Alright guys -

Alright guys -

So I had a MMFF foursome the other night, basically out of the blue with my wife and our two friends.

We had been talking about a foursome for a while, and my wife got super drunk and kinda spearheaded the whole thing, despite my discomfort and me telling her I didn't feel ready. I wanted to set a date, so that I could be a little bit more prepared beforehand, and therefore comfortable.

Long story short, I was having performance anxiety and ended up giving a lot of oral while my other friend banged them both. I didn't end up cumming.

Needless to say I feel really shitty about this, especially since he was able to make my wife squirt and I've never been able to. I don't feel like I was prepared for this, and as a result my self-esteem has gone through the floor.

I brought these concerns up to my wife and she said she was sorry, but she thought we would both enjoy it.

I'm currently in a pretty deep pit (despite her reassurances), and have been watching TV for about 2 days straight now. I'm hurt because I couldn't preform, and because she went ahead with it anyways despite my fears. I feel like what we have has become less special.

All I want is for her to give me a real apology, but she says she doesn't regret the night at all. She says I just need to get out and stop thinking about it, but I feel like she doesn't understand how much she hurt me.

Any advice from people who have had threesomes before, or dealt with the same shit I'm feeling?

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>she doesn't understand how much she hurt me.

You hurt yourself. It takes more than one person to AGREE and to participate in such a thing. At this point now if you can't enjoy it together then you need to get some kind of counseling about it. However, considering you're the only one actually hurting about this and she would probably do it again, you either accept it and move on or it bothers you enough to end your relationship. That's why including any other partner in a relationship 99% of the time is a terrible choice

Sorry user

1. Stop being a little bitch
2. Same as 1

You've got to get over it, otherwise you'll never get your skill up

Quit this bitch. A foursome isn't random for everyone and she disrespected you by forcing the thing and came from Another guy while she certainly realized you weren't doing much. Did she and she other blow you at least ?

Something similar happened to me with a girlfriend, with the idea of a threesome ended up just doing things with me from the start and letting me on the side (long story) I can tell you i saw red and turned it short

Fair enough. Any advice on how to get out of this slump then?

First of all op - no...you didnt. 2nd of all theres plenty of other places to go enjoy cuckdom, quit beggin btards to shame you.

Let me help you. Iv been here.
Your girl likes you for many more reasons than the sex. It doesn't matter if another man made her cum

No I'm fairly sure I didn't enjoy being cucked. I did expect that reponse from at least a few of you though.

They blew me, yeah, but I never got a boner at all. I don't know. I know I'm being a bitch about it, but I feel cucked, and she doesn't regret it at all.

Thanks m8. That does make me feel better. My entire life I've put a lot of value on my sexual prowess, so I guess it gets to me more than normal.

Your relationship is probably fucked to be honest. The feeling you're experiencing now is one of those things that can't go away by doing something but just takes time to go away.

You can do what your wife said and go out/put it off of your mind but the overall feeling has to just diminish with time. You need to make a decision if that's something you're willing to do again or not. Probably is, now that she's experienced that, she'll probably want it again. I could never do it myself.

Hope you guys haven't been married long

Let your pride go and embrace it for a while. Ask yourself about what happened - what did I feel? What was the trigger? How did it affect my performance?

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We've got a kid.

I don't feel like she "needs" it or anything like that, but shes going through a phase where she wants to "experience life" right not, apparently even if that means making me feel uncomfortable.

The trigger was probably that he made her squirt.

See

Go fap to cuckold porn. Realize the man in the video is you. Know your place. Embrace it.

your wife is a cunt with no sex etiquette and you're a pussy for not shutting things down when you felt uncomfortable.

speak up next time, when partners go into group sex it's pretty standard that if one is having a shitty time, both partners bow out.

next time be upfront with your feelings. if she still proceeds, she's simply an asshole. same if the situation is reversed and you bang the shit out of someone while she's not really into it.

Go again, and outfuck him. You're clearly the better guy here. Show him how to fuck the shit out of his woman. And then bend him over and fuck him too, because he's a cocky fucker.
Then throw everyone on the floor and do the dinosaur.

But seriously though, get back in there and show him how it's done. It's up to you how you get your head back in the game, maybe even drop a lil blue pill, but you gotta prove you're the alpha there and fuck the pair of them harder than a teenager fucks a sock.

Occasionally your girlfriend/wife will have been banged by a bigger guy . It's perfectly normal

I'm a bisexual bull and have been doing it on the side for over two years. Mostly for the same families in an expensive neighborhood. Honestly most of the couple's seem stronger with my help, but two of the wives have propositioned me on the side without their husbands consent and one has had an affair with me while telling her husband about it so he could get off to it.

A lot of people get performance anxiety in these situations, and the women are hornier and more susceptible to orgasm because of the excited taboo nature of it all.

It's not you OP.

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Listen OP, if you're not trolling your wife doesn't give a shit about your concerns or needs and is a selfish person. I'm sorry but any respectable woman or any woman with self-worth will not even put herself through that to "experience life". If she was so concerned with "experiencing life" why get married? This is so fucking stupid, tell her straight up if she doesn't respect you or give you a proper apology then fuck it. Take your kid and find another woman who loves and respects you because clearly she doesn't and just wants to be a stupid whore. Now post her stupid nudes you fucking faggot.

It sounded like you were anxious before she squirted. But also, is her squirting a reason to feel the way you feel?

>letting another man fuck your wife

wew lad

I just want her to show some solidarity with me. You know? But I agree, I should have spoke up.

Yeah, size isn't a problem. Thanks man.

Going to do this if we decide to go again.

Thanks man. I appreciate that.

You've earned it.

Bad idea. That's like watching a king fu movie then deciding to take on your high school bully. In your head you think you're about to become some bad ass epic hero in reality you're about to get hurt and humiliated in front of people and want to become an hero.

The visual of another man giving your wife a true vaginal orgasm is very intense. The way it sounds is unexpected as well

Yeah, well I've always been good at sex, I pride myself at it. So it bothers me that I can't get her to squirt.

Yeah, it wouldn't have been so bad if I didn't have such shitty performance anxiety. I just would have liked some time to prepare and mentally man up for the situation.

Are you too proud to work on your technique?

*kung fu
The real solution is to find a big black sex God and invite him to join in as well. When your friend gets ready to one up you again you tag in your negro to use his giant cock to make both girls squirt one upping the dude who stole your pride.
Bigger bully solution

fucking kek

Have you experienced that? I'm actually curious now.

No, not at all, I don't mind improving at all. But our sex life was perfectly fine before this situation, and I just don't know why she had to push so hard so fast.

Meh, I feel like I can out fuck this guy. He's slightly bigger but he just does the same repetitive sawing motion, no change in pace or anything.

Similar experience with my best friend and his girl. Drunken night we all went for it andbthings were going great, until I started fucking her. She was moaning so much she couldn't even suck his dick, thus pissing him off. He literally pulled her off of my dick and took her into the bathroom. Made for a very awkward morning. Needless to say he is no longer with her. Sorry op, but this will be the downfall of your relationship.

Your sex life... or your complecency?

Sex rule #1 for my gf and I is "just us two". Once you expand beyond that, it becomes competitive, even if only within your own mind. It mind fucks you. And that drives a wedge between you two.

How long have you been married?

Yeah. That's what I'm hoping to avoid. I mean, it's honestly a simple fix. You guys have made me feel WAY better about this whole situation, but it's not going to fucking matter if she doesn't care about my feelings.

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Almost a year.

We both enjoyed ourselves. We were not boring. If it got boring we brought out the toys, the whips, leashes, you name it. We were fine.

you cant call her "your" wife if you shared her you faggot hahahahahahah op is a nigger

OP like I said, if you're going to get married it's serious shit. You want a woman who will listen to you, and most of all respect you and your decisions - most of all because of your kid! I don't want to speak ill of your wife but fuck what kind of marriage is it when you can't even realize your partner is uncomfortable with the whole situation and you just spearhead the whole fucking thing without discussing something as big as a 4 way with another couple???? I just fail to understand this damn logic and it just seems as if she doesn't really give a fuck what you think ..

Sorry for the judgement. Bad call there.

It seems like you've got a new challenge. If you got bored you got toys. Now you're having this, what now?

How old are you guys? Do you think you're on the same page in your relationship?

First of all, women don't like change of pace too much. Yeah variety is important, but for reaching a vaginal orgasm consistency is key. Try emulating that.

Honestly what you have to do is at one point tell your wife that you didn't enjoy it because you had performance anxiety and you felt like you weren't good enough. Ask for her to arrange a repeat so that you can get a good experience out of it.

Then prepare properly and get hyped. Pop a Viagra if you have to.


Second, I get that you want her to be your wife and sympathetic, but let's be real here. 3/4 people had fun. She can feel bad for you while still having enjoyed it and having had a good time. You're not always going to get an apology (not that she owes you one) or sympathy.

Instead, take what you want. Get a second chance. If its not for you, say so the day after.

Thats what I feel. To reiterate:

I am a little bitch for not communicating my fears, but I just want her to take some responsibility for what happened and how I feel, and work with me to get through it, rather than just tell me I shouldn't focus on it. She's my fucking wife, we're supposed to be "one" with eachother and shit.

All good, and yeah I guess so. I'm going to get some viagra soon just to be safe for next time.

She's 21 I'm 23. I feel like for the most part, yes, we agree on most issues, and we havent had a big fight in quite a while. But I feel like she doesn't quite understand my feelings. Like, this situation fucked me up, and she's just telling me to move on. It comes from a good place, but she's not helping anything.

I'm just putting myself in her shoes. If we were having a foursome and she wasn't having fun I wouldn't do anything with out her. I guess we just don't feel the same way about that.

I know you've been married only briefly, but have you been together most of your adult lives?

On and off, yes.

If I was you mate, I'd hook it up again, take a viagra without them knowing and fuck the other dudes partner so hard like a pornstar that you make him and your partner jealous!

See it's this shit that makes me feel good.

But there's more, isn't there? You're upset about her squirting to another man - performance anxiety is not the only challenge

Well a lot of the posts here have made me feel a bit better about that. Sex isn't everything, and I feel a bit better about my sexual ability now.

This is going to sound weird, but we talked about it a while ago, and her squirting orgasm is like an anal orgasm for me.

It's good to have once and a while, but if sticking something in my butt is the only thing that's getting me off, then that's probably not the best thing.

Ultimately you're still doing it. If you go to a movie you don't like, is the person you went with obligated to help you get through your misery? Do they have to hold your hand and say, oh no, it was terrible, you're right? What if they enjoyed it?

Obviously sex isn't just like going to the movies but the idea is the same. You guys tried something. You're the one that didn't like it. Your feelings and opinions are you own. She's not obligated to sympathise that you don't like what she likes.

This is going to go one of two ways.

You're going to take the words people here day to heart (oh its done, no going back, cuck blah blah blah) and you're going to resent your wife for it. You'll resent her for "not helping you discuss your feelings" but in reality you are just jealous and feel inadequate because of the sex. You'll get clingy and jealous and angry at her and this will cause a fight. Eventually you'll stop having fun crazy sex things because she is tired of having to deal with your feelings afterwards.


OR


You'll deal with the feelings on your own because you're an adult that doesn't need or expect your wife to hold your hand for everything. You'll learn from the experience, figure out why you didn't perform and remedy that. You'll confidently tell your wife that you want to try again because she had fun and you think you could have fun too this time, with some preparation. You'll show her your confidence and that will be a turn on for her. Then, you'll do it again and open your eyes to a new experience. Group sex is tricky, yes. There are feelings involved. Communication is important. But if you can't get over something on your own, don't expect others to get over it for you. Wife or not.
Its not some deep pain she has to help you go through. Don't let it get there. Its not a big deal. You sucked in bed once because you weren't prepared. You got a bit jealous because he made her squirt. Learn from it this time, be prepared next time.

I suppose you're right. I am my own man after all. At the end of the day we have to be responsible for our own decisions.

I appreciate your advice, and I'll do my best to follow the latter.

Thanks bro.

That's good. I'm glad you're feeling better.

Well, sexuality is fluid afterall. I wouldn't want to go without my orgasm but I also wouldn't want to rely on something unhealthy for it either. Whatever floats your boat, man.

Good luck, brother

Thanks bro.

Thanks to everyone who gave me advice. I've had a lot of shit in my life and I've always been able to bring it here and get good solid answers.

I'll be around for a bit longer but I'm going to stop bumping.

Wow, first legitimate helpful thing I've ever seen here. Well done user