So i need advice, and also to vent

so i need advice, and also to vent
I'm pretty sure my girlfriend has a porn addiction. she watches it every other night or so, for the first couple years of our relationship i had no idea, and when the subject of porn would come up shed say she doesn't watch it. but then i saw her history once and i found out she was, i didn't understand why she would lie about it, so i started keeping tabs on her(I'm more tech savvy than her. turns out nearly all the porn she watches is huge cocks, sometimes black, some times not, usually with small girls that make it look even bigger, but always massive cocks. i this really hurt, I'm 6.5-7in and iv always been very happy with my size but this really made me doubt myself(and I'm now dealing with some serious body dysmorphia) i brought it up, we argued for a few months on and off about it and she promised me she would stop, i kept monitoring her and yeah she hadn't stopped. she kept promising not to, even though she knew it was hurting me, shed go behind my back and do it anyway.
she refuses to discuss it and flys off the handle when i bring it up, she won't stop, she lies about it, she refuses to admit that she has any kind of problem and won't even admit she's obsessed with huge cocks.
when were going good she doesn't watch it that often if at all, but if were arguing/fallen out/having time apart shell watch it most nights. she tells me she 'doesn't even like it' 'only watches it to distract herself from being sad'
this has been going on for over a year now and I'm a complete emotion wreck because of it
what do you guys make of all of this
sorry for long post i can't fucking think clearly
pic related; screen cap of a vid she "didn't watch"

Why do you care?

1) start talking to new girl
2) secure new girl as future replacement gf
3) dump gf
4) never speak to her again

Catch her doing it, whip it out and stroke it for her, show her how sexy she is when shes rubbing away.

it makes me feel like shit and like I'm not enough and the fact that she tries to keep it so secret makes it more of a big deal, like its clearly a pretty significant thing in her mind if she need to keep it secret

unfortunately i love her haha

Op is getting cucked by a fucking dildo

bro thats the last thing on my mind. makes me feel sick and like my hearts going to explode

Well she doesn't like your cock. It's not big enough for her.

All you can do is get out of the relationship or continue the relationship forever knowing this.

dildo?

if you think that's a huge dick and you've got a normal sized one i've got some bad news for you, little man...

Use her laptop to watch even bigger dick videos and make it obvious so she can tell

Fuck you moron you're a fucking idiot. Its all in your head

but she keeps insisting it is, she loves it, she says she wouldn't trade it for anything, so why would she say that if that was true? , i just don't understand its all a huge mindfuck

If you weren't such a pussy I'd say you should start pimping her out.

Send he my way... I won't mind the porn addiction. I'll foster it into a very unhealthy subservience going beyond sadomasochism and bordering on physical and psychological abuse. You can be happy, she'll be with the one she was meant to be with and you made it possible.

ok buddy, gtfo of here and stop projecting your fantasies. its quite clearly a huge cock. and the average size is 5-6 erect so if I'm 7 on a good day I'm still above average

sauce

shes just a porn addict lol, its nothing personal homie, if u got an issue with it u have to leave her and find a girl who isnt a porn addict.porn addiction is harder than heroin to quit

You are being a huge fucking pussy. The cunt can enjoy porn, like masturbating, be embarrassed about it, and still like fucking you. Get over yourself you little bitch.

are you fucking kidding me, so what if she likes porn of any kind, ask to join in while she's watching or talk about what she likes about it, and if it's just an unattainable or infeasible fantasy then so be it

unless she's engaging in some sort of relationship building activity physical or otherwise or sleeping around or something else outside the established expectations of your relationship, or she refuses to fuck you or spend time with you and instead does this, there is literally nothing wrong with watching porn and masturbating alone even when you have a gf/bf

ok first of all she doesn't like me watching porn, and I'm cool with that, I'm not a huge porn fan anyway, doesn't really do it for me. secondly its not like she's just watching normal porn, its a specific genre she goes for every time.

You've already stated that she's an outright liar. Why would you believe anything she says? She's just using you.

i beg to differ. she can't even cum from sex because her self admitted masturbation habits, i literally fractured my fucking thumb once because she need so much pressure on her clit to feel anything. yes masturbating is healthy but no what she does isn't. also there to fucking way I'm gonna "join in" lmao. fuck my girlfriend while she watches some huge black cock on a screen at gets off to that?? how fucking cucked can you get mate. stupid suggestion.

sure thing little man
she probably doesn’t like you insecurity’s either, it's not an appealing trait

Youre crazy, a chick masturbating all the time is a fucking dream come true, let her do it in front of you, trust me, it'll pay off. Its all in your head too man, as if you dont watch porn showing chicks with bigger tits than her or flatter stomach than her, or bigger/smaller/rounder/perkier/better different WHATEVER than her. If you love her, its all good because its just fantasy dude, and thats cool because everyone does it. Use that sexuality to both your advantage, watch porn together, watch each other watching porn, and then youll be warmed up and turned on enough to fuck the ever living shit out of one another and bring in the love dude.

yeah thats a fair point. I'm extremely good at ready her tho and she definitely mean is

How about you invite some black dude to come fuck you in the ass, and have her watch? I'm sure she'll love you more after that

Also, checked

i had zero insecurities whatsoever for the fist 2 years of our relationship until i found out what she was up to.. so guess again.

You're a tall guy.. go to the local hood community center basketball court and play a bit of ball. Find some big dick friends to bring home. Charge them without her knowledge. Everybody wins--she gets her big black dicks, you make some cash and still get to fuck her if you want, and some footlong motherfuckers get to fuck up one more white girl pussy.

you have them now, she's a liar, move on

honestly? yeah, i did occasionally, and it always played on my mind, it didn't feel right, and i knew how much it would hurt her if she knew, so i stopped. and yes but all fantasy has its base in reality. if she likes watching huge cocks on a screen then she must like them in real life, and i don't have a huge cock, see my point?

Had a chick who loved to masturbate in front of me... in the tub, bed, car, etc... hot as fuck. Wifey is vanilla on her own, but lets me push her to do the things we both like. She won't even fucking touch her clit, though. I will occasionally force her hand down there as I fuck her from behind, just for good measure.

You're an insecure little faggot. She going to leave you for someone with a bigger cock.

you guys really gotta stop projecting...

whats your point? i have no problem with her masturbating....

You never watch porn or jerk off? Do you tell her about it every time?

People need personal space. Your insecurity is fucking pathetic.

I like watching rape fantasy and girls crying from anal pain, preferably forced in porn. But I'm a chill-ass dude who gets off on pleasing my lover and works to educate the youth of tomorrow, treating them all as if they're my daughters and teaching young men to respect women. Porn viewing real life.

maybe its because I'm psychopath (diagnosed) but it seems to me like if you have a fantasy you would act on that fantasy in real life given the opportunity. also surely if that fantasy is not currently being for filled then you're not truly satisfied? no?

You ask for advice, but don't want anyone else to tell you what they would do because it's "projecting". We don't know you other than your self-confessed whiney bitchness in this bread. Because of that, anything we say would either be a) bullshit to troll or b) "projecting". I've got a suggestion in that case, figure it out yourself, genius.

>i literally fractured my fucking thumb once because she need so much pressure on her clit


Are you an 80 year old with osteoporosis?

Nevermind. This has to be a roll thread. I refuse to believe anyone is this physically and emotionally weak.

why do you care? your girlfriend likes porn? no problem there dipshit

/Special Snowflake/

not true, i have had several genuine replies with reasonable suggestions. those who reply with "ha cucked bitch faggot bring a black guy home" or whatever it is you cunts like so say, are clearly deeply unhappy with thier social standing and resort to anonymous boards to "emasculate" themselves by calling others weak fags, because thats how they really feel and they can't come to terms with themselves

you try rub a clit as hard and as fast as you fucking can for 50min straight every day and see how long it take for you to get a stress fracture

You're a fucking psychopath. I, on the other hand, can separate reality from a weird corner of kink fantasy in my brain and go on through life fully satisfied and be a Samaritan. I've been surrounded by nothing but opportunities for over a decade and wouldn't think twice about it. I've actually rescued a few kids and one woman from such a relationship and have worked towards (unsuccessfully, unfortunately) getting a few others out of danger. I'd kill someone who raped my wife or daughter, given the chance--and that thought likely extends to my daughter's friends or any other innocent. Unfortunately, given my job, I cannot seek vengeance and continue to work towards the betterment of others, and so I have to fight through bureaucratic channels to try to do both.

"Masturbate with her" guy seems has it right, I think. You guys could also make a pact, you doing something for her and she stops, or you stop something she doesn't like. Or you use her dildo to sex her. Or you get a prosthetic. Or you fist her as deep as it'll go. The options are only limited by your imagination, and what you're willing to spend money on.

buddy that sounds like one step away from "honey i did the dishes tonight so is it ok if tyrone comes over" none of you seem to get it, you're all so wrapped up in you're tv commercials and iPhones and whatever the fuck else that you can't even see cheating when its right in front of you "oh its just digital so its ok" ..so is it ok if the porn actor your wife is watching on the screen comes over so she can watch in real life? and if she's watching irl then why not join in? how the fuck do you manage to keep a bitch?? we are still primal beings at heart, especially when it comes to sexuality, ya can't just take shit like that lightly. no wonder you all have cuck fantasies.

you've got some serious insecurities and personal issues to work out, and you should probably have a talk with your next girlfriend early on about how utterly not ok you are with her watching porn or masturbating without you because it's cheating

relationships should work based on discussing and exploring, then understanding and respecting, these sorts of boundaries - not this kind of passive aggressive paranoid schizophrenic shit

Also, youre on Sup Forums so we know how much you masturbate

Going to have to go with a vanilla church girl. Not some catholic school slut in disguise, but some 3-positions only bitch with a lace collar on half of her blouses. But what girl like that wants a psychopath. Porn loving sluts are made for psychopaths, but this conflicted motherfucker just doesn't get it.

what kind of insecurities? help me understand..
nah i broke up with her a week ago due to a whole buch of issues (including this but not directly because) didn't bother to mention to keep things simpler for the average Sup Forums user.

Who likes to masturbate? EVERYONE
Who lies about masturbating? EVERYONE

i masturbate plenty. but not to porn other than our own, not to body types different to hers, et fucking cetra

...

ah, but for the tragedy of the modern human in a sexually open society with its roots in deep sexual repression - if only we were all so enlightened as to see what is right in front of us, as OP must clearly be

Jesus dude, aren't you just a knight in shining armor.
If you want to date somebody as pure as you, go find a mormon chick.

she was the innocent vanilla church girl with a dark side and an evil twit and she suited me perfectly and she was quite literally my partner in crime its a shame she's turned out to be a nasty little whore.

thank you I'm glad you understand.

Trips of SATAN

do you not see how a mans only vice is his cock? i can't take any abuse under the sun and it will have no effect unless it comes from the sweet little mouth of a girl and refers to any possible inadequacy

you see, now do you all here understand me?

by the power of satan i end this thread

OP, your girl probably has some depression issues. Porn is like crack for her senses, meanimg she'll at least feel SOMETHING, and if anything, it provides an escape from whatever mental situation she's currently in. It also explains the numbed sex drive. Be a partner and see if you can both go to a doctor, together.

yes she does suffer from depression, can you explain this escape concept? why would she chose such a specific and hurtful (towards me) thing

no.

>I'm a complete emotion wreck because of it
Maybe that's why she lied to you, because she knew you're a fucking pussy and can't handle it.
>Omg my gf is watching porn :((((
Big fucking deal
Stop being so self-centered and talk to your fucking girlfriend you faggot.

i watch loli

my gf doesn't care we just roleplay now

get one of those weird cocksheaths that you stick your dick in the but tip is exposed you still feel everything

it's just porn man, it's not like she's cheating on you. i have degenerate tastes but it's not like i'm going to cheat or think less of her because of it

i seriously watch some fucked up porn, gf sucks me off while I watch it, sometimes vise-versa, sometimes we both watch while fucking

it's just eye candy mang, don't let jealousy ruin it

you're telling me you wouldn't have a problem if your girlfriend was sneaking off n rubbing her cunt to huge cocks behind your back? why? are you into that kind of thing?

firstly loli isn't real, so thats a huge factor. does this sheath not make you feel incredibly inadequate? i could never do that. also if you are lusting after this loli shit then surely this effects your girlfriend negatively weather she knows it or not, since she does not have your undivided sexual attention.

Basically, if she's depressed she probably has a lot of thoughts running through her head that she's not in control of- not sexual thoughts necessarily, more like self confidence issues, thoughts of self harm, or suicidal ideation. It's like recurring thoughts she has no control over. Watching porn is enough of a sensory shock to quiet down the other stuff for a while.

While watching porn might hurt you, I doubt she has something personal against you. She knows how you feel and it probably kills her inside. But to her, it's medicine that makes her situation better. Addiction is addiction; she's just coping.

Sauce plz

No, why would I fucking care? If she wants to go rub her cunt to whatever she wants to she can. She's her own person.
It would be slightly annoying if she hid it from me, but I'm not going to lose my shit over something so fucking minor.
You're 100% in the wrong here, you basically stalked her internet usage instead of talking to her about it like a normal human being.
You're a self-centered faggot, you only care about how this affects you, and not her. Did you ever think she didn't tell you, not because she's trying to deceive you, but because she's afraid of telling you? You obviously don't love her, you're in love with the idea of her loving you. And since she is watching porn the "idea" of her loving you has been violated which is why you're throwing a bitch fit.
Obviously, you don't know how to handle a relationship. You should probably break up with her because you're going to drive her away with your faggotry behavior.

Maybe instead of being a little bitch and freaking out, talk to her about it. But, you probably won't because you're a pussy who's afraid of everything. Judging by your actions so far.

i appreciate your intelligent reply.
i still don't understand why it has to be that, why the huge cocks, and why did she insist mine was perfect? was she lying?
she has told me before that her very fist sexual fantasy was when she read a nat geo magazine and saw a group of naked black tribesmen. she has said she fantasised about them visiting her in a mud hut and using her for their pleasure. this was at a young age (7-9) what role does this play in all of this?

i don't use one man big dicks isn't our thing, just an idea to look into

dildo her while fucking her in the ass idk man

they're just toys, i bought like a loli onahole thing and she's excited for it to arrive so she can use it on me

for the record she does have my undivided attention, it's not an every-time thing. just a fantasy she shares with me. yeah she wishes she was younger sometimes but who cares, she's here infront of me right now and about to get a dicking.

sometimes she goes overboard with the dirty talk, she said something like "treat me like i'm your little loli-onahole" and i almost broke out laughing. good times.

you'll be fine dude, as long as she's loyal

what porn do you watch? or used to?

by that same logic, if she wants to put whatever cock in her cunt she can. but this is not acceptable.
i have spoken to her many a time but she does not engage in discussion, i am usually met by denial and a huge tantrum from her. no, and if that were the case then it still would not be ok, you do not do things against your lovers will and to do it behind their back is a huge breach of respect and trust. i would do/give up anything for her if she wanted me to. i love her a great deal and she is my soulmate, your speculation is not appreciated.

I don't know why but I couldn't stop laughing while reading this.

I hope this is some kind of joke, but if not sorry for laughing at you dude.

My advice is to let it go. The only one who cares is you. You're stressing yourself out by worrying about nothing...

If I was in your shoes, I'd just watch porn with her.

this is subtle b8

She can still love you. Is lying to you better than hurting you? In her mind yes, but she doesn't know that you know. Can she love your dick and watch black dick porn? Sure can. It might be hard to believe, but trust me.

Does your girlfriend have any history of abuse as a kid?

/thread

surely when one has everything on offer (the internet) one picks out that which is most desirable? (huge cock) meaning i am not what she finds most desirable... correct?
i have asked that before and she says nothing happened to her, she is the product of a single parent but then who isn't in this degenerate society

she is embarrassed by it and you bringing it up and harassing her about it doesn't make her feel any better about it. Everyone watches porn and masturbates whether they are in a relationship or not it is natural and you need to let her explore herself. Maybe you are not satisfying her enough make sure she gets off when you guys have sex and like I said everyone does it just let her do her thing you are going to ruin the relationship by getting mad about it

So would she also use the Internet to just look at pictures of you all day long? She can watch stuff to masturbate, but have zero desire to act on it in real life. Maybe not though. Again, I'd say seek professional help. Mainly because of the gang rape thing you said earlier. A 7 year old girl isn't really at puberty age and shouldn't be thinking about sex. It could be that she had been exposed to it somewhere else. It's a learned behavior at that age. I'm out of the thread for now, good luck to you.

>by that same logic, if she wants to put whatever cock in her cunt she can.
What a fucking leap that is.
There's a huge difference in masturbating and having sex with someone else. She isn't cheating on you, she isn't seeing someone else, she isn't having sex with someone else. She is masturbating. You're way too fucking insecure. Just let her enjoy her porn, she isn't doing anything wrong. As I said before, you're being way too self-centered and only thinking about yourself.
Try thinking outside of your tiny perspective for two seconds and think about how she feels about the situation. You're not taking her feelings into account, only yours. You're being a huge self-centered faggot.
She's not masturbating to fuck with you, she's doing it because she enjoys it.
as said, offer to watch it with her. But good luck bringing up that you know she watches it. Because you're being a total fucking beta creeper and stalking her internet usage.
Just because you don't like my advice doesn't mean it's wrong. If you can't handle the truth then maybe you need to rethink your relationship with this girl. If something so minor as her watching porn "behind your back" bothers you so much. Then fucking leave her.
How do you think she'd feel if she found out you're talking about her habits with strangers on the internet? Probably wouldn't be too thrilled about that, eh?
As much as it will make me sound like broken record you're being a HUGE. FUCKING. SELF-CENTERED. FAGGOT.

do you not see what a fine line it is?
im not saying she's cheating on me (although she did actually cheat on me aswell, ironically with a guy who has a smaller cock than me.)
i feel quite the opposite, she's not taking my feeling into consideration, only hers, if its not big deal then why can't she give it up for me? she physically can't.
and the point everyone keeps over looking is the type of porn. hey if it was normal shit with guys of similar composition to myself i would be a lot less concerned.
this is an anonymous message board, thats completely irrelevant.
I'm sorry you are getting so angry over this hahaha.

Whatever you say user.
Enjoy your fucked up relationship that will inevitably end poorly.
Don't ask for advice if you're not going to take anything seriously.

I wouldn't get too worried. I doubt she has an addiction to porn. If you both like to watch a little porn then there's no problem with that. I'd let it be for a while. Maybe one day down the road she'll open up about it more.

it already has ended you would know if you paid attention, i was looking for thoughts in retrospect.
i have taken seriously all who replied seriously.

That's not a mind fuck.
PKD is a mindfuck.
Get a grip.

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