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5+ years into relationship. sex with my girlfriend has become almost nonexistent. we do it maybe one time every 3 or 4 weeks. I don't know what to do about it anymore. In the past when I tried to talk about it and fix our unmatched desires she would get really upset with me or make me feel guilty. I'm at the point where I wish i could turn off my desire and need for sex because i truly do care about her and hope to spend the rest of my life with her. The thing I don't understand is that whenever we do have sex, it's really good for us both and i feel we become closer for a while. but then days upon weeks go by again and I become deprived. I dont want to be resentful towards her either. I'm just wondering if anyone out there has any advice or insight.
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>OP complaining about monthly sex
>I masturbate 4-6 times a day
bro, real talk. I just went through pretty much exactly this. And I know you don't want to hear it but the best option is to just get out now.
That being said let me hit you with a few points that I learned from the resolution of my version of this shit show.
First and most importantly, you two need to sit down with nothing distracting you and fucking talk. Full Stop. Talk. Have an adult uncomfortable honest conversation and see if there is anything going on that might be causing a rift between you. I thought that I was doing this but she would get blank on me and I would let things go. Don't. If you can't handle having things be uncomfortable then it's over. My ex would bottle shit up and then poor it out to fucking Tumblr cucks instead of telling me what was bothering her. The short of that is that it went from her being annoyed with some of the things I say, to her saying that she had to pay attention to me waking up in the morning and when she heard me stir she would have to prepare to be around me, same for when she heard my car come in from work and shit as if I was coming in fists balled and dick hard.
Point is, without open honest discussion little things will pile up and fucking poison everything. If you really want this to work you need to get this shit done now.
Also fuck Tumblr safe space cuck faggots. If any of you fucks see this. Go fuck yourself cocksucker breath.
whats your age ?
>sex with my girlfriend has become almost nonexistent
I don't know how this happens man. are you good at sex? how big is your dick? how long would you say the sex lasts?
do you have actual moves? Do you fuck her senseless?
...
>being this retarded
OP go to reddit there's huge boards for this sort of thing.
fuckoff fagget
con't
honestly op I've never been in that situation. again tho I haven't been in a relationship for 5+ years. mostly less then 4 years.
in a relationship I'm usually the one denying the sex. cause of tired/soar/sleepy or just want to sleep.
again tho. I fucking destroy this girl's vagina. I have a 7.5x6 inch dick. and I workout. I fuck her real fucking hard and can go for a long time. shes having multiple orgasms.
also we are really attracted to each other. inb4 bullshit.
take this time to focus on other shit. go workout. or go out and meet new people. make her chaise you a bit. Tell her whatsup as well. "hey straightup why aren't we fucking as much? this is a real problem for me and I'm thinking of just moving on at this point."
set some boundries. I get 5 years is a lot and moving on sounds fucking hard/scary.
but you might have to.
Fellow user who just finished his own shitshow of a relationship. Five years gone.
I agree with what you've said, but this didn't work for me. New gf matches my sex drive now, something my ex said couldn't happen. Anyways, there's always someone out there who's better for you.
solid thoughtful post.
she already "got" you dude. You're too fucking accessible. You showed her your whole deck of cards now there's nothing left for her to figure out.
This person right here is a female or a virgin, sitting a female down and saying "hey schnookum lumps I wanted to talk about us." NOTHING will dry a woman up faster than this, holy mother fuck!
What you need to do is literally stop trying to fuck her. Start working out on a whim and focus your energy on that. You have guy friends? after a month of working out and building some confidence buy yourself a nice outfit and just GO OUT WITHOUT HER. Kiss her on the cheek and say "baby i'm going out for a while I'll be back later."
Make her think she HAS to KEEP you. FFS your a tired fuck toy that she can pick up at her leisure without ANY fear that you'll wander. You're a DOG to her. Loyally sitting at her fucking feet.
Do you understand???
It's simple OP, she's lost interest in you because there is an expectancy for sex now. It becomes annoying when someone seems needy for a physical desire. Sexual intercourse is the byproduct of two souls communicating, it should not be placed on a pedestal and obsessed over. You internalize this need for sexual attention in a society obsessed and focused on over probing the dopamine centers of the brain without any recourse. This in turn causes you to project obsession, and is essentially a turn off. If you wanna turn her back on again, try talking to her soul once more. If your lives are in a stalemate, quit your job and go fulfill your desires, stop making excuses and live life. Talk to her about It, most problems in relationships come from lack of or misinterpretation of communication. Be honest and true to yourself and to her, be noble and just and modest. I can't say that these things WILL work for you, but after making observations and recordings of other people's lives as well as my own, I've come to realize certain overlapping characteristics and this is really the best insight I can think of on the spot.
Sex is a byproduct, and not the main product, creation of life is what nature intended it for, our human tendency to greed over the physical pleasure blinds us from seeing this. It is in a sense, a habit, or for lack of a better word, a habit formed by the powers that be that create the society around us. From introducing hormones in our food to our children to brainwashing with television and cell phone usage, people are addicted to sex, even though they are not having it.
Don't be like that OP, you're smarter than that. Think outside the box, the pleasure centers of sex or masturbation are not the meaning to life. Now that you know, use this inforinformation to negotiate life a little bit better
this . op . allow her to have the feeling of her losing you / missing you / wondering wtf you're doing without her.
the feeling of a well drying up is scary to everyone.
And OPs girl then feels insecure on top of disinterested, and goes and fucks some other dude first. Well done "alpha" man.
He wands to spend his life with her, not spend his life in a fucking pissing contest with her.
But I agree about working out and having fun.
the best part about this post was this uber faggot saying to buy yourself a nice outfit
t. Wanda Sykes
>Mmmmmhhhmmmmmm!!!
>*snaps fingers and rocks neck from side to side*
Don't marry her unless you fix this shit and it stayed fixed for over a year. Sexless marriages end in divorce and divorce ends with her taking half your shit by virtue of having a vagina.
Also, pretty good chance she's cheating on you.
I think he isn't fucking her well enough.
a girl gets super horny around her period. where she wants to be held down and fucked hard. she wants to feel alive and like an animal.
next time you fuck her, take your anger out on her while you fuck her. don't hit her. but take your aggression out on her while you fuck.
she'll love it
she is cheating on you OP
confront her if you think I'm wrong
>feels insecure
You don't get it. The only way to keep a woman [interested] is to make her a little insecure. The moment she "has" you it's a slippery slope to no sex and cheating. You have to make her aware you still have the (((((ability))))) to meet and fuck women, since that's how you were when you first met. Your status of a hunter is what drew her in to begin with. I'm not saying "go fuck women to make her jealous." Only someone with an infantile understanding of relationships would draw that conclusion.
someone else already is
>no sex and cheating
already happening
>Sexual intercourse is the byproduct of two souls communicating
virgin alert
sexual intercourse is the byproduct of two horny people
love is not sex
sex is not love
see: venn diagram
>be noble and just and modest
said no one who ever gave good relationship advice
be a hardass demanding motherfucker, be plain about what you want (to fuck)
I mean, maybe if you're hooking up with random sluts but not everyone is the same. Some chicks don't like to get SLAMMED all the time, it's nice to actually make love and have intimate moments, while it's also nice to have a wild fling.
Forget anger, that's an emotional response that a child would have to any given situation. It's not attractive to see an adult out of control of his mental recourse
>most problems in relationships come from lack of or misinterpretation of communication
>most probvlems in relationships come from lack of sex
FIFY
you can fuck someones brains out all day and not say a word for days at a time
harmonious relationship accomplished
>Some chicks don't like to get SLAMMED all the time
wrong: girls are animals, and like men, enjoy mostly animalistic sex
even dykes love to get slammed
if your girl doesn't want it relatively vigorously, she's already getting it elsewhere
making love is a thing for people who still make out, aka teenagers and me when i'm on drugs
dude girls want a variety of emotions. especially during sex.
emotions aren't logical. women want intense emotions. they are emotional thrill junkies.
the passion is from the heat of the moment. it can be from going slow at times. but then speeding it up and taking her over the edge. she wants to be able to "let go" sorta speak and let YOU take control of her. doesn't have to be angry sex. but hell if you're in the moment and it goes that way. then do it. she'll love you for it.
imo men think sex needs to make sense. The animal and the lover but they can't meet. well this is where the problem lies. She wants the animal and the lover together.
go watch HD passion porn on some porn site. its a guy being passionate and fucking her silly. She wants her hands held down while you fuck her deeply and passionately.
watch james deen. he fucks her deep and hard while whispering naughty things in her ear.
she wants to be dominated. wants to know she is fucking a man.
Re-read and reinterpret what I wrote
You're running in to life way too fast user, read the story about the tortoise and the hare
>Sexless marriages end in divorce
>pretty good chance she's cheating on you
check and check
even if you think she isn't the type OP, she just learned recently she is
I like that you think a healthy relationship has nothing to do with communication and everything to do with working out
Go outside faggot and see what reality is like
oh, just wow
Aesop's Fables: Unrealistic Sex Advice Edition
just go ahead and apply whatever completely unrelated parable you want, the biological, sociological and psychological facts of life remain unchanged
>read the story about the tortoise and the hare
you first, the moral of that story is to not rest on your laurels, not 'don't live fast'
the hare loses because he is complacent, not because he is too vigorous
kys or pick up some reading comprehension
Ok, serious shit here...do you want to stay with her? If no..start looking for someone new. If yes, stop asking her, romance her like you did in the beginning, take risks, let her know that the excitement is still there...she will always give in. Its gotta be fun, sexy and new
..not just the ole...hey babe, lets fuck.
She already broke up with you in her head. Move on
>Re-read and reinterpret what I wrote
"I am a closet gay who was raised mostly by his mother, who may or may not also be a closet dyke"
reinterpreted for you
yup, if she isn't fucking someone else, she wants to
You're right, perhaps I have an idealistic view of the world that is sadly not true.
In other words, everyone is a bunch of savage emotion driven children with no capacity to contemplate diner idealization of life.
>my soul weaps for humanity
>weaps
EDGELORD CANNOT SPELL
holy shit, my fucking sides user
Fuck off, don't tell me youve never made a typo before
nah, you're just 19 years old and haven't banged more than one girl yet
you'll get smarter
keep trying that soul shit tho and your gf will find someone who just wants to fuck her brains out
There's only one way to get her to start to respect you again, and that's to respect yourself. Trust me on this. Put the relationship out of your head and focus on yourself. Improve yourself wherever possible. She'll see you working on yourself and respect you, or she'll leave and she wasn't worth shit anyway
You're pathetic, keep trying though user
i pray that weaps guy is only merely pretending
I only use words I can spell, user, try it, makes things simple
you didn't make a typo, you misspelled a word because you aren't that big of a reader and approximated how you think it should be spelled based on how it sounds
a typo is a slip of the fingers
you had a slip of the mind
Sex needs to be exciting to women. It can't be available, it needs to be spontaneous. Don't pay attention to her for a bit, then smack her ass. But then casually walk away, cause you don't need sex. You gotta drive her crazy
low quality bait is the best case scenario at this point, I would be backtracking and claiming that if I were him lol
>typo
>instead of pressing E twice he presses A 'accidentally'
do you know what a typo is?
this.
A girl wants to be with a winner. she doesn't want to win.
>workout
>focus on new female friends (make her a bit jealous)
>look into a new job perhaps
>new hobby
a few other ideas.
public sex, buy new sex toys from aliexpress, watch porn try new positions.
take mdma and have sex.
tell her you want to try a 3 way.
if you make sex a fun party in your life. she'll want you to include her.
>what is non-verbal communication
>what is confidence building through self discipline and self betterment through exercise.
>what is the concept that loving yourself helps other people to love you more.
Your sad attempt at disparaging my comment shows your utter naivety about human interaction. You're also totally dense. I don't know if english is your 2nd language or something but we have an idiom here. It goes something like "read in between the lines." It basically means to derive meaning beyond what is actually said. For you to gather "don't communicate with her" and "working out will replace talking" you have to be an average IQ baboon.
I must have offended you earlier. I can practically read your petty passive aggressiveness in your comment. Judging by your vaginal tone you're probably
This user.
yup, look over at her, pull her clothes off, and fuck her hard
she wants it, you want it
you don't have to be a Chad to be assertive, prove to her you're still a man
no, and he is too stupid to know this defense is just digging his hole 'deaper' lol
What is it you guys are trying to accomplish exactly? I'm here trying to give OP SOME heartfelt advice on how to mend his relationship, stop being useless naysayers and help me out here.
>Judging by your vaginal tone you're probably
>This user.
>
a safe assumption
See, in a relationship things slow down after the first few years. It's seldom that you continue to have that rampant sex life you did when you first met. Banging like bunny rabbits learning each others bodies.
It has everything to do with normal life strains, stress, kids, work, money issues...fucking anything. A woman's pussy can dry up faster than a shamwow dries that fuckers arm. You know that guy. Anyway..What I'm saying is that it has nothing to do with the sex(in most cases) it's the things in the relationship.
don't listen to these faggots. look op, having sex is a healthy part of a relationship, with out it, your bills will get blue and then both of you become sexually frustrated. it sucks, but maybe you should try to understand why she's not down to do it. maybe she's going through some shit. maybe she's depressed. sometimes when i'm stressed out, or sad, sex is the last thing on my mind.
try and understand why first. that's somewhere to start.
when you find out, you should automatically know how to move forward.
now let's say you can't dig in deep, or you can't find the answer, let her know that it's pulling you apart, that the relationship is growing stale. as humans we got this natural need, if all else fail, just dump her. a relationship should be 50/50. if you treat her good, you respectful, and she can't hold her end of the bargain, it's best to bail. god speed op.
I am trying to shame you into using your own language more correctly, or at least shut the fuck up and maybe read a book other than one which contains 2500 year old children's tales, a valiant cause if there ever was one
wrong
if the sex is good, a good relationship naturally follows
true to an extent. but sex can be a side thing from all that.
usually if its a big deal. sex just won't happen. and both partners are like.
>"uhhh whats going on?"
I guess it depends on the girl/guy. but generally sex is a stress reliever / fun.
this
two well-fucked people naturally live in more harmony than two suspicious, jealous, underfucked people
sex is the means, not the end
google oxytocin
I think the other way around. meh, what are you gonna do?
>whycantwehaveboth.gif
You know, you really are pathetic. I could list the books I've read alone in the last month, but why should I spend time justifying myself to a random retard on the internet? I'm not going to shut the duck up user :)
>there's your typo bitch
he hormone is greatly stimulated during sex, birth, and breastfeeding. Oxytocin is the hormone that underlies trust. It is also an antidote to depressive feelings.
bro_fist.
sex is almost the catalyst to a relationship.
its like
>wow this is awesome with you what else is fun we can do together
>lets do xyz
>omg
>this is great
>hey time flies
>lets move in
>omg
>its been 5 years that was fast and fun times
>sure we fight but damn I'm so attracted to you and sex is so much fun
>fuckk
then they have kids
your 'thoughts' are irrelevant to the nature of human bonding
sex came before 'relationships in history, thus it underlies the very dynamics of human coupling
no sex, no fun
no fun, no relationship, other than one of social convention
>I could list the books I've read alone in the last month
proceed
did any of them contain words from a first grader's spelling list?
I weap for you
thank you for being a well adjusted human being, you're doing god's work user
>:)
>there's your typo bitch
I sincerely hope it was
>cant be bothered to list books
>can be bothered to be snarky and fling insults like an ape flings shit
hmmmm....
>'bitch'
on par with 'nothin personnel kidd'
I'm actually curious now as to what this troglodyte 'reads'
inb4 incest manga
flawless advice, go with this OP
he probably reads copy pastas and sees it as reading 200 books a day
I seriously hope he is typing an extensive list of books 'he's read alone' (as in without help? lol) as we speak
awaiting your reply with bated breath, vaginal user
>inforinformation
>types 'info'
>nah, 'information' will make me sound smarter
fail