I'm 21 and i've been in a relationship for 3 years now. For almost a year now i've felt like I want to be single...

I'm 21 and i've been in a relationship for 3 years now. For almost a year now i've felt like I want to be single. My girlfriend and I were both virgins when we started dating and she is the text book example of a nice girl, but she has major self confidence issues and that's one of the reasons why i feel like i can't leave her.
The sex is okay, but she is so vanilla and i have all kinds of fetishes and other kind of shit i want to experience, which we have talked about but nothing ever happens since she is too shy. I am really good friends with her and we get along nicely but it just feels like a friendship at this point.

Should i let her loose or will I regret it later? I feel like at the same time I overvalue the relationship since it's my first and on the other hand undervalue it since things are good for me apart from the sex.

If she has self confidence issues, get rid of her man. If shit spirals downwards for her that's her own doing bro. For the long run it'll be worth.

I went through this. value the friendship and stay with her. nothing else is actually worth it.

dump her. then give me her number. also, her nudes.

stop watching porn for 6 months and see if you still have those fetishes

does the thouggt of growing old with her and caring for her when she is sick make you feel warm and fuzzy?

you were the first dick for her on the cock carousel
you ruined her life
sorry user
being a slut was her destiny
what will yours be?

haven't got a single nude from her so good luck

honestly, I mean it's more about the fact that it makes sense to be with her right now but in the future it feels like i will miss out. There are things that we don't agree on like having kids etc which is kind of a big deal honestly

Went throught this as well and I regretted it a lot. But it got better after a while and I got to experience my fantasies and I also got to know myself a lot better. I think you'll be better off with some time alone.

It's a gamble if you leave her. Are you attractive? In a general sense. Physically and mentally. If you look decent and have a good amount of desirable traits (smart, good job, going to uni for something badass and have a plan for employment, really good artist, knowledgeable about interesting things, good conversationalist, etc...) then it's worth the risk. Basically if you think you are capable of upgrading, then do it. Unless you're emotionally dependent on the girl, then that might fuck your life up.

Don't forget to try to make lots of friends. That's the best way to meet girls.

Cut ties before it hurts you, was in a similar situation recently

I had exactly the same problem. I was in the same boat as you. We met in college and stayed together throughout. Sex was vanilla but I got it whenever I wanted. I contemplated breaking up but I knew it would destroy her. We were very good friends because she was so cool. Very shy, very nice.

I have to tell you man that I married her. She makes me very happy and that's the bottom line. If you love her, don't let her go or you will probably live to regret it. Maybe not. But I would have for sure. Life is short. Be with someone that makes you truly happy.

Instead of being retarded why not just tell her you are into kinkier shit, its tearing your relationship apart but you love her but shes gotta meet you on this one or walk?

I was straight with my wife that I like threeways. She knows before her I lived with two women and dated both. She eventually got to a point where although shes not into it, she lets me troll bars with my ex finding an extra chick to fuck. She knows I greatly value that and wont fuck it up, and Im shitposting on /b as we speak after fucking my ex and a girl we picked up in Starbucks for the past four hours

Go talk to a couples therapist. Yeah sex with other people is great, but there is no guarantee you will get it. Fix the problems in your current relationship rather than reading them for a set of new ones. You'll be happier - speaking from experience.

pics? damn. always wanted a starbucks girl

I have talked to her about threesomes and such but she doesn't want any of that and i believe she could honestly drop the whole "I can live without sex" thing any day.
We have talked about the things that I want to do but the thing is when push comes to shove it doesn't happen. It just feels so fucking primitive to base my entire relationship around the fact that I want to fuck something other than her and it feels so wrong to end a good relationship just because the sex isn't fulfilling enough. The worst thing that could happen is that I waste the relationship and end up in the same spot with another woman.

Haha shes a college girl in Starbucks, doesnt work there. Shes some halfassed Zumba type. Id love to drop nudes but shes on /b and that puss would go poof.

My wife was honest when we started talking and said shes into once a month with how stressed/tired she is. She lightened up when she realized she didnt need to put out except when she wanted to. Weirdly enough we have more sex than before we started.

I was in a relationship like yours a long time ago. When push came to shove they didnt do anything because they liked the comfortableness of thw relationship and didnt want to be fair and honest & end it or compromise. Its a huge red flag boyo and no matter how it ends thats not someone you wanna hitch your wagon to. Other fish in the sea. Look in kinkier dating places like OKC/fetlife if you want kinkier shit.

When you put it that way it does make sense. I've felt like an asshole for thinking the way I do, but on the other hand she's neglecting my feelings. I've been soft towards her because she always flips into a defensive mode when we talk about things and i let things slide.

Exactly. This is how you will negotiate for the rest of your life? Negotiating isnt a negotiation if one person is asking for something and the other person is shutting their concerns down.

Retard inbound for ever asking ForeskinChan for advice

I was in a similar situation a while ago. I'd been with the girl through most of high school and a year of college. I finally broke up with her after I realized that I actually had several girls that were clearly interested in me even though I knew it was not really a healthy relationship. It was really hard to finally get myself to break up with her but the actual act was surprisingly easy. I felt terrible about hurting her and that lasted a few months but I've been dating a girl since then (~4 years) and am way happier with her. We've explored some of my kinks and can fuck other people if we want (both of us are generally too lazy to bother it seems).

My ex clearly wasn't really compatible with me and I'd known that for years. She was far too stupid and soft. There was no exploring any kink either. In retrospect, I think I just used her in a lot of ways. I have no regrets about breaking up, it allowed me to be much happier. The biggest motivator for me was probably sex though. I felt pretty bad about that for a while and it prevented me from leaving her sooner, but I came to realize that sex is a pretty fundamental part of any relationship. If your sex life isn't at least adequate after a few years, it's going to cause problems.

Again, my main advice is if you won't have a hard time getting into a decent relationship in the next few years, then go for it. If you're not content with your relationship to the point that you're very seriously considering breaking up, then you really ought to break up.

Shes sounds great keep her just slowly bring it in....otherwise ho houses

You have to be an idiot if you can't get good advice from here. There is tons of good advice here. You just have to be sharp enough to be able to separate the bad from the good.

I was in the exact same situation. If you don't feel passionate about her you are wasting your time and affection.

don't just stay with her because you are scared. if you feel like you want to be single now then its not going to get any better down the line. go fuck some other people.

Are you fucking kidding me are you me?