Anyone have any experience being in a relationship with someone that has BPD? Any advice, suggestions?

Anyone have any experience being in a relationship with someone that has BPD? Any advice, suggestions?

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Yes, the bitch was mental. Tell her to take her meds or GTFO. Better still dump whoever it is and find someone less fucked in the head. Trust me it aint worth it bro.

Do you know what meds they where?

Married for 17 year to a woman with BDP
All I can say is get her out of your life.
Run away.
You can't fix her
She will hurt you
She will hurt your family
She is poison.
Run Away

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We talking bipolar type 1 or 2?

I want to fix her so bad. i love her. She refuses to take medication, or even acknowledge she has an issue. im to the point where im thinking of figuring out what meds she needs and secretly dosing her. im suffering user...

Nigger does she have bipolar type 1 or 2

I dont know, im note a psychologist, but im sure she has bpd based on the research ive done and the way she acts. She matches ever symptom ive read about.

aint no fixing that. Dated BPD in high school. was seriously fucked up. Wish I could go back in time and slap past me for hanging around so long

It was a nightmare. SHe was the best sex I ever had but was a total psycho. After two weeks I told her I needed some space and she started stalking me, coming to my apartment at 3am and ringing the doorbell for hours until I disconnected it. She'd come 4-5 times a week. She left long messages daily, and sent over 1000 texts in 1 week.

I had to block her number then she started texting me from another phone. She eventually told me she was going to call the police because she knows my roommates was a weed dealer. I had to have him move out all his weed and shit to protect him. She was an awful vile person.

Never date someone with BPD.

When she's up, is she super happy or moderately happy?

I was married to someone with it.

While I still live her and always will, my advice is: run.

BPD is fucking shit to deal with. Just cut your losses. Even if she medicates, she's still going to be insane.

I would marry my girl again if i could but that's because the heart is an idiot. Just run and find a new girl

If she's always fucking hyper, it's BPD1, If she's hyper sometimes and depressed others its 2

Advice:
If you're 16-30: run
if you're 30+ and only just met her: run
if you're thirty+ and been with her for

Goddamn phone: *love

Its just a crazy fucking trap. When she's happy it's the best relationship ever. Then it all turns to shit and its well past fucked up. Had her show up at my friends place cause she heard there was another girl there, and proceeds to go totally psycho. pulled a knife on herself, then started swinging it at ppl near her. Had to call cops on that one. Seriously was not worth. 0/10 just bail

It shifts. Never overly happy. Mostly blah. Mood swings every 15 minutes to every 2 hours. Sometimes very happy, and lovey. Sometimes hates everything in the world.

sounds hot.

I'll give you the same advice given to me(which I SHOULD have taken):

DON'T FUCKING DO IT.

Is she on any medication

Currently with a bird with BPD. She has been pretty sane so far, takes pills, does dishes.

BPD - Borderline Personality Disorder.

Has nothing to do with bi-polar.

I've dated 2...they are a crazy fun in the sack to begin with then everything fucking disintegrates.

Read up on "splitting" nothing like being an angel one minute and then Satan the next to really fuck you up.

In the immortal words of Iron Maiden "Run to the hills, run for your life!"

I always mix them up @-@ shit, but generally bipolar 1 goes hand and hand with bpd

run away.

now

fast

She may be wonderful, funny, spontaneous. she may dare you to do things you would never have dared before. she may make you experirnce life in a way that is exhillerating and wild.

she is a messed up nightmare.

great sex, yeah, but soon the flying objects, stalking, character assasination, nightmares, clinginess, violence, lies, unfaithfulness and simple fucked uppedness kicks in.

you love her, you are trapped. you want to help her, you feel bad about wanting to run.

don't.

run away
now
fast.

Look up bipolar type 2, compare symptons

It can be co-morbid... But then a lot of disorders can. DID is occasionally co-morbid too.

I dated a girl who was DID, that was even more fucked up. Imagine having a girl who is an absolutely debased slutty whore who will do absolutely anything then a few hours later she is a repressed soccer mom who thinks vanilla porn is gross... "bitch we did a2m an hour ago and now bare tits are gross?"

Run motherfucker run... Doesn't matter how hot she is or how good she fucks... She will fuck your life up.

BPD user here
Take meds as prescribed is the only option. I put signs on the wall when I first started. "Take your meds" was within view until it became a habit.

If she meds, great. If she doesn't, run

>this

She was. Then i made the mistake of bringing up the fact that she should take them regularly to keep balanced. That turned into "I DONT NEED THEM! IM NOT CRAZY!!!". Shes leveled when she smokes weed tbh

If she won't take meds, leave, that's all I can say :/ sorry OP. How long u been together?

Im seriously thinking of finding out what meds she needs and secretly giving them to her

How would you get a prescription..

A year. We've been through a lot together. She helped me get full custody of my 2 year old. I helped her through the death of both her parents, they died horribly in an apartment fire new years day. Her brother just died 2 days ago. I feel like i cant abandon her at such a fragile point in her life.

I dont know, im sure i could get it somewhere online. Or maybe fake the symptoms myself to my doctor and get it that way. Im desperate to help her. I cant live like this anymore. The mood swings are slowly withering me away. I run a furniture business, and my job is suffering as well.

Does she have any other close friends or family? Could try like an intervention of sorts.

I was actually thinking this. The problem is that im afraid of her going nuclear and who knows. Also, her family arnt the most "productive members to society" so i dont even think they would care. Ive also been thinking about couples therapy.

Link to the fire story. Her dad was burned alive. Her mom leaped to her death.
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Fun thing about bpd is they think they don't need the medication. Honestly worst comes to worst, do a heart to heart talk. Say like "Even if you don't think you need it, please take it for me. The disorder makes you think you are fine." Something like that. My gf's grandma has same thing but 100x worse and she takes meds only because it makes her family happy, she still thinks she doesn't need them.

She might also just be upset about family stuff and you just have no patience

Oh i have patience. Shes been like this since before any of that happened.

Yes, I have been. Three times.
My advice is: run.

if weed works, it works.
see if your country doesn't have medical use, and if it doesn't keep a stash ready for when she's having issues

Type 1 run, type 2 medicate and see how you feel about them

Its legal in my state, but cant buy it legally. Makes no sense, i know. But your right, i need to start keeping a good amount, and handing it out to her on an as needed bases.

Remember BDP people are 10 time more likely to attempt suicide.
In most cases it it a cry for help and attention.
..but the lucky ones will succeed.

I was always worried that I would have to ID he body one day.

Our kids are both grown and have a very tough relationship with their mother as she is a crazy bitch most days.

I have a restraining order keeping me safe. After she assaulted me and had the cops come to her workplace to arrest her she now leaves me alone.

You can't fix this.

Sorry but that the truth.

Anyone know what medications are usually given to someone with the disorder?

Various mood altering drugs work sometimes on some people.
For the most part therapy and behavior modification is what works.

Like most mental illness - people take the drugs, feel different (not better) and think they are cured - they then srop taking the meds and go batshit again.

BPD is borderline you fucking cuck.

Le me google that for you...
bpddemystified.com/treatments/medication/

I dated a woman like this for a couple of years. I am in agreement with you 100 percent!

Don't mean to offend you here but YOU CANNOT FIX HER YOU FUCKING NIGGER CUNT. Trust me. You're gonna think you can. It'll be good for a bit. Bad for a while. Then good again. At this point you think you've finally done it. You cured her! No. No. A little while longer and you wake up to her crying and cutting herself. You give her the "scars are beautiful" line and she says you're lying. Now you have a knife slashing at you until she eventually cries it off and falls asleep. She wakes up and she hates herself for doing that. She cries begging you to forgive her. You do. She cheats. You cry. She doesn't. Now she does. You take her back. Now she says you're cheating with the bimbo working at your job. She leaves you. Wait, she didn't. But she did. You're officially broken up. But no, you can't date anyone. She messages them on Facebook until they break up with you. "See you're cheating on me." Etc etc etc etc. It goes until one commits suicide or goes to jail.

I tell people about the crazy shit my ex-wife did and they don't believe me. I should write a book.

Oh yeah and give it a little more time and you won't be going in public with her, ever.

Listen to this guy.
Seriously. Listen to him.

Every other answer is wrong. If you truly are seeking advice and want to act upon it, then there you have it.

The shrink put my ex-wife on Wellbutrin (an antidepressant) for a while.

At first she took the meds and it seemed to help

Later she stopped taking them but would tell me she was. She would make a big show of taking the pill in the morning but would hide it under her tongue and spit it out. I would find the pills all over the house. It was a game for her.

When I spoke to her doctor about this she said that the pills really would not do anything - it was a test to see if she really wanted to alter her behavior.

ProTip: THEY DON'T WANT YOUR HELP

I was in the same boat 6 months ago. She developed cannabis use disorder (it's like that half baked person you knew in high school, sorta) along side BPD and she was a total shit storm, I left after I found out she was fucking other guys on the side. Three months later I hear she dropped out of her final semester of a bachelor's degree and ran off with her long distance bf after she got reported for plagarism.
If I ever date anyone who says they have BPD, I will calmly make sure it wasn't a shitty joke, and leave as soon as possible.

I feel like I'm reading a thread of my own thoughts about my ex. Like shit

My ex did that, but she smoked so fucking much it became it's own problem. No fucking magic cure for these fucked up people other than a straight jacket

Which is why i will be buying the weed, and dispense it in small amounts daily.

If she has dependency forming habits, keep that locked down like the DEA. But good luck user, you have more will than I.

Thanks. Trust me, It will be on my person at ALL times.

Dated and almost married one. Please do some actual research and reading on abusive relationships; try Beverly Engels books.

Things will get worse. It hurts now but leaving her is your only choice. She won't change because she doesn't want to and doesn't see any problem with her behaviour.

The way she sees it all problems in the relationship are your fault. It is only a matter of time before she gets a crush or whatever on someone else, devalues you in her own head and then cheats and lies because she's idolized the new person.

I'm sorry for your heartbreak, please read more and make the most responsible decision for yourself user. It will get worse. You deserve better than a life of hurt, betrayal and insanity. Please heed the words of those of us who have lived it to its conclusion.

Those who believe they do nothing wrong have no incentive to change their behaviour.

>Those who believe they do nothing wrong have no incentive to change their behavior.

This is very true.

They are expert liars. They believe the lies they tell and will often react violently when called out.

My ex-wife lied her face off during our divorce. To her own attorney. To a judge. To the mediator.

She could not understand why they did not give anything she said any credibility and accused me of bribing the judge.

Drop that crazy bitch like a hot potato bruh

He is having the best sex of his life
He will say later it was the best sex he ever had.
>but it's not worth it.

According to your research and the books, how likely is the "crush" scenario? Am i truly doomed?

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I've had a lot of great sex in my life. It isn't about the sex, I truly love her.

not my personal experience but a friend of mine married a woman with BPD, she was taking her medication until she became pregnant, she didn't really change much but he told me their fights had become worse which seems typical of all my friends and their pregnant wives/gfs, and once the child popped out she refused to go back on meds saying marijuana was all she needed. Well two years later she flipped her lid and called the cops claiming he molested his own child, after a few court hearings she was basically forced to go back on meds and eventually she told the truth that he didn't harm his son, he is trying to make it work even still to this day but I don't know why

Don't even stop for the sex (which will be spectacular). Run like fuck. Right now. Don't look back user. God speed.

Then you are doomed.

Enjoy the ride.
Enjoy the pain.
I hope you enjoy never knowing which of the women you love walks into the room.
Don't look back later in life and think about the years you wasted on her.

Doomed I say.

If you ask for advice and ignore it you are stupid.

For some reason..... mostly due to broken families or molestation.... tons of young women claim to have bpd. My suggestion is that if she appears to be unhinged often and is completely irrational and hides her moods and expects you to mind read.... then walk. Bang her one more time and walk away.

If she is manageable and communicates and does what she has to do to take care of it then you'll be fine. It's when she lashes out where problems happen.

But don't be one of those guys that tries to fix girls. Same thing for women who try to fix guys. Rub one out and then think about her. It should help