Anyone here wanna talk about their real life problems

Anyone here wanna talk about their real life problems

I'm trapped in a relationship with a girl who I don't love anymore because I can't afford to move out, and I know breaking up and living in the same place still would be a nightmare.

my wife lost her job due to trying to care for her alcoholic mother. I had to accept money from my father to repair our water heater and pay the car note. It made me feel like a failure of a man to do so. I don't get paid until Friday and have 12.00 to last until then. My wife is being lazy about finding full time work. This scenario happened with my ex wife as well. I'm so tired of life

Try to talk to her.
Try to rekindle the love.
I mean, you can't force yourself to enjoy a relationship with someone that you don't even like.
On the other hand, you mist have found SOMETHING attractive about her in the beginning.
Try to find that. And if you really can't then try to save up some money or ask your parents for help or advice.
user, don't feel guilty for accepting help from your dad ... that's what family's for! Just don't forget it and do him a favor next time. And you really gotta talk with your wife. Communication is so important. Tell her calmly and emotionally how this whole situation is stressing you. If she really loved you then she would try to be more thoughtful and trying to get a full time job.

Just broke up with my GF of 5 years.
Just didn't care about her anymore.

I'm banging a new girl every other week. She lives 2 hours away by train. Turn's out she's fucking crazy, can't manage her money, keeps dropping hints that she needs help.

A young girl at work has started flirting with me, and contacts me online and stuff. She seems to want a relationshop or to fuck me or something.

Its all too complicated. Why can't I find a nice normal girl who has her shit sorted out.

Why are they all fucking hopeless ?

Started seeing girl few months ago; she cheated, she said she wasn't ready for a relationship, I cut her out of my life. We met up last night for coffee because I'm moving states and she told me I drive her crazy, she hasn't stopped thinking about me and is totally in love with me

The new girl I'm banging who's life is a mess. Keeps giving me the cold shoulder and freeze's me out. I ignore her for a few days, and she comes back declaring her love, and she has to see me to fuck.

Why are they all such fuck ups ?

What's your level of education/socioeconomic status? The girls you're looking for are probably out of your league.

Relationships really shouldn't be complicated.
Maybe you search for a girlriend in the wrong places. Try normie stuff like going to bars or even online dating. It's not your duty to put up with toxic people that don't have their shit together. Still, you could try to be a good person and talk with this one crazy girl, as a friend. Talk her into getting help or something. So far it's just sex right? So she shouldn't act mad when you slowly drift away from her life. The other young girl sounds promising, but always try to get to know the person and their motifs first. Who knows, she could be just as fucked up as that crazy girl.
You deserve so much better tbh. Cut off toxic people who hirt you. They will hurt you again, it's in their nature. For your own sake, stop letting people treat you like dirt. You are so much more than that. Spend your time improving and working on yourself, instead!

Just been diagnosed with lymphatic cancer. Stress levels doubled. Lost my job teaching because my hands can't even hold a pen properly anymore. Fucked basically. Gonna start a beg thread I think. I need cash or my house is gonna go next :/

Thanks user, I'm repairing his truck tomorrow. I've tried to discuss it with her, but I was irate and far from calm. I guesso n the bright side at least her mother doesn't live here anymore.

either you're attracted to fucked-up drama bitches and/or attracted to people who push you away(mommy issues)
and/or
you're somehow attractive to people with those traits.

I love this gif. I wish it had some kind of movement inside the train, though. A flickering candle or lantern or something

My brother had an stroke yesterday for no reason and this motherfucker is only 15

Toxic bitches be toxic. In a few years you will regret your time wasted on this girl. Nobody deserves to be treated like disposable fuckmeat. You have feelings too. If she can't stand your personality and only wants the goods then you should just cut her out of your life once and for all.

also, try to frame it in your mind that you have other options even if you don't have any. If you're in a constant mindframe that you're trapped in this situation then your feelings will seep out in unattractive ways, e.g clingy, dependence, non-independence, negative feelings towards (figurative) captor

can't stop being a sexual deviant its killing me.
can't ask for help
can't stop
not sure what to do


for the most part respect peoples boundaries but if someone is wearing revealing clothes will pursue persistently unless they specifically say fuck off or make it clear they are uncomfortable.

Me too bro. Get saving and count down the days till you can dump her ass. Gets me through the day

Problem 1
Got debt around 10 000 EUR
I earn around 800 eur/month
Not too bad in general, but I really need a car soon, I have to invest in small business (small one-time specialised things not attractive to investors, but this option is open), this is point in life I really feel I need to move on - get waifu and a kid.

Problem 2
I love my friends. Got quite a lot of different sorts, different groups. I've wasted a lot of time with friends, because I simply like socialisation.
My friends are average.
You are the average of your 5 closest friends.
Realized that I thrive after meeting very professional and confident people, leaders. Feel the achiever spark in me again.

Should I slowly loosen contacts with lifelong friends for profit? If I'd become a big fish I would not forget them eventually.

I love my boss's wife. I have a weakness for red haired woman.

I have serious mental issues and can't continue with school because of it
My dad doesn't believe it and abuses me because of it
I am not and underage b& just failed highschool enough to be mature and still in that fucking hellhole

>to want a relationshop or to fuck
..
how young are you exactly to even consider some flirting to be good enough reason to demand relationship out of that?
i.e. if she wants a relationship right away, that's a sure sign she's a traumatised person and she will be better off eating her pain a bit, than jumping from dick to dick, just to not feel alone for a week.

Damn user sorry your live sucks who knows shit might get better hopefully it does Good luck m8

>really feel I need to move on - get waifu and a kid.
With that I mean I've found a way to double income and as you see I do side-stuff, I want to actually create a working business.
>be eastern euro, hence pay is ok.

I've recently come into a large check of ~$1000 and wanted to purchase a gaming laptop with it. I gave my mom roughly 300 for rent (over 18 still living with mom user I'm a loser I know) in hopes that I could use the rest for said laptop. But now she's saying I can't spend that much on a laptop because my brother paid 400 for a used low end laptop he got last year.

You got nothing to lose.

I always imagined I'd kill politicians if I was terminally ill.

My friend died 2 years ago. Haven't talked it out with anyone and I'm still hurting but I'm too proud to bring it up to anyone.

I realize that the only way to fix my problems to is to practice honesty with everybody surrounding me. To always speak from the heart and not always be lying, manipulating, and filling the day with idle chatter. The problem is I've realized this a little late. My brother is a heroin addict who is too far gone to get on board with my ideas, my mom is well meaning, but the only way I could have a serious discussion with her right now would be to let out all the anger I repressed for 19 years. And I don't think it's a good idea. She's also been hitting the wine a little too hard lately. And I know that someone with an active addiction won't be able to be with me on this.

these threads are nothing but faggots whining about bitches, fucking normies

No. You are the normie. Have you thought about that?

Yeah, so I get that this is serious and all but really? It's your fucking money, bro, spend it on what you want. Listening to your mom forever is gonna be a problem.

You have to talk it out with someone user. Not me though. Someone in person.

I wish I could help more than that. But I'm still unsure exactly how to do it. I just know that face to face human contact must be the answer.

You have to detect when those sexual thoughts/feelings arise, and take a step back. Some days you won't be able to stop them, but persevere and it will get easier. Try to investigate why do you feel that way. Look for hobbies to distract yourself and be a man with a dick, not a dick with a man.

Or he could stop being a bitch. Your mom is hinting at you to move the fuck out.

Your brother spent 400, save the excess and look at how long it will take you to move out and become a proper member of society.

There's always time to talk to someone, user. If anything, you're shitting on your friend's memory by trying to ignore That you cared about him.

I had a really good looking girl come onto me,When I walked her back home she had lost her keys again and started panicing.Told her itd be grand and called the security people to her apartment.

Sec guy came and told us he didnt have keys to this particular block so We would have to go back to my place instead. When he left she goes to me this is the second time youve been here to save me from a rough night.

Went back to mine and had drunk sex. But the following morning when we were in bed and she was in the mood I couldnt get it up. It was an incredibly embarrassing experience.

This led me to think about it and I realized I have never had sober sex. Do I have a problem with intimacy while sober or was it just some other factor.

...

I have recently developed full blown schizophrenic symptoms. also have been depressed for 5 years + like 10 other disorders. I feel really crap and started to abuse drugs lately because they help me cope with it. I'm alone and have nobody to talk about it, probably wouldnt do it anyway even if I had someone. I actually successfully work and socialize sometimes but I dropped out of school again because of stress.

I really want to study,but all i do is watch yt vids and play vidya :-(

You my friend seem to have a misconception that moving out of your parents at 18 is a common thing, trust me, its not

Life can be shit sometimes. But honestly even in dark situations we still have a lot to be grateful for.
You have to be really smart from now on. Financially. Ask your whole family for support. Your friends need to be there for you too. You have to get most out of life. Don't even think about self pity. Just accept that this is life. Our time on earth is limited anyway so make the mosttttt out of every day!
Try to süeak wtih her again. This time calmly. But don't do it now. Do it whem all the anger from both sides is faded and she can look at the situation rationally.
That's terrible ... it will get better thougj. Everything is temporary. Aslong as you're there for him and give him a reason to get better and to smile, thinfs are gonna be ok :)
Sex therapy. It's not your fault for beimg this way. You are not a bad person. As lojg as you try to control yourself by doing therapy. It cam change everything. Don't be embarrassed. Be strong.
There are my red haired women. Don't make things unnexessarily complicated by choosing your boss's wife.
SAME. honestly what helped me was putting all my energy into improving myself. Started going into therapy regularly. Stoped hating myself and putting myelf down for no reason. Studied more and hung out with firends. Sleep was the most life changing tho. I need atleast 9 hours to feel ok. So fix your sleep schedule.

You're putting too much masculine pressure on yourself. No need to be so stoic if your dad isn't going to guilt trip over the money or anything. It's just money, what the value is is that he was willing to help you. Appreciate just that. As for the wife, make sure she's stable emotionally. Her motivation is probably rocky dealing with her mother suffering. Have you talked to her about it in general? Not just hearing her complaints, but how it is effecting her? If you care about her, don't forget to care about her well being. Then you can work on motivating her to get a job, which is a reflection of one's confidence.

No matter where I go and what I do I find life boring and empty.

Direct your sexual energy elsewhere.
Don't waste your time on sluts like that. Just turn her down and find a real female-winner with whom you'd not only enjoy fucking but spending time with her as well.
Okay here's my problem. I consider myself a solitude-loving person. I've lived alone for the last 4 years (had one girlfriend in that period which ended painfully). I don't really have confidence issues, I guess I could find somebody if I really tried but for some reason I don't want to.
Last night I was smoking outside because I couldn't sleep and I felt really lonely. It hurts. But at the same time I fully understand that the feeling is self-inflicted. I consciously put myself in isolation on purpose. And for some reason I do not have the motivation to change it.

TL;DR Live alone for quite some time, never bothered me till recently - don't feel like looking for a gf, but don't want to feel lonely anymore. Basically don't understand myself anymore.

i have about 100 hours of time put into a proof and i still havent broke any ground

im thinking of passing it off to one of the giants like terry tao but it's the only thing between me and my degree

FYI, sounds like she's getting dick from someone else (or everyone else) and runs to you when she hits her guilt cycle.

Would recommend getting out of that ASAP.

ever tried drugs? felt this way for half my life, mainly because derealization and depersonalization disorder, also depression. I see existence in a weird way

try to be happy that you have a girl to bang. dont get emotionally connected unless you are in your 30's trying to create family

Sort of this. I think some psychedelics have the power to bring at least some meaning to people.

i have a roommate. he's been living with me since may of 2016. we've known each other since we were 5. he moved in to save money and that money was supposed to go to us starting a micro brewery. since he's been here, we've done nothing. we had a timeline and haven't accomplished anything we said we would.

now, he simply focused on paying off his debt...i'm fine with that IF that had been the original plan.

he's filthy and doesn't clean up after himself.

what do?

If we did we'd be here all day because Sup Forums is unanimously one big problem.

The whole reason any of us are here is because we just think the world is pretty shit in a lot of ways. That is legitimately the cause of the rise of these kinds of websites. We all have the edgy reasons to be here. To the point some of us fucking parade it around like a war medal.

I think Sup Forums is the first place I've ever seen someone be SMUG about being a total piece of shit.

I'm chronically ill and have no life at all whatsoever. I'm too poor to see a doctor and too sick to actually work anywhere to be able to afford to go anywhere. I'm only 21 so I didn't work long enough when I was well to be able to take out disability.

you are being repressed by some immaturity in yourself. If you had things more important to do, you wouldn't distract yourself with a video game. Whatever satisfaction or fixations you get are just artificial rewards going off in your brain, just entertainment for the childish being in yourself. I noticed as I've been getting older I just can't invest myself in games like I used to, like really...for what more than entertainment is the value of game? At least maybe ween off to manage your time.

Look into mental discipline and how to focus, and maybe how to study efficiently. It's admittedly hard in this day and age.

Exams start January 7 they are my resits and I haven't studied yet and I have to pass to be able to sit in the finals in June I'm so fucking depressed and anxiety takes over sometimes ( last night I was in my bed just thinking about this and I had a panic attack)

Tell him he needs to start cleaning up after himself or he won't have a place to live. No reason you should have to live like that.

I feel you.

I'm 27, have my own car, my own place, well paying job with customs.

Find a girl, she has the same seems level headed things are great. Move in together and she starts becoming more and more lefty/feminist idealistic.

I assume it's from her university friends who are all fuckin brainwashed into thinking the world can be some kind of Utopia if people would just start giving out free hugs.

Talk about aboriginies (we're Aussie) start saying that i'm sick of this "we're sorry we have to respect that this was their land first rhetoric". I wasn't involved in any of the bad shit that happened 50 years ago and I wouldn't have been involved because the culture has changed so much since those times.

Listening to her talk she's just virtue signalling nothing that is being said actually helps these people who have alcoholic and suicidal communities. Tell her something needs to change to help them not just sitting around saying "we're sorry, this was your land and we respect it" because it literally does shit all other than make you feel better.

She flips out thinking i'm a racist or some shit because I thinking introducing counselling/education and police into the area would be more useful than sending flowery post cards.

I don't know we've been together 2 years (she's my age) maybe I picked the wrong one.

i've tried. he's convinced he's not the one making the mess even though i've demonstrated that he is.

Remember this is the era of time where video games have the full potential to become a career in and of themselves. Deposits the media trying it's hardest not to.

You could very clearly tell someone that playing soccer with your friends is just a game and a waste of time but in the eyes of any sports fan they're just practicing a valuable skill and video games debatable do train certain aspects of the mind like anything else. So in a lot of ways it's probably his secretive fascination with the fact that fewer people insult you for playing video games a lot. Granted like anything else you can waste time on not everyone will get it. But most importantly EVERYTHING is a waste of time in the grand scheme of things so congratulations, we've come pretty full circle in the objective nature of the universe as we know it unless you think studying the universe is important than anything else is also a waste of time. So... We're fucked.

I feel for all of you guys. My struggle isn't as bad. I just can't tell if that one girl in class just really likes me, or she feels something more. I know her for like 4 months, we're talking since 2 months. She pokes me a lot, sits next to me when I'm alone and I do the same sometimes, not always, I don't want her to think I'm desperate. I don't chat with her online because I prefer talking face to face. I have no fucking idea how do I make sure that she is into me.

I moved out when i was 17, started thinking of moving out as soon as I hit 16. So my experience is obviously not the same as yours. I was also lucky enough to have a gf who was also wanting to move out. Of course, over the years that relationship dried up and I am 98% she cheated on me the last year we were together.

But what i was saying is start saving and asking for stuff you will need in your own home. If you do not absolutely need a new pc, keep the old one and start figuring shit out for when you are on your own. Your own home feels so much better than your parents' home.

And her giving that hint is telling you to start. Your folks will be there to help you if they see you are trying to become an adult.

Man, you faggot, you should know bitches = trouble. I guess you would know that and have some of your own stories to tell if you had any.

Time to kick him out on his ass then. That isn't fair to you.

I have crippling gender dysphoria and only spent 3 hours with family over Christmas before going back to hiding

Thanks for this

I'm getting tired of all these fucking mental discipline meditation focusing your chakra hippies that think video games are a waste of time

I failed at some things, I don't quite know yet what the consequences will be and I can't bring myself to try any longer.

Every day I sink a little deeper.

...

Just get a jar of vaseline. It will make it easier when fucks you after his debt is paid off.

>be 10yo me
>dream about killing someone
>feel quilty for it somehow
>feel quilty about everything somehow
>vacation spent crying and talling w my mum about it

>be 13yo me
>get tested
>have ocd
>spent next years in high school being a mediocre student
>graduate when 17

>now doing nothing for 2 years
>wanna stop working (again), anxiety and stuff cuz im a pussy

Boring I know but whatever.

No you don't.

You have an escapist mentality and think that there is no other option than changing gender and starting new.

Ditch all the people who you hang out with, they're all mentally ill fuckwits and will literally destroy your life.

If you like her, why don't you ask her out for coffee or something? If she asks if it's a date you're proposing, jokingly say "Am I?". That might give some clues depending on her response.

Communication between you and your family members. Try to explain yourself to your closest relative first. A sibling or something. The younger they are the more probable it is that they will understand you. Slowly try to explain yourself to every other person in your family. It's their duty to support you. Just try to explain yourself in an emotional and logical way. Don't act angry or passive aggressiv, just trust in your family being there for you when you approach them. Don't hide yourself. You are who you are. Nothing to be ashamed of. Try to get therapy as soon as possible and slowly become the person you were destined to be. It's not only about getting surgery or changing your body, it's about changing the way you perceive YOURSELF. you don't have to look like a woman to be one. You are valid.

Noup, but I always wanted to take a trip with the Train, like in your picture. Gosh, must be fun.

I tried to take her out to the cinema. I can't remember why, but we didn't go. I should give it another try I guess.

the correct name of the thread
Let's tell each other your problems, because people LOVE to whine, but let's not try to solve them. Because realistically you fucking can't.

The one person I've met in the last 5 years who I actually liked sent me a message asking me to 'forget her'. T'was quite the blow.

Started going out with a really cool girl. She'd be absolutely perfect if she could lose 25 lbs. But until then, I'm too petty to commit to anything.

Stop waiting for a sign.
Stop thinking about the worst case sceanrio.
Stop running away from your problems.
Procrastinating is your worst enemy.
You are your own best friend.
You are smart and capable.
Stop thinking and start working.
Nothing will change unless you stand up now.
You have control over your life.
You just have to pass. That's not too difficult.
You can do this. Get up NOW. The first step might seem scary but it is easier than you think and all the pain and anxiety in your head will be lifted immediately.

You can do it! Good luck user

Thank you so much :’)

I have always been last-minute-doer.

Fortunately for you - it works.
Unfortunately for you I can read a 2 inch book in a night.

Best advice - just start NOW. With less time it will get stressful and eventually you'll end up spending 3-4 days in a waste (especially when there could be better things to do.. e.g. friends will want you to party. but you'll have to study).

Just 1. make a plan what you need to know. it is important.
just work through it.
Even if you manage 80%, there are chances exams will cover only questions inside what you've learned.

there is no bigger satisfaction than to just waltz in class, spend miserable 1 hour reading some last bullshit, getting good mark and going home stress-free.

Why are you so superficial.
If she's the one then she's the one.
It's her body.
If you really can't commit to her because of something so stupid then you probably don't deserve her.
And don't you dare telling her you won't commit to her because of her weight. That hurts people, ok?
The one thing you cam do is try to get fit and ripped yourself so she will feel obligated to better herself.

Y-you too.
Now go make me proud user ^^
Mainly do it for yourself and your own happyness :)

Thanks man

>break up with longtime gf, she says its mutual (she dumped me)
>she was gymnut/med student, I was dumbfuck working on civil planning degree
>she always pushed me to study harder, go to gym more, improve myself. She'd always say "I'm doing this for you, so you can be better"
>break up because of too many fights over stupid shit, mainly about gym/uni
>she finds engineer student gym alpha guy
>lose motivation of getting her back
>stop going to gym, lose job, lose most friends save for a few old ones

Losing her, then my job kinda put me in a slump
Saw a psych or two over friends' advice, been on antidepressants for quite a while, but they don't seem to do much
I know you have to have the right attitude and try and fix your life, you can't just sit back and hope things fix themselves

I started going to gym again, and got a fulltime job, but it doesn't help. I enjoy the job, and gym with a friend is fun, but at the end of the day it feels pointless. I guess she made me feel like I wasn't good enough for her, and now she's gone I don't see the point in trying for that sort of thing anymore
gym's part of my routine, but I'm not working up to get swole and find bitches, i just do it and go home

Am I being a bitch? I'm lonely, I miss the company and the mates all have girls, but i know I won't do anything about my sadsack fatboy position to change that, i just don't have that motivation anymore, it just doesn't seem worth it anymore

What do i do?

I feel you. I too dropped out of school not long ago because of similar problems.

I should have listened to my psychiatrist when she said i might be developing schizophrenia a year ago, i was there for depression and tiredness, not psychosis and i tought she was exaggregating.

I decided to start attending school again, things went well for a while, i felt like things were going the right direction for the first time in many years. Then things went downhill.

Now i have severe social anxiety, feeling like everyone are staring at me no matter where i go. Sometimes when i look at things that are supposed to be standing still they warp, bend and shift slowly back and forth and seeing shadows moving on the floor etc. When i was feeling really down i was even convinced of there being an implant in my head forcing bad thoughs into my head and making me do mistakes in life. Like a mental prison of sorts. Luckily things have gotten more quiet by now but anxiety and depression still remains. I just waited it out, figured if i stayed all alone in my apartment for months only going outside for buying food it would eventually pass, and it somewhat did. At least i dont think there is a microchip in my head any more.

Still the world feels very unreal, because it is :/

I too used to be relatively normal, always had problems but never like this. So its hard for me to get used to. Talking to people is very difficult atm because in addition to anxiety i mess up the words when talking or forget things.

Was planning on killing myself with nitrogen but i will give treatment a chance first, even though i only want to escape from here and figure out what lies behind this illusion of a life, cant be all that bad?

I'm bored. I recently tried a bunch of activities, both alone and with my brother in search of a hobby but nothing is actual fun. I just haven't felt real excitement or been dedicated in years, nothing ever clicks or feels fun. I just spend my days browsing Sup Forums and listening to music during my spare time.

Gf and I broke up 6 months ago after nearly 4 years together. Over the course of the relatonship I lost the ability to flirt, since she left my self confidence has plummeted, I'm a social recluse and she was pretty much my only friend - now I use my lesbian housemate as a kind of social surrogate. Gf is now in a new relationship whereas I haven't even been able to get a rebound fuck. I spent Christmas away from the family beause it's the first Christmas since Grandad died and it's not the same anymore. The only reason I don't kill myself is the guilt of other people finding me and dealing with the body and the fact I'm my mother's only child.

there is always suicide

because your and asshole it's obvious from the way you write.
i suggest suicide you ugly dumb fuck!

because fuck ups attract fuck ups
suicide is the only answer!

you need to google how to kill your self
you stiupid fucking idiot

you need to murder your father in cold blood
you stupid fuck!
then kill your self
you fucking idiot

I have the happiest life go to uni have a lot of stacy white friends. have this amazing bf but i just feel numb inside. im not depressed nor happy just feel i guess numb all the time. am i fucked up or something

find a tall building and jump
there is something good on the other side
trush me im already there
just kill you self today
no one will miss you
it will be painless
your in pain now escape the pain
listen to mr majestik
suicide is the only answer !

Obvious Samefagging is obvious.
Why do you voluntarily spread negativity in a thread created specifially for helping people with their problems. Got something to talk about user? :/

Seriously stop pls

have a girlfriend that I've been with for 4 years, she's 8 years older than me. I love her so much but my parents think it'll never work out nor do they want it to and they keep telling me to break up with her

you need suicide
it's the only right thing to do,
no one will really miss you,
listen to Mr.Majestik
today is a good day to die.,
there are many ways to do it painless
i suggest you get a gun and just blow
your head clean of that way some of your
old freinds will remmember you as a cool guy

I dont know where i am heading at this point. But i got a date with 10/10 qt tommorow.

obviously to a good fuck if you play your cards right