Do you guys assume a girl you've just met or recently started dating is fucking other guys?

Do you guys assume a girl you've just met or recently started dating is fucking other guys?

I met a girl last week at my local bar but found out earlier tonight she hooked up with a buddy of mine... no sex but they went down on each other.

I didn't know this at the time and went out with her 2 nights after they hooked up and we made out and shit.

Now, I'm in no way invested emotionally and I understand that, hey, you can do whatever you want. But do you expect a girl to be hiking up with other guys during the early phases of dating?

I'm not big into dating multiple people myself so on the one hand, this skeeves me out, but on the other hand, I kinda assume most girls are sloots.

Have any of you dealt with this shit before and how? Should I just pump and dump or take the promiscuous behavior of the modern American woman into consideration?

Pic unrelated but if you can Id the pornstar it'd be appreciated.

What are you? Like 12 or something?

33, actually. Was in a very long term relationship for most of my 20s into early 30s so the dating scene has changed since I was single (I'm talking pre-Tinder).

>the promiscuous behavior of the modern woman
Let's face it, we hate this behavior. We are forced to accept it but we hate it.

The whole cuck fetish looks like sex's Stockholm syndrome.

What went wrong?

I'm very much of the mindset that if a chick is doing that whilst you two are feeling each other out/getting to know each other that she was never that interested in the first place. Any relationships I've had with those girls always go the same way, find a chick that isn't some dick hungry whore and you will be much happier.

What happened with your ex?
I'm like you but still in the relationship. She isn't her clingy self anymore lately and I'm starting to worry.
I got better in physical both shape and career lately so I really don't now what's wrong.

Short answer? Feminism, imho..

I hate it too, user.

I'm kinda monogamish... I accept in so far as I accept it's not in my control. Furthermore, I live in NYC so almost all the girls here *usually* have something going on.

I'm at a weird stage in my life breh... I finished yet another degree this past winter and will hopefully start working as a high school teacher this September and hopefully move out of my parents place a few months after that... on the upside, I've paid off my student loans (60k) over the last few years and got in good shape... If not for my living situation, I'd be our there on the regular trying to fuck around as well I suppose...

>Meeting a random girl at a bar
>Expecting her to be worthy of buttfuck anything

You are very slow and lack some logic.

By my standards, all girls are whores but some of them will keep it to themselves and their wholelife partner. A dime of the dozen.

Ex dumped me 2 years ago... between her, school, and work, I started neglecting her and things unraveled from there.

To be honest, in retrospect, I felt the relationship shift after I confronted her on her lowered sex drive, which was horrible to begin with, but she refused to discuss it. After that, I stopped putting as much effort into it.

Sex in a relationship is like money... it's not the most important thing, but if it's missing, it ducks everything up...

I should mention she just moved to the neighborhood that same fuckin day...

I'm not retarded. I know how thing operate... it's just that, it's been just 8 days since them and the only reason I know she hooked up with someone else is because I chill with the dude she hooked up with.

So to recap, I too assume their all hoes. I just happened to find out what's up through other people. Where do I go from here? As I mentioned, I'm in NYC, aka slut central...

Did I mention she looks a lot like Cara? It's the only reason why I'd have a little more patience with her compared to the average hoe...

If you are in need of pussy fuck her, just bring your own condoms or get a vasectomy before.

Statistically speaking, avoid relationships with total undisciplined sluts. You know, the kind that goes to partying every freaking weekend and goes for a blowjob at the very least with some random Chad... oddly enough avoid total prudes too.

There is no perfect girl nor perfect relationship but you sure as hell will avoid a lot of bullshit if you get away from those two extremes.

I almost caught a case of the spooks when I saw this

>TL DR: Stick your dick in crazy at your own risk.
>Avoid pregnancy
>She won't reciprocate your dedication
>Hoes ain' nothin but shit and tricks

>Pimpin ain' easy

Jesus, you're a fucking square. Are you fucking other girls? Yes? No? Doesn't really fucking matter. Both of you have probably fucked someone else in your lifetimes and still are fucking different people. Everybody fucks.
Now, get the fuck over it.

I'm dying for pussy...

Yeah, I'm kinda of that mindset too... it's just too early to tell where this chick is on the spectrum... considering she blew the other guy the other night, she ain't a prude. But we're not dating either really and I just happened to find that out. And if the situation was reversed, I'd definitely woulda hooked up with a random chick as well.

This is all kinda new to me as I really avoided dating since my break-up and only recently started dipping my toes back in the water. And again, considering this is in New York, I'm assuming most of the chicks I'll meet are slutty.

if you aren't emotionally invested just fuck her and leave m8 like every goddamn faggot

Meh, not really. See comment in between these two.

On fucking bars or bachelors parties? Fucking yes they are gonna be sluts.

Then again, if you are into that scene, all the girls you had met are from there, and all your friends are party hardcore fucks then that's what your uncivilized ass deserves.

Either get your shit together and step up your game or start looking at more decent places.

Words of a wise man. Crazy butches fuck the best. But I can't ever deal with it long.

"Yes? No? Doesn't really matter."
Live your life thinking about how many dicks have been in a girl you just met will ensure a lonely life for you.

You don't fucking know how greentext works, right?

Either way, this was rephrases my words. Decide on you own what you truly want from your relationships. If you want a random fuckhole every other Saturday then so be it, but deal with it.

I'm not and I would/should. But the one night we hung out she turned out to be funny, smart, and we had a lot of common interests and hobbies.

Like, she likes sci-fi, vidya (she LOVES the Witcher series), and does woodwork.

I think I got a little enamored which is why it was kinda sucky to hear about her hook up. Like, my brain, heart, and dick are fighting right now.

My heart's being a fucking beta as usual and trying to get all oneitis on me, my dick's just trying to get wet, and my brain's like, "everyone needs to chill the fuck out".

All advice has been helpful so far though, so much appreciated.

I do. You use the ">" thingy.

Was just too lazy to do it...

>the ">" thingy

I really hope Trump start WW2.5 so stupid fucks die in the atomic worldstorm.

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So, the basic concensus I'm getting is:

1. Fuck her
2. Wear protection
3. Don't sweat the fact she might be fucking around cuz we're not dating
4. If we do end up dating, for however long that might be, don't care about what went on because we've all hooked up with someone before?

>do you expect a girl to be hiking up with other guys during the early phases of dating?

Absolutely. That's what dating is: finding people to hook up with and open up your options. Dating is not a relationship in which you have obligations between and to one another. You must learn to tell the difference.

Most women do this (and mind you I'm just pulling numbers out of my ass to illustrate a point): they'll befriend approx. 20 guys; of those 20, they'll date 10; of the 10 they are dating, they will be sexually active with 6 or 7; of the 6 or 7 they are sexually active with, 3 or 4 are the ones they'll consider getting into an actual relationship with.

Once again, the numbers aren't accurate but they don't need to be. The point is that many women keep multiple men around to keep their options open.

Men usually cannot do that because they are not the choosey sex--women are. Women have multiple men; men have 1 or 2 women. The choosey sex versus the competing sex.

Even if those numbers were factually true it would be even more reason to avoid relationship with women at all.

Well said. Actually, very well said. And considering how hot she is, that makes sense.

It's just the idea of going down a recently trodden path that makes me feel bleh...

But the whole choosey vs. competitive thing put it into perspective... thanks, Sup Forumsreh...

This man gets it....

I'd consider going MGTOW but it'd probably wouldn't be full-on.

I guess I'm going my way too, but it's not because I don't want to get married. I'm just not giving away half my life to a stupid cunt that will give psychological trauma to my children and leave me living on a highway bridge just because she finds it funny.

I know that's unliekly to happen, but still possible thanks to the law.

I am not trying to whiteknight or anything but... I am even in the 30s age bracket and unless you are "going steady" you have no right to assume any monogamy.

A date is meaningless, now if you are 5+ dates in you could run into a point where there is some unspoken relationship status, but at some point there will need to be a relationship talk.

Now this was the old way anyways. Myself I just sperged out and asked my now wife if she wanted to be my gf without any date at all. So who fucking knows what is standard.

You sound like a prime cuck candidate

Same here sorta. My family has assets that I'll inherit so I dunno if I wanna risk losing that in the long run. I mean, I have the potential to retire at 50...

Speaking of myself, I put the relationship rules and ask for hers.

Things is, most of the time it turns out, when they don't have relationships rules I simply ditch them even before fucking because they are air headed, golddiggers, freakingly inmature or "Want to be a strong woman that needs no man" so they don't make rules because somehow this will make them free.

I don't mind if she had 5 men at the time as long as she is straight forward with me and don't cheat me. Hell I even paid a prostitude couple and she freaked out because I banged a hooker in front of her... while she was doing the same with some stud.

No, you're right, and I get that. I get it''s too early. It's just that she hooked up with the other guy her first night here in the city. Granted it was before our date, but still, to me, it brings her screening process into question.

As one of the anons said above, women choose and men compete. But shouldnt my opinion be informed based on that as well?

What the fuck are you expecting us to tell you? That you will slap her into decency to be a monogamous wife-material? Women only TEND to do that on really dire situations.

Off course, every head is a little world. But any relationship with the girl you are depicting won't last nor will be joyful until it ends. As you put it, YOU are to insecure to handle her and don't seem to have much experience handling women, or womyn for the same matter. Just from that fact alone any relationship with her will fail and I'm not taking into consideration that she might be a huge slut which seems to early to judge form my point of view.

By my standards, not every person that sleeps around is a slut or a manwhore if they are looking for a stable partner. Which doesn't apply if you fuck three dudes on the same night.

Try hook and in the meantime, try learn how to keep your women. Then it won't matter who she's been with

1st night in town. Cause she never existed before and can't have fun with some guy. Jesus fucking Christ

If you are looking for wifey ehh probably not, but I would still stick to what I said before in that you should have no expectation of exclusivity.

You are right though, comes to town and is getting plowed that very night isn't a glowing endorsement for any monogamous relationship in the future.

Ever moved somewhere on your own? It's lonely

Nigga, I ain't talking about before. I'm talking about this past week. Me, that other guy, and a third guy got her info. For all I know she blew #3 too.

I'd be complaining less if I got some as well and I didn't find any of this out until tonight. I haven't seen her since Sunday.

I think I just wasn't expecting her to hook up with anyone else before I got a chance.

So you get dicked down the second you roll into town?

Not plowed, just blew... and got eaten out...

But yeah...

He's right. LITERALLY just moved in that day...

.... Buy a chastity cage you huge cuck.

How the fuck haven't you plowed that whore's ass? You must a little beta bitch.

It's all the same really. I am no prude but a dick or a taco in your mouth, and you had sex. Albeit I wouldn't count it as losing ones virginity.

Cause clearly you got all that going on

Why not?

Cuz I didn't realize she a whore? I mean, I will now...

Try explaining that to social moralists.
>Everyones doing it so you have to be okay with it.

So this other guy is better than you, number 3 may or may not be. So you are equal to or singularly bottom of the list and in all this, that bitch got hers and fucked your head. Well played

But young grasshopper, all women are hoes. You just gotta recognize the kind of whore she is and have their prize at hand.

OP, you stupid fuck, can you cut this crap already?

We get it. Women sexual liberty makes you feel uncomfortable.
It is normal, there's nothing wrong. Every man that tells you otherwise is lying to himself.
But you [spoiler]we[/spoiler] have to surrender.
We lost this war. Woman are totally out of control.
Just remember to keep you dignity.

[spoiler]I actually got myself a virgin gf, which I proceeded to unvirgin myself. She's too prude, sex is boring as fuck but I'm not going to push her limits.
The thing with women is they don't know what middle ground is, so I'm not going to take risks.[/spoiler]

>Her lowered sex drive

It was the same, she wasn't finding you sexually attractive, sex was a chore to keep you paying the bills. Same reason she hasn't told you that fact.

Well because most men don't want their wife to have a used up pussy that the goddamn baby just falls right out of? Or perhaps maybe not treating STDs like fucking pokemon? Or here's one maybe having a little bit of self control so as you can go to work and not have to worry how many dicks invaded her before you come home, or at least not have to run home every lunch hour to check on her.

If you like that, well have at it sport.

Ex was in law school at the time and while I paid the occasional dinner it was typically 50/50.

My reasoning was she put the extra effort in the beginning and after she had me on lock down she got lazy... though part of what you're saying definitely applied toward the end of the relationship.

I like your opening pic OP. She's a cutie.

I'm notrying looking for a virgin nor am I necessary insecure about women's sexual liberty.

I just don't want a whore and to occasionally partake in said liberties...

And yes, the war's lost...

Thanks. You recognize her? I've been trying to find her for a while now. She was in the biz for a few years and had a regular stage name...

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This happened to me in one of my earlier relationships. About 6 months or so into the relationship I found out she was still getting dicked a couple weeks into us seeing each other. Really fucked me off at the time, but in hindsight who gives a fuck.

If she is regularly going to clubs/parties she is probably fucking someone, but if you're 30 and looking for a relationship i'd suggest finding a woman who is career oriented and good at cooking...

Yeah, that's the original I cropped it from. If I could find her via image search, I wouldn't be asking questions...

I'm not looking for a relationship, but I'm open to it...

If I could ask a personal question, did it gross you out when you found out? Like the idea of her blowing someone and then maybe kissing you the next day?

What rationale did you use to overcome it? Was the sex mind-blowing? Was she generally chill and fun to hang around with. I was a wizard in my early 20s so I didn't get much experience before my one, serious LTR.

If you don't want a girl who's fucking other people, stop picking up girls at bars and clubs lol. Use tinder or bumble or okcupid, and mention monogamy in your profile.

This is really fucking easy OP how do you get into these situations? Also as I rule I never touch a girl who's touched my family or friends or coworkers even if it's just a hookup keeps my life drama-free

This may seem weird but part of it turned me on. Yeah it grossed me out when I first found out, but I was like 20 then.

It's strange, the idea of her getting fucked by other guys turned me on afterwards, but i've never had this with anyone but her..this almost led to a group sex scenario..

Anyway she justified it by saying we weren't "official" at the time. The sex was okay, but yeah she was fun to hang with, a little too overbearing though. I'm curious to know what you mean by a wizard haha

I got laid at 18 by the grace of the gods but didn't see vaginas again till I was 25. I was shy and a bit awkward to be begin with, so: wizard status!

Pic somewhat related (barring ages refrenced).

>I didn't know this at the time and went out with her 2 nights after they hooked up and we made out and shit.
How did your friend's dick taste?

Fair enough hah. I'd say dump and pump, then you and your buddy can share notes. Any pussy is usually good after a dry spell... Unless hes a fucking scumbag and she could potentially have some sort of std.

no, unless they are whores like the girl you are dating from tinder

Not sure. We had a few beers before hand and she was chewing gum so I assume it covered the flavor.

LOL so ugly complete man face

I met her in real life, not Tinder.

Well, he is but that's irrelevant to me. I brought up that we went out and he informed me they hooked up.

Oh, I'm definitely wrapping my dingus...

then yes i would be disappointed, like you are, to find out a nice fun girl i thought i was hitting it off with, was a slut

just goes to show you looks are deceiving, just because chicks are cool and fun to hang out with doesnt mean they arent slutty or easy as a vending machine

i personally dont like loose women but to each his own. if a chick was not in a committed relationship i wouldnt expect her to be going down on my roommate the day after we had date, the day after we met. obviously shes a skank if shes that easy. if you want to fuck her im not judging, just proceed with caution and try not to get emotionally attached because it sounds like shes way too easy. and wear a condom, if she was blowing your buddy within a day of moving to the neighborhood, think about what shes been doing where she lived before. diseases man