I need advice from femanons.
>be me
>slowly approaching 25 years
>full on virgin
>never had a girlfriend
>never had my first kiss
>became a cynical and bitter asshole
>started to become one of those guys who would fap to anime
>my life is pretty much shit
>still live with parents, because i am studying
I am slowly giving up hope that my life is going to get better. So what should I do?
>kill myself
>give up on real girls and instead focuse on 2d girls only
>keep on trying
>give up on real girls and instead focuse on 2d girls only
That one.
My life is shit 19m
But I'm slowly realizing my life will get better
Going college in 1 month
Can't fucking wait
Was at home for a whole year didn't go outside once
Moved house and no friends
I was in your position once. I had deluded myself into thinking women were the problem. In reality, I was just too self conscious and insecure to try to get a gf.
Honestly just put yourself out there. Start working out and taking care of yourself. Try to dress nice. Look up alpha.m on YouTube. He's pretty popular but his advice is solid.
Once you've taken care of the basics, hop on Tinder or something. Sure, most conversations on there will lead to nothing but it'll help you with talking to girls. Most girls on there are dirty, so don't feel pressured to be white knighty. Just build your confidence up.
Next start talking to girls irl. Don't be creepy and hit on them. Just strike up conversation.
Before you know it, you'll probably be landing yourself dates (through Tinder or through normal life). It's more commonplace than you think.
You don't need to be a model or have perfect game. Just put yourself out there man. Ultimately it's up to you.
Get off this site and you will be happy
Have you tried men?
Dont be afraid of rejection. Seriously. Believe me when I say guys get points for trying.
Bro go to a church Sundays/Wednesdays, then go to a Pub at least once a week with people you know, you don't have to get smashed but just have one drink, maybe play a round of Pool (8ball) or something maybe darts. Just go back to your roots :)
>be me
>27
>not a virgin
>havent gotten laid in years
>fap to loli on the regular
honestly OP being a virgin means fucking jack shit. get a companion or find something else to occupy yourself
Thanks for the advice. I will try.
be happy that you dont have a gf, i am almost 19yo and spent last wednesday together with a girl and we were cuddeling on the couch and then i said to her
>i am waiting for the right moment to kiss you
and the replied >"maybe you should wait a little bit more with that"
it seemed like the perfect moment but meeeehhh....
and this cringy situation will haunt me forever i want to kill myself
It is kinda funny. Whenever I see people giving up on finding a girl on of these three things happen.
1. They suddenly turn bi or gay
2. They decide to crossdress and become either trans or traps.
3. They become weeaboos.
Please kill yourself.
been there before user... many times.
fuck. I need a drink.
Just hang out where you think people people you want to meet want to hang out. For example, if you want to meet mad NFL people hang out at a sports bar if you wanna meet a college ditz hang out at the college tav with a couple of mates (just for the first few times until your comfortable) and then go by yourself.
I never understand the weeaboo facination after being turned down.
>my life is shit 19m
Lmao you aren't even alive yet, faggot.
They basically have this emotional void and they replace that with fapping to hentai and watching anime and they start to believe that this waifu can basically fill the void.
tbqh this is normy bullshit
>women were the problem
the idea everything is always 100% your fault is ludicrous, more like you only have control over yourself so there is no point playing the blame game
>self conscious and insecure
What does this mean exactly? It seems you are saying that if nearly everyone is hostile and socially ostracizes and discriminates against you, you are a bad person for being upset by this and considering this to be a problem and should just accept it.
>give up on real girls and instead focuse on myself
Do this
it's because you can flee in another world where everything is perfect and you can also imagine having a waifu
What about 21? Am I fucked?
The fuck is a waifu?
People like this are the reason as to why the white race is dying out.
That is adorable.
A waifu is an anime girl that you love and have as a gf or a wife.
It's what forever alone faggots call often fictitious females they worship from afar.
Why, suicide of course. The only solution to any problem
Thank god qt. I have been stressing a fair bit I haven't even started uni yet (was a fucking NEET for 3~ish years) and was beginning to wonder if I was going to be too old
Oh wow. Humanity is weird.
unfortunately OP the idea of a natural woman doesn't exist anymore(unless ur in some 3rd world country). Girls want guys that take advantage of them and play a game of cat and mouse with their emotions, it gives off an alpha male vibe. Most girls nowadays want to be forced into a kiss instead of having one dropped all romantically so you're better off just fucking going for it otherwise they'll think you're a giant pussy because they've a;ready had a dozen guys do just that. I'm pretty sure most girls turn into woman and want an actual male that not only takes care of them financially BUT also gives into their emotional side when they're like 27, anything before that is fuckign rare with the slutfest nowadays. Especially on Tinder, if a girl has something like "NOT DTF" then she's probably into the whole "rapey" where she wants a guy to just go for it, it's extremely fucked up because whose gonna fucking risk that? Stupid guys that knock girls up that's who, that's what they're looking for, someone to put a baby in them and support them financially until they find something better. It seems like working out your problems together and compromising is a thing of the past and the vast majority of women will always be "on the market" at least in their heads even if they're married with children.
>Normy bullshit
That's what I'm talking about. By blaming the system that you perceive as unfair, you're creating the problem for yourself. You can either adapt and play along or you can refuse to play.
There are consequences for both - you have to decide what you can live with. OP clearly can't stand being lonely so it looks like his decision is made
Exactly OP, either play by the rules or fucking drown in loneliness like all the men who bitch at the system.
>what if life never gets better because i didn't get to kiss a girl
Yeah, suicide probably is the better choice.
>just go out and throw money away
whats worng with all of u anons?
where is the all of ur demotivators and commets like "haha u dicking dumbass ull die alnoe and get out from here with ur social problem u bitch?
Fucking pussyies
>pussyies
This is how I'm spelling this from now on.
>Reply
Move out of your parents' house and you will instantly be happier and more confident.
Fuck saving money or studying if it's not making you happy. Those are just excuses. Get a fucking job nigger.
fictional character u want to fuck
We were waiting on you to get here. Start us off oh edgelord.
>just stay home and be a loner w/ no connections
You kinda sound like my boyfriend.
Fap to the fake girls while also pursuing the real ones. You'll find a good weird one for yourself. Best of luck!
>Just go back to your roots
What the fuck are you telling him to do here?
>just go out and waste money
How do i not be socially awkward as fuck when i talk to grills
also especially in texting
Yeah I'd rather do this than piss my time and money away on other people.
Femanon here.
Honestly. As cliche as it sounds, shit will eventually pan out if you're really putting in the effort.
If you add me on kik I'll send you pics of my tits/ass with your name on Em?
Kik is YiffMoon
>grills
You speak in memes, start by not doing that.
yep what this user said, just pretend you're a normal dude with nothing too out there going on. Once in a relationship it's time to drop the weird shit
Strike a conversation about something they are interested in. move away from small talk as fast as possible. hey how r u. good u? good is probably the most boring conversation ever lol
>
Tits, timestamp, fuck off.
Heres a protip.
Dont be You.
just fuck a hooker already you beta shit, and stop fapping to anime jesus christ take a good hard look at yourself. start working out or something, unless you're a manlet then just make heaps of money.
>just stay in and waste your life
Its called making friends user.
Go back to old friends that know women. I'm making an assumption he's a beta who has no connections to women, so he should go back and re-forge old friendships with people who do have connections to women
OP is back. Sorry that I haven't replied. I would like to thank everybody that was kind enough to give me helpful advice.
>Go back to old friends that know women
How was anyone supposed to figure that out?
Pretty much this. Proper socialization is ingrained at an early age and how you carry that forward is determined by genetics and you proven success levels with other people. If your proven success levels turn out to be low or unfulfilling, you are fucked and there's no coming back. That "fake it or make it" line that people feed you is bullshit that they parrot to make themselves feel better about their success.
>false dichotomy
>Its called making friends user
Eh. Fuck that. It's called wasting your time and money.
He is basically saying get into the social atmosphere, and a busy bar is the closest thing to that highschool or college party feel, sans kids.
Thhough this is true, any girl i have fallen in love with, would rarely be at the parties i went to (so not the bar) or didn't party at all and instead were gamers, naturists, or fit
I basically look for someone pure of heart, not those jaded bar sluts. As i said, *rarely* seen at bar; anyone can be anywhere at any given moment
>naturists
What, like nudists?
You never say out loud that you want to kiss them you beta cuck. You just fucking do it.
Worst case scenario, she says no and it slightly awkward but whatever. If she tries to make it worse than that and make you feel bad,
YOU MURDER HER!
I bet you are fun at parties. This guy we be lucky to get with a fat alcoholic slut. In fact he should go bang a fatty so he can stop fetisizing sex and realize there are plenty of other reasons he's a loser before adding meat sockets in the list.
This.
The best relationships of my life were girls I met through world of warcraft, as dumb as that sounds. We go to know each other through something we both enjoyed, got close, got together irl, and there ya go.
I do apologize, I should have made it a bit clearer.
No its not
No its not, you'll get most jobs through nepotism
yes, it is
>you'll get most jobs through nepotism
What does that have to do with anything that I was talking about?
Networking is important
Yikes, thats a nice projector you have there, user
I've never found any value in it. People either get in my way or they try to take advantage of me. Nobody has anything to offer me that I want. We need a plague.
Some girls are into that.
I mean. Got kik?
Sounds like you've only met cunts
Why do you want advice from a girl? Why are you basing your happiness on them, whether it's fucking one or acquiring their input?
Everyone's a cunt.
The reason may not even to meet girls there, but to just do something. Sitting at home wont help him.
Unless OP doesnt like being social. If so, working out is the better choice.
Lmao no friend loser. Why don't you kill yourself? No one would care
I don't have kik.
You're basically to an adult what a fetus is to a baby.
Technically the same thing, but very early in the progression.
And you're think anyone would care if you disappeared? Hubris is an ugly thing.
You sound very autistic
Neat. So what?
Don't desperate. This type of shit happens bro..
Why, because I can admit that every last person is a worthless piece of shit whose existence is a burden? Okay I'm autistic then. Fucking parasite. Go consume, kill or fuck something.
Haters gonna hate
ITT normies ruin everything.
Anyone who is optimistic about relationships doesn't belong on this board.
...
Any other empty pop culture platitudes you'd like to share with the class, parasite? Please make it brief there's not much time.
Okay. Legitimate advice time.
If you feel like this you probably aren't emotionally ready for a gf regardless. I would focus on finding a friend first. Having someone who can sympathize to what you're trying to do can be very helpful. Once you find someone you can chill and laugh with you'll start to gain some confidence back. It's important to remember that you are still young. You don't need to be in a relationship, don't feel like your life is pointless because you're not in one.
I have read this 3 times and don't think I 100% understand.
But thanks :)
Leave the board, parasite. Go kill another parasite, do yourself a favor.
How to strike up conversation?
I have always had this damned fucking problem
>do yourself a favour
Look up "Conversation hooks" user. Those are how to keep a conversation going.
Get a hobby. I suggest human hunting.
Dude fuck you OP u whiny bitch. Fuck women and pussy. Woman and pussy have driven me closer to madness and suicide and made me so low.... noooo person on earth has made me more miserable than the women i have dated who treated me like shit and manipulated me out of 1000s of dollars cuz im a dumb ass retard with a boner. Consider yourself super lucky u whiny bitch. What YOUR MAD U DONT HAVE TO 400 IN CHILD SUPPORT FOR A SON WHO HATES YOU AND YOU DONT GET TO SEE AND 400 IN ALIMONY FOR THE NEXT 10 YEARS. Fuck outta here op
I got laid for the first time at 24 OP, it's definitely not too late.
Basically some girl strung me along for all of high school only to reject me after she went off to college.
I blamed her all the years for being a manipulative bitch and for blinding me to the other girls I wanted but at the end of the day I really feel like YOU alone are the source of all your happiness and sadness. You can't control what the world does to you but you can definitely control what you do in reaction to it.
Tucking yourself away on an imageboard is sure way to lose all ambition and desire to better yourself.
Basically after I gave up lurking (why I'm back is a different story) I then stopped giving a shit about girls and oddly enough they came after me.
Girls have a special intuition for desperation. You really just have to not give a shit and then you'll get laid. This especially means to stop being overly picky with who you want to be with and how your "first time" should be.
TL;DR man the fuck up and stop giving virginity so much power. Just DGAF and you'll be alright
I try to be more clear then.
Yes you're technically an adult, but you're still so new to it that if you were a bicycle, you'd have training wheels.
Now I understand.
Keep on trying user.
Listen, to get on the path of manhood and winning you need to kick ass.
But the first one you need to kick is yours.
Here is a program step by step :
>Step one : to escape from being the omega you are you need to put you in danger; mommy and daddy give you money : don't spend it and put it on a special account; go find a job that needs you to stay up like working in a kitchen doing the dishes. It will be hard but it will socialize you and make you realize what value is money earned by real work.
>Step two : stop going on porn sites. Like litteraly. If you want to play with you little sticko-stick then try to think about some random girls you saw. Yes that one with the big boobs is just fine. But stop the anime. It is not real life.
>Step three : sport. user you sound lazy as fuck and I'm pretty sure you are also on a omega physical level. Fitness and diet are the solution. With the money you earned hire a coach that will kick your ass every two days to make your push up and abs. And don't go for the beach body type. Don't be that faggot.
>Step four : girls. Go on tinder, go out in bars and start talking. Try to be fun. Don't be autistic and don't make joke about anime. You will never find your qt 3.45 japanese girl who loves anime and video games. No no no. It is gonna be a normal girl who likes you for what you are (or becoming).
>Step five : repeat. It is pain in the ass but you need to focus. Don't take pride in being a fucking virgin omega neckbeard.
What are your studies?
How are you on a physical level?
Do you have friends?
I'm a total stranger to you but I want to believe you can make it.
Yes, exactly. Realise its that your brain not working properly that's causing you to have a warped perception of reality and try working on it. There are treatments for aspergers that you might find helps you be happy
Femanon here. First thing is to work on the bitterness and cynical shit because that won't attract a girl. Its very ok to like 2d girls but that will narrow down your chances of a real girl being accepting of that but there are girls who do! Dont give up hope OP because theres millions of girls out there! ^_^