Oh boy, ready for this one?

Oh boy, ready for this one?

> Be me, 35 years old, married to a 8/9 out of 10 25 year old for the last 6 years.
> She gets prescribed a drug 2 years ago that had some shitty side effects.
> Her libido is completely gone. Sex is painful for her now.
> Dr.'s say she may never get better, she now has vaginismus.
> Spend the last 2 years having sex only 3 or 4 times, terrible each time.
> She definitely isn't cheating and doesn't want a divorce.
> Still love each other, sad at loss of physical connection. I feel depressed.
> Earlier this year she suggests I get a mistress for sex. She's serious. Finally agree.
> Hundreds of messages sent through OKCupid, Plenty of Fish, Craigslist, ect.
> Meet and hook up with 5 different girls over the last 6 months, a couple more than once.
> The sex is pretty bland. Condoms suck.
> The effort put into finding these girls is ridiculous.
> Would rather have sex with my wife. Can't. Still love each other.
> Still need some sort of physical connection to someone. Can't get rid of sexual needs.

So, this situation sucks. What would you do? Would you keep trying to find a mistress, and what's a better way to do it? Or would you get a divorce? Is there another option here I'm not seeing?

Pic related, it's her.

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Why not find another drug?

She should be giving bjs weekly. If not, time to bolt. She should also be trying anal.

She's not putting in effort.

Blowjobs and anal!

Possible permanent damage cause thinning of the vaginal wall, thus painful sexual intercourse. Also killed her sex drive.

have you tried the butt?

We tried this. Not bad, but not sustainable.

Go to massage parlors. Get a decent massage and a handie for 100 bucks.

No handie in the world is worth 100 dollars

post pussy pics of her.. i would def keep fucking other chicks

Yeah, so talk to other doctors, maybe experts in the field and get other opinions.

Completely boring. And gross. And not safe. And eventually expensive.

Does she have a sister?

Massage plus handie. Usually a dollar a minute for a massage is standard, 40 buck tip for the handie. These women are real cocksmiths, they leave me feeling like I have no cum left in the tank

Went to 3 doctors, her side effects are real. We are also looking into legal action because of this.

If you can bust a nut just from getting a hand job then your sexual experiences must be limited. After years of wild raw dog sex going back to a "mutual masturbation" session ain't going to cut it.

Have you tried seeing a physiotherapist that specializes in pelvic floor therapy?

Actually have a Dr appointment for this next month, or something similar.

Super-cali-fragilistic-expi-vaginismus

I don't think you really know how good these women are. I am married, have sex several times a week, but every so often I need a mid 40s cocksmith working all the kinks out. Handjobs are better than sex sometimes since there is directed pressure in all the right spot and you don't have to do anything

BJ, handjob, tittyfucking.

There are alternatives.

Also, there are treatments that can often help vaginismus.

Bring the fucking whore home with you. Make her your cuckquean or simply have her join you guys, her clit still works right?
It's not that fucking difficult, if she is unable to take a dick and if she's OK with you fucking around just get her to want to fuck you and the hoes. When you're done you can even keep them in bed and have your three-way pillow talk

I've been to massage parlors all over the world. Handjobs are boring at best. Sex is necessary for a nut.

People enjoy sex with other people because they enjoy seeing that person enjoying themselves. It's like verification of that person's appreciation of who you think you are; e.g. someone desirable who can make other's happy. Find someway to do this and maybe you can stop being obsessed with the sex act.

To each their own. My first gf was a tiny jewess that stroked like she was parting the red Sea. Her pussy was nice, but her double handed handjobs were divine. I guess since my sexual life started this way I have always appreciated a good old fashioned

So I'd oral from you off the table?
What about escorts or sex toys (plastic pussys or ass molds)?
You've peaked my curiosity my friend.
Got more pics of your wife?

Fuck me this is shallow

Perhaps if you're a good boy all year long, you can write a letter to Father Vaginismus who might solve your issue

Yes this, need to see the front of your wife

Name of drug?

Serious don't get the problem she can do anal, hj and bj. Trying to find a slut to fuck is tricky. You will get some crazy bitch or AIDs.
You must be doing it wrong.

I would take her to other DRs. You said possible not Will Be. Also if she gets back to being normal you just opened a can you can't close as she will want to get dick. Go buy a rubber ass pussy thing, one of those real sex dolls, go to LV get a hooker, encourage hj, bj and anal. Does going down on her hurt her?

OP, still here, still looking for answers. This is a pretty awful situation to be living in.

Another pic.

Same age and situation as you. Try casual sex with coworkers. My young loving wife is ridiculously hot and fit as well, and has also told me too sleep around.

Front op?

anal with silicone lube
like srsly

Have her find you a mistress. You can then group play, she can blow you and get you revved up to plow the other woman

Find a little. Someone to have at your home that you two treat like a pet or whatever. Teach your wife how to be dominant with your new pet and you fuck the pet hard. Win win.

>pic related
or just start drinking heavily and kill you libido too, that way you can have a wonderful, purely platonic relationship with you wife

What will you do?

Directed to this faggot op
So we'll just disregard the alpha solution

Try some swinger sites with a unicorn looking for couple play .

Tits or gtfo OP.

I have the answers that you seek

He's not wrong though

Convince her you need a sister-wife to move in.
Someone you can be comfortable cumming into w/o condom.

I don't get it.

You love your wife.
But you also did fuck someone even tho she knew, and you know that this makes people really depressed.
She can't be with you anymore the same way.
Yet you would rather satisfy your sexuality with someone else and hurt her even more than go and fuck your hand during shower.

Like how can you be this fucking retarded?
Bitch get a fucking fleshlight or something.

God, you people are retarded af.

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Nice so far. Rip her little ass apart. Can she have kids still?

something off about those shoulders

I would definitely pursue legal action! Cruel and unusual side-effect. I feel bad for you bro; she looks like a stunner.

Is she bi? If so you might be able to get a ffm going.

she's probably a cunt who refuses pleasing him in any way since she now derives no pleasure.

otherwise she'd be alternating BJs and buttsecks and prostate-enhanced-jerk-off sessions for him. like any good frigid wife would do

Exactly this. I have a female friend whose husband developed a spinal fluid condition a year into their marriage. It means he's been in near constant pain and bedridden for the past 4 years. They can't have sex and she wipes his ass and feeds him.

Man up OP you dicksplash and care for your wife

Hello

This is a good chance to live sanctity in marriage for you. Yes, it's frustrating but a PURE love

A really hard thing to find these days

I am myself looking forward to couple with this cute asexual girl friend of mine. Im doing it because flesh gets old for the wise and sane and I want somebody that loves with her mind and spirit

wtf? oral/anal sex today not physical or what?

>wat do

Two options the way I see it.

A: find a new drug, with better side effects. I'd you can't then move on to option B.

B: you don't need sex, you need something sexual from her. Let's be honest, sex tends to be a bland thing if it isn't taboo or isn't with the person you love. But you can't have sex as its painful for her. So get her to try and put in the effort into doing something sexual with you, wether it's as simple as a Bj or a quick handjob. If she gets into it, get her to use toys on you.

Just because she can't have sex doesn't mean a sex life is destroyed.

Bait. Go kys, fag boi.

I kek'd

You cant buy a magic wand and a fleshlight and beat off together?
Get some fucking molly or acid or even weed, too, they even use molly in some forms of therapy, it'll be hella good for your intimacy and might lead to a libidinous atmosphere, but definitely kissing and cuddling

Uhm, vaginimus is 99% "curable". vaginismus.com/

Get treated for depression. Apart from that I have no suggestions. I would give up sex in any form to have someone I love and loves me back.

Is it painful to her if you give her oral?

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What was the drug that did this?

OP my math says you picked up this chick when you were around 29 and she was maybe 20??

What is your secret? I am in my mid 30s and want to land an early 20s fuck buddy.

Money???

THE PHARMACEUTICALS COMPANIES DONT GIVE A FUCK ABOUT YOU

your dr is too busy or doesnt care what he is prescribing

What this guy said OP
Your wife can put effort in elsewhere. Explain to her that you have needs and that sex with other women is just hollow and makes you feel more isolated from her. Explain that your understand that you can't have sex with her and that's fine, but also explain she could use toys, her hands, mourh etc and that you'd like to try some of it just to see how it goes.

Worse comes to worse you make a deal, she helps you out sexually even if she has no interest nor libido, and you try and help her out in other areas of her life.

I guarantee she will love you more and it will bring you closer togetaher.

>as for anal
Dont pressure her into it and don't make her feel like she has to because she can have sex vaginally. It will only make your relationship worse.

I suggest you find a gay friend and ask him to get you some "Poppers" and then get her to do some. It will relax the muscles, and then stick it in her ass.

how about
>travel to austria
>go hiking for the whole day
>later go tripping on LSD or shrooms in your beautiful little shack with fireplace
>just have fun

maybe shell forget to cramp her pussy everytime something enters when she forgets everything and stops being an asshole

Hey, OP, I'm in a similar position to you. Wife has low libido and Vaginismus. Has had it since we first met. I love her and wish we could have sex, but facts are facts and the medical condition is difficult. We've been together for 6 years now and I've only had sex with a mistress once two years ago. How do you even find other women? I've pretty much given up on it because the time, effort, and money isn't worth it to me. I don't even remember the last time I touched my wife sexually or even had desire to. She's become more like a sister/daughter to me now.

Not OP, but 'nice and clean' is all you ever need. Nice enough that you're fun to spend time with, clean enough that she isn't repulsed. Looks obviously help but this is honestly all you need, a decent personality and the ability to look after yourself.

>vaginismus

>Psychological

>According to Ward and Ogden's qualitative study on the experience of vaginismus (1994), the three most common contributing factors to vaginismus are fear of painful sex; the belief that sex is wrong or shameful (often the case with patients who had a strict religious upbringing); and traumatic early childhood experiences (not necessarily sexual in nature).

People with vaginismus are twice as likely to have a history of childhood sexual interference and held less positive attitudes about their sexuality, whereas no correlation was noted for lack of sexual knowledge or (non-sexual) physical abuse

well there u go, fix that fucking brain of hers. find a way.

can you reasonably put a fleshlight(just the sleeve) in her vagina? That might act as a dampener so you could fuck, she wouldn't feel the penetration probably, but if she gets off mostly through clitoral stimulation you could find something else to address that.

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> married to a 25 year old for the 6 last years
Stays 25 for 6 years.
Really makes you think.
No sex else get frostbite on cock.

Her sister can still take the spot

>This
Find a chick who would be both of your g/fs

OP here. Still reading and considering all posts.

is her problem friction or pressure?

anal?

Consider this you faggot.

>letting a psychological problem ruin ur sex life

tell ur whore gf to stop being a rape victim

Have there been problems outside of the bedroom?

ANAL

ECSTASY

A PARADE OF VIBRATING SEXTOYS

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GRADUAL INSERTION TRAINERS

>I can't read
He said hers is caused by thinning of the walls due to the drug, which causes pain.

let me ask u something op. how much has she tried fixing this problem

Let her pick a chick and watch

Sup Forums is turning into one of the biggest phylosophical debate of all time:
>Does she have vaginismus because of the drug?
>Or because she has a vagina?

You trying to say that trainees could have Vaginismus despite not having a vagina?

Teh butt

>anal
I like anal better than pussy because it's tighter.

Fuck phoneposting. Trannies

Why don't you respond to some posts before your topic ends up getting purged, OP?

Fuck bro, that sucks. It'd be one thing if it was just vaginismus but she still had her libido; then the two of you could tag team some coed or she could watch you bang teenyboppers.

I'd recommend getting a girlfriend, but even if wifey approves it and girlfriend is a literal saint, the 3rd wheel dynamic will be inherently dramatic and drive you apart.

I wish I could think of some way to help.

Nice wife, btw. Tits?

>condoms

mfw only dumb kids use them

Ovulation testing is the only way to go. My fiance and I use NFP and before, I kept bitches around until they passed STD and then did it raw and like a man.

Plastic baggies around my 7 inch mixed cock of Christ? Nah, son.

How do you know he's phone posting you fucking sperg?

Because that was me posting. I hate my autocorrect.

Do you want kids?? This sounds more serious than just fuckyfucktimes

You sir are a faggot, and very uneducated
>nah, son
So when's your 14th birthday user?

You should get an iPhone bro

what the fuck no its not you virgin

>mixed
So are you a sandnigger, half spic or a mulatto? Either way you are subhuman scum, should be wiped from the face of this planet