Pic unrelated. Femanon here. I noticed tonight my husband gets a boner when he plays with our son. He doesn't need to be on him or his lap for it to happen. There doesn't even need to be physical contact.
At first I thought it was morning wood because I first noticed it a morning he had off and played with our son. One time we were watching TV and my son was doing something cute and I noticed it. He denied it. Tonight I knew it wasn't a coincidence. My son (17 months) was playing peekaboo. I asked him and he denied it. I asked again and he said he didn't know. How would I know if its sexual or not? Is this normal?
I don't know what to do. I know I need to talk about it with him but my husband gets anger management issues so it won't be easy, and we've had financial marital problems lately so its that much harder. We have sex 1-4 times a week so he's not totally deprived either. There was never any indication this would be a problem. If he watches kiddie porn I would never know. He doesn't get a boner around other kids that I've noticed.
My son gets anger issues too so I'm worried about any move I could make. You can count on therapy not being an option, my husband won't hear a single word of it. I'm a victim of young childhood abuse which makes this that much harder. I also wanna add im a stay at home mom and my family isn't well off so that's gonna make this much harder. Please please be sensitive.
Brayden Wilson
>femanon
Ur doin it wrong
Tits & timestamp
Luis Ortiz
he's got a point
Asher Campbell
its not necessarily sexual, I know for me any contact with anyone can cause a boner to start rising and I get them randomly while sitting anywhere comfortable to
I'm 26 and its still like this for me
Jason Sanders
It could be high levels of endorphins being released while around those he loves. It's not sexual. Post tits
Mason Reyes
>no tits and timestamp >fake and gay sage
Brody Watson
This. It's definitely not sexual. Any (positive) emotionally intense situation can cause them. I'm married and definitely not deprived and it happens to me too. I think it does with any verile man
David Taylor
Fucking dudes. Have your tits. I wanna hear more opinions. You're not getting any more though.
Ryan Thomas
Btdubs being sexually active 1-4 times a week doesn't make boners go away. And tits or gtfo
Logan Gomez
That was supposed to say am guise. I'm really flustered about this. Its really hard for me to wrap my mind around this being normal
Noah Myers
My bad. There's a good girl.
Eli Powell
Lol Anyways, you should follow your gut. You obviously feel like somethings not right. My advice is to keep documenting this behavior.
Ignore the pedos.
Asher Wood
Shut up. Go do be useless somewhere else, no ne fucking cares about your fake problems.
Charles Foster
why are you on Sup Forums?
Robert Young
hell iv heard of several dudes getting boners when there playing with kids or pets its just excitement mixed with strong feelings of love nothing sexual at all and most dudes dont know how to explain so they hide that shit
Jeremiah Fisher
just because everyone else isn't impotent doesn't make them a pedo
Joshua Nelson
ok. now you get answers.
>Anger issues bad sign, classic in abusers as it makes people less likely to confront you about shit you're doing.
>boners with kid I'd assume this isn't a great sign. I've never had a boner around a kid, and I'm all kinds of sexually fucked up in other ways.
>son gets anger issues too recent, or his whole life? could just be a shit of a child, but kids who're being abused often act out.
> I'm a victim of young childhood abuse which makes this that much harder might make you see things that aren't there, might make you scared to speak out or think it could happen again.
overall I'd say: shit is fucked. put a keylogger on his computer, see if he watches cp.
Zachary Allen
OP here
I'm on Sup Forums because I know once I wade through the bullshit and pedos I can find out if this really truly is normal or not. A bunch of you are fuck wads but for every fuck wads there's another dude who's actually a good dude who comes on here because there's funny and interesting shit. Maybe I just wanna hear this is normal so I dont have to leave my husband because I love him.
Xavier Jones
>Femanon here. tits or get the fuck out
Gabriel Sullivan
Too late old boy..
Ryder Rodriguez
tits have been accepted
as for your guy, he's obviously a baby fucker
see; jizzbb.jpg and other fine reference material
Josiah Perry
Boners are a normal sign of a healthy cardiovascular system. It isn't that uncommon fucking Google it
Jaxson Allen
>ignore the opinions that you came for even if its the consensus >just be sus as fuck and possibly destroy this dudes life for and accidental boner and inability to explain for fear of cunts like this
David Lee
Sometimes having fun with kids also gives me a boner... even though i have no pervy feelings
i think its because you having so much fun and the chemical released.
Its awkward, I've had to stop playing with kids before because of it and its sad.
I wouldn't judge him for it too much. And you guys are sexually active that much per week thats a good sign too.
Owen Thompson
got any other specific shit he does you're worried about? If he's abusing your son he'd need to be doing it when you're not there. Does he ever do anything behind locked doors with the kid? do you ever go for an hour or something and come home to the kid acting weird when he was fine when you left?
for more advice, you'll need to post more tits or greentext how you were abused as a kid
Liam Hill
What the fuck are you talking about? HAS. HAS anger issues. Not "gets." And your 1 year old "gets" anger issues too? Explain to me why your victim status is relevant to this? What does money have to do with anything? Are you off your meds? Or just a housewife who's so bored you're fabricating problems to have to mix things up a bit?
Is this fucking bait?
Leo Stewart
O Shit this isn't b8
Wyatt Reed
When I was 16 I crushed hard on an 8yo. I used to pop boners constantly. Did not help he trusted and worshipped me so he was wrestling me and trying to sleep in my bed and follow me into the bathroom and basically just deny me any chance to, um, relieve tension.
Now I'm 32, and I've never popped a boner with my Gordon or his cousin (who planted his crotch in my face recently in some show of dominance after "arresting" me and putting toy handcuffs on me)
Jeremiah Fisher
You are why I'm here. Thank you. I just wish this wasn't happening.
I'm not seeing shit, these aren't imaginary boners and they're every time they play around. It does make me afraid to speak out because I'm afraid people will tell me I'm crazy or lock him up and mark him for life. He's not a bad guy.
He has pinned me down before, holding me by my chest. I went to the er for suicidal thoughts unrelated to that event (I've lived a fucked up life) and he told the psych therapist he did that and went to jail and had to take anger management classes and was on probation for a year. I almost got in trouble for not telling them until after he told them. A testament to our relationship strength that he stayed with me while I was unemployed the whole time and he went to school and had two jobs to pay for his probation fees. True story. Ever since then he hasn't laid an unwilling finger on me. He's into cuckold though and I'm not (unrelated). We've been together six years. We were friends in high school.
We don't have a computer just our phones so I can't put a keylog.
Brandon Torres
>It could be
Her gut is telling her that her husband is a pedo. She should keep an eye open but as i said it could be just endorphins.
Why are you paying attention to your husbands cock while he's around his son ? You're probably the one with the problems. Anyway you've been giving enough advice. boners can happen for no reason but keep an eye out. Don't fuck up shit over nothing
Anthony Stewart
Ha, sounds like you got womyn issues heres your (You).
Oliver Sanchez
Godson. Wtf, autocorrect.
Also nothing happened when I was 16 except horrible blueballs
Robert Hall
a young gitmo guard in the making
he already has the cockmeatsammich down
Samuel Harris
LOL, yes probably.
I had recently bought bondage stuff for my girlfriend and I, so the handcuffs were, uh, awkward in my head lol.
Jaxon Kelly
Endorphins isnt outside the realm of possibility. But im assuming that this wasnt just a one time thing that could be chalked off as just endorphins
Wyatt Nelson
so things have quitened down and you're looking for a way to cause drama ? Gotcha
Lincoln Sullivan
First and foremost do not assume there isn't something wrong just because of advice given here, there may be underlying problems like pedophilia so keep an eye out regardless.
I'm someone who has/had anger problems, long line of mental problems in my family so I can attest to the hormonal problems causing your kid to go into frenzies. It takes alot of self discipline and effort to stop them but it is possible, without therapy. I would say the hormonal problems are likely to blame, excess endorphins from affection or even just higher blood pressure from stress can cause erections without sexual cause. It's almost like perpetual puberty but toned down a bit where guys will just randomly get erections for no reason. I know I used to get erections during times of extreme sadness or happiness without it being sexual between the 16-20 age range, hasn't happened in a while though, same with uncontrolled anger. I'd bet he doesn't know why he gets them and is embarrased by it himself and doesn't want you to think he's a pedo so is hiding them. If it's not sexual he should become used to the sensation of playing with your kid without spontaneous boners. Monitor the situation, see if they persist over the next year or two, if they do then he may be a pedo. He may just be a pedo to begin with, search his computer when he's not around for basic search history, hidden pictures or if he uses Tor for the deepweb.
Blake James
I have problems because I was molested when I was 3 so yes I pay attention to his cock when he plays with our son because its a huge fear of mine. I've been in therapy all my life so I'm pretty lucky to only suffer from anxiety.
I'm also here because my first fucking instinct was to google it. You google it. There's no fucking web MD on it.
Moneys not related. But it makes communication that much fucking harder because we've been fighting a lot lately already. Trolls GTFO
Christopher Wood
he sounds way pathetic. the whole cuck thing is not a good sign and honestly neither is him getting boners around kids.
Alexander Cooper
I mean, it could have been a replay of her night the day before before if not for the clothing, accusations of murder, and obvious police brutality.
Joseph Price
>I'm not seeing shit, these aren't imaginary boners and they're every time they play around. You were abused. that often leads to shit like anxiety or paranoia, as I'm sure you're aware. I've lived with an abused paranoid girl and she constantly accused me of weird shit (gay affairs with neighbours, cheating on her with a girl who smiled at me at the store, etc). But if you are absolutely certain you're seeing them they're probably real, or at least worth documenting.
I'm afraid people will tell me I'm crazy or lock him up and mark him for life. He's not a bad guy. he doesn't sound like a great guy. a few redeeming qualities doesn't make up for some fucking terrible ones.
>A testament to our relationship strength that he stayed with me while I was unemployed the whole time and he went to school and had two jobs to pay for his probation fees that's not really a testament. it might mean he's into you, but it might also mean he knows somebody that easy to control and manipulate is worth keeping around.
Overall I'd say it's not exactly a healthy relationship that will stand the test of time, but you know it better htan me.
>We don't have a computer just our phones so I can't put a keylog. what do you have that you could use? can you root his phone and keylog that? can you use a shitty spycam/phone as a nannycam to see if he's abusing?
right now you have zero evidence, so your claims wouldn't hold weight. If you get video, it'll either set your mind at rest or you'll have your fears confirmed. IF they're confirmed, you hold the cards - you can get the fuck out with your son and avoid putting him in prison, or you can turn it over to the police. your choice.
Parker Williams
Also my sons anger problems are more typical boy things like he wants to hit me when he can't get his way and since I dont wanna go do jail and i firmly believe hitting back would make it worse, I don't hit him back. Doesn't seem to be lashing out. He doesn't try to avoid my husband and he loves him and always wants to play around with him. Maybe I'm wrong but I think if he had done something he would try to avoid my husband or would be reluctant toward him. I only took a few psychology classes though so I'm no fucking doctor. I'm freaking out. Maybe its my anxiety. Maybe it is normal. But I needed opinions.
Tits were posted already.
Ethan Diaz
dumbfuck, faggot OP mentioned the money problems and other issues to explain how tense the situation is to begin with, ignoring the potential child fucking problem. Can't really have an open discussion with someone like that.
Cooper Jones
Men get boners for no reason at all, even well past adolescence. Moreover, a man can desire to fuck somebody/something even when he's soft. Plus, who even knows when he got that boner?
Your anxiety is understandable, but it's unfounded unless you have evidence - i.e. actual CP, him chatting with anontalk-level pedos, etc.
Jason Scott
Kid hitting you when he doesn't get his way is normal. Cheers on not going nuts over it, but you need to gently establish that that is not acceptable behaviour.
Liam Kelly
Okay, ignore everything but this next sentence, because really it's the only one that matters:
Let's say he is popping boners over his own kid, are you afraid he's going to rape his kid at some point?
And don't ask us to be sensitive. You got your fucking equality social and otherwise, so we're going to treat you like we treat eachother. Christ.
Aaron Moore
Ya, that's a good point. You women don't really understand how boners work. Hell, we don't half the time.
Brody Scott
It honestly sounds like you're having an anxiety attack. Drink some wine and calm down - and don't announce you're femanon in the future, no one cares.
Blake Wright
could just be that when he interacts with his son he remembers the hot sex with you that made him, and feeling that virile masculinity surging his cock gets hard
or he just wants to rub one out on the brats smooth little but cheeks
you know him better than we do, what do you think?
Ethan Baker
>ignore all other posts >except mine >proceeds by asking a hypothetical question to a what if situation.
Wew
Nathan Ross
Me not understanding boners is another reason I'm asking you guys
Cameron James
Ultimately he can be attracted to whoever he wants to, the only question that really matters is if he's gonna fuck someone over it.
It renders her worry moot if he is or if he isn't, if he isn't willing to rape his kid in the first place despite attraction.
And she says she knows him really well, so she ought to be able to answer the question for herself, and go back to shitposting like the rest of us.
Jose Bell
Im only gonna repeat myself one time for you OP.
Just keep documenting this behavior. Good luck.
Cameron Edwards
Have you asked him about it? Being direct is one way to find out what you want to know. Listen to what he says. Communication is important?
William Richardson
>guy has been abusive physically to you >you are worried that he might molest your son
why are you in this relationship at all?
Aaron Sullivan
>How would I know if its sexual or not? If he gets a hardon on more than one occasion it's sexual
>Is this normal? No
Dress up like a baby and see if he noticably wants to fuck you more. If so he probably wants to rape your son
John Hill
its a trap.
them some hairy man titties if i ever seen one.
Hudson Baker
RENDER MOOT?
I dare you
Ryan Cook
Try asking him if he thinks sexual thoughts about kids. Listen to what he says.
Jack Diaz
Does your boy suck on those?
Maybe he's getting a hard on out of jealousy
Jaxson Mitchell
>I asked him and he denied it. I asked again and he said he didn't know. How would I know if its sexual or not? Is this normal?
Jayden Long
Follow protocol pls
Hunter Powell
has your pussy ever gotten wet while with your son?
have your nipples ever gotten hard?
I bet you orgasmed when you pushed him out you pedo slut
Gavin Flores
THERE ARE NO GIRLS ON TEH INTERNET YOU KNOW THE RULES TITS OR GTFO
Joshua Green
During any activity with energy an erection can be born During any activity while relaxing an erection can be born During sexual arousal an erection may not be born After sexual release and erection is unlikely to be born despite desire, but can still be born
>boners are the results of weighted dice rolls by the body.
Kayden Barnes
this up to you whether you want to leave him because he's an abusive fuck, but so far you have no evidence either way about being a pedo or molester
but keep a close fucking eye on it, because as soon as you find any evidence you get the fuck out of there fast.
as previously mentioned you might want to nannycam up the place, but if he notices he's probably going to take those anger issues out on you big time.
Liam Roberts
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Brandon Flores
you gave birth to all your boners anally faggot
Blake Richardson
sure, but I only get one when it's at least vaguely sexual or I'm shitting
the guy isn't a 15 year old, he doesn't get spontaneous boners all the time the guy isn't going months without sex and getting turned on by anything, he's getting laid multiple times a week and doing unknown amount of fapping.
if he's getting boners playing with the kid, but not getting boners doing random other shit around the house, that is a sign there is something different about playing with the kid.
Lucas Watson
>Wew Wew this whole fucking thread
Zachary Watson
>If he gets a hardon on more than one occasion it's sexual And to think I used to get erections heading to gym class in highschool because I was afraid of getting erections in gym class. Repeat boners only show that the cause is repeated, not what that cause is.
Christian Diaz
Nah, only if she's attention-whoring. Not the case here...
Tyler Murphy
Are you srs nigga?
It ain't normal for a man to get an erection playing a child.
I've played a big role with all my nephews, nieces being Top Uncle #1 and I NEVER get an erection when around them, let a lone any other children. Your husband is a pedophile.
Eli Myers
dude it's obvious I'm ashamed nobody has pointed it out you guys should just tape him together and film it? gosh
Blake Cox
see Retard
Aaron Bell
Maybe I announced I'm a femanon as an excuse to whip my tits out. They're not once what they used to be.
No that's a lie I forgot about tits or gtfo. Sorry I put that I forgot there's too many cock womblers.
Needed to lighten the situation. I'm freaking out. I wasn't until that boner happened. I really haven't suffered from anxiety very much lately even with our frequent arguments.
I take this more seriously than any of you could understand. I want my son to lead a more normal life than me. Unfortunately avoiding sexual abuse is only one factor. Not having a dad is another. My husbands dad left for drugs and lashed out a fuck ton as a kid. Like. Broke a dudes face in half for talking shit about his sister. Went to juvi. I didn't know any of this until after we were together. He calmed down mostly but I'm not easy to live with. I thought he was over with his shit. But I guess that makes me a stupid bitch. Angry, yes. Did I think that would mean he's a pedo? Fuck no. I did scour his computer in the last when he had one. There wasn't anything like that on there. He was getting lonely and considering taking dick but being a pedo was the last thing I thought he could be.
My son having a dad isn't worth him getting messed with. But if my husband isn't that way, why should I deprive my son of a dad.
Ethan Campbell
rape *
Carter Parker
So if the father is attracted to said son, OP should just ultimately accept and just assume that the father wont actually do anything?
Brilliant.
Jaxon Reyes
trust your gut. like the other anons say. last thing u want is for something to happen.
tho be careful. look and think carefully, from an objective point of view. as u said you are sensitive on this subject. good luck
James Torres
In the past***
Asher Butler
>Maybe I'm wrong but I think if he had done something he would try to avoid my husband or would be reluctant toward him
at that age it depends. There's all kinds of abuse, and the kid might enjoy it if it's framed correctly. he's just playing a different kind of game with daddy.
Luis Gonzalez
>trust your gut
THIS
The fuck is wrong with you OP
Women have this thing scientifically proven to exist called Womens Intuition - fucking listen to it no matter what.
Logan Johnson
Go fuck yourself dude this is serious
Nolan Reyes
One for the books.
Anthony Thompson
you missed the part where she too was abused as a kid so all her feelings and triggers for that kind of thing are fucked up
Carson Nguyen
Yeah obviously it's not the same as being a 12 yo with a constantly thrashing about dick, I was emphasizing that even in unconventional or unlikely situations a guy can get a boner, not that it's common. The world would be a horrible place if the boner rate didn't exponentially decrease at age 15-17.
Robert Williams
>womens intuition
work so well for madam president
kek
Sebastian Cooper
already posted, lurk harder fag
Asher Davis
I get that. But I'm pretty sure her HUSBAND POPPING BONERS OVER THEIR CHILD is a big fucking red flag.
She knows if her gut is telling her something is wrong. Her subconcsious has already told her something is wrong. That's why she is here. She wants validation.
Kayden Cruz
Sounds like confirmation bias driven by residual anxiety from your abusive childhood and his dodgy background. Does he get an erection most of the time he is around his son, or are you fixating on these few events?
He may well have had an erection and lied about it, but even so it could have been because his balls were rubbing against the sofa and he was embarrassed about it.
You need more information. You could just ask him about when he has erections and why and try to get him to be honest about his erections of his "semis" which is when it gets a little erect and grows but doesn't really get hard and stick out. Try to hide your intentions and just talk in plain terms.
Kayden Edwards
You don't know anything about women, basement dwelling Sup Forumsirgin neckbeard.
That's not how it even works.
Blake Diaz
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Owen Collins
like I said, I lived with a paranoid girl for a while. she'd easily have been able to convince herself I had a boner when I didn't. in fact, she did more than a few times over the years.
Assuming OP is reliable, there's a bunch of warning signs here. man with impulse and emotion control issues showing clear signs of arousal around a child repeatedly? worrying.
if op is just hallucinating half of it? her husband could be a regular shithead and not a pedo
Joseph Phillips
You seem to be fairly rationale and level headed, particularly considering your past.
Breaking up and not giving him a father if you're wrong or just freaking out is clearly a bad move and you understand that. The key then is to find out. You've spoken to him and he's denied it. The fact that he didn't get angry or freak out when you asked is more telling than anything.
I'd also suggest that it's unlikely for a father to get a hardon around his child and while they do happen due to random stimulation sometimes, this is unlikely to be the case if it's more than once.
I'd suggest talking about his fantasies and finding out what he's into in regards to babies while trying to be fairly unjudgemental. That'll give you more evidence towards a conclusion.
Also have sex with him after he plays with his son. If you notice he's more into it than usual that's another likely reason to err on the side of caution.
Ultimately it's about you deciding how real the risk is and when you're willing to do something about it.
Adrian Williams
Not having a father figure doesn't ruin someone's life, it's only a matter of not having a smothering household where a child is able to develop their thoughts for themselves that matter. Also tits were appreciated, feel free to post more.
Nicholas Ward
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Blake Lewis
Thank you for beimg my bitch, bitch.
Grayson Anderson
how does it work then, cucked faggot footlicker?
please gift us with your granmoms rustic wisdom
Ryder Wright
Op firstly Id like to say your body looks incredible, and I'd love to spend 3 days in a van with you. Second, don't jump to conclusions. Penises are weird organs, and the human mind is strange aswell. I've gotten hard from dogs licking me, but I would never fuck an animal. Sometimes sensations, sometimes endorphins, sometimes most innocent of things can bring up sexual memories creating a rise. If you've only noticed a couple occasions, please examine his behavior further. If you notice it is a fairly common occurrence, maybe talk to him and/or a professional.
Caleb Brooks
>I'd suggest talking about his fantasies and finding out what he's into in regards to babies while trying to be fairly unjudgemental Better yet, confess to him that you're into little boys which is why you kept asking - if he's relieved and tells you he is too, then that answers your question
>Also have sex with him after he plays with his son also: dress up in your sons clothing and do it on his bed while calling him daddy.