Be me

>be me
>28
>"freshly" divorced (mid Jan)
>actually got to call some shots during divorce
>honestly coulnd't be more over it
>Get new GF about a month ago
>total 10/10, hottest chick I've ever dated by a decent margin
>she comes over last night
>things get steamy
>walk her into the bedroom while in wide open make out mode
>giver her the ol' hand moves from high school
>she nuts
>all clothes get removed
>mind goes full girl brains mode
>"what if she thinks I'm rushing it"
>"what if she thinks I'm using her as a rebound"
>"what if etc etc...."
>literally can't get hard
>finally work 5/10 "hard" dick in
>still nothing
>"Are you ok user?"
>"yea"
>"Are you sure?"
>few minutes pass
>tell her I'm just over thinking it.

She was cool about the whole thing, but fuck guys, I can't shake the whole thing. She said we should not worry about that shit until I'm more comfortable. I think my problem is that I'm just putting too much pressure on myself and honestly over thinking the whole deal.

Thinking about just edging myself for the next couple days but I would probably go the other extreme and just blow as soon as I get unzipped.

TL;DR

Fuck me, guys

I think you're gay.

She obviously was fine with what was going on. You managed to think yourself out of a good fuck? Did your ex get your balls in the divorce? Fuck bro.

Dont even worry about it. The same thing happened to me the first two times I had sex with my current gf. It's just nerves.

Checked.

...

>getting a new gf

lol what a cuck

edgelord

>divorced by 28
>married before 28
>married
>before
>28
the fuck is wrong with you, op?

It's all good. Happens to the best of us. Just stay out of your own head next time, and if your mind will be active make an effort to focus on how good everything feels.

>Happens to the best of us
>best

no

I was ready, but the ex clearly wasn't. I can't blame her for that either, we were young, but I can blame her for the affair and the lying.

New gf expressed concern with my readiness thinking I'm still not over the divorce, she's been dtf for a while now.

why did you divorce?

>he thinks it won't happen to him

Happens to everyone user.

You're over thinking/analyzing everything

> to to the gym each day to work off energy, get fit, build up T
> let things happen as you are just doing normal relationship things
> when the time is right show her the pegging harness

Long story short, I didn't want to be with someone who didn't want to be in a relationship with me. I was willing to try to see if I could get over the affair and the lying (telling me everything was fine when she was thinking of getting a divorce for "years").

>pegging harness
actually loled

Put it in her goddamn mouth moron. Don't even ask, just state "suck my dick" with even the smallest amount of confidence.
>get hard
>win at life
>your welcome

Post her pic so we can go examine the problem further

What if you're actually voicing your own concerns?

I tend to this a lot. Imagining people...mhh... judging my actions. But then I noticed these are things I'm concern about, not others.

What if you're actually the one who's afraid you might be rushing it or using her as a rebound? Realize that this is actually YOUR voice. Think about it a little bit, and realize that these are baseless worries.

She is fine with it. You don't have to worry about it.

You know it's not rebound sex.

She knows it too.

Quit worrying about it and focus on how much you like her instead.

Sidenote, if she says no then obviously you saved yourself a lot of wasted time trying to date a girl that doesnt give head.

Duuude user. I could have easily written the EXACT same post. Divorce and all. Except that I'm 35, but that's a minor detail.

Yeah, first chick I nailed after the divorce I couldn't get it up. Dick just would work about halfway and that was it, luckily she found my tongue skills to be superior. Thing is though, second time I hooked up with her...Rock. fucking. Hard.

All in your head dude, just don't worry about it ( I know, easier said than done) but that first time you get the nervousness out of the way...you have spent a long time sleeping with only one person.

Stop jerking off and watching porn. Then fuck her hard and good.

Get viagra on the dl and fuck her with your destructo dick

Okay. Here's the secret recipe to avoid limp dick and probably die.

Rail some cocaine for the confidence boost.
Rail some Viagra so your dick stays hard.
Stick a couple of Adderall/Dex up your ass.

Guaranteed that you'll fuck like a porn star for a few hours. Very likely you will run into some heart problems. I'd recommend heading this off with a small handful of Aspirin and a couple of Xanax.
Hope this helps.
Pic unrelated.

viagra

I know I need to relax and just let it happen, but now I'll have this over my head as well.

I can't decide whether to do this or to watch porn and just edge for while until the mood hits us again.

She would probably put 2 and 2 together. Me going from 5/10 dick during to 10/10 for an hour after everything is said and done.

Get into a relaxing environment like a dark comfy room with her and ask her to do the work. Once you get in the groove make up for all the half ass shit you've been on.
I just reached 3 years of marriage with the woman I recentlt separated from. After 2-3 weeks of seperation I made my move on my new gf.
Pulled up in my car. Vibed with her. Got starbucks, went window shopping. Fucked in the woods behind the shops. We went and bought each other some things. Fucked in back seat. Then I took her home.
She said part of why I make her so wet is my true dominant spirit. I really pushed her and took the time to consider her feelings.
Some things my ex failed to appreciate.

Theyre right, the pills do help. Even gas station pills. The expensive shit from a porn store works even better. Get a one for him one for her 2 pack.

dafuq do you care what she thinks? the viagra is for you to get some fucking confidence.

Communication buddy. Do it! It's most likely all in your head.

We talked about it last night, and she really did seem cool about the whole thing, but I just don't know how much ground I've lost with her feeling like she's a rebound.

After I told her how recently the divorce happened (she knew since day 1 that I had been married just didn't know the timeline) she said she was worried about being a rebound.

I told her there was nothing I could say to prove that she's not, all I can do is show her over time. Kind of fucked that up...

Taking your time and not fucking her while still giving her positive attention will make her feel special.
She is concerned you will have sex with her then leave for someone else, someone you actually want to be with. What you have done is created an envirinment of safety and feelings of security.
Now giver her the good dick before she goes on a he doesnt really want me he only wants her trip.