Quick and Dirty Relationship advice/Q&A thread. If you have a question, ask away!

Quick and Dirty Relationship advice/Q&A thread. If you have a question, ask away!

Older anons help younger anons etc.

i hate myself, how do I get a gf whilst haiting myself. and due to excessive internet I have developed a cuck fetish, wtf. Will it fade perhaps if I get out irl more and actually get a gf?

Where do I meet girls? I live in a small australian town and everywhere I go I just see older people. Every girl I meet who is my age (20-25) is taken.

same question as him,i want to stick my dick in a vagina

Dating websites or go to a place with more people

If there is anything I am thankful of, it's that I have not developed a cuck fetish. I can't even imagine

You have to stop hating yourself user. You need to recognize what that feeling means.

It means that you need to change. Whenever we hate ourselves, whenever we feel sorry or feel tired and trapped, it's a signal for improvement. It's the brains way of trying to tell us to wake up and do something. Anything. As long as we'l deem it important.

Something is currently wrong with your life, and you need to figure it out and fix it. Because you cannot get or maintain a relationship with a gf while you yourself are broken. It just isn't possible.

So start with improving yourself user. Learn a skill. Read a book. Get a good job with purpose. A purpose that you like. Learn to cook. Get a hobby. Talk about said hobby. Get fit. Eat right.

Then you will find that you don't hate yourself anymore. You'll find that you actually are alright with you are.

That's when you can get a gf. That's when you will ready.

Never stop user.

Oh and as for the cuck fetish. Stop consuming cuck porn. Don't become obsessed with it. It will fade, especially if you move onto another kink or fetish

I am going out with this girl that I don't really like and it's not that hot just because I am horny. Should I just dump her or keep smashing for the sake of it?

>Where do I meet girls?
Have friends introduce you... everyone knows a single "good" girl (sister, friend of a GF, etc)

+1 to this user.
I've been following this and life might be shit, but still feels good to not hate myself anymore.

Keep smashing until you find a girl you like more. Then dump her

My girlfriend of 4 years doesn't like sex.
It hurts her.
We were each others first times and over the years we've basically stopped trying...
I really love her and she lets me watch porn and jerk off as much as I like, gives handjobs, etc. But...for fucks sake...I don't have sex, although I'm in a relationship...that's somewhat even more depressing than not having a gf.

The only choice you have is to either use online dating, or to go into town every week.

Small towns tend to have people pair off quick, and while there is probably some for you in that small town, the chances of you getting togeather or knowing one another is slim.

So o suggest going into town and picking up a hobby that you like. That way you get to meet new people, expand your dating pool, and have a chance at meeting someone who shares common interests with you. That is the best way.

You could also date online, but I would avoid things like tinder if you can.

oh god this is terrible advice...

D U M P

Make it clear to her that the relationship isn't going to evolve and that really you just want to be fuckbuddies or FWB. If she stays then you still get to smash while looking for another gf with no strings attacthed. If she leaves, that's fine as well.

You shouldn't string along this poor girl just because you want to fuck her user. Not only would that make you a shitty person, but it can come back and bite you in the ass later.

I don't think I could.
She's an atheist, gamer, clever, fairly antifeminist, blonde, DD, nice girl who completely accepts all my kinks which took long for me to admit to her.
Besides...I love her, honestly.
I don't even know if there's any advice that could help me, I suppose I just wanted to vent.

Not to say, that those traits are inherently good. Just fits with me and is not so common around me.

If you really love her, and I mean truely love her, then you'll make it work together.

Sex isn't important user, but a healthy sexual relationship is.

First things first is that you have to understand that more than likely you will never have sex with her. You have to accept that that is fine. You can't force her to have sex if she doesn't want to, and you cant put her in a position where she feels like she has to. That is the toughest part about all of this, and that's what you will have to accept one way or another.

Once you've understood that, you can realize that sex isn't important. Sexual relationships are. Reading what you wrote, it sounds like you don't feel sexually loved, that both of you aren't putting in enough effort and it's clearly affecting you. You both are putting in the minimal effort because you've both sort of giving up, and that's not good.

So the second step is to talk to her about it. Explain to her that what you do now isn't enough, that it isn't working for you. Explain to her how you feel. Explain to her that it isn't her fault (and it isn't), but that you want to improve your sexual life togeather.

Then you work at it. You find things you can both do to get eachother off. Have the expirences of sex without actually penetrating. So for example you do heavy foreplay, you rub up against one another like you normally would when having sex. You get close, you get naked etc. And instead of penetration she can hold a fleshlight in place ontop of her while you fuck it. It sounds weird, but it works. It's what I did forawhile with my gf when she had problems.

Try different things and try and make it work togeather. Hands jobs and jerking off aren't bad, but they aren't close. And that closeness is what you need.

After you've got that figured out, try and work with her to find out why sex hurts for her. There is a medical condition for it, but I can't firgure out what it is. Get it checked up on though.

Good luck user.

Canadaman#5989
can someone please help me get out of this self hate loop

Refer to Improve yourself and break the cycle. Even if you feel like it's stupid or isn't working, it will help

Thank you ill try

Good thread everyone. Gotta go for now. Hopefully I've helped.


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