Lost my virginity with my first girlfriend last week when I was 19...

Lost my virginity with my first girlfriend last week when I was 19, barely even got any mental pleasure from fucking her. I think I might be asexual, i'm pretty sure im not gay since gay couples sicken me ( no offense to any homos, I can't control it). How tf is this relationship shit supposed to work, I've been delaying sex with her again so idk what to do, thoughts?

kys

dude you should had known that you were asexual a long time before...for example, when you fap
fag

What do you jack off to? Just fuck whatever you're attracted to

Same, user. I was disgusted the first time I tried fucking a girl so I thought I was gay but then got equally disgusted when I tried it with a guy.

Same boat. Date a virgin, OP; they're too scared to do it to ever pressure you into doing it. Also, you can discourage them by making it sound boring and gross. Immature girls are especially susceptible to this.

Idk man, I have masturbated to porn but it doesn't always turn me on, sometimes it turns me off even. I've never even heard about asexuality until very recently.

Reeeeeeeeeeeee

You are not alone, user. Not everyone is in a rush to lose their virginity, and being pressured to do so can make it worse.
Give it time, don't force yourself to shit. And if she doesn't agree, find another girlfriend.

pretty sure being asexual is someone that doesnt give a fuck about sex and doesnt get turn on by anyhting
so, no you arent asexual if you faped before and enjoyed it

There isn't a bone in my body that isn't sexually attracted to you
I have given you plenty of time and space

Not OP but sex is gross whhen you think about it. Just slimy organs slapping against each other until one of them ejects goop. Plus sex is a lot of pressure to someone like me with anxiety. You're always wondering if you're doing good, if she's faking it, or if you're big enough. I like jerking off more

Anonymous 05/07/17(Sun)02:01:07 No.731740941
LOL queer

I do not enjoy sex, I do however enjoy oral sex. to each is their own user
can confirm, my current gf is such a fuckin sweet heart man. 6 months in and neither of us are bothered about sex.

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Straight porn usuallly, doesn't always turn me on though. Gay porn makes me cringe.
Yeah that's sort of like how I felt, didn't really turn me on at all , but I was still able to keep an erection no clue wtf is wrong with me.
Virgins will eventually want to lose it, and I'm a first year at uni who's 19 so every girl around me is very sexually active and virigns are nonexistent here.

Thing that's weird is that I actually liked her as a person, talking and hanging out even kissing her, but when she started rubbing my dick it felt like shit, probably like how a guy rubbing a straight guys dick would feel.

Dude...you have some problems

Sucks to be you. I love sex.

Whats the point of dating then?

this

That's true I was in a major rush to lose my virginity, what's weird is that I want to be married with kids someday, I remember watching some porno vid where this guy was fingering a girl only to get some white sticky fluid out, I had to turn it off after I started feeling sick.
Exactly I think of sex as very "gross", especially oral wise. I don't have anxeity or depression or anything and I wasn't worried about how I performed she said I was pretty good after and I'm fairly well endowed anyway, I just didn't feel any buzz like how I hear my mates talking about it.

You're a ducking genetic loser. Go get some testosterone shots, and maybe if you don't bust a nut in the first 30 seconds you'll get to enjoy it more. Lord knows your bitch definitely didn't enjoy it.

Dude, everything about living is just "slimy organs slapping against each other." Welcome to meatspace.

If you can't learn to enjoy all of the sensations and feelings of living, you've got some problems. Try drinking until you lose some of those inhibitions... it's likely that you're over analyzing everything.

Intimate companionship, you dorks. Imagine how much closer you are to your gf than your normal female friends. Now imagine not having to fuck her.

That sounds terrible. Why would I want to do all the hard work of maintaining an intimate relationship if I wasn't able to actually be, you know, intimate with the girl? If I want to talk about the meaning of life, I can meet my mates at the pub any night of the week.

its hard to imagine if you don't feel the same way.

This is what happens when faggots spend all of their time fantasizing about cartoon waifu's and forego making the interest on their college loan payments in lieu of some Japanese sex machine

>Be OP

anxiety is a major sex killer, you might not be asexual, it's just that doing it with someone can be so intimidating and stressful that you can't wirhdraw pleasure from it (and sometimes you can't even do it)... For someone, it can takes several relationship before finding the right girl that allow you to "blossom' in your sexual life, but when it happens, it's really great, so don't already put an asexual label on you

> Be OP & "girlfriend"

>no offense to any homos
You are a faggot

Ideally I'd like to date someone who doesn't really want sex, the idea of a relationship intrigues me but sex is like a complete turn off.
Well aware of that, thanks for letting me know
Sure does
I'm pretty sure I'm not lacking in testosterone, I'm fairly built with 8.5% bf and go to the gym 3 times a day, no anxiety or issues and I have the deepest voice out of all my friends. Besides tesosterone wouldn't be an issue anyway since my spikes would make me attracted to women sexually.
True, but sex honestly grosses me out. How do you go down on a girl when she's spewing out fluid without feeling even slightly nauseous? I was fairly drunk when it happened anyway tbf. I get what you mean by overanalysis though might have done that a bit.

> no offense to homos

Pic related, the catalyst for OP's thread.

>Go to the gym 3 times a day

The fuck dude

Do you masturbate? If not you're probably asexual.
Does the prospect of sex even turn you on? If not you're definitely asexual.

In case you are asexual, there's nothing wrong with it, Sup Forumsro. Be happy you're not biologically forced to seek sex.
Try your best to ignore the cultural ramifications of sex, and just think of it as a hobby you're not interested in.
You don't need to fuck someone to have a loving relationship.

You feel how you feel user, at least you'll be able to reproduce

I would do the maintaining part of the relationship a hundred times rather than to do the intimate part.
I've actually never even seen anime, only recently learned the word waifu
aww cute is that yours?
Very true, I wasn't anxious during it anyway literally all my thoughts were suppressed and I was just thinking about how shit this feels. I could pull up the hottest girl in porn and still wouldn't want to fuck her it's that bad.
My gf's dick is way bigger wtf
I wish I was tbf they seem to be so much happier with their life and get sex basically whenever they want it since both guys are so forward.

3 times a week*
Yeah I masturbate/have masturbated a bit in the past. Not really, sex just seems weird to me . Literally every girl here is after sex and 99% of normal women will want sex in a relationship. If I can't give that to them I'm pretty much boned anyway, I've never met anyone like myself.
Well having sex feels like absolute shit to me and it's gonna be pretty hard to find a girl that wants the same thing I do.

I got you coverd

I'm a gril (teehee silly boys) and I have the same problem. The thing is I have a normal sex drive, but when it comes down to actually doing the deed, I pussy out because I feel anxious and disgusted.
I still haven't lost my virginity to my boyfriend of two years, so it's a good thing he's catholic and wants to wait until marriage, but I think this might be some sort of psychological disorder. I literally feel physically ill when he touches my boobs

Post tits with time stamp you fucking nigger

Do you not like sex, or do you not like what sex entails, socially?
Like do you not want to fuck because you're scared of underperforming or whatever, or do you not want to fuck, period?

>feel physically ill
Yeah that's how I felt when my girlfriend grabbed my dick it just felt so weird it was unreal.
thanks man I think you just cured my asexuality /thread

Talk to a therapist, unironically

Did you ever experience some kind of trauma as a kid or were your parents super religious?

I don't know if I like sex or not, I just know that it feels weird doing anything sexual with my girlfriend. When she was blowing me that was the only time I felt good during the entire thing. The actual sex part felt weird and I was getting physical pleasure but nothing mentally. Most guys talk about nutting in the first minute when you're a virgin but I lasted about 10 minutes and she was sore at the end. I didn't really care about underperforming, I'm more grossed out by sex though the thought of all the fluids are stuff weirds me out.

Just suck it up and learn how to eat pussy and fingerbang like a champ. I hate to say it, but if you can't satisfy your woman she'll likely seek it elsewhere.

Never experienced any trauma as a child but what's weird is that I barely remember anything before 10 years old I just have a couple of memories. My parents divorced when I was about 12 but apart from that pretty healthy and happy upbringing I was never abused or anything.

First time for me felt the same way you described. Everytime after that feels kinda the same way i dont get excited until i actually start the process. Feels bad man.

Samefag here again.

I offer this advice because I've been in the same position as you have. My sex drive isn't really heavy, and it never matches up with the girls sex drive. However, I've gotten really fucking good at pleasing girls with my fingers and tongue. My problem isn't so much that I'm asexual, it's just that I'm only interested in anal and that's all my dick gets hard for. Sometimes head too, but always anal and never vaginal.

I ask because it sounds like both you and have Sexual Aversion Disorder.

"Sexual aversion disorder represents a much stronger dislike of and active avoidance of sexual activity than the normal ups and downs in desire described above. Sexual aversion disorder is characterized not only by a lack of desire, but also by fear, revulsion, disgust, or similar emotions when the person with the disorder engages in genital contact with a partner. The aversion may take a number of different forms; it may be related to specific aspects of sexual intercourse, such as the sight of the partner's genitals or the smell of his or her body secretions, but it may include kissing, hugging, and petting as well as intercourse itself. In some cases the person with sexual aversion disorder avoids any form of sexual contact; others, however, are not upset by kissing and caressing, and are able to proceed normally until genital contact occurs."

It's often caused by trauma or rape which makes you associate sex with negative emotions, or religious parents/environment who make you associate sex with shame and sin

Yeah this pretty much describes me really well, the vaginal fluid sickens me, but I don't mind hugging/kissing/touching etc. It's weird because I was never abused or brought up in a religious household. That really helped though I'm gonna do some research on this.

>find vaginas disgusting
>find male bodies disgusting

I find black girls to be disgusting.

To be fair, vaginas dont look great

The minority of them do, the rest look like car accident victims