I have no desire for sex.
My girlfriend of five years is the love of my life. I'm hers. We are always talking about how we plan to live out our lives with each other. Our love goes beyond the emotional aspect; it ventures into the logical, where us staying with each other is the best plan for both of us. Major problems between us have never arisen, until now.
We have never had sex simply because we didn't need it at the time. We have gotten along perfectly up until the point where she found out that I have no desire to have sex and would prefer to go without it.
Don't confuse this with me not wanting to have sex with HER; she is a beautiful woman who deserves it. This is an issue with me: as much as I wish it were not the case, I do not wish to have sex at all. Quite the opposite. For reasons I choose to keep to myself, I dislike sex very much. I am not homosexual either.
She very much wants to a.) have children, and b.) make love. She has told me that she is very willing to help me get help and be okay with sex. Basically, an ultimatum has surfaced: either I enter into getting help with an open mind, or the relationship is over.
I do not want to "get help." I find nothing wrong with me not wanting to have sex. I do realize that my dislike for sex is strange, and I also realize that her desires for having kids and making love are not strange. I know sex is an important part of a relationship, but I don't see it as a requirement (although I might be biased because of the whole "no desire" thing).
Should I be angry with her? Because I am. I always thought she was the one for me because we have made so many plans. She says she loves me, but she can't live a life without the possibility of making love. I find this to be equivalent to her saying that she would rather have sex than be with me. Am I wrong?
