What exactly is a friend?
I've been trying to get my life together and I really don't understand the friend thing. I'm forcing myself to meet people but i don't know how to act like a friend.
What is a normal frequency to do stuff with someone? Do friends text often? I can't tell when I'm being annoying or when i need to do more.
How do i person?
why dont you ask the person you're trying to be friends with instead of an anime imageboard
You do whatever you alone, but invite a person to participate. Example: cook for friends garden food for friends, fap with friends
well you got 3 ways as I see it OP
1. Kill self
2. Join the military
3. Go to school and attempt to learn something
A friend is someone who is
> A person you meet once in a while and/or keep contact with
> A person you enjoy hanging with and they like to hang out with you.
Hello fellow human how do i not act weird infront of you?
Yeah I'll pass
watch some my little pony, you will be better friend but youll be autistic as shit
I'm not a fucking neet
This op, i learned alot from ir but i dont let anyone know i watch it
Trying to not be autistic
sense getting a job cant work I suggest 1 or 2
well if ya got no friends and you dont know how to make new friends then you probably are autistic
Hes in denial still
No shit I'm defective I'm just trying to deal with it
are you a sociopath? i'm not saying this to insult you im actually asking if youve been diagnosed as a sociopath
I doubt i am
why do you doubt it? sociopaths often have difficulty associating with neurotypical people because they lack an understanding of common human emotions; unlike psychopaths, its not as easy for a sociopath to mimic them
First and foremost.
Nothing matters, whether you have a friend or not are trivial compared to the revelation that every state of mind is ultimately impermanent.
With that being said, is nothing matters, and we are forever stuck in this suffering, then we make things matter to us, even if in physical/metaphysical reality theres no basis for this. Like making yourself intentionally delusional just cause.
Now lets apply this to your case.
People that have friends, that make friends easy etc, have been in this so long that to them it brings them comfort, happiness, pleasure (for lack of better general words), they have accepted the idea of friends and friendship since they were children that it means something to them.
You may have not had friends, or you did and somewhere along the line you became isolated and pushed friends away, or thought about it alot and felt like you never needed friends, basically anything that made you feel like friends werent needed. And that is not a bad thing, and now that you are looking or trying for friends its harder cause yoy arent used to thay concept.
It takes time, but eventually youll find out and see how it works.
Its something that you really understand once youve done it/been in it long enough.
I'm not really antisocial I'm just a very very very very anxious person.
Quit being an edgy faggot
A deficiency of empathy for others would be more characteristic of sociopathic personality disorder. However, people can exhibit anti-social tendencies of general disregard for other people. But ya close enough. Psychopathy in regards to personality (not to be confused with sadism) is genereally characterized as a general hostility to others
i see, your anxiety is stopping you from observing how other people act
personally id recommend you took some sort of medication sparingly (SPARINGLY) to calm yourself in social situations, avoid stimulants like coffee, have a regular sleeping pattern and go out more if possible so you can better observe people
and read up on recognizable conversational and facial patterns along with gestures and practice them with someone you know or by yourself
hostility? a psychopath isnt always hostile i had a friend for some time who was a textbook psychopath, even if he didnt recognize it, and he showed no signs of hostility toward me or anyone else afaik
I abuse the shit out of vicodin right now but it's not really sustainabil.
I get out extreamly often. I hate it most of the time but I go out a lot.
It doesn't matter. No one lives up to that bullshit. They all will let you down. Rescue a dog or cat, they will be a true friend.
My current biggest problem is mostly a confidence problem.
I assume the worst so much that i just ignore my feelings at this point. That puts me on the social level of a retard beacuse i can't use any social cues.
When I'm not brute forcing it and I'm relaxed everything goes better and i act like a human.
So i see x group of people
I think Oh shit they hate your guts and maybe want to kill you
I know that's bullshit and i ignore all my feelings
Well now when i try to talk i have all the social awareness off a retard beacuse all that part of my brain is busy saying they all hate you.
if you hate it its not contributing toward battling your anxiety. what do you usually do?
I have to keep trying somtimes things go okay
what do you usually do?
Almost nothing
Hook and sinker
Bouncing my bullshit off you autists helped me build up the cuarage to text someone and make plans this weekend.
Stay fuckin awful and worthless Sup Forums
then id recommend you hang out more with one or two people who you enjoy being with or enjoy being with you so youre comfortable. if you trust them, make them aware of your anxiety, theyll understand
Eh I'm past that stage and need to figure out the next part
huh
You'll never find any real friends past high school. By that point everyone is completely and utterly out for themselves, and will have no time for you if there's no way they can use you in some way.
sadly i think this is the true answer for the most part
Offer to give them a handjob. That's friendly
The trick is to keep your use of one another mutual.
if you're a guy and your friend is a guy, don't text them for small talk. that's gay as hell
It's only gay if they're not really your friend. I call my friend all the time just to shoot the shit.
Maybe lonely no friend virgins such as yourself shouldn't give life advice.