not really inclined to be the type of person who tells what other should do, but you must know that once you cross that line, there's no turning back. She's wrong for being lazy, but you'll be even more wrong for cheating on her. You will have forever defiled your relationship, and even if she never finds out, you will always know.

See:

she cheated on me, but im glad she did, moved on and found someone skinnier and better in bed. she was turning into a land whale and i was too blinded by love to see it. mistakes made but not irreversible

So what if I have insecurity, we all do, it shows we're human. If you say you don't you're lying

I would never cheat on her, what I mean is, if we split up

With my gf of 9 months and like every girlfriend I've ever had around this period I feel bored, maybe it's just something I have to break through
I love her but all I can think about is other women, but I can't imagine breaking up with her and seeing her face because she's so sweet and loyal

Wtf? Definitely break up before EDC dude, rave sluts are fucking crazy, hook up with tons.

As someone who grew watching too many Disney movies, I believe that the first love is always the only love.

take it from an old man: unless you are going to have children, fuck whomever you want. Long term relationships are only for the truly devoted.

thanks man

No regerts!

can't tell if you're serious and autistic or not

And how about the other question in OP? How to end a relationship that is on good terms, no real fights or other excuses?

Honestly? We got bored of each other, nothing was really fun it was just meh, we grew more and more apart until we just looked at each other and knew neither of us really wanted to be in that relationship.

help me anons, the relationship is near perfect, but i'm just bored. i get sex whenever i want, food, but i just feel too young to keep this up and get married one day.

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My problem is she is naive and doesnt see it. It, no I would crush her.

Think if she is good and you the issue its simple: you work for it or not. Get her rewards or not, question of effort

If you love her, why do you look to other women?

This actually really helped me. Especially The breakup I went through recently has lingered pretty hard on me. We were our first sexual partners, and the thought of her fucking anyone else (which I know she is; its an arts and communications college) drove me mad.

I just gotta let her go and know there'll be another beautiful woman out there.

I'm making it work at the moment, but I just feel tired like I can't keep it up any longer at the moment.
Because for a start I'm a sick pervert but she doesn't know, and I just get bored of one partner, I like the excitement of talking to different girls

terrible idea.

are you me

If you love her, keep your loyalty. Do it for her.

Dear anons who have faced many feels:

Just HOW do you break up with an unsuspecting woman? One you still dont want to see hurt

Carefully explain the reason why the relationship is no longer working for you, endure the bitch fit, and walk out.
Make sure to separate your assets beforehand.

maybe, i live a double life on the internet, i have a lot of friends and i'm a decent looking guy, but i'd rather stay inside every day on the internet looking at semi legal porn and browsing Sup Forums
staying loyal isn't the main problem really because i've been challenged before and i've always kept my loyalty, it's just impossible to get rid of the bored feeling, not just sexually. when i'm with her i'd rather be at home. but i do love her, it just depresses me to love her

Let her know how you feel about her personally. Tell her all about how wonderful she is and how the breakup won't change the fact that she's a great person.
The key is to make her know that she's wanted and lovely - blah blah, it's not her, it's you.

I'm aware btw i might sound retarded, but it's just my feelings mayn

Yeah user, you get it. Take your time. It gets better, especially if you find someone new

There is unfortunately absolutely no way do break up with someone and not hurt her. You'll feel like an asshole, but it's the only way. Be honest and tell her exactly how you feel

She wont buy it, but probably only option really

my first girlfriend fucked my friend and the whole town, i just got over it over time and realised she wasn't the same person

>it's just impossible to get rid of the bored feeling
There's your problem. Try doing with her what you have fun doing alone. Go on a trip together, try something new, get her to know you better, and you get to know her better. Make sex more spicy. You have what it takes to have a great relationship. And trust me, it's really worth it.

It's impossible. Can't you stay with her?

OP a lot o relationship happiness is about your thinking. When all you can think about is how much they annoy you or don't challenge you etc its only going to eat you up inside and get worse. I've been in a 10 year relationship that at times I doubted it was "enough" Shes a 7-8/10 and I might have done better there, but she also brings me joy every day and thinks like a bro not a messed up bundle of emotions like some chicks.

are you yourself around her or do you have to constantly put on an effort to please her?

i was supposed to date a different girl but this other girl im dating now swooped me away, sometimes i wish i was still with the one that got away, she got a boyfriend now, does she still think about me?

When the bitch decides she's gay and cheats on you with 2 women

Fuck, that's what I realized. Who I dated is not the same person as the woman who left me.

I don't really do much for fun though, my life is boring at the moment
we are both ourselves personality wise around each other, we make each other laugh and can be weird as fuck etc. but there's still a side of me i don't want to show her, or anyone, because like i said earlier i have a 'double life' on the internet
do not understand
i removed her on all forms of social media, and she still follows me because she wants to be my friend, but i just destroyed my old image of her in my head and now when i hear about her i feel nothing, i could probably say hi to her and not feel anything at this point. this was 2 years ago now though

Then perhaps it's not her, it's you who has been bored with yourself. Better check that out, make sure it's not depression or something.

does the one that got away think of me time to time user?

I grew out of you, sounds harsh but its true 6 year relationship here she was in her own world and never changed and I did.

that's a very valid point and if i was in a better mental state then maybe i'd feel fine, thanks dude. no question about it i'm fucked up in some way, not just related to relationships.
possibly, my ex girlfriend still wants to be friends with me from 2 years ago after she broke up with me

Double life? unless you're talking about running drugs or being a pedo it might not be as big a problem as you think. I hesitated telling my girl about this place for a while worrying she would get scared. Then I found out she was into tentacle hentai and she was just as worried about me finding out.

Keeping your relationships shallow will do exactly that, keep them shallow. You won't develop the deep bonds that come from letting people in. Getting bored after the "honeymoon" phase is pretty much guaranteed if you don't get close in that time.