Why can't i maintain an erection when having sex?

Why can't i maintain an erection when having sex?
I'm 21 years old, in good shape and exercising an hour a day. I smoke, but over the past year I've cut back to 2-3 cigarettes a day. I haven't drunk in nearly 3 months, and I smoke 2-3 joints per week. My life is by no means stressful, work life is good and i don't have any financial problems. I used to maintain an erection for hours at a time, but one night two weeks ago my erection faded after 20 minutes of foreplay and never came back up. This has been reoccurring every night since then and has been seriously frustrating me. Anyone have any ideas whats wrong with me?

total mental game now bro

Maybe you watch too much porn/fap too often? stop both for a few days/weeks and watch your sex drive return.

>Anyone have any ideas whats wrong with me?

You need more JESUS

JESUS will get you hard and keep you hard.

i honestly don't know why or how, my weekly routine has been the same for a few months now i never had any warning of this happening

its all in ur noodle champ!

went cold turkey on porn the night this happened as well, still didnt help. Tried watching porn last night to test if I've just become desensitized due to porn and i maintained an erection for about 20 minutes before it died as well.

Taking any medication that might be having side effects?

well I was taking biotin to help grow in some patches on my beard, but i stopped taking it due to my poop turning green. The ED started about a week and a half after stopped taking biotin. I also sometimes take NyQuil, but at the most i drink about 10 mL to help me sleep

Time for a different girl

idk man i had this problem ejaculating during sex. it was purely mental. i just stopped watching porn/masturbating to porn for a few weeks. fixed it.

Old 40s fag here. It worked before, it will work again.

Take some time off, give your tool a rest. Go easy on youself. Do more strength training. Look good.

Sometimes a month, sometimes 3-4. It's just one of those guy things.

>total mental game now bro

This is correct. But trust me on this, you don't want to play this game with yourself. Take a vacation.

And dump whoever you are fucking. They are part of the problem too.

I also considered that might be an issue, but idk. I want to have sex and find her attractive and all, but my penis only agrees with my mind for about 20 minutes before it just dies

Then buy some tadalafil, maximpeptide has some good stuff.

well i've been having sex more often recently and considered that might be taking a toll on my penis, but "more often" for me is 3 times a week, which I don't really know if thats a lot relatively speaking. With porn, i can fap every night for months and still be okay so Idk, maybe my libido is fucked lol

did you also have trouble maintaining an erection, or was it just taking you longer to ejaculate but you stayed rock hard while having sex?

get your t-levels checked, user. You're a little young to be having testosterone issues, but I was 30 when I found out.

You sir are gay. Accept it.

stayed rock hard. wife did the whole "you find me unattractive blah blah blah" but i literally just couldn't ejaculate. we would both get frustrated and stop.

i thought that as well, I've been doing more cardio and weight lifting at the gym to try to boost testosterone but still not helping

also considered that. tried watching gay porn, no arousal at all. It's like in my mind i love the titties and ass and the honeypot and i wanna demolish her with my dick, but my dicks like "eh im going to sleep" lol

you may need the shots or the gel. Expensive, but worth it.

ah well i wish i had that problem lol, i did manage to stay erect two nights ago but the sex lasted about 90 seconds before i ejaculated

It could be the smoking, it's common to get ED from that

>Then buy some tadalafil, maximpeptide has some good stuff.
I have 3 bottles of this right now. Slightest hint of sex and you are rock hard. It stays up no matter what you are thinking too. Might get you over the hump.

im gonna try to go cold turkey on that as well. I've been smoking since i was 17 and from ages 18 to half of 20 i was smoking nearly half a pack a day but my sex drive wasnt effected at all. In 2016 I started going to the gym more and cut back on smoking to once before work and once on my break, and ive maintained that since august 2016 with my sex drive being pretty normal until 2 weeks ago. I wasnt smoking any more or any less around the time frame of this happening

You damned heathen piece of dirt. Don't you dare to blame our father Jesus Christ.
After all these sinners come out of their hideouts and destroy our present from god you prefer to blame our holy grail.

No homo but post your body, especially chest. You can usually get a hormone idea just by that.

Have you ever jacked off to yourself?

all the homo intended

sadly I have not, masculinity is just not my thing

I think there is always a way even if you are not attracted to yourself, a man's and woman body aren't all that different, only the genitalia.

Nipples are definitely puffy. Is there a lump under either nipple and have your areolas got any larger?

This happened to me. Went to my doc. He prescribed 5, 50 mg viagra and told me if I needed more he would do more testing.
I used 2 and it jump started everything back into shape. I still have 3 left and don't need them anymore.

Find someone who will share a couple.

no to both questions my good man

It's not homosexual to stimulate the asshole either, maybe you haven't explored far enough into what you enjoy as an individual?

did you also get hit with ED out of nowhere like me too? Or was it after having a lot of sex/fapping?

OP, you aren't giving yourself what you really want. Either you don't truly love your woman or you don't like the type of sex you are having (or you are gay but not tryna troll here). If you are convinved you love your girl, try some kinkier shit. Try voyeurism, the risk makes me so hard I think the veins on my dick are about to explode. If you are unsure about your love, try cheating. No, really, you can't make a relationship work if you don't love her. Lastly if none of that works, throw all your inhibitions out the window then go on craigslist and suck a dick.

If the areolas haven't changed that is realy good. You are still puffy though which means your estradiol is up. Usually it is caused by being too fat. That isn't your problem so that would leave the most obvious thing as too much stress. Stressing about your dick definitely doesn't help. Check every now and then for lumps. If they form you will need to go to an endo. Don't play with them though or you will make it much worse.

Out of nowhere. I was either fapping or Fucking daily. Then out of nowhere, while in bed, I would get hard during foreplay and then it would die and not come back. Then it got so I could fap and cum without ever getting hard at all. I stopped all anal play and that did not help. After that I went to the doc, got the meds and in 1 week I was back flip Fucking for hours and multiorgasmic again.

Don't worry OP I didn't know whether I would or could cum or not for about a year and ended up blistering my dick quite a few times. That was pretty frustrating, but it was due to medications that I was on, I eventually figured out to stop that med, but it sure was a waste of a year of fapping.

see im not sure if its the quality of sex. I'll admit the sex we have isn't extremely kinky especially by Sup Forums standards, but two nights before this happened i was rock hard enjoying every second of oral sex, 69, missionary, doggy, everything. I would assume that I would slowly over the course of a few days or weeks find less and less pleasure in sex and force myself to mix it up, but in contrast i was enjoying the sex one night and 48 hours later i just couldnt maintain it, but in my mind i was super frustrated because I WANTED to have sex

Do you ride a bike?

2-3 cigs a day adds up, same with the joints. Plus you're prob just stressing.

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I have full on man titters (actual breast tissue) since high school (wasn't even fat when I got them) and I can get an erection just fine.

see i dont fucking know what im stressed about, my finances are fine, i have a good social life, im healthy, my life seems pretty good and and honestly the only issue is my dick

fuck man you dont know how much relief i feel knowing at least one other person experienced literally the same thing as me cause thats how the fuck my dick is working right now

I was just talking about his hormone levels. The dick problem is all in his head. If you stress about getting boners, you won't get boners.

what meds were you on? I was taking Biotin to increase my beard growth but im not sure if thats the issue because i stopped taking Biotin about a week and a half before the ED kicked in

You stress about your dick. You are stressing so hard, you posted here.

nah my bike got stolen by a nigger in my sophomore year of highschool no bullshit lol i ended up just focusing time on working to save up for a car and forgot about the bike

So why bring up hormones if you don't think that's the problem?

There could be more information that refutes this point. He could just talk with someone for a long time about it and it might go away miraculously, or it could be something in the food he's eating or his water is contaminated.

yeah i quit the weed and gonna try to cold turkey the cigs too but god knows how hard nicotine is to quit, might get a vape but the stigma of vaping being so douchey makes me just want to try my luck at cold turkey

You were talking about your hormone levels. Then can be a problem, that's why I asked. I'm not a doctor but I have been a bodybuilder for 15 years. I know a shit load about hormones.

well fuck do i feel dumb

It the bitches fault.
You are just tired of her.
Time for new pussy, really...

Zyprexa 20mg its an antipsychotic, there's a big scar in my mind.

Most likely it is in his head but a hormone test couldn't hurt.

You are probably gay

i mean before this happened i've been building muscle and watching what i eat and running a mile and a half a day so i assumed that would be building testosterone in me but idk im neither a doctor nor bodybuilder

considered that, gay porn didnt give me an erection either

What are your thoughts during sex or fapping? You don't have to tell us, but it might be a key to open a door of what is happening.

Running can slightly lower your test but not enough to matter. What kind of stuff do you eat?

Go see your doctor discuss your problem openly and they'll take it from there many things can cause erectile dysfunction.such as stress? Allergies, medication complications hormones also consider the possibility that stds can have an adverse affect on your libido. Not to cause concern but rather to.emphasise that you seek a legitimate medical and profestival opinion.

Happens to me.once every few years for.a.period of about a couple.of weeks usually stress related even though the source.of stress may not be due to.work and can be hard to pin down or articulate.

That you don't find me attractive bullshit that you may get from your SO doesn't help the problem the stigma surrounding mens health isues and the accompanying ignorance doesn't help.either and adds to the stress.

If concerned get a doctors advice

honestly now that i think about it i don't really remember what i think during sex, but i know my thoughts are the same. I feel turned on and love all the foreplay and all and legitimately think im rock hard but i reach down and feel that im soft it really throws me off cause i think im turned on but my dick isnt

well I dont have set meal plan that i follow strictly, I cut back sugar and sweets and completely cut cheese out of my diet and switched to skim milk, i only eat whole grain wheat breads and organic shit, and I try to eat a big meal after working out and light for dinner. I've actually been feeling healthier since i started watching what i was eating

That sounds like it is not psychological if you know you are turned on, and feel turned on as well. You could try a self administered placebo?

Sounds ok, do you have health insurance?

yeah i think I'll have to pay my doctor a visit, maybe some viagra will jumpstart my sex drive. Honestly the only stress in my life at the moment is my dick issue, and its confusing because before this happened i didnt have any huge stress but now that its happened i kind of realize im super stressed and i guess its not helping with the ED

>And dump whoever you are fucking. They are part of the problem too.

This is painfully true.

yes thank god, still on my parent's health plan till i turn 25 so its best to take advantage of it right now

I could be what the main character of this movie experiences.

Yeah, then go to the doctor. A ton of good info here but he should be the one you go see.

OP: typically anything that raises your blood pressure (stimulants) can cause you to have trouble maintaining an erection, regardless of how horny you are. First time I found this out was when I took Claritin D for allergies. Shit cleared out my nose but it also made my dick stop working (Was 20 at the time). Drink less caffine, stop smoking, check out any meds you are on and see what happens.

holy shit I love that movie.

now that you mention it, ive been drinking more coffee recently, but im kind of a lightweight to caffeine, so "more coffee" to me is a medium cup of warm coffee from Dunkin Donuts and i mostly don't even finish that whole cup

Try seeing a health psychologist. It's could very well be all in your head, or a sign that something is physically wrong. They can distinguish between the two.

Honestly speak to your old man about it if you can it has happened or will happen to every guy in here at some point I thier lives. Most my friends don't like talking about it or deny it then go quiet as fuck as I joke about it. Just a case of not giving a fuck what people think and the ability to take yourself lightly instead the muh dick muh manhood shite you might get from friends.

It's embarrassing talking about it with your old man but he's a fellow man who will (or at least fucking should) treat you with a degree of respect and confidence. If he doesn't call him out on his bullshit and reserve the right to pull twelve feet of ego outta his crusty bellend when it happens to.him and he opens up to you... and laugh.... heartily... that part is important the laughter.

Jokes aside anonymous chat on the cans is all well and thus issue is very common and typically a temporary thing when I was woefully strung out it lasted about 6 weeks either no boner or weak boner couldn't even masturbate at times

Saw my.doc and she (that was fun) said it's normal and insisted i ring her either outcome in a couple of weeks next time it happened I just didn't stress about it as much as it's been experienced before

one problem there, my old man died of lung cancer back in 2008 lol if i could I would. I did speak to a friend of mine who was on antidepressants a couple months back about this because he suffered from it too and opened up to me about it and it helped him get through it till he was off antidepressants and i hoped it was all in my head and talking to someone about it would help me get through it but clearly did not help :(

Shit sorry to hear about your old man that comment would have been a bit crass if I had known. Sorry dude. When you said you're on your parents medical insurance I made an unfortunate assumpion my bad.

Just take it easy with yourself don't worry get professional rest up and put it out of your mind as best you can

nah its ok fam im not gonna be a pussy and cry about something that happened nearly a decade ago completly understand, when i said parents i meant mom and step father but just as many step parent/child relationships he can die for all i care

A lot of ED is caused by heart problems. You should see a doctor even if you exercise and are in good shape. Even marathon athletes can have heart problems.

Yeah no worries

Just keep in mind it can take time and remember it's your dick don't be put off seeing the doctor just tell your folks you've got a bad knee or something you want checking out if you don't want them to know.

And if you do want viagra etc to see you through in the meantime go through the proper channels and buy the real stuff don't be tempted to shit off the internet of from Glenn the guy down at the pub/bar

It's frustrating and embarrassing I know but it's all just a part of being an adult man owning your shit and handling your business.

Anyhow hope it works out good luck op and don't stress sometimes it's easier to juSt do (see docs etc) than fester over it in thought

Take action (appropriate and safe) and be well buddy

can you maintain one while masturbating but not when you're with a woman?

if yes, then it's nerves/mental. The same thing happens to me. I either blame the condom or do something that actually excites me (works pretty good but not 100%)

OP, I had this going. It happens when I am either in a depressive state or fucking stressed. My ex was pretty understanding but still stressed me out, which didn't help. Take a few days/weeks and don't jerk off or watch porn, don't fuck, do not do anything sex related. Stay off Sup Forums and focus on yourself. Get therapy, meditate, something. It's all in your head and you can get past it. I did.

man it sucks. how long did it take you to get through it?

A month. A long ass month dude I swear but once you iron out your issues and get your head on that first fuck will be your best.

its already been like a week for me and its been hell. it doesnt help that i have a Pavlovian reflex to try to initiate sex when im in bed with her at night, and then disappointing her with a softie lol

I did the same thing dude, trust me. It is fucking hell but you can get through this. I believe in you OP

thanks user

Here is a meme for your trouble

I had trouble when i fucked a girl i wasnt attracted to

Had this problem OP. Pretty much figured it was because of how much porn I was watching and how much I jerked off. Add that to being nervous about not being able to get it up and it was game over for me, wasn't happening. Felt bad because my girl thought I wasn't attracted to her and it was beginning to jeopardize our relationship and I was too prideful to talk to her about it. Eventually forced myself to quit porn for the most part and only fap about once a week. After about 3 weeks it worked and I couldn't be happier. You should get off Sup Forums since it's basically a porn board. I stayed browsing it and managed to resist all the temptation on this board.