My girl just broke up with me. so devastated

My girl just broke up with me. so devastated.
She kept saying she is unhappy. I do everything I can as fast as possible to be the man she wants but clearly not enough.
What to do?

btw I'm 26. Live in Toronto.

Get another girl. As fast as possible.

jump off CN Tower faggit
what is her name?

but i still love her. we were togather for about 21 months

honestly my gf id terrified of losing me and i hate it. she will do anything to please and she repeadatdly apologizes when she does something wrong and i fucking hate it. the fact that you were so ready and willing is probably why she left

maybe

Honestly this. Otherwise you'll quickly grow to be bitter and cynical towards relationships in general and that's an easy way to become a miserable fuck.

vagina, she left you because youre insecure and she only needs one pussy in her life

kill yourself please

Just as her what she needs from you. Don't beat around the bush or anything like that, just straight up ask. If she won't give you an answer, avoids the question, refuses to talk about it...then it's time to just move on.

If she cares about you and the relationship between the two of you, then she'll have a conversation with you. She'll sit down and listen. If she doesn't care enough to do that, then she's either moving on from the relationship, or she's found someone else and its time to move on.

Stop being Canadian.
>inb4 impossible
Do your best to find another girl man. Eat healthy and work outz keep your self confidence up. Do you live close to your best friends?

party like Rob Ford for a few days then you will forget her and move on

actually moving to auburn hill michigan in 2 weeks

Assuming this is OP, what's the worry then? You'll be away from her soon enough. Opening a beer for you for your feels

Bumping becuase I'd like for this not to die before I hear his response

Im a dude so not supposed to say this pussy shit, but i acctually have feels for her. She broke up over the phone and imidiatly went and threw up. Im 26 and this was my first girl. And its not due to lack of trying too.

Thank you

Checking your dubs before I respond and welcoming other anons. Also rhymed

You're Canadian, just kill yourself!

Will be moving soon my soon-to-be-neighbor

Got good guy friends? They should judge you, in fact they should seek your council as well. If you do have those friends talk to them. That's my favorite and most trusted source.

Bro be a man and find a better woman. Maybe work out more cuz you know everyone is superficial. There's good women out there you just have to be picky

A man needs a name

yes i do. one is a douche that just fucks randum girls. do a lot of tinder.
Other firend is same as me but worse. He hasnet even had a date for 3 years. We are all engineers so socially not the best.

They shouldn't judge you btw**. On phone sorry OP. Either way you're moving dude new adventures await

my advice is don't worry what bitches think. Nobody will appreciate you for your good qualities. No-one will ever really understand. Fuck it and be a good person in spite of this. Get fucked up if it helps, you deserve it, but don't come crawling back at 3am because you woke up feeling some type of way. If you do she won't respect you. There's no going back once someone decides to end it, no matter what the movies say about how romantic it is to crucify your self respect begging to be taken back. Finally, focus on being happy, taking care, and not getting tied town to someone else till you've gotten over this one.

Shahin

Im 26 and live in Toronto too. I like it here, throw away the key

Tinisha (black name, but she is white)

Talk to your friend that is fucking tinder sluts. If you guys are close he will give you advice. If he's a selfish asshole he won't risk it

sounds not white consider yourself blessed

i dunno about that. almost everyone is brown. (including me)

I do.
But im almost white too and white washed. (aside from family time however)

grow some balls

he is happy for me that she broke up with me. he is an ass too apparently

Same guy. Also don't do anything petty. Be the better person, don't talk shit, be respectful when talking about her mutual friends if you have any. Nothing will drive her more crazy. .

Always my friend.
Canadian and stuff and I think im a nicer guy than that shit.

He sounds a bit like me, re-examine your situation and then follow his lead. Btw I bumped early and was the earliest responder. I'm on your side. Move places and move on. Learn from your bro before you go. He can help

I will commiserate with you using lesbian porn.

On the to-do list.

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lulz she is actually bi. I was very supportive of it too. encouraged her to go and meet girls. even helped her as much as i could.

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That is quite a coincidence then.

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Not trying to be a dick but I have friends in shit situations where it seems fine to them. Either way, best of luck OP I posted quite a few here and I hope one or two helped. See you in MN

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is this the new face of spideman? delightful

MI not MN* my mistake

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From experience user?

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I am nothing like Spider-Man. My material is on-topic.

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Im a puss i guess. Remember the canadian thing again. Thank you thu. I have been a lurker here for many years like most of you guys. I post from time to time but have never had asked for advice before.

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you are sexually addicted to her. that's all.

in truth you likely also feel it wasn't right. so move on.

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21 months. it's not a baby, you fag, it's a binding contract to slam one particular fuck hole.

and you didn't get placed on this planet to suffer heart break for the first time in human history. everybody gets over everybody.

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It's going to suck for a while, took me a year to get over the first love of my life, even though I dated and banged 9 chicks that year. I still thought of my first love. What helped me, is not to blame myself. She does not want to be with me, that's cool, it sucks for me, but I'd rather be miserable than to be with anybody who wants to be with me. I'd rather be miserable than to be with somebody who "feels sorry" for me. Fuck that! Remember, even God can't make everyone on Earth happy. Always go where you are appreciated and wanted. Do things to get you out of the house and to keep your mind of it. DON'T GET IN touch with her, you need time to mourn and let out those feelings you had with her. Hope this helps

I was with a girl 4 years. She broke up with me right before my 21st. Pretty good timing I'd say.

You'll make it. Take your pain and pour it into self-improvement. Read some books. Lift weights. Whatever you know you should do, but didn't because you didn't have the will to do. Because you've got the will now.

At first it was a sexual addition about the fist few months but I have an extreamly low addictive personality so now I can only admit to being addicted to having someone in my life. Never had any siblings, or a father, or many friends. Have moved contries 3 time now so never had time to feel anywhere at home specially becuase almost every year of my life we had to change houses too.

>tfw think girlfriend doesn't love me anymore
>she excuses it as depression and a thousand other excuses
>I ask her if she wants to break up/take a break and she says no she loves me a lot
>she doesn't act like it- at all
>don't break up with her because there's always that little voice that asks "what if she's telling the truth and she does love you and things will work out"
>one day she'll probably realize she doesn't love me and leave me and my false hope and all of the lies I tell myself will crumble around me

Hey OP,
I've been through a similar situation not too long ago. Although it was difficult, after about 2 months we ended up getting back together. We both really needed time to mature and grow, but at times I didn't think I would make it. It's going to be difficult at first, but try to give her some space. Don't ignore her, but don't be on top of her 24/7. Be there when she needs you and be attentive when she doesn't. Don't start kissing up to her. You are the most important thing in this world. We're all together on a path we walk alone.

Stay strong bud! Someone believes in you!
-Spooks

start a new program like go boxing/working out,
by the way faggot she is not unhappy she is just happy she found some1 else

Thanks but not sure how to do any of that. Lost my virginity to her on my 25th bday.
In this world no one wants you other than for theri own motives. She was the only one ever who acctually loved me for me. It was amazing while it lasted.

if u want her back dont text her dont call her dont send her on fb and tell her how u miss her just dont
dont act needy, she will probably call back
play it cold until she asks you

OP here, does your story has an ending?

She probably never really knew you, or you her. You were just assuming shit to remain comfortable.

dam why u making me cry?!
She said she would like to be friends. asked how? she said maybe besties. So maybe there is hope. I dont know. I wil give her all the time she needs. ONLY IF SHE ASKS FOR IT.
Yet, she has said that there is no chance for us.

No, we're still together and we'll be together for an indefinite amount of time until she realizes she doesn't love me and leaves or I lose all faith in the relationship and leave.

There's been several times where I've almost broken up with her and it's still a daily thought, but I don't think I can ever go through with it.

It's extremely painful and I'm extremely unhappy.

No she said she is only happy when she is alone. What you think it means? considering she is bi, how is that even possible if you are capable of attraction to 100% of the pupulation?

When we were together I tried doing it many times. She takes so much time before contacting that it just drives crazy. like how can someone not text their bf more than 2,3 times a day and text other ppl +20 times (at times)

And that's all you want out of a relationship ever? Sounds like you've already given up, and are just being lazy taking out the trash.

You should talk to her. Like a serius talk about where your relationship is going and things to do to fix things. We had these kinda talks sometimes. It was mostly me asking her about tips and what-to-do and donts so we stay happy. I found almost at the begining of the relationship that happy girl = happy relationship = happy u.
But look how that turned out for me... so maybe dont listen to me.. idk

That never, ever works. If you have to talk, it's already broken beyond repair.

True, but you have a choice to feel how your feel. I'm not saying do those things tomorrow. Take your time have a good cry, but there is going to be a point you either get up or stay down. I had no idea I was going to bang those 9 chics, and they were hot. I must have talked to 100 girls. The excuse that you are giving me: "not sure how to do any of that..", fuck that!!! The key thing is to "try". Pick something that you never done and always wanted to do, and you do it. And if you fall, then try again. I'm glad that I experienced that heartbreak, because it made me appreciate falling in love with someone who wanted to be with me and I like her for her, not because she had a nice ass and boobies. Also I can use my experience by helping others like you, by telling you that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and maybe in the future you can help someone else who is going through the same thing

Nothing is ever broken beyond repair. Im an engineer. Turst me lol.
k but serously thu I think thats the entire point of couples therepy. except we used to do it together. Maybe me constantly asking her tall me what im doing wrong made her look for all that I was doing wrong, then thats all she could see. Because she was not like this. She used to tell me she had depression too.

I'm trying to make it work out. I just have a constant dread that it's going to make things a lot worse.

I have. She has a bunch of excuses for everything. The one might be able to be worked on; she doesn't like talking to me anymore because of anxiety. We fought a lot so she feels weird talking to me now.

Be glad you dont have kids and are literally LOCKED in with her. Paying child support and alimony while she fucks every guy out there. Find someone new OP. she's a bag of meat.

They always have excuses. Thats not an excuse for you as a man to not be talking to her thu. just the OP's 2c.
My girl used to deflect and exuse for everything like the batmobile deflecting bad guy bullets.

what did she use excuses for? what did you ask her?

Thats acctually one of the reasons she dont wanna be with me. I told her at the begining of relationship when i didnt know her that i would never have a kid with anyone.
I have changed my mind since then and I am warming up to the idea of having a kid with her one day and told her that but she dont want to be with someone who is warming up to the idea, she wants someone who wants kids now! eventhought she dont want kids now. Women.