I've been flirting with another girl online and we're at that point where we send each other nudes.
The thing is, I'm committed to my girlfriend and she's the best thing that ever happened to me.
I'm trying to figure out if what I'm doing is wrong. Is this cheating? Please knock some sense in to me Sup Forums is this normal?
I don't know if I'm just enjoying the attention of another girl wanting me. Maybe I'm just bored.
This is cheating. Don't do it.
If you value your relationship, stop.
>pics or it didn't happen
You're a scumbag fucking cheater and people like you don't deserve to have a real relationship. You are the problem.
Ps if you were my bf I'd cut your balls off in your sleep.
Dude, that's totally cheddar.
>Please knock some sense in to me Sup Forums
There are enough nudes in the internet.
Also, if she is
> the best thing that ever happened to me.
Why even bother with other girls?
Either you a nigger by wanting other booty or a complete retard.
pro tip. fap, and if your opinion remains the same, your gf isn't that important to be honest.
...
>I'm committed to my girlfriend
Obviously not.
this
share your soon to be ex
>get titties+fwb
>get gf down for 3some
>????
>profit
I actually think my relationship with this girl goes deeper now. Like she expects me to be with her or something.
I think she fell in love with me but I don't know if I feel the same.
I love my girlfriend. But I guess I was thinking with my dick.
WHERE ARE THE NUDES?
nobody cares about your feelings fagget. If you are asking here for advice at least give us some food for thought
Just stop talking to her.
It's not that hard
>I love my girlfriend.
This isn't hard, OP. You screwed up. If you loved her you wouldn't have done this but if you love her you'll have to man up and tell her. Quit with the internet bimbo and then confess. If she doesn't take you back, at least now you know there are other fish in the sea.
Also, where the fuck are the nudes?
I'm not gonna post nudes lol I'm not that type of nigga. You want to see my dick though?
I don't think that tell her about this would be a good idea, specially if it's "the best thing that ever happened" to OP.
That's gay.
Don't worry user. It's perfectly normal. We weren't supposed to be monogamous.. enjoy the attention.. rather move on to the next..
Dude, it's cheddar, not rocket science. Eat it already.
I think I'm in too deep. I'm scared of what would happen. I really feel like I have a connection with this girl though. I wouldn't have dragged this on if I didn't have any strong feelings towards her.
Fuckin show it
If your girlfriend was sending nudes to some other dude and doing to you exactly what you're doing to her would you think she's cheating?
>best thing that ever happened to me
>aware he's fucking it up
>fucks it up on purpose
Not bad, OP. Not bad.
You can't have it both ways. Either you love your girl or you don't. If you love her, confess. If you don't pick one or the other. There's no sense pussin around and wondering about it.
Sorry this was meant for you
See, I would agree with this but I don't have any weight bearing this particular opinion. I mean it's not like I'm sleeping with anyone.
I'm pretty dumb when it comes to this stuff. Seriously, like it's hard for me to see if what I'm doing is a big deal...
>if you love her, u wouldn't do that.
all those yards that are saying this a have never been in love themselves. Love has nothing to do with sex, and sexy has nothing to do with love.
The two have been mixed up by Christians. And that's Nuff said about its validity.
I would say that it isn't abnormal. People like to feel desirable. With that said, there are two distinct trains of thought regarding right/wrong on this matter.
First is that, as long as she doesn't find out, it's win-win for you. This view is legitimate. Nobody gets hurt and you feel good. The problem is that this is risky and it's pretty hard to say that you're not doing anything wrong. It will hurt your girlfriend (assuming you have something close to a conventional monogamous relationship) most likely at some point and quite possibly cause you to break up since the trust between you will have been irreparably damaged.
The other view is that you're cheating and cheating is bad and you should feel bad and stop cheating.
I like the first one better though because then I can blissfully/ignorantly engage in whatever happens to strike my fancy. I recommend the second view though if you're interested in maintaining your relationship in the long-term.
>it's not that hard
That's what she said.
Can i get a badum tss?
You're just a piece of shit then. Have fun hurting your girlfriend.
>We weren't supposed to be monogamous
>I would agree with this
How convenient. It is a big deal if it's about love. This is not as hard as you're making it. I'm telling you that trying to have it all your way is eventually going to blow up in your face.
It's not a big deal user. Just don't let missus kbow, coz they are have been brain washed into beliving that if her man finds another chick attractive, he doesn't love you. Thats just their insecurity talking though..
I fucked up too much. This is going to hurt so bad.
then why are we and like nobody wants their partner to sleep around
fucking cuck
If you slowly stop talking to her and giving excuses like you have work to do, eventually you two will be more distant and distant until the "relationship" just dies.
Also, how is your relationship with your current gf?
>hurrr durr, give me a reason to cheat on my gf with some random hooker hurr durr, but wont post nudes tho "I am not that type of nigga"
You are worse that that type of nigga
You gotta do something. You can't stall on making a decision. You don't want them figuring it all out on their own if you want a future with one of them.
And thats only becoz of ...
Read this
irrelevant. you can't have a woman by your own rules and expect to have a happy life. you have to accept someone if you love them.
It all seems a bit redundant now, the best relationships are built on trust (I know it sounds cheezy but I know this from experience). The fact you broke her trust makes it all a bit hollow, and you will always know what you have done. Always the chance your bit on the side will go nuclear and contact your GF. You fucked up man.
t.oldanon
you make a great point. I don't know if I can ever do long term though but maybe that's the problem.
on the other hand my girlfriend knows I'm a flirty faggot and this probably won't surprise her. I mean she's aware of the things I have on my computer and the lewd pics of girls I ogle and like on instagram. For some reason it doesn't bother. She even helps me look for girls to follow.
>I'm trying to figure out if what I'm doing is wrong.
Own rules?? Damn kid, thats evolution...and if u say evolution doesn't exist than u r just a christ fag
You didn't fuck up that much. Drop it and don't make the same mistake again. If you do, tell her about it then. If you do it twice you probably can't not do it. You should tell her now though if the guilt is going to be too much for you.
Triggered
i talked to her about it. i told her we have gone way too far with this but she doesn't want it to end. I don't know I'm still pretty drawn to this idea...
my relationship is great, which makes me feel super guilty. we barely fight and we fuck a lot.
Did she know U have a gf ? Also post tits or gtfo :/
This OP.
Don't be an idiot
cheddar
that's what i fear...
But I will tell her soon one of these days...
And yeah I agree. She trusted me too much and I fucked it up.
If it's only sex and no feelings involved with your current GF then cut it out. Otherwise keep doing it.
That's it.
You are the most bigoted, unintelligent, uneducated moron I have ever come across in my life. That's a stunning accomplishment. And I am a Christian, I stand with Christ, and I am proud of it. God help you.
TALK
ABOUT IT
WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND
i got a blowjob from my friend with benefits when I was still in a previous relationship.
this is probably nothing compared to that right?
Lol :/ I know. I just hate it. I feel bad for ops gf
If he talks to her the relationship is over, man.
The thrust won't be there ever again.
Triggered much, christfag?
Also, do u punish yourself for enjoying sex. And while we are on that topic, what the fuck are you doing on Sup Forums... not looking at nudes definitely (coz its a sin right?)
i don't blame you at all. it's clear now that what i did was wrong. I guess i just needed to hear it from other people that i fucked up. i didn't want to believe it no matter how many reasons i give.
i'm going to talk to her soon and i will update you guys..
If he talks to her about it, she will either most try to understand his reasoning and forgive him or they are not fit for each other anyways and he can then go ahead with the other girl. Its a win-win.
I feel talking about it with my ex might have saved things, but what's done is done. If you have the chance, you should say something. I didn't and she found out, it was messy.
The girl im with now I am completely committed to, sure I check out women from time to time, but ive never again tried to chat up anyone because its just not right, is it? Funny thing, we talked about our thoughts on cheating, and she said to me she believed she could forgive me if I ever cheated, on the condition I came clean to her. She didn't even know what I did before, honesty sometimes can be the best thing.
And you aren't in as deep as I was, I actually banged someone, you havent had physical contact yet.
>thrust
heh, no I guess it wont
If they broke up, what are the odds the current GF tells the other girl about OP?
The odds are good.
if she does that, she is a complete bitch and OP loses nothing when breaking up
She was testing u when u both were having that conversation. Thats how it usually is.
easiest way to think of it is how you'd feel honestly about it if you found out she was doing that to you?
if you got a keeper, keep her. just look at a bunch of mad-crazy internet porn, maybe ask her to switch stuff up in the bedroom, find out how to be pervy with her again? relationships start losing their sex after the initial rush, but that can come back. trust me.
Do you think she will be upset if she finds out?
There is a third option here that I left out. You could come clean about everything and sit down and communicate what an ideal relationship would be between the two of you. It's possible you could try something that is more unconventional. Like an open relationship or something close. I prefer having one partner but leaving the option for both of us to fuck other people as we please, as long as we don't get emotionally attached to the new lay in a way that you would with a romantic partner that you see everyday. So emotionally monogamous but not sexually monogamous might be a reasonable way to describe it.
The best relationships are built on trust. You'll have a better relationship if you're both completely open with each other. I don't recommend going for an atypical sort of relationship unless you know exactly what you want and are willing to make concessions for the sake of fairness. I'm selfish and I have a certain moral flexibility that others don't. I also need someone for emotional security. Therefore, I need to be in a relationship but I'm not capable of maintaining a conventional one. And thus, an unconventional relationship is perfect for me. I have to say though, unconventional relationships are too hard for most people.
OP see .
You fucked up big time.
You're either clever or your phone's autocorrect is more clever than you.
I realise that, though she did seem quite genuine. We were together a few years when we had that conversation. She has a friend who's husband cheated on her, but in the end forgave him and they are still together. Still, it's a moot point as I don't intend to test this theory. To paraphrase, "A bird on your knob is worth two in the bush".
Though this is ideal..unfortunately we don't live in the 70's anymore...
I sense sarcasm?
>"A bird on your knob is worth two in the bush"
kek
this could also be used to describe fantasizing about lesbians
That's worse but they're kind of the same thing. I stand by my previous advice though.
Maybe you're a better person now, maybe you'll stay on the straight and narrow. If you fuck up in any way again, then you can be pretty sure you're never going to be able to do this right. That's a problem for the older you though.
I'm not sure where you could get sarcasm. You're aware I'm referring to the thrust where it should say trust bit, right? They both make sense there and I wondered if it was intentional or not.
Oh yeah, sorry, I'm not a native speaker so I might get some errors.
post selfie/nudes of gf OP
That's absolutely cheating. My boyfriend did that to me (after he had already cheated on me physically) and I dropped him on his ass for it. He would always say "but they're so nice, I got myself in too deep and now I can't say no!" Bullshit, learn to be a man and give your girl some respect.
Well, glad I could clear up the misunderstanding.
Pic unrelated
dont be a fag keep getting the nudes, youre past the point to where you ask yourself "hmm is this wrong?" youre gonna keep doing it whether or not we tell you to stop, so dont be a fag. keep doing it, and when it comes back to bite you in the ass, you wont have learned your lesson in your position, no one would
you sound angry about it
Kill yourself trigglypuff.
>my boyfriend
ya cause he wanted a woman
>implying youre a woman
>implying no one would ask for tits or gtfo
Yeah, he raped me too so I guess I am kinda angry about it.
I mean, I'm trans. So that's fair enough.
show us your pecker faggot
I really would if I had one. I could show you my packer instead?
Greentext the rape, it'll stand as a shrink session and you'll get people off, double profit !
Sure, fuck it
>be me
>have already gone through sexual abuse as a child
>I start remembering shit when i'm 16
>already dating vlad (for real, his name is vladimir)
>he took my virginity and we'd been fucking like rabbits for almost a year
>suddenly, because i'm remembering shit that i repressed
>i'm getting flashbacks while he tries to come on to me
>i tell him, we talk it through, he understands
>we work out a system of how to tell him when i'm getting uncomfortable
>6 months pass
>getting the hang of my newly found ptsd
>he seems more distant
>cheats on me with one of my good friends from high school
>he tells me he was too drunk, he cant remember
>but everyone else at the party saw, everyones telling me what happened
>he comes up with excuse after excuse like usual, i just end up dropping it
>another few weeks pass
>slowly noticing hes starting to care less about having sex with me
>as in he still does it all the time, but he doesn't seem interested about pleasuring me
>he used to be a huge giver
>because of my ptsd, fear sets in about telling him how i feel
>he ends up telling me hes not even attracted to me any more, he just fucks me because he's addicted to sex
>try to be understanding but after 2 and a half years of being together, it hurt
>side note: i came out as trans a year into the relationship and he was super super into it sexually
>i go over to his place one day, no ones home
>i ask him "can we please not have sex today? i'm just feeling like shit, had nightmares about my abuse last night" blah blah blah
>he says thats fine, he says he gets it
>literally 5 minutes later his hands are on my ass while watching rick and morty
>he's pulled this before
>i've said no, hes trying to get me aroused so i wont say no, but i wont say yes either
>he takes it as consent
> i say to him "please dont touch me, not today. i know what youre trying to do"
>"what? i'm not trying to do anything!" he says as he puts his hand up my shirt
cont?
go on
kek just stop sexting and delete evidence.keep rollin with your bitch and thats it
damn. you told him
same thing happened to me, everytime I was horny I get in touch with that girl, after fap I felt like shit everytime.
The cure is to delete every contact with her, with me it worked
sry for bad english
i touch my gf ass all the time,also addicted to sex but doesnt mean he wants it just becouse he cuddles your butt
cont:
>he doesnt even sound sarcastic
>"i'm only trying to show that i love you, user"
>whatever, i know this game
>i try to move away a little, he moves closer
>and gets more and more handsy
>he tries to kiss me, i give him a peck to try to satisfy him
>it did not satisfy him
>i say no, please, just stop at least 5 more times
>he finally acknowledges it when I get up and say I'm going home, i cant deal with this
>he reacts as usual
>"fine, everythings always my fault isn't it user?! why do you ALWAYS act like you dont love me?"
>he gaslights any and every point i have, as usual
>blackmails me
>i think of all the random people hes given nudes for attention
>i think of how i've not been enough for him time and time again
>and, as usual, i sigh
>i give up
>i dont say no anymore
>i slowly walk out to the bedroom
>its happened before, just like this
>it'll happen again, just like this
>because thats all im worth
>because no one else could ever love me
>he undressed me
>tries to finger me
turns me onto my stomach, puts my head down
>pushes himself inside of me
>he doesnt even notice that i'm making no sound, not even heavy breathing
>i try to hold back tears
>he finishes inside of me as usual
>finally, now we can just watch rick and morty in peace
>but i know
>i know it'll happen in another 3 days or so
Whats really ironic is that he made sure i didnt watch the mr meeseeks episode with the almost-rape because he was worried it'd trigger me.
Fucking Vlad.
Dude man up
Had one going like that for over a year with a 10/10 although I was also in a relationship during that time. Despite her living 800 miles away, we had plans to meet up, have a relationship, etc. It was REAL....we Skype'd, exchanged gifts for birthdays and holidays, etc. The only negative in the whole situation was she was younger than me by 14 years (she was 21, pervs) and she still lived at home and I've had my own house a while now...long enough that it's paid-for, actually.
One day while texting she apparently sent an engaging message to her mother that was intended for me...nothing risky or sexual at all, but it apparently had to do with "us" and my name was in it so it's not like she could play it off like it was for someone else. Within an hour, her mom messages me on Facebook, tells me I have no idea what I'm getting into- this daughter of hers has a history of playing guys she's been with and walking away, telling in-depth lies to gain sympathy, etc. We decide to keep the fact that she messaged me hush-hush so as not to embarrass the girl I was talking to.
LITERALLY THE NEXT DAY...."I accidentally sent a text to my mom last night that was intended for you and she confronted me about it. Yes I was highly attracted to you in the beginning, but recently I realized it's not very plausible because of the distance, etc. I've been having hard days met with harsh realities and I wanted someone with similar interests to love me so badly and be around me 24/7 but the reality is that I'll never leave the opportunities I've worked on here where I am. I guess people change- I've lost sight of wanting a relationship and I've given up on love because I'm always alone and accustomed to being that way while I pass time keeping myself busy to stay out of trouble. Sorry for wasting your time."
And with that, instant friendzone. We don't even talk anymore and that was just a few months ago.
Pic very related.
>by 14 years
She really dodged a bullet there