Hey, Sup Forums, I'm feeling a bit down. I'm seeing this girl and it's made me reflect on just how broken dating is...

Hey, Sup Forums, I'm feeling a bit down. I'm seeing this girl and it's made me reflect on just how broken dating is. Anybody care to share their thoughts and not just shitpost or hate on me?

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Just broke up with my girlfriend of 7 years tonight... Dont know what to say really other than Yes, all of it is currently broken.

But, so are most aspects of American society.

what happened to make you realize its broken? penny for your thoughs nigguh

Things are only broken if you think they are or if you have convinced yourself that blatant biased normals are actually normal because man and everyone has boughten into that. You're falling into a far worse circle if you are getting depressed by not being what society expects you to be. You are becoming a number and you are just making this relationship into a decimal.

whats so wrong with dating?

Nothing is wrong with dating, necessarily. I've just run into a few girls in my life that have this hang up about a previous hurt and they're emotionally unavailable. I just wish people would open up to something new rather than put something else on a pedestal.

That sucks about the brake up after 7 years, btw. I'm sure there was some good in there to last such a long time. May I ask what happened?

7 years is a long time. That's tough. I've been there. 6 years and loved the girl. Only thing you can do is time and distractions. Also you need to have a firm date set to delete all memories of this person. No fapping to them or looking back and thinking about the good times and covering what lead you here. Gotta clean break that shit. If you know there's no chance to get back together honestly you gotta set that date.
But don't buy into the bullshit. The stupid fucking tv or internet play books. The fucking get your ex back. The fake there's only one. Don't buy that shit man.

You make a good point. There's nothing wrong with being different. That's not what bothers me, it's the fact that I've played it really well and yet the shadow of some former douchebag is too distracting to this girl.

I have just the song for you newfriend. Just don't let it depresss you about emotionally empty people. Dig the lyrics my guy

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I agree. Sure, the idea of fixing something is tempting, but once something falls apart putting it back together is just painful. It would be easier to move on if finding near-perfect mates wasn't practically impossible, I know.

Those are some tight lyrics, man, thanks for sharing!

What gets me is how picky I am and how absolutely crazy I get for one girl at a time. Friends all end up saying the same thing, fuck someone else and move on, but that doesn't change the fact that I want her. It's not about sex, at least not just sex. I've been incredibly open with this girl, too, but I'm starting to wonder if the conventional wisdom of "sincerity and candidness are unattractive" holds any water.

I just don't understand why everyone, both male and female and whatever other gender there is now, seems to go after the unavailable. The assholes, the cold, the selfish, they always seem to hold the attention. The more you give, the less people care. I just don't want to end up being a source of energy to be abused and drained. Been there before, it was devastating.

You have to ask yourself why would you allow yourself to be second place. Do you think that lowly of yourself, to be put on the back burner? If you make a girl your second option what does that make that girl to you? Not a priority. So now think these rolls are reversed, so what are you? When someone relegates you the first question should be why, followed by why would I do that, then after you realize the reasons you'd do that. You follow those feelings up and you'll know where she's coming from. If you've ever broken a heart and didn't even mean too this is the same thing.
Your lesson.
Put value where value belongs.
Don't get sucked into the instinctual hunt or bullshit competition with yourself that you need to possess something you think is unattainable.
Even the princess shits bro. Remember that.
You don't treat them bad but you don't trip over yourself to treat yourself bad either.
Peace out amigo
Long day tomorrow.
Best of luck but set a date on blocking if you're honest with yourself and know it ain't to be.
Take care

Thanks for the sound advice, friend! Hope the day goes well!

I'm gonna post porn for a while to keep this thread alive. I could use some more feedback.

So what do you guys think about that? See, the thing about priorities to me is it's difficult to determine what another person values. We all put importance on different aspects of a person.

K one last thing after your last post. Look at your energy as a blessing. You persevere regardless of these emotional vampires. Dude don't be depressed cause you have the light. Share that shit and feel good that you're brightening up other people's darkness. Be happy you have the strength but know when you need to cut the vampires loose. If you stay positive things will work out. You just have to look at what you're bringing here. You're not bringing the fucking darkness. Misery loves company. Two people love nothing more than to complain about how bad shit is. Why do you think when someone unloads their baggage on you the first thing they do is shrug and say they feel better. Cause you just took some of it in a metaphysical way.
You can play the pack mule but once they're gone around the corner shake it off and get back into the light. Give yourself some credit amigo.

Hmm, maybe it's to a bit to late to host a thread like this. I appreciate the input, guys, have yourselves a good night!

Thanks for that, it actually resonates with me quite a bit. I've learned lately how people transfer energy and I'm happy to be light for people. I can't help that I want a bit more out of relationships, though, but staying positive and seeing where it goes is the best options. It just takes a hell of a lot of strength haha

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