I have no desire for sex

I have no desire for sex.

My girlfriend of five years is the love of my life. I'm hers. We are always talking about how we plan to live out our lives with each other. Our love goes beyond the emotional aspect; it ventures into the logical, where us staying with each other is the best plan for both of us. Major problems between us have never arisen, until now.

We have never had sex simply because we didn't need it at the time. We have gotten along perfectly up until the point where she found out that I have no desire to have sex and would prefer to go without it.

Don't confuse this with me not wanting to have sex with HER; she is a beautiful woman who deserves it. This is an issue with me: as much as I wish it were not the case, I do not wish to have sex at all. Quite the opposite. For reasons I choose to keep to myself, I dislike sex very much. I am not homosexual either.

She very much wants to a.) have children, and b.) make love. She has told me that she is very willing to help me get help and be okay with sex. Basically, an ultimatum has surfaced: either I enter into getting help with an open mind, or the relationship is over.

I do not want to "get help." I find nothing wrong with me not wanting to have sex. I do realize that my dislike for sex is strange, and I also realize that her desires for having kids and making love are not strange. I know sex is an important part of a relationship, but I don't see it as a requirement (although I might be biased because of the whole "no desire" thing).

Should I be angry with her? Because I am. I always thought she was the one for me because we have made so many plans. She says she loves me, but she can't live a life without the possibility of making love. I find this to be equivalent to her saying that she would rather have sex than be with me. Am I wrong?

Get married.

Problem solved.

All my married bros don't ever get sex from their wifies. The story is always the same.. sex normal before marriage.. then no sex after.

We planned to get married, but she won't want to if this issue isn't "resolved," as in, me getting help.

You are gay.
Im dead serious right now.

Trust me, cock is even worse than pussy for me. I can see why you'd think that, but trust me.

get a bull who will fuck her brains out. she need the D man , be realistic

Micropenis or molestation which is it op

Neither. Probably suicide, tbh.

Not into cuckoldry. If that's gotta be the case, then we're breaking up.

At least you masturbate?

Weird thing is that I do. I keep it rule 34 cuz I can't stand actual porn.

To what?

Get your testosterone checked.

If you're asexual, then there's really no natural way to start wanting to have sex. Medication may help with libido, but I don't feel right recommending it, user. Some asexuals do have sex just to please their partners, but you seem opposed to it, so don't force yourself.

If it's an abuse/bad past experience thing, therapy can help, but it can also make it worse. You said you don't want help, but therapy can even just help with negative feelings and associations without sex being the goal.
Good luck, man.

Might be my problem but idk

mainly fetish shit that doesn't really involve sex to begin with

I might in fact be asexual, but I really don't know. While I do really want to please her, for some reason this is something that I am not willing to do. No past trauma has triggered this, unless you count being raised strictly Christian.

>>>OP is angry with gf for wanting sex
what the fuck? your relationship is doomed, do everyone a favour and dump her quickly followed by an hero

No bullshit try ecstacy

Op here

I actually think being raised Christian has a big part of it. I was taught and believed that sex is a bad thing, so I guess I've subliminally taken that to my adulthood as well.

Not angry that she wants sex, just mixed feelings (but mostly anger) that she'd rather have sex than be with me. I know it's selfish of me to ask her to stay even though she would never have sex, so I'm not going to stay with her if I say I don't want to get help. If she wants sex, then she deserves it. The relationship has been fine up until this issue happened.

How is it? been curious

Did you play with the priest in the bathroom?

Boy do I get THAT feeling OP. I jack off sometimes but sex just does NOT interest me. One night stands are 50/50 good/bad for me. Tbh I was thinking I might be asexual as well. I suggest we both get our testosterone levels checked though.

I have testosterone supplements I guess but I don't wanna take a pill everyday...

na, just raised being taught sex is evil

PATRICK?

Yeah I'm not into taking any pill. Honestly I'm content, and I want her to be as well. Her deal with sex is that she wants to make loove to her husband who she loves, but that doesn't make sense to me because she has said that she loves me and would only love me, yet when I asked she said she would find someone else to love and fill her needs. I guess just wishful thinking on my part.

na, someone else

Christ, she sounds kind of bitchy, giving you an ultimatum like that.

Still, this thread has given me the idea that maybe I should start taking testosterone again. Thanks OP. I'm just kind of afraid of what might all happen; I'm recently 26 and don't know what that could mean for how it affects me.

Sorry but your relationship is doomed. You're wrong for being angry at something that is a completely normal desire on her part. Having sex equals being with someone on a very intimate level. For you to say she chooses sex rather than "being with you" is stupid, sex or making love is being especially close with you.

Either you break up or you force her to stay in this relationship and see her get increasingly more angry and frustrated. You have no desire to fix it even though she is willing. Get out before you hurt the one you love too much with your asexuality.

Believe it or not she's really the farthest from being bitchy. She's usually super chill. She's never even considered us breaking up until now.

If the testosterone works for you, then great, man. Hope you can get over this. Wish me luck.

He's allowed to be frustrated.

I'm honestly thinking the latter. I see the points you're making; I don't want to force her to stay in a sexless relationship. She wouldn't be happy and I wouldn't be happy because she wouldn't be happy. Cutting it off may be the best for both of us.

Alright. I'm gonna try. I rarely expect anyone on Sup Forums to actually listen to me since advice in advice threads is usually 'lol kill yourself fag' but here goes.

Its natural to be angry. Perhaps you even feel betrayed by this because your lack of desire has left you blind to how much this must be eating her up in side to risk the relationship you've both shared.

It's easy to explain this entire complex situation with 'she would rather have sex than be with me' but that is an over simplification. The fact you've been together so long is one of the many ways to prove how much she cares about you.

You may consider doing some reading on human desire and sexuality even if you yourself don't feel the necessity for your own sake. Perhaps she feels it would be dishonest to remain in a relationship where she had to shut off or at the very least not be able to share a part of herself with you that is very important to her and would feel wrong to continue it. She didn't just leave, after all, and is even risking logical reason to remain together so that is a good indication that this is important. If you don't want to take steps to see if there is anything to be done on your end, then that seems to be displaying a little resentment, passive aggressive as it may be, to her needing sex. It suggests you will never change and she should instead because if you don't have any sexual desire why should she?

I know that's not what your trying to convey and I'm not accusing you of doing this consciously but it sounds as though this has become an impasse in the relationship and it can no longer be ignored as something that will just go away. Communication is at the utmost importance right now and she may be feeling trapped if there is no willingness to compromise and feeling trapped is a much more viable emotion to end a relationship than simply sexual desire.

Also, high prolactin levels and a partial color blindness could mean a tumor in the pituitary gland, lowering your libido. You should see a doc.

cut off your dick then because if you're not going to use it then the worms sure could.

I don't know how you did it but you hit the nail on the fucking head. Thank you for giving me a new look on this. I've been thinking a little too selfishly.

How'd you fucking know I'm colorblind? Is this who I think it is?

your dubs are checked, also, that is probably the best honest ass advice I have seen on Sup Forums in a week.

>Sex or she breaks up with you

3 words: She a ho.

five years no sex yh nah you are lying, you have nothing to offer if this is real asexual people have no drives so it doesn't make logical sense to be with her or rather her to be with you.

I thought so too.

She's really not, though. Great girl.

I dont't really understand your point

Also would like to know how you guessed this one.

The picture was plebian sure, and otherwise normalcy in the individual was noticed but what was the tick that made you guess color blindness?

I gotsta know

Season 8, episode 9

U gay

Oh and op.

There are two ways to manipulate the human mind without common drugs.

trauma or repetition. Gradual or sudden.

Ask her to help you get over this hurdle for you slowly. Start with handjobs and porn and move from there. Gradual kink. Make it matter to her.

Program you're mind to accept fucking. Also yeah. GO SEE A Doctor because that post was fucked....

Op here, and yeah I'd REALLY fucking like to know how you knew I'm colorblind

Sounds like a plan. I can try that. Thank you.

AND YEAH THAT POST IS REALLY FUCKED LIKE DR. HOUSE I'M FREAKING OUT HERE HOW DO YOU KNOW I'M COLORBLIND

Seasons 5 and 8 are best seasons

Oh boi... u surely are 16 to 22 years old. Kid, let me tell you something. What you have is a girl-----friend. You are gay as fuck. You just dont know it yet. You treat your woman as you would treat any friend... yet she is in some fake friendzone you just made. Being in love is being sexually and mentally attracted. The lack of any of those results on realising you get turn on by other stuff, like that time you just got a boner in the dress room..or that thing ypu keep seeing dudes penis at restrooms.
Be a man, leave the poor woman and suck a dick.

Already said I'm not gay. Thanks though.

I do appreciate everyone who helped in this thread. While I might not have seen much productive reasoning with a lot of the posts in here, posts like have made me realize that I've been going about this all wrong. Thank you all. You've really helped me and my relationship.

Also fuck you House I'm going to go to the doctor this week for a potential tumor.

Good.

Post results you faggot

Good luck user.

Of the doctor? If I go, sure.

Thank you.

Getting angry because gf has basic human needs

You could just have sex with her for her sake if u love her so much or you could just end it better than becoming a cuck cause that's the way you are heading OP

+100 internets to you user

There are anons who listen don't mind the 13yo 9gag edge lords