Hi, Sup Forums

Hi, Sup Forums

I'm with gf for 10 years now, we have a little baby and everything is OK, except we don't have sex anymore. She love mes, but she's not into it anymore. I feel pretty bad about it.

I met a girl couple years ago, and we chat daily. She's really smart, very kind and experiences the same situation. She's really into sex and has an immoderate passion for blowjobs.

She's about to move in my town, and since we're both highly frustrated, we plan to meet and she wants to blow me really hard. So we're chatting about this, and I'll get tons of blowjobs, which is what I dream about for years now.

What should I do, Sup Forums ? Is it OK to do it ?

tl; dr : I don't have sex anymore with gf, nice girls want to blow me really hard, should I let her do so ?

Think of it as... friends with benefits. Then It's ok :>

Yeah, but what about my gf ?

Surprinsingly, I don't feel guilty about it..

If you want to crush her life because of it, go for it.
Just remember once you do it you can't go back.

Yes. Your gf isn't fucking you anymore cause she is getting bigger dick someplace else. Might as well get yours else you are a cuck.

If she was loyal and you guys regularly fucked, then you would be a douche, but she is holding out, so whatever.

Two options: Break up with gf, hope she doesn't go after you with common marriage laws or don't break up with her, hope she never finds out. Either way it sounds like you're pretty fucked.

Secret to happy marriage/relationship: cheat.

If she is not the one for you anymore, you should get a divorce. If the lack of sex isnt worthy of a divorce, then remember how much you would heard her if she would find out. If you really love her you shouldnt. If you dont, then get a divorce

her fault, she doesnt want to have sex with you anymore? shes how old? shes gettin it from someone else, go for it.

Then what sould I do ? Just accept to live without sex ?

I mean, I'm totally OK to be faithful, but my gf doesn't give me sex anymore, so what ? My sex life is over ?

Both cheat or just one person cheat? Why not just have an open relationship?

Talk to her and convince her to have an open relationship.

>Yes. Your gf isn't fucking you anymore cause she is getting bigger dick someplace else. Might as well get yours else you are a cuck.

You sound like an edgy teenager.

Yeah man, just fucking do it, you only get to live once, just remember this... If you fucking hesitate you will fuck things up with your wife... Just do it, have fun, get laid, fuck her well, don't ''act normal'' just live you life how you've been doing it and you should be just fine man, it's all about confidence...

But again OP if you don't acctually give a shit about cheating on your wife since you both love each other and you know you won't regret it or feel bad about it, then do it.

Enjoy life, and also remember not to tell anyone about it, if you can keep it as a secret in between you two, it will last, higher the chances to get caught the more ppl know about your affair.

>Is it OK to do it ?
yes, as long as you spend an equal amount of time with you tongue in her pussy.

>If you really love her you shouldnt. If you dont, then get a divorce

She's the one, we're together for life, I think.

But, if I want to keep her, I have to accept to have no sex anymore ? This is insane..

If you're not happy with you're life, it's time for a change. Simple as that. It will fuck up the kid though

Be honest with your gf and tell her that you're breaking up with her. That's better than cheating on her. You have a legit reason. If my gf withholds sex with me I would break up with her. Its not like shes a virgin or has a medical condition to stop having sex with you.

Continue to financially support your baby though.

No. Here's the thing with committed long term relationship, the sex always dries out after a while. But still, in the name or having an orderly life and because you love her, you should remain faithful; even if that means sex only happens once a month.

I honestly think you should only seriously commit to a relationship once the sex has dried out and you're *still* okay with her being your only partner, still happy about it.

The sex with a new person is much more exciting, but you get desensitized to the fun of having sex with that person after a while and you have to gradually up the kink to continue to enjoy it.

Don't. You will regret it, a stable relationship and scarce sex with someone you love is far better than a fling with a stranger, even if your instinct will be telling you otherwise.

Are you fit fag? cause if your dad boding it up then i can get why. Try making your gf want you again dont pussy out for ez sex with some1 else with a bunch of regret tied to it.

What about what she wants? Run her a bath and take her to bed, eat her out and get her excited for sex. Remember that it works both ways, and perhaps you both need to find that spark again. To start having sex before you demand all the blow jobs...

it's simple really
>you like your girl
>you want sex from your girl
>your girl doesn't want to give you sex
>ergo your girl is making you unhappy
>talk it out and explain you need sex and you can either get it from her or from someone else
>if she wont give it to you or let you fuck someone else then dump her because she isn't what you need.

this
wise words

Why is it that girls always end up denying their husband or long term boyfriend sex?

Best advice here. Worked for me. It kind of gives your life a nice boost to try to impress your own lady. You also start to impress lot of other ladies and it gives nice boost to your confidence. In the end your girl will rip the pants off and suck the tip cause shes afraid some other girl will do that to you first. Its all about psychology man.

>its simple really
easy for you to say ya fuckin virgin

nope married man who gets sex every day. good try tho. not my fault you idiots over complicate the simplest things.

Well, I'm quite attractive, honesgtly, and she still tells me she finds me handsome.

I buy her flowers, offer her massages, cuddling, eating her, anything that can get a woman want some sex. She's sorry about it, but she doesn't want sex anymore.

I don't wanna break up with the mother of my son. She's my partner, and I'd drop the other chick as soon as she starts fucking me again.

you love your girlfriend ?

If yes, why do you settle for a sexless life ? She's having trouble with her libido, and you do nothing about it. And then you'll wonder why she'll cheat on you, and why your marriage fail.

It's not normal, for anyone to have a sexless life. Maybe it's her pill and she should try changing her contraception, maybe she never had fun having sex and you should offer her a hitachi.

Think of your baby, he's going to grow up without one of his parent if you do nothing.

These hold significant merit.
/thread

FUCK HER,JUST DO IT

I fucking agree with him. I get you got a kid and all but if you can't talk your relationship problems out its either not worth being in
or you're a fucking pussy for not telling her shit isn't making you happy.
fucking find a new way to turn her on or find something new

Show your girl the messages and ask if it's ok. If she says it's okay go for it.

Or. Be a fucking man and communicate with the mother of your child and see why the loss of sex? If you have spent 10 years with this girl why waste it for some whore who will ultimately blab shit to spite you when shit doesn't go her way (cuz that's what girls do).

Talk to your girlfriend again, explain to her that sexual intimacy is important for you to keep feeling loved and valued and attractive to her.

Tell her you don't see yourself living the rest of your life this way, and ask her how you can work TOGETHER to improve your sex life. Has she seen a doctor to rule out any medical problems causing this?

If she refuses to work with you on improving and she's happy with the status quo despite you being so unhappy, then fuck it. Do whatever you want, whenever you want. And you'll know you gave it your best shot.

Don't be a little bitch. Leave your girlfriend if you're not satisfied with your relationship, then receive blowjobs. Cheating is nothing more than cowardice.

I had the same problem with my ex gf.

I knew "she was the one", I loved her a lot. I still do, i guess.
But we weren't having sex anymore.
Tried everything, she was not into it anymore, and I couldn't bear pity handjobs.
I met this crazy hot girl, best sex in life. I left my gf for her, she's now my actual gf.
Sexuallly, she enjoys to please me in every way. On that side it's incredible. When she's not in the mood for sex, she blows me like it's her fault, and she's really good at it.
The only problem is that I don't love her the way I loved my old gf.
I have been sad since we broke up, no matter how much sex I'm doing.

So, in the end, maybe just cheating is the solution.
I couldn't cheat on my ex because I loved/respected her too much, and I decided to leave her

Serious user here: have you ever veen to a counselor? You know for couples?
I know some people in your position: some stayed together and just masturbate and some divorced..
Sex with my woman has never been an issue but i had massive arguments sometimes and had opportunities on the side...
I didnt go for them and happy i didnt now.
Work on your relationship a bit more..
Don't fall for easy blowjobs if you still love her.

If your attractive in your entire body, then look up ways to try and get her sex drive back. If that doesn't work. welp ask her about having sex with another person. If shes not about that lyfe, then your kinda boned.

Thanks for sharing, dude, and sorry to hear that you're sad about your ex gf.

I don't want to live this, it's the reason why I plan to get only sex with a side fuck. She's also happy with her man, loves him and don't want to break with him.

A part of a successful relationship is sex. If she doesn't want to provide you with sex anymore it's time to move on. Another part is communication, talk to her about it. If she still doesn't want to provide sex let her know you need to move and on move on before you become a cheating faggot. Have some fucking integrity.

If it's just a few jibbers go for it. Be discrete and don't overcompensate by being extra nice to gf. Don't fall in love with the gobbler. Have a limited run in mind. Cover your tracks. If you do it properly you can have your cake and cum on it too.

Well, I never went to a conselor. It might be the solution, actually. I don't know.

I think, like everybody, I'm not in mood for this.

You communicate. Bring up the issue, focus on finding solutions that satisfy both of you. Sometimes things get to an impasse- in this case focus on a smaller issue and use that as a stepping stone to address the bigger one. You likely wont get what you want immediately, but you will get it over time as the other person comes to understand what it is you want.

The whole "yolo/fuck it" attitude is for degenerates unable to comprehend life in a healthy relationship be it with partners or friends is about more than your own selfish self.

This

38yo fag here, with 16 years relationship ongoing.

If she doesn't want anymore to do sex with you, fisically cheating is the way.
Man is different from woman, if your gf doesn't want to understand this statement and she doesn't want to do almost a lazy blowjob in a week it's not your fault.

What do you want to do? Destroy an happy family (apart from the sex)? The best way is to do sex with anyone other, and you shouldn't feel bad about this: you are doing all your best to save your family stability!

Sorry for bad english, I'm not a britfag/murifag

I won't break up with her because of sex. We share a house, a life project, a way of life, and most of all : a child.

Thanks, bro. I feel exactly the same. Thanks for support.

Same user here:
Always laughed at that idea myself before i did it but having a third person, a professional preferably, can help.
It allowed me to say things i would not have said normally.
Like many anons said, sex is not the most important but still a very important part of a relationship.
Seeing a professional isn't like a silver bullet, you might hear things that you don't wanna hear but you seem at a point where you could call the entire relationship off because of the lack of intimacy.
Maybe try it look up, see if there is someone people recommend?
Getting your cock by some slut in your case is like a band aid metaphorically, with all due respect.

Shitty situation all around. Not enough sex or no sex is a surefire relationship ruiner. I've been there. And am there. The thing with women is they don't realize what actually happens to a man when he hasn't been laid in a while. Sex releases hormones, endorphins, neurotransmitters... without it, men fall into a sort of depression. We try everything we can think of to get sex from our partner because that's the implicit deal about a partnership, sex is only to be between the two partners. Unfortunately if the woman won't put out the man starts to see other women as potential sexual partners. They start to flirt maybe without consciously realizing it, and one thing leads to another and the opportunity presents itself for the man to get laid elsewhere.

Cont'd

And then the man is in your dilemma. Your brain is suddenly lacking all these things that it knows it needs, things that masturbation doesn't release. You desperately need them and you want them so bad you'd consider breaking that deal even if it risks everything you've built. You now have three options. You can spend an indefinite time without sex, feeling neglected, unwanted, and unloved, and even if sex returns it might be too late, the relationship can be damaged beyond repair because even if you get sex, you will remember that time that she withheld it. You can break the deal, get laid, feel better but guilty and hope you won't get caught (but with all likelihood you will, or you'll feel so guilty you fess up or break up with her and blame it on her). Or, you can talk to your partner, try to figure out what you two can do together that will help bring sex back into your lives because despite what she may think she needs it too, or if she isn't willing, you can try to make an arrangement for an open relationship, or get permission to have a fuckbuddy, or something along these lines.

But, tl;dr, you're pretty much screwed. At this point, all outcomes are shit. You'll resent her even if you cheat or get permission to have a fuckbuddy. She'll start to hate you because of the pressure from you wanting sex, or because of you fucking other women. If you decide to not get laid, you'll hate yourself, hate her, and turn into a complete horndog. Your relationship at this point is done. If you can admit that, you can cheat without guilt, or you can tell her that you're going to find sex elsewhere and if she wants to stay with you to raise your child then that's fine but you need to find someone to fulfill your needs.

This.

>it's not your fault.

then whose fault it is if she doesn't desire him anymore ?

Does she have like a duty to be aroused by him ? Arousal doesn't work that way.

It's his duty to make her wants him. And vice versa. Otherwise cheating is bound to happen, and there's one more child who will grow without one of his parent

Man, I know I'm wrong. I'm deeply convinced that such a professional can help us. But I'm quite reserved, and I don't feel like exposing my intimate life to a stranger.

It's stupid, I know it, dude. Maybe one day I'll change my mind.

Anyway, there's something I forgot to mention : my side fuck wants to fulfill all my desires, and do all I ever wanted and my gf refused.

Think about what's most important to you, whether it be your kid, your reputation (lol), or your desires, and protect/go for it. If you want to protect your marriage bring up the topic and discuss whether she can at least please you in some way herself or if she'll let you get an escort with one of those no kissing rules. If you think its time to move on then go ahead

His duty to gain her affection
His duty to get the diamond ring
His duty to look decent, have cash, be well-mannered, flirt with her, arouse her, etc.
His duty to earn money to create a stable environment, so she can breed children
His duty to do everything so that lasts an they won't run into poverty

Her duty: accept all that, cook some food, give head and have sex with him

You know user, if it didn't look like that in a real world, I'd say you're right, but since it's the exact opposite, fuck you.

I don't support cheating. Yet I'd say that if you'd employ a worker that gets money, care and all other benefits and after years refuses to work for like an hour a week, the boss has to let that person go.

100% agree with you. Except, I cook at home, I'm the DIY guy, I run a company, etc. She takes care of the house and the baby.

I don't support cheating neither, I'd prefer having happy sex with gf. I'm just tired of being frustrated.

you are projecting very hard and sound bitter as fuck.

I just say that the responsibility of each partner arousal lies on their SO.

He doesn't have to do any of the thing you listed unless you live in like Saudi Arabia or some other place ruled by Dark Ages policies.

OP, it's up to you whether you do it. If you decide to, just remember the following.

>There is a high risk that nice girl will get clingy
>There is a high risk that she will try to sabotage your relationship
>The longer the fun goes on the higher the risk your girlfriend will find out

Would you be okay if you lost your girlfriend? If so, then go for it.

Well you are human... that's all.
And you seem like a decent man: many guys wouldn't think twice.
In the end the ball is on your side; but put it this way: if you at least tried to find a solution, you will have far less remorse if you do leave your gf. If it was just you and her, i would say the same someone told me before: "plenty of fish in the sea!".
But your kid might be worth some extra efforts, something you might have to explain to him/her in the future.
Oh and don't be shy with counselors, they see that kind of shit all too often; and at least your gf won't be caught by surprise and might be more likely to come to terms with a break up once facts are out in the open for all to see.
Good luck to you friend.

IMHO it's not a problem of attraction... a lot of women when the time passes, simply become uninterested about sex.

I don't want say our friend OP gf MUST do a blowjob if she doesn't want; if the OP gf phisycal needs about sex is to do it once at year, what is the correct thing to do?
Destroy a family to be the incorruptible Chuck Norris of the situation?

On the words of OP seems the family is happy: why OP should be destroy the family and grown his son without a father?
Life is not a math test, and sometimes make compromises is the BEST way.

Again, sorry for bad eng!

She already got a kid so her evolutionary desire to seek out sex is gone, it won't come back... You can follow these faggots advise and I've her a bath, surprises, dinner and so on, but guess what? She might fuck you out of pity but a dinner or a bathtub won't make her want to have sex again

She was thirsty and had her glass of water, she won't want your dick anymore

That or you are being cucked, either way I would break up and get bj and tons of sex free of guilt

We stopped having sex years before she got pregnant.

Ask her why you don't have sex anymore.

Then if you are not satisfied with the answer, say how you feel about it and that you consider it something that you need in your relationship.

Then if you want security cheat on her. Don't be stupid about it. Don't allow messages, phone calls from the other girl on weird hours, change the name that shows up on your phone, and most important don't lie that you go out with your buddies or something. Say you met a new girl at work and that you hang out in a large group together.

That way you won't have to lie as much or have inconsistencies on your story. Best case scenario you spark some jealousy in her and she wants to have sex again and then you won't have to see the other girl anymore.

Just fap, find time and do it. Its just a load off. This side chick could fall in love and fuck your relationship up. Be careful of home wreckers.

Everything changes for her when she has you in a secretive position.

Be careful man!

The key to happiness is very simple: Do what you want to do.

38yo illiterate here

the "no sex" situation you are describing, what means in sex frequency term?

>you never do it?
>once at month?
>once a year?

Maybe twice a year.

She gives me head once a week because I feel too frustrated, but clearly it's not something she loves, she does it to calm me down.

Yea, cooking is the thing everyone should be able to do, at least at basic level. Anyway, I was referring to a stereotype.
Dunno if women do that deliberately or they're completely clueless. Like she's got everything she needs so she doesn't give a fuck anymore. She'd say that she needs to feel *whatever* to fuck you, so you try and do that massage thing, cook some shit, or take her somewhere. But the bill you see after makes your head hurt. For hours+ of preparations, you get like an hour or maybe two of sex. You come into a conclusion that if you'd paid some hooker, it'd actually be way, way cheaper and you wouldn't have to do all that shit she deems is necessary. Fucking feminazis and all the progressive society put that bullshit into women head that if she "doesn't feel like it" she doesn't have to have sex with a man. The result? Increasing divorce rate. It's just sad. Plus the fact that if a woman cheats, the man is fucked, because during the divorce she'll take half of his shit. If he cheats, the result is the same. Just looking at that one thing makes me wonder at which point in time "marriage" turned into a "insurance policy" for women, because men gain nothing from it and sure as hell, women started taking advantage of that, rather than being grateful.

>C U C K L O R D

>Ask her why you don't have sex anymore.

I agree 200%

This simple rule seems to regard only dogs, cats and idiots, but also for me is the real key to happiness

>Tinder
>match with a fiftysomething that wants dick and nothing else
>awesome sex, nasty as hell, anal, deepthroat, spanking...
>keep fucking for months, one a week or so
>one day she calls, I drive to her place, a guy about my age is waiting the elevator
>we get out at the same story
>we walk to the same door
>he knocks at her
>"OK, time for a threesome, I guess"
>She opens, get a little unconfortable, make him go "to the kitchen and wait"
>Make me go to her bedroom
>"what the hell is going on?"
>"Sorry user, that's my son"
>feel as guilty as horny
>make her scream fucking her ass without lube
>he surely heard that

Chances are he's not yours and people are right girls don't stop having sex. It's unfortunate but necessary evil to accept. My best advice is to get blown from some eager chick she wants you bad. Just keep it a secret. Don't get upset all women cheat so you should too.

You should talk to your girlfriend about your urges. State the fact that is worth breaking up over. If she still refuses to make you happy then she doesn't really love you.

I'm not saying she's not attracted to him. I'm saying she's not aroused, and that he's the one supposed to work on creating that arousal.

Sex makes people happy. Women can be as sexual as men. Just look at the size of the sextoy industry, whose customer are mainly women.

It's ridiculous to think "she's simply becoming uninterested about sex, let's forget about having a fulfilling sex life with her".

A fulfilling sex life is something i wish to people i like. If one of my female friend was telling me her sex life was shit, i would try to give her advice to get it better, because it's something great to have.

So giving up on your wife sex life is like a proof that you don't care that much of her well being.

Not worth it. Never will be worth it. Just stay away op

He's mine, dude, no doubt about that. She doesn't have a side fuck, I know it. Do'nt wanna lose my time trying to convince you, so if you don't believe me, whatever.

/thread

>I love being a cuck!!!!!!

Excellent advice.

So simple and yet people are blind to the truth. Dogs cats?? Let the phrase truly sink into your life then you will understand its meaning

Don't take advice from women or cucks

My instinct doesn't tell me otherwise, I just don't have sex anymore. It's over. Basta.

Once again, I'd really prefer still having sex with gf, and I wouldn't consider the opportunity of this side fuck, but i's over for years now, I tried all that came in my mind, but nothing happened.

>you have to gradually up the kink to continue to enjoy it.

exploring new things isn't necessary the same thing as upping the kink.

You just have to do new things together. How do you explain that for example when a couple get some holiday, in an exotic/remote place without their children they get sexual again ?

You should force her to fuck girls love that

I would seriously consider counselling then. She could have a host of unresolved underlying issues that she doesn't feel she can talk to you about. Maybe after having the kid she became depressed and can't open up about it. Maybe she is ashamed that her vagina isn't quite how it used to be. There are lots of things you need to weigh up to get the full picture.

Don't cheat. It is the easy way out. Relationships don't happen by chance, they require work. There could be things you could be doing differently to make things work better, as could she.

>Don't cheat. It is the easy way out. Relationships don't happen by chance, they require work.

I tried man, I really tried. Believe me, I'm not the "romantic guy", but anyway, I forced myself to try to get her in mood for sex, with attentions, kindness, flowers, massages, etc.

I've been trying for fucking YEARS now. I don't give up before trying, you know ?

Well why don't you stop getting head from her? Maybe she doesn't enjoy sex because she sees it as a tool for making you calm down. You have made her associate sex with making you feel better. Next time she is stressed, get down on all fours and eat her the fuck out, make her relaxed!

The power of association is fucking huge matey. Break out of your current sexual habits and make sex a mutually inclusive activity!

dumbass cuck stop living in your blacked dot com fantasy world. Shows how much you know about the world outside of your bedroom.

How would you honestly feel if she slept with someone else tomorrow?

Idem.

ask your gf if it's okay if you have sex with other women. don't just assume she won't be okay with it. talk it out reasonably with her, ie.
>it's not unreasonable to need/want a sexual component in my life
>i accept and respect that you're not so into sex anymore
>i love you and am committed to our life together
>i met someone who has the same need, so we're going to spend some time together
>she's clean, safe, and sane
>you can meet her if you want, her name's [cocksucker]

like seriously it's not that big a deal unless your gf is a stupid whore. which i'm assuming she's not since it's lasted ten years.

What does Idem mean?

If she's not into it anymore, maybe she's suffering from postpartum? Or maybe depression in general? Why don't you encourage her to see a counselor? Did she change birth controls? If she doesn't feel like she's suffering from depression, encourage her to go to the gym with you to boost endorphins. TALK TO YOUR WOMAN. Seriously, talk to her.

If you cheat on her you have to realize, she is going to hate herself and you. There is no going back after cheating.

You shouldn't even be messaging this chick. Your gf is going to see that a cheating as well. You'll be lucky at this point if she doesn't leave you for that alone.

talk with yout gf about it. if she refuse you a basic need then break up with her.

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is your name matt

It means that i agree with your opinion

I can never tell if Sup Forums encourages cheating for teh lols or if it's really just a bunch of guys who justify cheating. And of course none of them are ok with their lady finding a new sex partner.

this
... good idea about the medical stuff... would never had thought of it.

Do it and keep it secret.

How hard is it?