> Be me, 35 years old, married to a 8/9 out of 10 25 year old for the last 6 years. > She gets prescribed a drug 2 years ago that had some shitty side effects. > Her libido is completely gone. Sex is painful for her now. > Dr.'s say she may never get better, she now has vaginismus. > Spend the last 2 years having sex only 3 or 4 times, terrible each time. > She definitely isn't cheating and doesn't want a divorce. > Still love each other, sad at loss of physical connection. I feel depressed. > Earlier this year she suggests I get a mistress for sex. She's serious. Finally agree. > Hundreds of messages sent through OKCupid, Plenty of Fish, Craigslist, ect. > Meet and hook up with 5 different girls over the last 6 months, a couple more than once. > The sex is pretty bland. Condoms suck. > The effort put into finding these girls is ridiculous. > Would rather have sex with my wife. Can't. Still love each other. > Still need some sort of physical connection to someone. Can't get rid of sexual needs.
So, this situation sucks. What would you do? Would you keep trying to find a mistress, and what's a better way to do it? Or would you get a divorce? Is there another option here I'm not seeing?
She should be giving bjs weekly. If not, time to bolt. She should also be trying anal.
She's not putting in effort.
Henry Johnson
Blowjobs and anal!
Jose Nguyen
Possible permanent damage cause thinning of the vaginal wall, thus painful sexual intercourse. Also killed her sex drive.
Zachary Thomas
have you tried the butt?
Julian Reyes
We tried this. Not bad, but not sustainable.
Ryan Cruz
Go to massage parlors. Get a decent massage and a handie for 100 bucks.
Austin Lee
No handie in the world is worth 100 dollars
Zachary Nelson
post pussy pics of her.. i would def keep fucking other chicks
Josiah Robinson
Yeah, so talk to other doctors, maybe experts in the field and get other opinions.
Xavier Garcia
Completely boring. And gross. And not safe. And eventually expensive.
Samuel Brown
Does she have a sister?
Isaac Parker
Massage plus handie. Usually a dollar a minute for a massage is standard, 40 buck tip for the handie. These women are real cocksmiths, they leave me feeling like I have no cum left in the tank
Asher Smith
Went to 3 doctors, her side effects are real. We are also looking into legal action because of this.
Jeremiah Walker
If you can bust a nut just from getting a hand job then your sexual experiences must be limited. After years of wild raw dog sex going back to a "mutual masturbation" session ain't going to cut it.
Jeremiah Reyes
Have you tried seeing a physiotherapist that specializes in pelvic floor therapy?
Robert Edwards
Actually have a Dr appointment for this next month, or something similar.
Jack Richardson
Super-cali-fragilistic-expi-vaginismus
Carson Smith
I don't think you really know how good these women are. I am married, have sex several times a week, but every so often I need a mid 40s cocksmith working all the kinks out. Handjobs are better than sex sometimes since there is directed pressure in all the right spot and you don't have to do anything
Jace Hill
BJ, handjob, tittyfucking.
There are alternatives.
Also, there are treatments that can often help vaginismus.
Gabriel Hernandez
Bring the fucking whore home with you. Make her your cuckquean or simply have her join you guys, her clit still works right? It's not that fucking difficult, if she is unable to take a dick and if she's OK with you fucking around just get her to want to fuck you and the hoes. When you're done you can even keep them in bed and have your three-way pillow talk
Nicholas Sullivan
I've been to massage parlors all over the world. Handjobs are boring at best. Sex is necessary for a nut.
Brody Garcia
People enjoy sex with other people because they enjoy seeing that person enjoying themselves. It's like verification of that person's appreciation of who you think you are; e.g. someone desirable who can make other's happy. Find someway to do this and maybe you can stop being obsessed with the sex act.
Jacob Brown
To each their own. My first gf was a tiny jewess that stroked like she was parting the red Sea. Her pussy was nice, but her double handed handjobs were divine. I guess since my sexual life started this way I have always appreciated a good old fashioned
John Stewart
So I'd oral from you off the table? What about escorts or sex toys (plastic pussys or ass molds)? You've peaked my curiosity my friend. Got more pics of your wife?
Dominic Sanders
Fuck me this is shallow
Nicholas King
Perhaps if you're a good boy all year long, you can write a letter to Father Vaginismus who might solve your issue
Bentley Hall
Yes this, need to see the front of your wife
Noah Torres
Name of drug?
Logan Ward
Serious don't get the problem she can do anal, hj and bj. Trying to find a slut to fuck is tricky. You will get some crazy bitch or AIDs. You must be doing it wrong.
I would take her to other DRs. You said possible not Will Be. Also if she gets back to being normal you just opened a can you can't close as she will want to get dick. Go buy a rubber ass pussy thing, one of those real sex dolls, go to LV get a hooker, encourage hj, bj and anal. Does going down on her hurt her?
Gabriel White
OP, still here, still looking for answers. This is a pretty awful situation to be living in.
Another pic.
Tyler Jackson
Same age and situation as you. Try casual sex with coworkers. My young loving wife is ridiculously hot and fit as well, and has also told me too sleep around.
Joseph James
Front op?
Brody Carter
anal with silicone lube like srsly
Noah Nguyen
Have her find you a mistress. You can then group play, she can blow you and get you revved up to plow the other woman
Anthony Murphy
Find a little. Someone to have at your home that you two treat like a pet or whatever. Teach your wife how to be dominant with your new pet and you fuck the pet hard. Win win.
Robert Walker
>pic related or just start drinking heavily and kill you libido too, that way you can have a wonderful, purely platonic relationship with you wife
Juan Ramirez
What will you do?
Adam Bennett
Directed to this faggot op So we'll just disregard the alpha solution
Austin Sanchez
Try some swinger sites with a unicorn looking for couple play .
Christian Jenkins
Tits or gtfo OP.
I have the answers that you seek
Colton Sullivan
He's not wrong though
Cameron Harris
Convince her you need a sister-wife to move in. Someone you can be comfortable cumming into w/o condom.
Asher Hughes
I don't get it.
You love your wife. But you also did fuck someone even tho she knew, and you know that this makes people really depressed. She can't be with you anymore the same way. Yet you would rather satisfy your sexuality with someone else and hurt her even more than go and fuck your hand during shower.
Like how can you be this fucking retarded? Bitch get a fucking fleshlight or something.
God, you people are retarded af.
Asher Gomez
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Ryan Collins
Nice so far. Rip her little ass apart. Can she have kids still?
Michael Gomez
something off about those shoulders
Aiden Hall
I would definitely pursue legal action! Cruel and unusual side-effect. I feel bad for you bro; she looks like a stunner.
James Wright
Is she bi? If so you might be able to get a ffm going.
Connor Bailey
she's probably a cunt who refuses pleasing him in any way since she now derives no pleasure.
otherwise she'd be alternating BJs and buttsecks and prostate-enhanced-jerk-off sessions for him. like any good frigid wife would do
Dylan Hill
Exactly this. I have a female friend whose husband developed a spinal fluid condition a year into their marriage. It means he's been in near constant pain and bedridden for the past 4 years. They can't have sex and she wipes his ass and feeds him.
Man up OP you dicksplash and care for your wife
Brody Murphy
Hello
This is a good chance to live sanctity in marriage for you. Yes, it's frustrating but a PURE love
A really hard thing to find these days
I am myself looking forward to couple with this cute asexual girl friend of mine. Im doing it because flesh gets old for the wise and sane and I want somebody that loves with her mind and spirit
David Walker
wtf? oral/anal sex today not physical or what?
Hudson Cruz
>wat do
Two options the way I see it.
A: find a new drug, with better side effects. I'd you can't then move on to option B.
B: you don't need sex, you need something sexual from her. Let's be honest, sex tends to be a bland thing if it isn't taboo or isn't with the person you love. But you can't have sex as its painful for her. So get her to try and put in the effort into doing something sexual with you, wether it's as simple as a Bj or a quick handjob. If she gets into it, get her to use toys on you.
Just because she can't have sex doesn't mean a sex life is destroyed.
Jaxon Rogers
Bait. Go kys, fag boi.
Josiah Rivera
I kek'd
Brody Perry
You cant buy a magic wand and a fleshlight and beat off together? Get some fucking molly or acid or even weed, too, they even use molly in some forms of therapy, it'll be hella good for your intimacy and might lead to a libidinous atmosphere, but definitely kissing and cuddling
Get treated for depression. Apart from that I have no suggestions. I would give up sex in any form to have someone I love and loves me back.
Michael Lee
Is it painful to her if you give her oral?
Aaron Adams
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Landon Gomez
What was the drug that did this?
Ryder Ward
OP my math says you picked up this chick when you were around 29 and she was maybe 20??
What is your secret? I am in my mid 30s and want to land an early 20s fuck buddy.
Money???
Julian Cox
THE PHARMACEUTICALS COMPANIES DONT GIVE A FUCK ABOUT YOU
your dr is too busy or doesnt care what he is prescribing
Christian Parker
What this guy said OP Your wife can put effort in elsewhere. Explain to her that you have needs and that sex with other women is just hollow and makes you feel more isolated from her. Explain that your understand that you can't have sex with her and that's fine, but also explain she could use toys, her hands, mourh etc and that you'd like to try some of it just to see how it goes.
Worse comes to worse you make a deal, she helps you out sexually even if she has no interest nor libido, and you try and help her out in other areas of her life.
I guarantee she will love you more and it will bring you closer togetaher.
>as for anal Dont pressure her into it and don't make her feel like she has to because she can have sex vaginally. It will only make your relationship worse.
David Carter
I suggest you find a gay friend and ask him to get you some "Poppers" and then get her to do some. It will relax the muscles, and then stick it in her ass.
Benjamin Taylor
how about >travel to austria >go hiking for the whole day >later go tripping on LSD or shrooms in your beautiful little shack with fireplace >just have fun
maybe shell forget to cramp her pussy everytime something enters when she forgets everything and stops being an asshole
Hunter Roberts
Hey, OP, I'm in a similar position to you. Wife has low libido and Vaginismus. Has had it since we first met. I love her and wish we could have sex, but facts are facts and the medical condition is difficult. We've been together for 6 years now and I've only had sex with a mistress once two years ago. How do you even find other women? I've pretty much given up on it because the time, effort, and money isn't worth it to me. I don't even remember the last time I touched my wife sexually or even had desire to. She's become more like a sister/daughter to me now.
Lincoln Gonzalez
Not OP, but 'nice and clean' is all you ever need. Nice enough that you're fun to spend time with, clean enough that she isn't repulsed. Looks obviously help but this is honestly all you need, a decent personality and the ability to look after yourself.
Christopher Reyes
>vaginismus
>Psychological
>According to Ward and Ogden's qualitative study on the experience of vaginismus (1994), the three most common contributing factors to vaginismus are fear of painful sex; the belief that sex is wrong or shameful (often the case with patients who had a strict religious upbringing); and traumatic early childhood experiences (not necessarily sexual in nature).
People with vaginismus are twice as likely to have a history of childhood sexual interference and held less positive attitudes about their sexuality, whereas no correlation was noted for lack of sexual knowledge or (non-sexual) physical abuse
well there u go, fix that fucking brain of hers. find a way.
Aaron Morris
can you reasonably put a fleshlight(just the sleeve) in her vagina? That might act as a dampener so you could fuck, she wouldn't feel the penetration probably, but if she gets off mostly through clitoral stimulation you could find something else to address that.
attached file for example
Owen Jones
> married to a 25 year old for the 6 last years Stays 25 for 6 years. Really makes you think. No sex else get frostbite on cock.
Aaron Walker
Her sister can still take the spot
Jordan Powell
>This Find a chick who would be both of your g/fs
Oliver Sanchez
OP here. Still reading and considering all posts.
Christopher Carter
is her problem friction or pressure?
Adrian Taylor
anal?
Christopher Gomez
Consider this you faggot.
Camden Richardson
>letting a psychological problem ruin ur sex life
tell ur whore gf to stop being a rape victim
Julian Collins
Have there been problems outside of the bedroom?
Leo Collins
ANAL
ECSTASY
A PARADE OF VIBRATING SEXTOYS
69
GRADUAL INSERTION TRAINERS
Lucas Gray
>I can't read He said hers is caused by thinning of the walls due to the drug, which causes pain.
Michael Wood
let me ask u something op. how much has she tried fixing this problem
Anthony Williams
Let her pick a chick and watch
Jackson Gomez
Sup Forums is turning into one of the biggest phylosophical debate of all time: >Does she have vaginismus because of the drug? >Or because she has a vagina?
Ryan Morales
You trying to say that trainees could have Vaginismus despite not having a vagina?
Sebastian Jackson
Teh butt
Tyler Sullivan
>anal I like anal better than pussy because it's tighter.
Justin Mitchell
Fuck phoneposting. Trannies
Samuel Ramirez
Why don't you respond to some posts before your topic ends up getting purged, OP?
Gabriel Carter
Fuck bro, that sucks. It'd be one thing if it was just vaginismus but she still had her libido; then the two of you could tag team some coed or she could watch you bang teenyboppers.
I'd recommend getting a girlfriend, but even if wifey approves it and girlfriend is a literal saint, the 3rd wheel dynamic will be inherently dramatic and drive you apart.
I wish I could think of some way to help.
Nice wife, btw. Tits?
Carter Cruz
>condoms
mfw only dumb kids use them
Ovulation testing is the only way to go. My fiance and I use NFP and before, I kept bitches around until they passed STD and then did it raw and like a man.
Plastic baggies around my 7 inch mixed cock of Christ? Nah, son.
Justin Sanders
How do you know he's phone posting you fucking sperg?
Jose Harris
Because that was me posting. I hate my autocorrect.
John Sullivan
Do you want kids?? This sounds more serious than just fuckyfucktimes
Nicholas Turner
You sir are a faggot, and very uneducated >nah, son So when's your 14th birthday user?
Ryan Price
You should get an iPhone bro
Logan Morris
what the fuck no its not you virgin
Luis Torres
>mixed So are you a sandnigger, half spic or a mulatto? Either way you are subhuman scum, should be wiped from the face of this planet