How do I help my boyfriend get back on track?
Hes gained a lot of weight recently due to his poor diet (his family eats some of the worst unhealthy hispanic dishes) and his "inability" to work out. He slipped a disk lifting and now feels that since he cant lift, he cant workout at all. We used to jog, swim, longboard, and just adventure around in general and be active to some degree all the time.
Hes almost done with his bachelors degree, which I know has taken a lot of time up, and is necessary. But he sits all the time and is at a desk (computer degree) in his room all day studying. I try to go over there and lay in his bed and allow him to study then get a meal together and eat then fuck. But it doesn't encourage any doesnt encourage any diet or physical change by me being around.
Only things he goes out to do is cater to his bratty 18 year old sisters needs because she refuses to drive and he spends his money on her wants when she demands he takes her somewhere. I could hardly get him to go on a road trip for my birthday the other week and even then when I was driving he was watching youtube lectures.
I dont want to leave him because he's gained weight and is trying to get somewhere in life and focus on school. But I also dont want to get stuck in a life with an unhealthy hermit that gets to a point where he cant even work if he encounters too much of weight issues. Help
How do I help my boyfriend get back on track?
honestly, it depends... how hot are you?
tits or gtfo that's how.
First post tits.
Do you cook him dinner? Start feeding him healthy shit not giving him a huge plate of spaghetti etc. Don't cook for him? It's kinda your fault
Leave him for someone that isn't a cuck
How mutch did he gain?
this
True, cook for him. And even if you cannot, start learning it.
Or go for a chad who leaves you pregnant, poor and marked as a slut.
No srsly, he focuses on the income and your job is to take care of him. Show him in a loving way that his body is turning unattractive. Not for you! But for himself!
Im his girlfriend not his wife or fiance. He goes to university and stays there. Then lives at home with his parents over breaks. I make healthy food and buy healthy food for myself but he rejects it saying his mom already made something or it "looks" gross.
Idk hes pretty tall like 6' / 6'1" and haf good muscle tone etc, obv not a body builder or "cali beach bod" but was good shape and physique last summer around 190/200 and now Im not sure what hes weighing in at my guess would be maybe 220-240 and obviously has lost muscle tone.
Heres what we looked like last February
Honestly. I told my fiance she was getting fat and I was starting to become less attracted to her. It was a big fight but it ended for the better. Try being honest with him. If he doesn't care. Leave him. There's no reason to be stuck in a relationship in your twenties.
Im not even too put off with the weight he has gained its not like I'm going to end things or stop having sex with him over it. I just see that he's CONTINUING to gain weight and continuing to eat the same unhealthy things.
He never had held a job other than lifeguarding in high school and I've worked in medical clinics, apartment offices, all sorts of stores at different positions all while in school to get a STEM degree. I can see that he's lethargic due to him doing nothing but sitting all day and either eating large portions of fast food or servings of his families cooking that could of been two meals in the past for him (while we worked out every day and were in excess of calories to bulk up!!)
Im worried about his health and how he went from straight A's, working out, enjoying going places and going on dates, having balnced time for me, friends and family. To being sleepy all the time, locked up in a dark room 24/7 studying and having little to no time or communication with his friends, family and myself. I mean we have been together a while now and we talk about a future together and even our families talk about us having a future together. Now hes a recluse that has no time or communication with people because he studies all day and sleeps, yet is making B's and C's now.
Btw this was a picture of use a month ago
He wont even swim without a shirt now. He used to never swim with a shirt and Now wont even take off his shirt when we have sex.
he is obv stressed, embarassed and mby even depressed. either you talk about it or you give him space, so he can deal what is going on with him.
Also this past semester things got a bit hostile between his family and I because when they would normally visit him every other week up at his school he started telling them not to come. And it understandably hurt their feelings. He would tell them he needed to study, yet all that studying and his grades were slipping. They thought i was staying up there in my free time and distracting him and they were a bit mad at me. Until he was off for summer and home with them and they saw that he was literally cooped up in his room and didn't have time for them yet I wasnt there at all.
I mean in high school he was the quiet yet very like-able, very smart, fit and attractive guy that didnt know how to talk to girls yet all the girls like him. He was top of his class. On a sports team and captain of the team. Very involved with his family and loved to go outdoors and rock climb/skate with me and go new places.
And now doesnt move an inch and has zero time for family or friends.
I feel like its a combination of his family spoiling him too much and his ego taking a hit from not being able to lift anymore but I know his family will never step in to help. Theyll only enable him more and theyre very traditional Hispanic like they don't believe in depression or that there's anything wrong with their babies.
Im not trying to sound racist I come from hispanic background too. Its just their cultural behavior
Yea I know he is stressed about almost being done with school and being in "the real world" and he's depressed that he cant lift anymore and probably embarrassed like you said that he's gotten to where he is now.
I mean we used to be the couple that when friends dragged us to the club or an event people thought we were models and drunk people wanted to take pictures of the "pretty couple".
So I know thats taken a hit to him.
Ive tried going about it by leaving him alone and by being passive about it like bringing him "healthier" food options when I visit and being like oh i was craving their food and got it on the way and just thought maybe you'd be hungry too. Or saying I dont feel like going out and making us food. And I try to make going out seem like a chore for myself instead of saying I coordinated to go skating with our friends I'll make it seem like theyre dragging me along too but that "i havent seen them in a while" so I want to go and since he has that I'll blow him if he comes with us as a trade off and its still not an incentive.
I'm not sure how to go about it because i know guys do need to he approached differently from women. When I slightly put on weight a few yrs ago around finals (i mean went from perfectly flat stomach to a little bloated but back to flat a week after) he jokingly said i was getting fat and people would think we were having kids early like other people from high school. Yet if I were to crack a joke I know hed fire back with an insult and tell me to leave or w/e
Damn your actually pretty cute.
Anyway, from what I've read there's nothing you can but talk and try to motivate him (use dat ass)
He probably feels like a failure tbh. Your right on one thing, you need to take care of this ASAP. A few years of this shit and there's no going back.
These are things you should be discussing with him. But hispanic men in general are babies when it comes to that so good luck. Also show your tits already.
Show tits already you fucking cunt.
He's probably unhappy with himself that's why he is falling apart.
Him doing sport again would be good.
If I had a gf and she'd tell me in all seriousness to get my shit back together it would help me if I was in such a slump
Post tits now or gtfo
Try convincing him YOU need to lose weight and your going on a diet, so he should too
Mention general health not obesity
I come from a hispanic family too so I "know".
Im just not sure how to tell him to do that without being to harsh, yet still sounding like I am serious and not joking. Ive been trying to get him back into skating since all of our friends are home for summer and we all smoke and skate and act like hood rats late into the AM.
Thats the path I'm trying as of recent
Look up Bill Starr's back rehab program and pic related.
Lol if he's that stupid I'm sorry for you op. He will know. Maybe just not mention it because he also recognises he has to do something
TITS NOW FOR THE MOTHER OF GOD
you two seem to have long history together. both are ambitious and outgoing, atleast one of you is and other one were. I think you should give him time to finish his degree and let him go throught what he dealing with. I know its gonna be little hard, but distance yourself for a while. Concentrate on yourself, but be there for him if he needs you.
also his parents are over protective. as you said they enable his behaviour, and that is what they want too. they want him to be depented of them, so they treat him like a child.
Put his dick in a cage until he gets fit again.
Yea and Im not sure how much to stand in because if I stand between them too much his parents will see that and dislike me. But I feel like If i dont stand in at least a little hell go home after his degree and stay there and his parents will loom so much he'll not hold a job and get out of the house. i work to pay all my stuff and he relies on loans, grants and his parents and a lot of people do that and are just fine.
But recently I showed him a job opportunity for bilingual speakers that was only a few days due to an event in our town and I told him it would be some money that your parents wouldnt have to work for to give you or even if he used it for a fun day and saved the rest and he that he'd get out of the house and have a break and he went off on me how i work and i "only focus on quick money" because i work and "do poorly in school" (yet i have a higher gpa, just might do poorly on one test here or there due to needing the money or needing the job overall and not being able to have that shift off to study) where as hes only life guarded (hardly has customer service let alone it isn't related whatsoever to his career and he hasnt worked in the past 3/4 yrs. doesnt know how to have a real world job or manage money) where as I rely on my own income and have to budget etc and he jokingly calls me lame when i cant get fast food or something because i pay my own bills rely on my own money and to top tha I work in a medical office and see one end of what My degree coorelates with (i want to work in medical labs) let alone the fact its a real world job /"adult" job
nice body OP i would put effort if i was him and i would love to eat you out
What are you newfags doing?
We have rules, and this "girl" is defiantly attention whoring. Stop posting. Stop being faggots. "She" is most likely a man.
do what you think is right. you are a smart gal.