So I was accused of being a rapist a while back and I don't know what to do...

So I was accused of being a rapist a while back and I don't know what to do. Girl said I tried to rape her when we were sleeping in a lodge. We are room mates, I'm prior Navy and she is in for about 7 more months, I'm currently going to school and she is working. We get a place together with some other room mates and about a week of here living with us she says I tried to rape her. I have done nothing but help her out with her job and living expenses, I've never made a move on her and she is now calling me a rapist. What should I do?

>I can green text all that happened if thats what you anons want.

Fuck you loser read a book.

Have you asked her what situation prompted her accusation?
She might've drunk the kool aid and you did something innocuous that she sees as a rape attempt.

Get a good lawyer. If she has no evidence then there's absolutely nothing she can do.

Why bother with women when there's porn?

Fuck those dumb bitches. Let them screw over some other guy.

Never live with girls, user.

Has she taken legal action?
You could try and get her brought into court for like perjury or slander or some shit

Post whole story so we can get a better understanding of the situation

No thanks. Post more about Runway Pattaya though

>she is now calling me a rapist. What should I do?

Stop raping chicks. Geez how hard it is it?

One of my old girlfriends sued a doctor for malpractice. She lied when she said she never had an abortion. The other lawyers found out and she then said it was date rape and I was the perp.

I found out and sent the lawyers a video of me fucking the bitch in the ass while she watched on the video monitor.

That was the end of that lie.

No I just found out she accused me of it, this was like a month ago though. I was told she doesn't want to be near me because i might try to grope/rape her even though i'm the one helping her move in and put together all the furniture she brings in for her room. I even paid for the down payment of the house we are all living in by myself. I'm really pissed off at her but I don't know what to do and I don't know if calling her out will help or make it 1000 times worse.

I never even tried to get with her. She just said I tried to rape her thats it.

rgr wait one

You should ask her what situation prompted the accusation - like another user said - while wearing a recording device. She is probably stupid. Stupid people say stupid shit all the time, just get her to say something dumb about the accusation and then you can blackmail her with it etc

Yeah I'd bring a witness and go ask her why she's accusing me of rape if I were you.
Yeah this user bring up a point, recording device and witness, then ask her what's up.

OP here, green text time

>I'm prior Navy and I just got out about 6 months ago.
>Decide I want to go back to school and work on my degree.
>Find some room mates from the ship that want to do the same thing.
>Girl (we will call sara) says she want to live with us as well
>OKNoProb.jpeg
>We couldn't move into said place yet so we get a room in a lodge for a bit. (I'm paying)
>One of room mates is married and we only got a 1 bedroom 1 pullout bed room
>I tell tthem it's ok you guys can take the bed room sara and I can sleep in the living room.
>I sleep in the floor for the first few nights
>sara decided to see her family for a bit so I took the pull out bed.
>she comes back a day later saying some drama shit
>I tell her since i'm paying for the place I'm sleeping in the bed, she can use my sleeping bag if she wants.
>she says its ok and she doesn't have a problem sleeping in the same bed as me

(more to follow)

Nah bringing a witness is a bad idea
I bet she would act differently in front of another person
Just go with the recording device

Could you have inadvertently groped her in your sleep?
Huh yeah good point, just make sure other people are nearby then, so she can't cry wolf.

You put yourself in a position to be accused of rape. You must have missed all the feminazi threads. Dumbass.

Suggestions:

Murder the bitch

No witness + no testimony + no body = no crime

I am in a similar situation. Broke up with my ex 2 and a half years ago. Since then I have heard from 2 different guys, one mutual friend and her newer ex, that she has said that I raped her. Growing up from a catholic family that wouldnt even be something I'd be capable of. I think she is saying this as a way to justify not placing any of the blame on herself. Still pisses me off and I cant call her out on it cause shit will blow up.

OP continued

>she says it's ok and she doesn't have a problem sleeping in the same bed as me
>WhatEver.image
>Night time comes and the sleepyies set in.
>I pass out on the pull out bed.
>I assume she comes to bed later that night.
>Next morning she says she can't sleep on the pull out bed because it hurts her back.
>OKAskOtherRoomMatesToSwitch.exe
>We switch
>a week later and we move into new place.
>alot of my time is spent helping her move her stuff to her room and putting together furniture that she bought from Ikea and other places.
>Sara can't do it herself because she has know Idea how to use a wrench.
>decide to have a party but sara can't come because she still has to work.
>Partying with friends and wife of friend asks me what happened the night in the lodge.
>confused.jpeg
>says I tried to rape her and she basicly had to fight me off.
>says something about me then trying to jerk off on her.
>WTF.exe
>ask her if she was serious
>says she was dead serious

I've been nothing but a fucking gentlemen to her, I have never tried to get with her but she says I'm a rapist. I'm thinking what is stopping her from going to the police and saying I raped her. I don't know what to do in this situation. I don't even know why she said these things. She is at work at the moment and i don't know if bringing it up to her will help the situation or make it 1000 times worse. What should I do?

>Could you have inadvertently groped her in your sleep?

No I don't move around in my sleep, I pretty much sleep coffin style. So i don't think that is the reason.

kek, I don't think that's going to help my situation but thanks for the advice. I'll keep that in mind.

Huh sounds like she's a loon then. Could she be angry at you for not making a pass at her in spite of having the chance and now be punishing you for the actions you didn't take.

Thats fucking horrible. I'm kind of freaked out by all this and I don't know what to do. Would calling her out on her bull shit make it worse or should I just ignore it? Not even sure why she said it.

My god, what if that's actually the reason.

>You're telling me you didn't try and grope her when you had the chance? You must be a rapist then.

just stay the fuck away from that crazy bitch, run forrest run, its the only way you will win on this situation, she is a crazy bipolar backstabing bitch and she will ruin your life with a smile on his face.

yeah, totally sounds like a crazy bitch.
see how she reacts when she comes back, if she doesn't look more afraid of you than usual bring it up alone with her (don't forget to record it)

OP here again,

I think it might be best just to ignore it. It's been a while and If I just stay away from her it might just go away, she hasn't said anything since then so who knows. I'm still pissed off at her but what will that solve.

That's the question isn't it. I know that none of the people she has told believe her. I figure if it got bad I would try and say she has a mental illness which is most likely true ( cutting, suicide attempts while I was with her, divorced parents). It all spells Borderline Personality Disorder to me. That would be a way to discredit her I guess. Still freaked out though cause her mom works in the legal system as a paralegal. Things could get bad real fast.

Yeah well, if she is a bit unhinged and she interpreted op not making a pass on her as rejection, it might be it. Men are usually trained to live with rejection, because they are expected to initiate contact. Have you ever seen how some women react when a guy rejects them?
I've seen more courteous behavior in the monkey house at the zoo compared to that.

Beat her to the point, sue her for libel.

I really just want to know why she said that I tried to rape her. What logical conclusion could she pull from this? How can it be ok for her to say these fucked up lies about me, lies that can ruin my life. I don't want to run away from this because I really like living here and I'm doing very well in college right now. I have a very prosperous life ahead of me.

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Well if she is mentally ill. She could rationalize any perceived slight, where her behavior and the act of ruining your life, would be justice.

>I know that none of the people she has told believe her.

The wife of the room mate believed her, she says she believes me now but I honestly think shes lying ( I now have the mentality that women stick with women regardless of the situation)

What are you doing to deal with it atm?

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assuming this has gone legal, then get a lawyer.

A tricky tip: try calling her and secretly recording the conversation, get her to admit she is making it up.

OP here, How the fuck is that logical? That's so fucked up. I think you're right but god damn. I literally just laid in a bed. I've even been helping here with everything (building her furniture, driving her to work, Paying the fucking down payment on the house) what reason would she have to accuse me of being a rapist. It's not even in her best interest to do so.

I ended up meeting her at a party and I told her that she needed to tread lightly with me. Since then I haven't said anything her directly or indirectly through twitter or at dance practice. I am taking a break from dance so I wont have to see her for a long time. Beside that I am just trying not to think about it.

See that kind of shit scares me to no end, and i feel like the law would be on her side. I'm just going to not talk to her, I'm going to ignore her and if she gets mad then I'll tell her I don't want to talk with people who falsely accuse me of rape. But for real how the fuck is this ok in our society?

It isn't based on logic, it's most likely based on emotion. Now bear in mind, this is just conjecture, I have no real chance of knowing if this is your situation. It just sounds a bit like it.
Are there any other signs or behaviors that shows her as being a bit off kilter?

I'm not really sure, she's not very intelligent. She seems to act like a child sometimes and doesn't understand the concept of inside voice (she's very loud). She likes to draw but she can't do it very well and literally anything I say to her (wither it be a request or demand) she does the exact opposite. She also owes me about $450 (just additional info)

I think she honestly believes it though.

How is her relationship with her parents?
Were they both there during her childhood?
Does she study as well and if yes, what does she study?

She says her father was a rapist and she was raised by her mother (mother didn't get remarried), no she failed out of college and has a substantial amount of debt she is trying to pay back via the Navy.

Is this warwick university?

>But for real how the fuck is this ok in our society?
~feminism~

Absent father, growing up with a mom who never dated again, failing college and mass debt....
Sounds like you have a potential Borderline Personality Disorder on your hands.
Look at it this way, you've been helping her, doing things that girls usually go to their fathers for.
Her father was a rapist(as far as we know, if that wasn't a lie told to her), thus you being her new proxy father figure must also be a rapist.
Add a bit of rape fantasy to the mix and you have an unhinged girl who is willing to ruin your life based on her internal emotions.

No this is my story so far. I'm in Washington state.

get a lawyer, get her kicked out of the house.

but, GET A FUCKING LAWYER

she sounds crazy...
but you may as well just rape her at this point

OP here, thats some real fucked up mental gymnastics on her part if that's true. The real question is should I just avoid her or call her out no her bull shit?

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No disrespect but that doesn't sound like it would be in my best interest.

>sleeping in same bed

That is where you went wrong OP

OP. I'm only saying this once so listen up. If you ignore this birch and let her run her mouth, she will own your ass worst than a blind military contract signing. Don't forcibly call her out. Crazy people don't realize the way they act. Believe me. Have a "normal" conversation and bring it up cassually. Kick her out unless she is essential (name on lease or can't afford without). I mean it, kick her out. Pack her stuff if need be, remember if she's not on the lease she has no legal right to stay.

But is that really necessary at this point, she hasn't gone to the police or anything she just said it so she didn't have to sleep in the same bed as me.

Ask her about it while recording, figure out how she came to this conclusion. If she starts ranting off some crazy shit, tell her that you are not her father and that she should stop treating you like you are him.

Set up a lawyer before talking to her OP. They would know better than anyone on here what to do in this situation. Don't tell her you have one though. Play your cards close to your chest.

I probably wouldn't sleep in the same place as her again. Get a hotel in the meantime.

That's a pretty fucked up way to avoid sleeping in the same bed as someone though. She could've just said it made her feel uncomfortable.

You're right I just just commit Sudoku now.

I will bring it up casually to her at first and find out more but she is on the lease with myself and my other room mates so I don't think I can force her out.

can't beat em, join em

I'll take "what has feminism done to our society" for 1000 Alex.

I think I'm just going to talk to her. I'm a very calm guy that doesn't really overreact to anything so I'll just talk to her and see how this plays out.

Honestly OP perhaps she planned this all from the start and it's all some elaborate ruse. But the question is what is the purpose?

That Jeopardy episode would never air, and a castrated scared Alex would show up in the replacement episode. It's not allowed to criticize feminism today.
A good quote goes along the lines of "Want to find out who is controlling everything? Look for the people you are not allowed to make fun of."

Just make sure to record it, just in case she decides to go on with this.

Well said user well said.

Rgr will do, I have pretty good voice recorder. I'm just kind of irritated that it has to come down to this, why can't I just go to school and work on my degree without some sort of shit like this.

Don't forget to report.

Well that is the world we live in right now. You live in america, the land of guilty until proven innocent if the charge is rape. Even if you manage to sort this out amicably, with her recanting her accusations to the people she said it to, you still have to be proactive in protecting yourself, because god knows the system won't.

maybe you sleeprape. it's like sleepwalking, but with rape.

Will do but she doesn't get back for a few days actually because she is on duty which means see stays on board for a day or so.

I don't want to believe that, I still think America is fair and I don't assume that women will always get the last word in court. If you don't hear back from me then you can assume that I was arrested, until then I'm going to stay positive.

Kek, I don't think that's a thing.

Granted it's not entirely like that, but you still gotta protect yourself, a rape allegation is very serious.
Even if a court dismisses the charges, the public court can still fuck you over. Just don't make the mistake of becoming complacent from too much positivity.

Rape her. If you're going to get taken to court might as well give her a reason. However, don't worry. The courts usually are in favor of us guys in rape cases. Quite a few rape cases get thrown out, as they should. Goodluck mate.

OP here, just wanted to say thanks anons most of you guys have been a great help.

Listen up man. This is for your safety..... if you really didn't put the moves on her and she's making up this horrible story I would NOT try to bring this up without recording her. In fact I would put up a hidden camera and record the conversation. Who knows, she may flip out when you bring it up and your best bet is to record it and that way prove your innocence .

For the love of God don't be an idiot and ignore it without having any prove. It will hurt you later

BTW if she does take you to court and if you happen to win. It still goes on your record that you were a suspect of rape. Don't be an idiot and let it slide

slander, since it was verbal communication. libel is only for print.