I'm slowly starting to introduce my wife to my kinky side. Our first kid is coming soon and, yeah, I have a bit of "last minute panic" about exploring them before my life changes completely. (we're both in our late 20s)
We had lots of good talks and even tried a big one on my bucket list (pegging, although not with a strapon yet but a dildo that she moved - still probably the best sex I ever had)
> Today:
One issue in all of this that came out was that her sex drive is... lacking, to say the least. Even she is annoyed that, (quote) she had to basically prepare the whole day to get herself to be horny when she felt it had been too long since our last time.
She has done 2 years without even so much as masturbation, because she didnt feel like it.
I have the exact opposite problem - I get horny by just looking at a pretty face. Heck, I would probably jump her every 20 minutes if she just gave me a kiss or something.
So there is a big disparity in sex drive that we kind of have to work around, especially when I want to explore more of the kinks with her, which she is absolutely OK with.
> The Gist
How can I work together with her to increase her sex drive (which she WANTS to do, because she LIKES sex but it's like her body just... doesn't produce enough horny-hormones or some shit like that).
She had the idea that she will try to use more of her free time to simply masturbate more when I'm not around (so she doesn't feel forced), hoping it will make it easier to get started.
In the vein hope someone here might have some ideas...
Also: Kink Thread.
Jason Clark
Why would you marry a girl who has a terrible sex drive? Did you not stop to think about how that might be shitty?
Eli Phillips
It has not been like this in the beginning.
People change when they grow older.
Lincoln Flores
This. I had a relationship like this and I just knew I wouldn't last five years married before cheating. I broke up and we are both happier now.
Henry Collins
Well call me old fashioned but I think people can work through it if both parties are willing.
Hunter Gray
give her some molly
Eli Allen
She's lying to you to make you feel good. She's a prude.
Isaiah Morales
Sure, get a sex therapist. $400 bucks a session. Have a nice life, pal
Jace Taylor
I'll fuck bout anything on molly. Cheated on my last bf on it and I loved him.
Parker Lopez
Might be, sure. But I'd rather choose to believe her, because so far there has been no indication that she is not honest.
Chase Hill
Well yeah but I have the entire wisdom of Sup Forums, what could go wrong?
Isaac Price
Huh... I'll remember it,... as a last resort I guess
Luis Perez
I recently started texting my wife pics of girls sucking or taking huge cocks. At first she was a little WTF but that was just feigned. It actually made her horny beyond belief.
Jaxon Howard
They were big black dicks too which really threw her for a loop. She gets dripping wet though.
Isaiah Hernandez
I think you're hosed man. You can't wave a magic wand and make a sexual creature out of a non-sexual one. It may change in time as most women don't really hit their peak until their 30's anyway.
Doubly hosed for the sprog on the way, getting out of this isn't going to be near as easy now, which is gonna be the only way you're gonna scratch "that" itch right now.
If you really see a future with her, then be patient, and work with her. A good analogy is "you many not be interested now, but once I've got you crawling up the walls whimpering for daddy, you'll be into it".
Good luck mate.
Caleb Cook
>if both parties are willing. Wait until the baby comes. Whoo boy is she going to change
Dylan Reyes
>she preggo >you male give her a break. srsly. fap once a week. fuck once a month.
Julian Baker
Well thats more or less the effect were going for of her masturbating more - more exposure to sex -> more sex drive. its addicting, basically.
maybe ill throw in the idea of me just showing her the porn i watch. you know, force the kink out of her
Charles Butler
Reverse question: Is there a way to reduce her sex drive when she is on vacation so she won't cheat?
Ian Green
It does build on itself. My wife is slowly turning into a little slut. The shit that comes out of her mouth now is amazing. Of course it's all to my benefit at the moment, but it does make me wonder how far she'd go...
Angel Peterson
I know it's a fucked up situation. But I'm not willing to throw it all away just cause I dont get off enough. Our relationship is too good to let sex ruin it.
> If you really see a future with her, then be patient, and work with her. A good analogy is "you many not be interested now, but once I've got you crawling up the walls whimpering for daddy, you'll be into it".
Basically, what I'm aiming for. I'm looking for ideas to help her, because she says herself she wants more, but doesn't know how to.
Chase Mitchell
I don't understand what you're aiming for... Why reduce it more?
Parker Rogers
More like fap twice a day, fuck once a month right now.
I know she's having more important things to worry about, which is why I'm ignoring idiots like this
But I can still try, right?
Juan Jackson
I guess you gotta do some research then (b)ro. Find out what does it for her and expand on it.
Tyler Williams
my gf is out of town. she had a bazillion bf's b4 me. What ways are there to lower the chances that she'll cheat on me?
Lucas Perez
Hahahaha, Good job breeder comrade. It's just a matter of time before your locked into your skin just waiting to die. Everything you enjoy will fade, you won't recognize society, the woman you committed to will no longer care of your needs. All day will be spent grinding to produce a new human that will grow up to make the same mistakes that you did. You will receive no thanks, no praise, the best you can hope for is a begrudging lazy blow job on your birthday.
Ethan Turner
gotta be trust somewhere. if you can't trust her, you shouldn't be with her, OTOH you could use the same thinking for strange when you're outta town.
Elijah Fisher
Well yeah, that's what I'm trying. I'm just showing here all that I know and see what sparks interest.
Michael Cox
Wow, you must be fun at parties.
Evan Johnson
The chances are already at 0. I doubt many things in life, but that is not one of them.
Carson Harris
I dunno, showing her all your kink's in one go might freak her out. Go slowly before you show her the big stick ;)
Connor Richardson
>implying all of civilization wasn't founded on the birthday blowjob
Landon Fisher
Yeah no, of course. We just started and she agreed that everytime we do have sex, we'll first talk about what (and if) to try something special.
Not sure about the whole sending pictures thing yet tho... maybe^^
Liam Miller
That's subjective. Not sure about the pics, chicks seem to be more emotionally stimulated than visually., perhaps, romantic\funny pics of yourself?
Christian Rivera
Still a good idea to start brainstorming from! :)
Carter Ortiz
I dunno, sending my wife a ton of pictures of huge guys getting blown seems like I'm pointing her curiosity elsewhere as well.
I'd do my best to find out what flips her switch and capitalise on it. That should help with her mood.
Nathaniel Butler
Well maybe but it's worth a try. At least from my experience, I'm not in any way in danger of cheating just because I watch a shit load of porn... At least I'd like to think so.
I'll ask her how she gets in the mood and see what we can work with that.
Luis Bennett
sounds like a plan man. good luck.
Grayson Morgan
Appreciate it. It's shocking how easy people throw away relationships at the slightest glimpes of trouble in here (looking at the first few posts)
Jose Rivera
this is /b as well man, most of the people here are like Beavis and Butthead anyways.
Daniel Lewis
Yeh, I was expecting it anyhow. But in the end, some good people stay and are really helpful. Just gotta go through the trash first.
Bentley Wood
Once the kid drops, she will develop a kinky side with the help of her friends.
Eli Reed
What friends? :P She's very isolated. I'm the only real contact she has (and my friends but she mostly just tags along).
Henry Diaz
once the kid drops you'll be too busy for sex either :P Again, good luck
Elijah Hall
Exactly my thinking. And me probably as well, at least for some time.
I'm actually building quite a bit on the sleep deprivation / hormone rush to bring me down from my kinkiness a bit
Evan Parker
She'll find wonderful new 'friends' with which to kinky-fuck around while being not-in-the-mood for you. Get it!?
Aaron Brown
I'm sorry for your bad experiences, but your life doesn't happen to everybody.