Do you have friends?

Do you have friends?
How involved are you with people besides your immediate family?

I have no friends.
I have colleagues who I get along with very well, but no one I socialize with outside of work.

Anyone else like this?

Pic for attention

how old user?

>Do you have friends?
No
>How involved are you with people besides your immediate family?
Not at all

>I have no friends.
Me either
>I have colleagues who I get along with very well, but no one I socialize with outside of work.
Same

>Anyone else like this?
Yes

NO. You are all alone in this.

50

Whos pic related op? And moar plz.

Thank for playing user

Im 43 and exactly the same

Just an old 4chin pic, no more sorry

no not none yes

>Do you have friends?
Yes.
>How involved are you with people besides your immediate family?
Not very other than gf.

>I have no friends.
>I have colleagues who I get along with very well, but no one I socialize with outside of work.

>Anyone else like this?
Yes too much effort to maintain close friends. Always wanting you to do shit when you just wanna chill.

Has it always been like this for you?

When I was really little i had lots of friends.
That declined as i got older.

Portman's ass because

>50
It's tough to have local friends when you're old. You'll have a lot of acquaintances but few close friends. Everyone gets so busy with their lives and families when you're in your 30s and above.

I recommend finding a hobby that has social aspects to meet more like-minded people.

Like joining a D&D/Pathfinder game. Or joining a hiking group, which has a lower chance of making close friends, but will help you be active.

Anyway, for myself (35), I have almost no close local friends, and most of my close friends I made in high school and college. It's hard to meet new people I really enjoy. A lot of my work colleagues are boring as fuck.

And my wife is pretty awesome so I love hanging with her, and it decreases my motivation to meet new people. But I'm working on it. I know I'd enjoy having some local buddies to pal around with every now and then.

Thanks for sharing.

Most times I just want to sit and play vidya
Some times I'd like to have someone to chat but anxiety makes me avoid contact

Anyone else have anxiety issues?

>Anyone else have anxiety issues?
Yes. Big time.

Daily mindfulness meditation helps. As well as long walks (you can meditate while you walk as well)

ever since puberty. i got the autism and a resulting aversion to social contacts. i'm 41 for what it's worth.
it is what it is.

Anexity sucks I had it when I was younger and made myself work through it, it's gone now. I have no problem talking to and making friends I just choose not to.

I had some very close friends. Things went to shit, now i stopped going out and see others rarely but it's not the same kind of closeness and affection. I was involved, now i'm not. With any of them.

Only 1 who I go to the gym with still from the school days, but thats all we do.

Other than that just colleagues and tinder

Thanks for the advice.

I definitely see a parallel between age and decreased likelihood of making new friends.

I'm the same way. I'm 33, no real friends, never had a significant other, just acquaintances at work. And I barely can tolerate my family.

Am I an Aspy? Or just asocial in general?

Cool, I do the walking thing too.
Sorry to hear that, hope things get better for you
Good to hear you've overcome it

I did too. But a divorce made things very awkward. Wound up distancing until I don't even see or talk to them anymore.

Sad story and stuff but you've got more of the girl?

Well in this case it was a mistake on my part that made things collapse... now i just don't feel like going out or see people, i mean, i still try to have human contact, but i only have superficial relationships right now. Sorry for your situation btw.

What was your mistake?

I'm the same mate. Outside my family i have 1 freind. He's been my best mate for the past 15 years. I have no problem chatting to ppl n meeting new ppl but I can never turn that into a freind ship. So I have 1 freind n i worry one day he won't wanna be freinds anymore. And il end up as a hermit one day with literally no one .

>Do you have friends?

I have acquaintances who I hang out with every couple of months.

>How involved are you with people besides your immediate family?

Not very. I see my dad every couple of weeks and maybe a couple of times a year I'll find someone to fuck... but other than that I don't give a shit. I was in a relationship for 6 years and learned that I prefer my own company.

I'm an unemployed NEET because I'm fucked in the head so don't have work colleagues. Having said that though I have a lot of free time, so I pretty much spend all day learning things.

I see socialising as a waste of time that I could be using to better myself. Hopefully one day it will pay off.

Sorry, no

>I'm an unemployed NEET because I'm fucked in the head so don't have work colleagues.
How do you make money to have a place to live?

Is there someone at work you'd like to become closer to?

Have you tried inviting them over for a bbq, or go out to a dinner, etc?

I've basically started hanging out with my brothers friends. I had quite a few but many moved, started a family, I had a falling out a few years ago with what was my man crew at the time.

So I basically have a handful of fringe friends now that I see each of maybe once a year and my brothers friends, who are pretty cool. They threw a surprise birthday party for me the other week. I appreciated the gesture but it also made me feel kinda pathetic that I didn't have a single friend of my own there.

In high school and college I was very well liked I dunno why I can't seem to make new friends now.

Here's another question:
If you could "fix" your situation with little to no effort, would you?

By "fix" i mean having the perfect number of friends. Whatever it is that suits you.

I get neetbux from the government. It pays my rent and gives me enough money for food. Not exactly living the high life, but I don't drink, do drugs or leave the house often so it's not to bad.

I don't really feel like saying it. But i did not take care of myself in the mental health department, i thought i was just depressed but things got ugly when i got antidepressants and i experienced my first manic episode. Long story short i got in a sex and alchohol binge, fucked a friend's ex, said what happened to him and got isolated by all the group.

They said we will eventually work it out, but an year passed and it's pretty clear they moved on. I got a diagnosis and feel a little more stable now with therapy.

My kind of work keeps me traveling and away from home half the time.

Coworkers are from all over the states so that approach isn't feasible.

Nah, some slimy bitch tricked me into choosing her and her friends over mine and my fucking family then dumped my ass for some other fuck, now the friends hate me and my family is just tolerating me until I get a job and my own place again
Hopefully something shitty happens to her, fucking lying whore

Other than my missus, I've only spoken to 2 neighbours in the last 5 months. Don't have family.

Thanks for sharing

i used to have friends
then i realized they just wanted to sell me drugs
so i left them and got a job
now i mostly just ERP and show my nudes but its not real friendships
'how the fuck i get IRL network again

Well I'm glad you feel more stable now. Good luck, user.

Good to hear about your besty
Good luck

Wasn't actually the nicest pussy and dong isn't pretty js
Bitch

Thank you very much, i honestly appreciate it.

>Nah, some slimy bitch tricked me into choosing her and her friends over mine and my fucking family
>tricked me

Take some fucking responsibility for yourself, dude. Or else this same kind of thing will happen again to you. Take that time living by yourself to learn to be cool with yourself and your company, and then you won't be co-dependent with someone again.

I'm still in contact with some college people but nothing significant (facebook n shit)

To all you friendless chaps out there know everything you hold on to holds you back

What's a NEET?

It's already set in motion except I know now the entire mainframe's set against me.
These people entrusted me with critical information then spat on me and blamed me for getting upset, yet still I don't buckle to that because I know I can become something more horrific, which is cool as shit until some potshot wants a lick of it
I'm working towards complete independence again, in fact it'a invigorating, just have to keep spiteful catalysts online until I get what I want, which at this point who the fuck knows what that is

It's an acronym that stands for Not in Employment Education or Training.

Got 5 immediate friends and we're all pretty tight, and an outer group of 10 or so people that fluctuate which we hang out with every now and then

Can you elaborate user?

Thx

One of those monstrous counter-intuitive cid conclusions, basically acknowledgement that friendship only exists for selfish gain and it's always beneficisk to excise middlemen in that regard

That's great user.
Happy to hear it.

I've got 2 friends. I have a job where I'm required to be social but outside of that I mainly just do my own thing

>colleagues who I get along with
How the fuck do you think you get friends, dumbass? They are people you associate with that you make the effort to socialize with and you become friends. What you are doing is being an antisocial asshole, not a normal behavior pattern

>Do you have friends?
Yeah. A small group of close friends and then bunch of acquaintances that just kind of exist.
>How involved are you with people besides your immediate family?
A lot more than my actual family. I live thousands of miles away from my family so really only talk to them via facebook or text message.
>I have no friends.
sorry about that. Have you thought about trying to get involved with a nerdy social-activity like Magic the Gathering, or dungeons and dragons? They're a great way to meet other people who are also a little socially awkward.

Why make friends when you can cuck yourself into a chemistry degree?

I'd imagine that he doesn't socialize with them after work for reasons. Im the same. I get along with them but they have families (no time) bitchy controling wives (won't allow fun), live far away, very religious (and I'm not so clashing of personal interests) etc.

As i mentioned earlier, the people I work with live across many states. So hanging out at home isn't really possible.

Would you like to share your friendship status?

Lemme tell you shutin cases something because Ive been on both sides, been friendless and other times had dozens of friends. Its a choice you make and you make the bad choices because they are easy at the time. But when you are balled up on the couch on tears bc so lonely you forget that it was all your doing. Socializing is fucking fun and you are a retarded navel gazer seeking the path of least resistance to not see that. Get the fuck over yourself and relate and share with your fellow humans

Thanks for sharing and for the advice.
Glad to hear you've got a crew to hang with.

>loneliness
That's a sign of a non-split personality boyo

I am middle aged and had like 4 friends tho the best of them died. So not many, time to sow seeds. Made a friend thru work who had no friends or company, so it was appreciated. Now I leave the door open to meet and enjoy people and company and it gets better. Isolation is for monks with a higher purpose, its not meant for anyone else. Get back to work, people. Mankind is your business

HAHAHAHAHA

Yup, the distance is the biggest factor

Thanks for sharing user
Personally im not complaining, just stating fact and asking how others fare

Trust me man, friends are never worth it, they'll turn on you in the blink of an eye then strive to bring you down out of spite
What they're worth is what you get, and more often than not all they really want is power over you, so don't give it to them, no matter how seductive their bribes may seem

Thanks user, carry on.

Yikes, sounds like some harsh experience. Hope things improve for you.

>Experience(s)
And lectures from more knowledgeable sources
COOOOOOOCAINE is only fun for so long

Used to be total shut in, anxiety ridden, narcissistic, nihilistic, perma virgin. Became a crazy socialite retard. Now I'm happier than ever and people at least pretend to enjoy having conversations with me. I think I am better than everyone but I just try to be nice and shit. It's cash as fuck, I'm pretty sure I've made it.

Sounds like you never actually had any true friends. So don't give up.

Hard times will definitely show you who your real friends.

And if you have fairweather friends, you don't have to dump them completely. Just move them to a different, lower category in your head.

Now they are just people you hang with to have a good time when you want. No need for you to go out of your way for them either. But no need to dump them completely either, unless you just want to.

Then become a better judge of character you fucking pleb. Not all people are malicious, you just need to learn how to not be a social prey animal.

idk mang, stop having autism

why this pic horrify me

I agree with this

>social prey animal
Thats a very interesting concept user. I can see how that could work. I wonder how much of a factor that is in the widespread adoption of religion.
But that's another topic.

I don't need friends, as edgy as that may seem, all throughout my life I've learned to only care what I can get out of them as well, and now I'm just more comfortable admitting that to myself since the consequences for doing so are negligible at this point in my life.
Most people are snakes, I've grown to mind that less the more independent I become and I just don't really have the same need for them, they just project their expectations for how I should be into me and this has never felt authentically me since what's authnentically me is an adamant social reject
I will be, nobody hits me up anymore either since they consider me a fiend and eh, luckily that was just a reputation, who nobody really has a good one

I'm in the midst of becoming so, it'll be easier now than before so I feel the urge to be thankful when I'm genuinely not

I prefer theoretical physics, but chemistry is cool too

I can make the occasionally gril blush and hunger for my dong so autism is probably just cute to them, as if I actually give a fuck
Thanks for the advice though, I'll be sure to apply it later down the line

Teeher shelber
Something to study in the offtime but doesn't give me the right sources to limit everyone else's social importance from my perspective

I managed to train myself through the internet. I had a massive luxury of being able to isolate myself from society since I was around 13. Eventually came to the conclusion that most people will be pretty loyal associates as long as you reciprocate social value. Also that people don't hit you for being weird after the age of 16. Mostly that people don't hit you for being weird. Also that no one knows what the fuck is going on, fucking embody that. Literally every social standard besides being a fucking cunt can be broken if done right. God speed anons, I'm off to go meditate by some dank trees for the neverboredmemes.

Godspeed user

Do you like holes?

meh, the tree just looks spooky

Eeh, no

I have 2 friends that i hang out with every Saturday. We text during the week. I also have a gf if that counts.

>Do you have friends?
No
>How involved are you with people besides your immediate family?
Renting a house for an internship and the owner lives here, so I talk to her sometimes.
>Anyone else like this?
yes

Woah. Just got shivers down my spine looking at that

This pretty much sums up social reality. Some people are dicks, some are better- you just deal with it best you can, you need every kind of friend from acquaintance to bestie. But if ur lonely, you did something wrong that you need to fix. It takes time though you dont think of it that way bc its actually something you enjoy

Those double dubs

Yes, a gf counts
Good for you

Probably about 15 or so. I thought it was a lot less, so it's actually a nice surprise.

I don't socialize with my regular friends much because they live in another city. But I am pretty close with nearly all of my co-workers. A few of them I would definitely consider to be good friends now.

And yet I am still a fairly lonely guy, since I don't actually do anything with these friends that often. I also broke up with my long time girlfriend, and the only thing keeping me happy at the moment is just the general appreciation of life.

I take inspiration from a few places and it gets me by.

If it works it works, good for you

>Do you have friends?
My old friends(3) live across the country and we hardly talk

>How involved are you with people besides your immediate family?
Not, unless I have to be.

>I have no friends.
Me either. Usually my only real friend is a gf if I have one.

>I have colleagues who I get along with very well, but no one I socialize with outside of work.
When i have a job I get along really well with people.

>Anyone else like this?
Yes, age 32.

Damnit, I don't know what happened. I've always had a girl around but now I struggle to meet my standards with that too. Life is turning to shit to be honest.

Not to meantion they're all married and have kids and houses, and I'm still wrecking my life and being a retard while secretly wishing I had a family and shit together. Feels like shit, man.

mention*

Sorry to hear that user, I hope you find your strength and make things work for you

I only have a few people close enough that I'd consider actual friends who I hang out with outside of work. Plus I'm married, so I don't even want any extra friends or would have time for more.

The interesting thing though is I am always so shocked at how many weddings other people go to. I haven't been to a wedding in years, but I talked to someone the other day who has 11 weddings to go to this summer. Not that I want to go to weddings, but it makes me realize how isolated I am compared to other people.