Have you ever had a successful relationship with a needy girl?

Have you ever had a successful relationship with a needy girl?
Is it possible at all?

Aren't all girls needy?

Depends on your definition of needy and what type of person you are

Are they?
Only had two and I think they were in the extreme.

If she is only needy when it comes to money which you can provide then I don't see why it wouldn't be possible.

Well what kind of experiences did you have with them that you might consider to be extreme

But you can never marry that girl. Marriages more recently have just been used to steal mens hard earned money

Needy? As in needing attention?
Yes. and no, they were fucking insane.

After a month i'd exceeded more messages shared than i had with anyone i'd spoke to spread over 5 years. They were fucking nuts, i couldn't sleep properly at night because they wanted to talk 24/7 and threatened suicide.

No. Needy girls are fucking impossible.

She is:
Emotionally needy, gets lonely quickly, few friends and reliant on my attention.

Physically needy, self isolating and scared of cooking, dishwashing, going out etc.

And it's nice to take care of her, I'm that kind of person. But it's just... will she ever straighten out you think?

My girlfriend is pretty god damn needy. She's hot af, though, so it makes up for it, but goddamn does she need to shut up sometimes and figure shit out herself.

This.
All my previous relationships have been people who most would consider 'clingy' who needs to spend a lot of time with me and need to reaffirm affection a lot. But I'm also similar in that sense too, so it worked. So in that sense they were needy in wanting to spend time with me, but I find it a compliment that they want to spend time with me so it was fine.

But of course there is always a limit, if they disallowed me to have free time or spend time with friends then it would be too much. As long as they are sane haha

So yeah, it depends in what type of person they are, and what type of person you are.

Nah. Daddy issues are attractive but it didn't end as well as it could have. I dated one of those needy tumblr girls recently. Now she claims I raped her and was a predator. Lesson learned.

She's codependant

That. And daddyissues.
Does it ever pass or is it just the way they are you think?

>scared of cooking, dishwashing, going out
Fuck that shit. If you can't cook, clean, or be entertaining you're just a leech on my time and good will.

It sounds like you found the perfect girl, user. You can train her like a dog.

>"Honey, can you grab my newspaper from outside?"

>"No, sweety, I'm playing vidya."

>"Well, I guess that your food will go to the homeless again."

>"What paper did you want again, dear?"

Finish Pavlov's work, user, make women subservient again.

You can get away with anything. Cheating, lying, Threeways, she needs your approval. Tell her how you want her to be.

Wait so you mean to tell me she doesn't do any chores or anything, just wants to spend time with you? Because not leaving the house i can understand but not doing anything in it?

Had the opposite of a needy girl. Should have seen that painful break-up coming.

kek

Yeah.... It sounds so extreme when you write or talk about it. Probably is too.
Well, I know I can get her to clean and dish if I tell her to, but I have to tell her. She won't get the idea on her own.

It wouldn't pass but it's manageable but you'd kinda have to live your life around it in a way, like have her work on it for the duration of your relationship. Practice different coping methods for her when you're not around and have you accompany her doing things. I understand the first stem isn't easy and require a lot of persuading but.

I should do this tbh. Problem is she gets cranky as fuck when I don't feed her.

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hope ur okay now

Just dumping some porn as a thanks for letting me vent guys.

Sounds like low blood sugar.

She's not a child, fucking make her act like an adult, she wants food, tell her to get it herself, you're not a slave.

Doesn't sound like she's chipping anything in, do you at least get BJ's when you want them?

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Sex life is complicated too. She wants more sex than I do (and those of you who thing "Lucky guy!" you have no fucking clue what a pain that can be), she wants all that 50 shades of grey shit, and fine I can enjoy that too at times. But that is alot of work for me too. Whilst she just lie's there.

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starfish sex isn't fun for anyone - including the starfish. Dumperino.

in my case is similar, but she don't want to have sex often, is worse. we passed 3 weeks without sex. I your case, the girl is lazy in other way

Fuck it. Thanks lads. I think I know what I need to do.

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You ever image how going to be if you end the relationship? Did you think you can do it?

wow!
I like her. :)

yea, get a harem

My current gf and ex gf are needy as fuck and I hate myself for getting in relationships with them but then again I'm a really affectionate guy and probably set unrealistic standards

I'm worried I'll be lonely I admit.

You and me both. It feels good helping them, it's like picking up a rhoughed up kitten. But over time that feeling wanes off.

How did you do to broke the relationship? was hard? (because she was so neddy)

Why don't you use that to take out your anger on her? Make her hurt. Sounds like she'll like it.

Yeah and I have certain amounts of affection I can give to girls until I'm like nah go away and start straying

I just became distant and cold (also I was talking to other girls aka my current gf so It was easier to do) until she broke it up because of those reasons

Tbh, I've simply been slowly drifting away from her. Causing her alot of pain unfortunatly.

It sounds so good in theory. But there is this thing called Safe, Sane, Consentual.
And hitting someone who just enjoys it takes the edge off in terms of anger management.

Again, classical conditioning saves the day.

If you get a rolled up newspaper and hit her on the nose when she starts to whine about food, not hard enough to leave a scratch or bruise, but hard enough to get your point across, eventually she'll understand that you are master and what you say is law.

You actually can't manage a relationship with a severely needy girl unless you are a literal sociopath. when i say severely, i mean having borderline personality disorder or something.

a regular guy will tend to her needs, and then get blindsided when she flips out. her needy moments will make you feel like an invincible hero, and when she does a 180 and doesn't give a flying fuck about you out of nowhere, it will rock your world. and not in a good way.

the only way to manage is to never feel anything deep in the first place for her, ie being a sociopath.

it's true. look up on relationships between women with borderline personality disorder and men with narcissistic personality disorder. they manage to work for a while.

How fat is she, user? Be fucking honest.

I was in exactly the same boat like 3 months ago or so, like that exact same description, and I totally didn't have the patience so bailed. I think if it was a couple of years ago, and I was in a better place in my own life I could have stuck it out and helped to 'fix' her, but I kind of came to the conclusion that people need to grow up on their own, or else you're just enabling them and they won't improve, or if they do, they will take you for granted and move on.

She's a hourglass.

Yeah, I've been trying to help to the point that my own life sidetracked.

mine is very jealous. Plus she made a big fuss when I try to leave her. if I leave the house he goes after me down the street screaming

Do you still attracted to her? My experience, she was the most conventionally hot person I had ever been with, but towards the end her shit personality just overthrew the physical.

That girl looks familiar. Are you that turk with the french girlfriend?

Yeah dude that's why you let her break up with you (also if she gets jealous or doesn't trust you with other girls it means she's probably cheated on you and is guilty).
My ex was fucking crazy and she would throw a hissy fit every time I wanted to go out to a club/parties or out with my friends, every time I tried to break up with her she would get abusive and start threatening me so I just made her hate me and not love me anymore so she left

No.
Almost all my past girlfriends have had some sort of complex or issue.
For example:
>1st girlfriend has severe depression and came from a violent home
>cheated on me
>twice
>had to talk her out of suicide 2 weeks later

3rd girlfriend:
>seriously shy
>nearly cried when she met the parents
>finally dropped her, now she's a tumblrina

Current girlfriend: going on a year and a half now, but damn has it been an uphill climb:
>she was in an abusive relationship (mental, not physical) for 5 years
>convinced her to break up with him
>he now stalks her, sends her texts, leaves notes on her car, bothers her at work, etc.
>he's dating one of her ex-best friends, living together
>she has anxiety, depression, a bad home life, divorced parents, severe trust issues
>wants to be in constant contact from sunup til 2 in the morning
>constantly asks what I'm thinking/feeling/doing
>she keeps grudges from high school, so I can't go drinking with some friends that she hates
>super self conscious about her body, back problems, whiplash from an injury 6 years ago, hasn't worn shorts in 8 years
>almost 0 sex drive, farthest we've gotten is dry-humping with all our clothes on

But she's a saint to everyone, and I love her.