hey Sup Forums
i want to say right off the bat.
>i dont have noods anymore of her and even if i did i wouldnt post them
>inb4 faggot
To save a bunch of time im not going to write everything out but i just got divorce papers today and its hitting me pretty fuckin hard.
i dont fuckin know, ask a 25 year old drunk divorcee anything. not really looking for sympathy or anything just a board of fellow retards to talk to.
How'd you fuck it up?
thanks for bump,
she cheated on me a ton and after about the 5th "confirmed" time i said that enough and split with her.
its just rough because she has custody of our kid and now ill be paying child support so that she can get her nails done and shit
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i guess it boils down too insecurities about the whole "this isnt were i saw myself at 26" broken family and shit
you dumbfuck you should have known these bitches have no heart. they will take everything from you in divorce court. you will be stuck living in a shitty apartment with a beat up car. i've been there. i'm there now. i know better. i don't have shit anymore. bitch took everything from me. they plan this shit out. it's all they do. they are conniving sneaky shits who never progress past the mentality of a 16 year old. i'm very lucky i never got her preggo. hope you don't have any kids in the mix op, or you should just become an hero right now and save yourself years of unbelivable misery.
That's too bad.
Since I'm such an asshole, I'll push this a little further. Why'd you guys get married and have a kid so early? I'm sure you weren't financially stable enough to have a decent education and secure a job job without being spoonfed money to take care of a wife and kid.
you married this girl after she cheated on you 5 fucking times?
what the fuck is wrong with you op. and dammit, i was hoping no kids but you're fucked. you're really fucked man.
trust me ive learned my lesson, all to late. and have thought about an heroing a fuck ton. i have nothing but conpempt for wemon in general now.
and yeah we have a kid
i was 17 and a half when we got prego, complete accedent. be sure to wrap your shit guys.
i agree im the OG cuck, i thought getting married would fix our problems, as if she had anything remotely resembling morals.
forgot to mention, shes only pushing for divorce now because she wants to re-marry some faggot
>girls
>morals
they don't have any. they do whatever the fuck they want and then blame you for it afterwards.
"it's your fault i cheated!! you didnt' give me X enough!!"
we need to send these whores back to their place in the kitchen. black eyes, beatings, you name it. they're all out of control and have been for decades.
ouch. he must have money. girls dont return to older relationships unless theres something in it for them. she probably cleaned him out once before, now she's looking to do it again. he most likely rebuilt his life and she wants the sick satisfaction of destroying it again.
what can i say i was 17 and a dream chasing faggot.
like i said i have nothing but contempt for all women now, that cunt (rather) i've let that cunt ruin me, all my other relationships have been disastrous, and every second of my day is focused on the past, just cant seem to move past in, and now this shit comming back up is just salting 4 year old wounds.
it looks like a clafairy on the wall
shit man
same here, except i'm 36
so, uh, i don't know, at least be happy you can restart and get your shit back together...
not saying i can't, but fuck it's so much harder
its ok man. i'm in the same boat. can always go on a murderous rampage, there's always that.
i dont know much about him just know hes a bit of a faggot, hopefully hes smarter than I
shit got rough after diamond and pearl, gen 1 just couldnt find work
my family has been more than supportive, and always say, "its never to late to change your life" i feel for you man, hopefully we'll both find our way to be happy some day.
its a nice thought atleast
haha ive thought about that alot too, super inspired by that guy that built the death tank
how far into your divorce are you? paying child support yet? i wanna know what to expect
shamless bump
killdozer heymeyer? fuck yes OP go for it. if you can weld, go build a new one. fuck, i would help you.
do it faggot!
The only thing I really need and would love to have happen is make more money, find a better job / career, and move to a warm, gun friendly state. I'll get some pussy on the side afterwards. Never had a problem getting girls, just had a problem getting higher class / hotter girls that I actually may want to keep around. That's mostly a class issue I think though - hence why I want to be higher class..
I also think I'm at a point where after 80+ girls I don't really feel much of anything other than the desire to get what I want when I want it (sex/head) and to have money in the bank, toys, and a financially well lived life. I'm not sure where "LOVE" actually plays into any of this or if at all.
Sex, relationships, all seem to hinge off of one's personal success and one's personal love for oneself first and foremost. And If you've set expectations or goals for yourself and they're 5-10 years in the making to get there.. well, not sure you're going to see that.. seems like its just 'placeholder' relationships until I'm happy with where I'm at with $$$.
man he had land, know-how, and funds. i only have a glorious dream
part 2 continued from dubs post:
I think because I've onyl really given a shit about moving up financially and career wise and been driven in that arena, women of any kind are naturally attracted to me. They are 2nd place and always will be when I'm trying to dig myself out of student loan hell, and finally buy a home at some point (more likely a duplex that I can rent out). I've always prioritized them as 2nd place, and I think you guys have been putting them as 1st place. Not sure that's the smartest thing in the world.
OP I need an answer. My girlfriend and I were looking at engagment rings tonight. I am 19 and she is 18. Is it a bad idea to get married this early?
literally got the papers today
the only thing i'm glad about is that we don't have kids
which makes me even sadder really
18 is way too young. I'm 28, been with 80+, would rather keep slanging ass and wait til I'm in my 40's to even think about doing anything. You're going to live to be 100 if you don't kill yousrelf with booze and cigs or cancer or a car crash.. might as well wait til you're old, then marry half your age and procreate and expect that it'll end up a divorce... just being honest with ya.
Thanks for the honesty my man.
Take it easy.
sounds like the fuckin dream man
i feel like thats the kind of point yeah? make money, be self sufficient, be happy with just you, and pussy will come with it (once they see it all ofcourse)
i agree 100% and think there are a ton of factors that go into exactly why men (myself included) puts pussy on a pedastal. You got it right user, dont stray from the path
1.dont ask for life changing advice on the internet
2. dont do it man
be happy man, once you have kids you cant even say in your own mind "man i wish i never met you"
> memeber those good times?
Nope.
> all the things you wanted to be?
I wanted to be dead.
would have killed for a father figure to tell me this when i was young tbh famalamama
dont be edgy mate, come on you came out the pussy wanting to die?
Not out the pussy no, but daddy left mommy when I was like 4 and she became a trashy drunken cow.
I know, nothin special far as sob stories go, but truth is truth. I was never truly happy but for one glorious year of my life. At every other point I wanted, to be dead and genuienly expected to be before 25.
Jokes on me again though. Here I am, 26, still alive, and still wondering if I should kill myself or knock a bitch up. Can't decide which.
My father, although physically present, was never very emotionally present, so it's a doubled edged sword. In some regard I'm probably a bit emotionally cold due to my upbringing but I'm also a bit 'cold' because I've found satisfaction in my own struggles, defeats, conquests - instead of pushing them off or trying to find them in outside sources.
Listen bud, don't kill yourself, and don't knock a bitch up. If you're a fat ass, go to the gym, start eating chicken, greens, and some potatoes. Watch that shit melt off, and you'll lose maybe 5 or 10 pounds but mentally you'll feel as though you've lost 30 or 40 or whatever. Most people ain't happy with their physical self, and even though going to the gym doesn't change someone over night - the self confidence is super apparent on them.. and it ends up attracting others.
Gym is a waste of time I believe for looking for physical change in a world that will always push you to older and fatter.. It's NOT a waste of time for the mental change. Build your mind at the gym, find a source of pride, and go get after it.
go for that awesome 3rd option of niether, change something brotha. one of my favorite screen caps ( that i cant fucking find for some reason) is the "if you already want to die go out with a bang, go explore something or some where, go try to take out isis, fuck it you were going to kill yourself anyways, and who knows, at the end of your travels maybe you wont want to die so much." dumb i know, but its the old saying when you've hit rock bottom youve got no where to go but up
I guess you're right
but man does it suck
I feel like a complete failure
to clarify, I'm Italian and I moved to America for us to have a chance, I worked my ass off, and when shit started to go south a bit (company I worked for closed, etc), she just left the house. I thought we'd end up together in the end... failing like this makes me so fucking sad and angry...
Save $1,000 and fly yourself to thailand and live there, for forever? For something? If you have nothing, you can literally gain absolutely everything.
i've never seen that pic. but i have already did that. i planned to kill myself awhile ago, got on a plane and never planned to come back. had a life changing experience. but i'm back in the same dark shitty place and i burned out all my savings attempting that the first time around. now i cant go anywhere and have no way out.
shit man i wish i could have been "colder" in my youth, thats what i belive has gotten me to this point is being far to forgiving and trying to find that good in people. and theres nothing wrong with personal pride in the trials youve overcome
1st rule: never work too hard for someone else, ever.
2nd rule: she did you a favor by leaving now instead of in 20 years or with you having 3-4 kids with her or whatever the case.
3rd rule: Failing shapes your direction. I, for the life of me, can't get a job at a larger company, e.g. fortune 500... after trying for technically years now; I think I'm going to see it as a freedom to move to a different area where there are different ideas that maybe could spark a small business idea or work with people who are genuine.. instead of people who are just being placeholders for 30 years until retirement.
I've loved 1 or 2 girls quite deeply. You can see the good and the bad in people, all people have some of those elements.. I've prioritized what I've wanted in the 'good' so that I could say ok I can put up with that 'bad'.
You'll never always get that full package, and all of the porn around here lets you know exactly what you may or may not be missing in a (sexual)relationship lol.
I know how to cook. And I don't work out but I keep fairly in shape. I've just no urge to chase tail. I loved a woman once, but I couldn't make her any happier than my parents made eachother. I see no use in even bothering to care about romance, and I only bother to stay healthy because being unhealthy is so much more expensive.
I learned to cook. I've seen things. Explored. It doesn't make me happy though. Just another empty distraction. Might as well just play more video gamws for all the good it does me.
i feel for you man, and not a single person can say after a devorce that they are not sad and agry with it. but you cant let it define, and ruin you. you still live in the greatest AAA country and have your life ahead of you. i belive in you brother, its time for you to belive in you as well.
ive thought about running away, but i have a daughter with the ex and i try to be in her life as much as i can...cant do that in thailand
what made you go back to the shitty place you came from after your adventures?
literally this
My wife cheated on me, and we're now getting divorced. I was angry and hurt, but now I've mostly moved on. When I feel anything towards her it's anger over what she did to me. She didn't cheat to be with someone else, she cheated to hurt me. I don't want to be with someone like that, who would do that to me. I'm already better off since I left and got away from her and how shitty of a person she's always been to me. Hopped on dating sites around the time the divorce was initially filed, and found a good hookup soon after who makes me feel a lot better about myself and doesn't expect anything serious or long term out of me.
Long story short is that you're ultimately going to be better off for getting divorced. Marriage is a terrible idea to begin with. Find a replacement hole to stuff and move on with your life. You'll see how much better off you are.
wel like i said i had a life changing event. i dont want to say where because it's a known story. but i came back to my original home so i could regroup and rebuild to permanently move, only to run into legal trouble. and as you would imagine, it's woman related. i should have never left, i should have an heroed there like i planned. now i'm even worse off.
well i was working for us really, not just her
as for the rest, i guess you're right
to be honest, right now i'm unable to think rationally and just feel sad and hurt. I really thought we'd have another go after i got back on my feet.
I have been trying to write a stand up monologue for a few years now. Maybe I could get back on that...
thanks, kind stranger. And what you're doing for your daughter is admirable
25? Kek
Your a young man, you've got your whole life ahead of you!
my whole problem is we've been seperated so long and try to just forget her all together (hard to do when my daughter looks just like her and when i do its just contempt) but this whole "ok NOW lets get divorce" is just bringing up all the old memories of when i hated her for what shes done. the divorce was and is inevitable, just fucking blows.
also glad that there are cases where there is light at the end brotha, thank you
gone to a professional about these issues yet brotha?
>991
thanks man, her and my family are the only reasons i havnt off'd myself i owe them everything. i fucking hate to play the "man up" card. but just tough it out man. shit gets eaiser
Gonna chime in with everyone else and call you a fucking idiot for even considering getting married at 19.
Here's a secret you'll really learn when you're older: no matter how smart you are, or experienced, or how much you think you have your shit all planned out, 5 years from now you're going to look back on yourself as you are now and think "that guy was fucking retarded." The trick to living a good life is not to make any mistakes that you 5 years down the road is still going to have to be cleaning up or living with. It's better to think about yourself as "that guy was retarded" than "that guy ruined my fucking life."
i understand but the next X amount of years will be full of child support payment, and birthdays and holidays i will miss with my daughter.
not so upset with "what about my future??" as i am upset with "what roll will i play in my daughters"
i've talked to what you would consider professionals. they can't help me. i'm in the gutter. no job, no money, no food. i rely on handouts to be able to pay my cell phone bill so i still have internet connectivity. i sleep 12 hours a day. i'm just passively waiting to die at this point.
I love reading about faggots like this makes me feel good, so thanks user you made a difference in my day.
Have you been diagnosed with any medical or mental issues, or are you just fucking miserable due to your circumstances?
If you have nothing going for you, lost your wife and family, have no job or prospects, and don't have anything significantly wrong with you that will disqualify you, join the military. It's what I'm doing. It's like a fresh start. Get a job with an option to extend it to a career, job experience, free room and board for the duration of your enlistment as well as pay you can save, and the GI Bill so you can go back and get a degree related to your work experience in the military, and a better shot at a good private sector job. If you're 25 you're still young enough to collect two retirements, one from the military, and one from the private sector after you're done.
It's an option to consider if you don't have anything else. Not like you have anything to lose.
anytime brotha
Do you/have you ever suffered from anxiety? How did you get over it? How were you able to get a girlfriend with said anxiety?
1st thing I'd recommend is therapy
After that it's all introspection man, find out what is good about you and flaunt it. Take what is bad about you and find ways to work on it.
as faggy as it sounds, you gotta love you before someone else can
i'm too old to join the military now. have a couple of health conditions too, that are being neglected due to no help. i wouldn't be accepted or make it through boot camp anyway. i'm just lost and drifting and don't know what else to do. but it's all because of women. they've ruined my life. took everything from me. all i've ever done was try to be a good husband, always had love in my heart for people. now i'm a shamble of my former self. thats why i came in here to OP's thread. i'm him in 15+ years. i dont want to see another person suffer like i have. it breaks my heart. i guiess all in all, it's too late for me. i lived and loved. alot of people never get to have that at all. i'll just continue on being the user i've always been. i dont know. i'm hopeless and helpless.
Appreciate it, thanks user.
he'll be me in 15+ years, rather*
It's not much but I hope it helps brotha, stay tough :)
Well then OP can take the advice. I'm 30 and out of shape and they're still taking me. I'm probably getting too old to have the full private sector career after a full military career, but i'll do okay. Better option than my alternatives.
only time will tell if in 15 yrs I'll be like you, but I want the record to show that right now, I'm not giving up, and still have fight un me to live. TO live a successful, happy life. I'm truly sorry that you don't seem to think the same for yourself brother user, but I belive that anyone can change there perspective and path in life at any point
(Op) had not considered the military on the grounds of basically being a giant vagina, but I just might look into man :) I appreciate the idea brotha
also op is getting far to drunk to post correctly as the night goes one so sorry for misspellings and the lot
I used to be the same. But you're at a time when you get to find out just how liberating hitting rock bottom can be. You don't have anything to lose, and the worst case scenario is that they don't take you, in which case you're just right back where you already were. Second worse case is they take you but you hate it. Assuming you don't do something stupid enough to get you a dishonorable discharge, you get out after your first enlistment, and take your bill and saved pay for a free fresh start education and a new attempt at life. Which is still better than where you're at now.
well OP, good thread, it's
here, i needed this, now i'm going to sleep early and tomorrow i'll walk the dogs for an extra hour, i need to be out of the house
what sucks more is that i can only talk to my friends (real friends) on skype... at least you should be able to get drunk with them and enjoy it
night peeps
god damn what ever your doing now, quit and become a recruiter haha
it honestly is something ive rolled around a few times just never acted on, but this whole divorce thing might be the tipping point, who knows, i might jsut look into it man
glad you got somthing out of it man,have a good night stay tough brother
Be grateful it happened at 25.
You barely started life.
Just think of starting over at 40.
She could have taken the house and car and everything else you've been working on for 20 years- now you have a chance to succeed and find someone worth staying with.
Noone needs a relationship girls are good for nothing but the cum rags that they are