Sup Forums i need your help
In the past I've had a pretty good sex life, but in recent months when im with a girl and it comes to having sex, my dick doesn't co operate and more often than not it goes completely flacid.
When the same girls jack me off/suck my dick im completely fine and its a good time, but when it comes to sex something is surely going wrong, am i getting too nervous or what??? and if so how do i stop that??
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I'm having this exact problem when I'm with my new girlfriend. Any help would be massively appreciated, its kind of mortifying!!
Here's a life tip: Your dick knows more than you do, heed your dick's warning and you will not regret it.
You either like her so much you are worried about not pleasing her good enough. Or she is doing something that bothers you on a subconscious level and makes you uncomfortable.
glad im not alone!!
Don't just stick it and thrust m8, pullout massage her clit with the head of your mandingo a bit give it good 3 wanks or so and re enter. Also imagine your dick in like a first person camera mode, close your eyes and view the interior of her wet hole as you feel it hugging your lumber stick. Fap less, eat some more vegetables and dairy and you'll be fucking like a god in no time. GL OP
This has happened to me for as long as i can remember with every girlfriend I've ever had. After a while it sorts itself out but first impressions count. It's quite devastating and I can't go through it again. So I've not had sex for nearly 4 years. I tried last year and the expected happened, and that was pretty much the final nail in the coffin.
i have the same thing, except it only happens when i put on a condom/think about having to put on a condom soon. the pill is the only solution... sucks for one night stands though
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mandingos and lumber sticks aside, are vegetables and dairy actually good for this? I've barely been eating any lately, but I feel like that's probably too easy of an answer...
OP here,this sounds like good advice to be honest - my problem is more that I don't even get the chance to stick it in and thrust because my dick gets too soft for some reason
it happens especially when I wear a condom!!
is it just the nerves?
it's nerves. you get anxious, blood vessels constrict, not enough blood flow.
the reason why getting blown is fine is because you have no performance anxiety there. its all receiving.
if shes understanding, keep trying. the more comfortable you are the more it will work.
trust me, been there before.
breh, if even a moments break in concentration makes you go flaccid, your either stressed or you actually dont love her.
thats the real reason, been with 8 chicks,
and had it happen with 2 of them,
i think it's about anxiety. when i lost my virginity i used a condom. i was rock hard. but with the condom on i didnt feel shit (death grip) so i didnt cum and eventually went soft.
now i cant even keep a boner when i think about putting on a condom. it's all in my head. sucks so much... i feel you bro
There is a reason you learned about the food pyramid in what 2nd grade? Balance that shit out m8. Get all that shit, fruits and grains as well. Proper nutrition will help you perform 5x better in anything you do in life from doing dishes to banging your lass.
if you can get erections its not physiological but rather in your head. WIth time it will go away with the girl. Just stop giving a fuck.
cut out the porn
When this happens to me I know I've been beating off too much. Exercise and a half way decent diet doesn't hurt either, but it's the whackin' that does it for me.
(OP again)
she responded to the dick going soft really badly and told me I was shit(ruined my day completely, so demoralising), but she later said afterwards that she didnt mind and that I might get a chance to redeem myself
so what do I have to do for the next time differently to ensure I stay hard??
Performance anxiety or severe porn addiction or both. Take a look at yourbrainonporn.com or the great porn experiment on youtube
honestly sounds like someone I wouldnt waste my time with. the last thing that is going to help you is more pressure.
did sth in your life change?
if not -> visit a doctor
OP again
I don't watch porn much at all, mainly use my imagination most of the time or just use photos
I masturbate atleast once a day though
Yes. That pressure is going to be a problem going forward, even if you take all the advice here. So, kick that bitch to the curb, and take the advice here... you'll be pounding the next pussy that comes along like a champ.
This as well, anxiety could be a factor and I tell all my friends this shit. You need to enjoy sex have fun. Not look at it like an exam or a duty that you owe her. Lasting 15 minutes and blowing your load sounds foolish but because porn and society makes it seem like you have to fuck for hours to be considered good. That's a lie, focus on you during sex, orgasm like there is no tomorrow and then show appreciation to your partner. Worry about the time after sex not during. The gratitude you show a lass after sex will turn her on more then anything
You can't bump your own thread
masturbating once a day could be a problem.
few years ago i was masturbating atleast once per day, but often 10+ times per week, i was very unsensitive towards "casual" stuff always needed sth harder/more extreme like i was addicted.
i stopepd fapping that much and it got way better
she has a fishy vagina
did you try sucking cock/gettin your ass rammed?
Stop watching porn stop watching porn!!! I've had this problem as well. Getting so used to getting hard one specific way (specific way you rub yourself + watching some super mega hot bimbo) hurts you when you get into a real life situation. I struggled staying hard for my new gf after being a fap twice a day with no gf type of guy for 3 years. After some research I found out porn may be the issue so I stopped and it actually worked. I love porn but there's nothing worse than getting into a real life situation and not being able to get hard for her.
Damn dude come on this is going fine no need to bring your trips into browntown into this
how old are you? When i was 17 i fapped 9 times in one day and only stopped because my dick was raw.
now i'm 10 years older and once a day is almost too much.
maybe your girl is ugly
Thank god I'm not the only one.
I'm having this problem for like forever since the first I time I had sex.. Thing for me was porn, I startted fapping when I was like 10yo watching hardcore porn and only lost my virginity at 20 years old. I think the problem here is that I watched 2 much porn and masturbated 2 much also.. (1-2 per day almost every day).
I have been cutting back on the porn and I can see a HUGE diference.. Trust me bro, if I dont fap for 2 weeks i will have erection 100%, I also have been drinking Green tea which helps with blood flow, EXERCISE (I know same old advise but it trully works man, gets your blood flowing and you get less fatigue during sex).
1)DONT MASTURBATE
2)DONT WATCH PORN
3)EXERCISE
I'm still not 100% good, still get ED but I can see huge diferences. Feelsbad because im only 24..
im 18, and she definitely isnt ugly which is why I don't want to let her go like says, but what they say is valid
>this guy
>trips
>10/10
Try taking yohimbe if ypu arent on depression meds. I find weed is good for sex too
Dont masturbate once a day, stop masturbating, dont use your imagination, dont fap to photos. And you are cured. You just need to reprogram your brain for real-life encounters.
Wow i think ur right!!! U explained that so well!!! I think op should listen to this post
>am i getting too nervous or what???
Probably, man.
Is there something on your mind bothering you? Have you had bad emotional experiences recently?
the only thing on my mind worrying me is if im going to disappoint her or not, especially after shes potentially given me another chance
(OP)
Pretty garbage gf, user. Get a new one.
>she told me I was shit
i was really insecure at that age but for what its worth its a girls job to see if you are a spineless cuck. if she insults you like that don't take it. call her out on it and don't give her any more attention. most hot bitches will act like that its just a matter if they straighten up after you discipline them as to they're worth keeping or not.
Short shit testing guide:
A - Amused (Agree and amplify, belittlement, humor)
V - Vague (Dismissive and aloof)
I - Ignore (No response/change subject or person being spoken to)
C - Command (Direct instruction, useful on very immature challenge)
S - Situational Observation (Listen to you, you really want my attention, you’re getting upset, etc)
I have an issue(?) where I stay hard, but can't cum during sex.
Less masturbation is key. The less you masturbate, the stronger your boners will be.
You also have the conflict of the less you masturbate, the more sensitive you are but the quicker you cum.
I would go with number 1 because some sex is better than no sex.
I've had the flaccid experience more times than I can count, due to too much masturbation, too much drinking, or drugs. It happens to a hell of a lot of guys and if you can't get it up, it's ok, it happens and she knows that too. Just be a man and hone your oral skills, make her cum, and she'll be happy. You might be down but don't worry for a second about it. And if she give you shit for it then she's a cunt and doesn't deserve you.
Also if you can give her morning sex then thumbs up
that's because you are used to masturbating using a hard grip on your cock with your hand, the vagina is not that tight so you dont get pleasure. masturbate less
You're 18? You have your whole life to think about sex and what girl you want to spend your life with. If she doesn't fit, well I'm sorry to say it but, she doesn't goddamn fit. Now get out there and experience the fact that you're 18. Go out twice every weekend, if you get laid even 1/4 of the time you will experience the different type of girls out there and then you can make the decision of who you won't be letting go
This guy
Christ the on common idea in this thread... Masturbate less
Are you me? I have this EXACT same problem.