Am I the only guy that seriously can't have casual sex?

Am I the only guy that seriously can't have casual sex?

I'm really good looking, I am successful, I'm 23, and I go on a lot of dates with a lot of different women but just can't have casual sex.

bump

What do you mean, like you catch feelings and want to date them?

Tinder is a weird thing for me, too. Id say Im at least a 7.5/10, Ive dated plenty of attractive girls but I get like no matches on Tinder.

Im much better in real life, on my feet.

tinder was fucking amazing until all the bots started flooding it.

Have you considered that you might just be a repressed homosexual?

I just feel like deep down in my stomach it's wrong and that leads me to not performing.... not even like nerves or anything just feel it's wrong unless you are committed

not christian or any of that shit either

You're both getting something out of it so why do you think it is wrong?

Yeah I'm not even sure... like consciously I know that for a fact, I'm not doing any harm and its all in good fun.

this is like the only real beta thing about me too but its a biggie.

any tips on maybe overcoming this thinking?

i've gotten with some really attractive women (and seriously as close to as a 10 you can get in Milan when I studied there), but i found out she was cheating and just didn't want to hurt some bro even though i know she probably just found someone else to do it

i'm just in general a real sentimental and emotionally driven guy too.... like i keep sentimental items and stuff and really go out of my way to help my friends. you think this plays a role?

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INFJ personality maybe. I'm not into casual shit either, also not gay

Jesus Christ. OP, You're actually just a woman.

kill yourself scum

Doesn't seem like that huge of a deal. If you can't have casual sex then get into a committed relationship and have sex. Unless there's a specific reason you're looking for flings or something.

I'm admittedly the same way. Everytime I sleep with a new person I feel like I'm giving a part of myself away to them. I can't shake the feeling that if I had like 50+ different sexual partners, then I'd be an empty shell of a person.

I'm not too sure whats wrong with you, OP. Most dudes don't have any problem with fucking random girls, in fact, most guys enjoy the change and the sense of conquering another body. Everyone's going to die so what difference does it really make if you put your dick in some pussy?

Ladies first.

Comes with age bro. Also to lifehack your body use cialis half an hour before sexy time. Also biggest tip i can give you is BE SELFISH. Focus on what you want and nothing else. Girls love the dominance..

well at this point in my life a committed relationship is just not the right thing to do....

I'm a really successful furniture designer, have my own company, and moving very soon. but at the same time, a man has needs

Just treat the women like theyre sexual objects and you wanna fuck them
Chat them up and have real convo so they don't have to feel like a whore but like the don said, 'get reeeeeaaallll'

It's easier to get women in real life

Why is it that whenever I have sex with random girls, I can last forever and fuck the shit out of them but with my gf, i'm a fucking premature ejaculator half the time? I d-don't want my gf to think I'm a pussy, guys.

for casual sex you need good looks.

My quickest meetup through tinder (though in nightclubs it is easier and somewhat better) was about 15 minutes - we wrote each other, arranged meeting and then jsut went to her apartment to screw.

OP, you obviously either lack in handsomeness or are terrible at small talk. In casual sex girl needs to be in horny mood and you need to find the best words and boom. imo casual sex opportunities come with experience

define "successful"

You like her too much and hence you are more horny.

I see... Well, in my case, I've been callused to an extent for casual sex. I've been treated so badly in relationships, as well as people I've pursued, that now I look at women with very little respect or sentiment. I'll fuck and have fucked women who are and are not taken. One thing I'll never do, which I've done once and feel horrible about, is sleep with someone's wife. Don't do it if you have any sort of conscience. It will eat you alive. I have a reason to have no respect for women anymore. If you don't have a reason, it may be hard to casually fuck women. I fuck women in frustration. I do it because I lost respect for them. I stopped being completely honest with them. I lie as much as I can get away with , so as far as giving them a fake name.

I need some stank pussy

started my own company from scratch

design and work with manufacturers in china to deliver furniture around the world

grind just by myself 10-12 hour days on the weekdays

workout every other day, great body

face is solid too, generally take care of myself... fashionable... extrovert.... small but dependable group of friends... im not sure what more to add my life has been tough at points but right now its pretty good

If you're successful and women are open to cheating to fuck you, what they're probably doing is checking to see if you're compatible as well as open first before propositioning to leave their spouse for you.

Dunno. I like having a girlfriend. Casual sex tends to get complicated for me in lots of ways. I don't much care for it either. I would rather just fly to Amsterdam or something and fuck whores. You don't pay them for sex, you pay them to leave. :/. I am more after love than sex, but then you have to watch out for catfish :/.

I'd rather fuck this tbh family

See, how I see it is, when women gets tied down, they generally are open to cheating if the opportunity would gain them a good ROI. They would be willing to risk more. They're always wondering how much better they could have done after settling or pairing up.

Honestly, it's really best to wait a little bit for Trump to make America Great Again, then pussy will be better and easier. Right now it's a mess. So many women around right now I don't even want to touch, no matter how hot they are.

Set you age range to something like 18-36. You'll eventually match with a woman older than you (single mom). That worked for me on tinder. Single moms are a perfect scenario for decent hookup, and good sex. They do use tinder.

I currently have weekly sex date with a tinder match. She's 6 years older than me and has her own place. It's a perfect and convenient situation for me, and her.

you sound like a serious narcissist and i'd wager you're a real asshole IRL too so thats probably the reason

nah trust me man ive made a lot of mistakes in life and been through a lot of shit and far from perfect... i dont think im a narcissist atleast

A man after my own heart

wat

Any tips ? i cant understand how to write a bio for shit

Probably. Why do you want to get over it? Just go with it. Just have sex when you are in love if that's what feels good to you.

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what i can say about myself is, that i cannot just fuck. i need this connection to girls. share views with them. i cant fuck a braindead chick, it simply does not turn me on at all

I dunno, a vagina is better than a hand for jacking my dick off, but I'd rather use whores for that :/.

the thought of a woman just fucking me because i give her money and not because she wants to be fucked by me equally turns me off totally. i need the feeling of making a girl want me to fuck her, observe how this feeling builds up in them.

I think it's generally due to societal conditioning. Even though you're not a Christian you have still been taught that having sex with someone you don't intend to commit to is wrong, it's very seldom that in TV or movies you see a male protagonist engage in casual sex unless they're trying to tell you it's wrong somehow. People do not want a naughty little boy running around spreading his DNA, they want a good little boy who will settle for a girl below his weight. Other men do not want competition and women want to hold you down. I think this theory holds a lot of validity but I actually think the main factor is that you don't want to hurt a girl's feelings, especially after you've fucked her. You don't want her to have misconstrued the experience as the beginning of a relationship and for her to feel heartbroken afterwards, or even worse to get mad and potentially cry rape. The thing is, it should be abundantly clear to the woman by your attitude and behavior that you are not interested in a relationship and she will probably never see you again, and you can even tell her to her face after you've made out for a while and things are taking a sexual turn, "listen, I'm not interested in anything serious and this is a one time thing", and trust me they will not give a fuck. If you just believe this about yourself a girl would be able to tell, but if you're still concerned just nut up and tell her like it ain't no thang, you will be surprised by the amount of "duh" responses you will get, and even if she backs out (very unlikely) she will respect you for being honest and straight forward with her. If a girl knows you aren't gonna stick around she isn't going to waste her time trying to convince you, she'll just be happy to receive your dick.

Btw, obviously you shouldn't fuck a girl in a relationship, that doesn't make you a pussy, you can get plenty of pussy without having to ruin relationships and in my opinion you should inform the bf whenever possible.

What point do you tell them that, after rapport?

Also I'm looking for more info & experience on dating; does anyone know a half decent community about this sort of stuff? There's quite a few PUA-ish communities out there but half of the time they argue amongst themselves because they don't actually know what the fuck they're doing.

I feel exactly the same

I have a one night stand once and fucking hated it. I knew during but ofc you have to finish you can't just say "this isn't working for me babe sorry I'm off". Felt horrible about it afterwards. Never did it again.

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I would say it's okay to tell them during rapport if the subject comes up but as I said they should just know from your vibe and attitude.

And yeah, there isn't really a decent pickup "community" because there's really no way to moderate who can be a part of it based on their actual knowledge and skills. The only really decent company that does dating coaching for men is RSD, they are open about the fact that there are no tricks or secrets to success with women, that it's more of an art than a science because nobody can know everything about it, there are definitely things you should aim for and things you should avoid, but there are no concrete right or wrong moves, it depends on the circumstances and how you play it. One of the things they often talk about which is important to keep in mind is that it's very easy to get bogged down in theory and make no progress, and in doing so even making your game worse by trying to always run a perfect set instead of just trying to have fun and going with the flow. A community doesn't do you much good outside of having other guys to approach with and wing you. Hands down they are those who know most what the fuck they're talking about, most of the instructors have 10+ years experience and they are still open about their own ignorance and encourage you to only adopt what you agree with and try to do things your own way. But ultimately the most important thing is going out, approaching and gaining reference experiences. And if you don't have friends you can go out with just go out alone.

That's a dude.

I also could tell that from first impression but hey, i'm ok with that.

Depends on your lines, mate. Respond and I'll give you a great suggestion.

need a partner or help? seriously lol

No. You are not the only one. I'm 5'3". And married. I fucked my wife last night, and it was awesome. We should hang out some time.

Quick random screwing can be fun but if you have a connection there is something nicer about the whole thing.