1. Is it worth it ? 2. How did you know that you wanted to marry your wife? 3. How did you know that it was the right time to propose ? 4. And overall : are you happy ?
I'm thinking about proposing to my gf. There are a few reasons for me. The first reason is that I haven't been as happy with any of my previous gfs as I am with her now. Second ; she is a (more or less) rational person - she tends to choose logic over emotions concering important matters. Third ; I've done my part of being unfaithful and am now sure that I can't do something like that to her. She is a kind, loving and smart person, going to law school with parents that really like me and vice versa. When I think about this topic I remember my grandparents who knew each other for 1 week, got married and were together for 52 years. They told me it was due to the fact that divorce wasn't an option which means that they had to work out there problems instead of getting a divorce. I think that is what kept a lot of old marriages intact. Well, my parents are divorced and that's the way I grew up. I just don't want to worry about loosing her because I can really imagine growing old with her. We've already lived together for about a year. She is turning 21, I'm 22.
tl;dr is marriage worth it for young people?
Sebastian Bailey
Make sure she likes the same things you do....even the perverted shit like watching cuck porn. Before we got married I made sure she was ok with porn. Now she watches it and has to masturbate to it within the first five minutes.
Kayden Brown
Having lived together for more than a year and feeling good when thinking about more of this for 60 more years (including when she isn't young and sexy anymore) is a good sign.
I was unsure for a long time (6y) but once I realized this, I proposed. Only got better after the wedding, 3 years married now.
Gavin Hall
22 and wants marriage, yeah 32 divorced
Daniel Lopez
As long as you think you can keep having fun and enjoying life with her then do it. Marriage is very worth it because if you really meant what you said it can be the happiest thing that has ever happened to you especially if you raise kids. Make sure you clear up anything you keep secret that could cause fights and distrust (it's a lot worse if she finds out on her own).
Adam Barnes
Thanks, that's good to hear. Are you happy in general as well as with her?
WHy are you divorced? What happened?
Yeah, well thats the thing. There are some things that are to horrendous to tell her, but I'm (rather) sure that she wont find out. Are you happy?
Landon Cruz
Bump
Isaiah Ramirez
Bumperino
Luis Allen
Your wife will divorce you because you are gay
Brandon Wilson
I'm not technically married to her yet, but for all intents and purposes I am.
>found her on okcupid last april >been together since >both of us are having the time of our lives >in early october we found out that she is pregnant >i'm 26, she is 22, both attending university >after a few days of discussion and with the overwhelming support and enthusiasm of both of our families, we decide to keep the baby >engagement and moving together follows in november >had the baby just this monday, it's a stunningly beautiful boy >i'm happy as fuck
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Jason Roberts
cont.
So, that's my situation, OP. We'll be married next summer, and every sign points to a long, stable, happy relationship between us.
I had my mostly bad experiences in the past which helped develop my standards: I had a soul-crushing 1,5-year abomination of a relationship 7 years ago, in which I lost my virginity; then came ~4 years of loneliness sometimes peppered with one night stands; then I became a lover for 3 months (which is a ridiculous story); and I finally found her.
I type slow as fuck, so cont. in next post.
Jeremiah Allen
cont.
So, to finally answer your questions:
>1. Is it worth it ? For me, totally. I've always wanted to be a family man, and I have some conservative attitudes, so I really like making these things official, even if the traditional order is mixed up.
>2. How did you know that you wanted to marry your wife? When I got to know her, it became clear that she meets and exceeds my standards (more of that later), and I became very hopeful that marriage will be the eventual outcome of our relationship.
>3. How did you know that it was the right time to propose ? We fell so deeply in love that we began planning our lives together only a couple months into the relationship. We made a nice plan, basically to give ourselves time to find out if we work out in the long run. It went something like this: 1 year of dating, 1 year of being moved together, 1 year in engagement, and then marriage. Then came my son, and everything changed, but all for the better.
>4. And overall : are you happy ? Never been happier.
In the next post, I'll compile some of my standards that made me certain about this girl.
Xavier White
bump
Jackson Gray
sudden diaper change - bump
Is anyone reading?
Adam Phillips
OP here, I am reading.
What you're saying is exactly how I imagine it to be. That's what I want my life to be like. I think that you can get past all the troublesome times in life if you have the right partner by your side. You words are encouraging me. Was it an emotional choice or did you think a lot about it at first ? can you just talk a bit about it ?
I don't know for how much longer I'll be monitoring this thread, so thanks in advance. You helped me a lot man.
Austin Peterson
Cool, it's good to hear. I'll finish the post I started quickly.
Jackson Gutierrez
1. Yes, with this one. I was playing around previously. 2. I asked myself which one I'd prefer. Not have her but still be able to play around, or ditch her and continue playing around. I preferred the former. 3. It was getting to be decision time, to be honest. She was looking for some commitment, or she'd (reluctantly) find it somewhere else. I stalled her for as long as I could. 4. Yeah. She's great. Rational, emotionally stable, head over heels with me.
The old folks used to say, to be happy in life, marry someone who loves you more than you love them. Sounds egoistic, but I can see where they're coming from.
I understand divorce and alimony/child support is a nightmare scenario in some countries. I'm lucky that both of us were brought up Catholic (and living in a very thick Catholic community) and that divorce is only a minute possibility.
Good luck user.
Zachary Adams
cont.
My standards:
>Mutual physical attraction This might seem like a no-brainer, but if you think long term, then you better take a good look at your chosen one: Are you prepared to fuck this woman for decades? I'm a tits-guy, and I have some fetish for sagginess; my wife has huge boobs, and I predict I won't have problems when they start to sag. Also, she has a beautiful face, isn't fat, is shorter than me, etc. She is the full package for me. And for all I know, she thinks I am very handsome, too.
>Good & enough sex A very critical point: we both get enough of it, and both of our main fetishes are satisfied. We also talk a lot about sex, and discuss every issue or wish we might have.
>She hasn't been "around" The girl I had my first relationship with, had 11 other guys before me, and this wasn't my only issue by far, but it certainly didn't help. After that I was looking for someone I was on more even ground, so I thought 1-3 partners before me are fine, but preferably no more. And I got lucky, because I was the one who took my wife's virginity. It's up to you whether you are concerned with this or not, but this balance was an important factor for me.
>She speaks English We are from Eastern Europe, but I spend a lot of time reading, listening, etc. in English, so it's very important that I can share and enjoy these things with my significant other. It's more of a personal standard, because I've had one too many arguments about this in my first relationship, and I never again wanted that to happen.
(cont. in next post)
Michael Green
bump
Ian Clark
cont.
>Our personalities and interests fit together She is very kind, a fair bit shy, similarly lazy like me, etc. I'm into videogames, but she leveled up my nerdiness in boardgames. She is also nerdier about TV shows than I am. So there are a lot of basic interests that are common, but we can show a lot of new things to each other, and we even discovered things we like together. For example, we bonded on Game of Thrones, she rewatched House of Cards for me, since I haven't seen it before, and recently we started to watch American Gods together. We are also planning to see Star Trek TNG, which will be my turn in rewatching a series and her first time.
>Willingness to communicate We both are studying to become teachers, and as such we are interested in psychology, and also have taken a lot of classes in it. This was very helpful, because we have been very conscious about good communication from the very start, and we ain't planning to stop. We discuss everything, have shared all our "secrets", and never go to bed angry. Also, angry is an exaggeration, because we were able to avoid having even a single fight or shouting between us.
>Good family background This needs a lot of luck, but it's so good when you have it. My parents love her, and her parents love me, and none of them are terrible people, and all of them are in stable marriages. This makes things insanely easy sometimes.
I think I covered everything. These were pretty much all the things I checked when I felt that she is the one.
Benjamin Clark
Check my walls of text, I guess (I hope) mine was a well thought out, rational choice. I was thinking about all these things from the very start of our relationship, and when the news of the baby broke, I wasn't terrified about the *person* I have made a baby with, I was a bit scared about how will we pull it off.
In my first relationship, we had a false alarm, and even though I was sure that there was no baby there, the very thought made me terrified, because I suddenly realized that I could not ever settle with that woman for life.
