I am Sup Forums's agony aunt

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Can't get my fucking life right.
Somehow can't manage to keep up with study in college.
Can't sleep naturally.
Want to fucking die.

I cant keep myself on track when it comes to studying in University, its starting to reflect in my grades. Fuck

I could give you some bullshit advice which would go over your head but no.. my advice is to take modafinil. It's a nootropic drug which helps you focus. It has helped me massively. I've always felt like I have ADHD/ADD tenancies but this drug legitimate makes you feel normal and 100% focused.

Modafinil doesn't make you smarter. If you have to write a report and you don't know what you're talking about - that's no good. If you have a task and you know what you doing but you suffer from procrastination, it works like a miracle.

I'm saying take it every day but take one before an essay and you wish smash it. Please don't take my word for it, do some research. Be responsible.

im 32 and it seems like i unintentionally flirt with my co-workers who are almost 10 years younger than me.
It seems like some flirt back because they think im young and around their age. (I have those baby asian face genes.)

i generally have low self-esteem so its hard for me to make friends outside of co-workers so maybe this attention is the reason why i let this go instead of telling them that i might be too old for them.

and yes, i know the whole ordeal is stupid and beta as fuck sounding.

TL;DR Girlfriend is terrible at life. Irresponsible, doesn't pay bills on time, doesn't cook, doesn't clean the damn apartment. I know I can do better. But shes loyal, pretty and shares a lot of similar obscure interests. Should I stay with her. Things between us are serious BTW.

Is it over the counter drug or does it require perscription

im in canada btw

In addition, Modafinil isn't a typical stimulant. You won't feel wired/tweaked. Your mind will be definitely somewhat stimulated however. So in regards to sleeping problems, sleeping on a dose of modafinil is problematic.

talk to her. say in a way that isnt threatening but also clear that youre unhappy with your relationship because of her irresponsibility. if she cares she'll pick shit up. if not, dump her, bullet dodged.

You sound like an entitled crybaby bitch to me user. Fucking talk to her and say she needs to step up and act like an adult instead of asking a bunch of assholes an Chinese cat board.

I'm pretty sure in most countries it requires a prescription. however, it is possible to order online. I've been lucky enough to have hook ups in uni circles, so it's on you to do your own research. It's definitely attainable if you want it.

I have an adderrall hookup should I just stick with that?

Staying with her will also mean paying over ten thousand dollars in student loan debt and she has a hard time keeping a job. I probably should have included that.

all the more reason to talk to her. youve got legitimate reasons for feeling wary, its not like youre being unreasonable here in any way

Absolutely not. Addrerrall is a hard drug, no too far away from methamphetamine. It's got lots of addictive properties and will definitely change your personality. Modafinil when used in moderation is reasonably harmless and simply clears brain fog.

Again, I urge you to research it first.

I need a fucking job

what/where are you looking for? how many applications have you sent out?

Its not doing it for me mom

eastern mass in culinary arts i sent out a lot

Aight, help a nigga out.
>Be me
>Old enough fuck you
>Brake up
>Shit hurts but you get over it
>Got over it in 2 weeks
>Feel good
>Ex (Lets call her Jade) and I are still friends
>She trusts me with her fucking life
>Comes to me today
> "H-hey user... You know that guy in drama that really likes me?"
>Yeah me and him are fucking bros
>"Yeah what about him?"
>"Well he dated my friend Summer for a bit"
>"Cool"
>"BUT-"
>Come the fuck on now
>"He sent some REALLY creepy texts to her"
>Take a quick look
>HOLYFUCKTHEMADMAN.jpg
>Bro was forcing her to be "more cuddly" or he would hurt himself
>Nigga actually had the scars
>"I-I think I'm afraid of him now"
>Im obviously fucking shook bc drama bro is a manipulator

So what do Sup Forums? Im in a pickle. Obviously hes fucked but I seriously thought he was a half decent guy

Do you love her? I know you might like her, but do you actually really love her?

The girl im with
>Weve had a child together
>We live together
>Shes funny
>Have alot in common
>i believe i genuinely love her

Now heres all the problems
>she used to drink alot and do drugs
>she doesnt work
>has vison problems so cant drive
>horrible parents so emotionally unstable and damaged
Heres the big one
>gave me hpv

I have too big of a heart to just throw her out, and im afraid of being alone, plus im worried ill never get to see my son.

What do OP?

Heart>Soul my guy

why would you leave her if you have a child and think youre in love with her? and it wont exactly be easy to find a new lasting relationship what with the hpv

Depends on what you mean by love. Do you mean the feeling of "being in love"? Because not as much anymore. Do you mean "care for her well being incredibly"? Because that I do. And I know if I'm not there for her, she will fail. And I'm a bit stuck on that. It hurts my feels to even think about it.

I never had a girlfriend and I want one. What do I do?

shit bait

Dress well, be in shape and have a hobby.

I ment like heart to heart straight butterflies love

Do the things that interest you, but do them in a place that you are likely to meet women. Also this

>be me
>not overtly nice, autistic to a fault
>depressed so not interested in anything
>friendless but I have nothing I like to bond with people over
>too anxious to join communities because I’m autistic and I say stupid shit and get ignored
>all of my interests are retarded and niche
>mad at myself for getting irritated at people for enjoying stupid meaningless things
>mad because I can’t enjoy stupid meaningless things
>have SO but make them miserable because I’m a lonely friendless faggot and everyone I talk to ghosts on me and then I shut down
>no conversation past small talk in years
>no irl contact with anyone but SO in 2 years
>I want to be vulnerable and have someone else be vulnerable to me
>for the love of god please give me a friend

So chemical reaction, fades away with time kind of love. No. Not anymore. Did in the beginning.

You dont even have to be in shape ignore that fag. Honestly the best advice is to be yourself and to put yourself out there. As long as you have self confidence and the least bit of charm, anything is possible

Im not baiting, I dont know what the fuck to do

I’m in the medical field and have essential tremor which affects my hands. It is mild but noticeable. How can I fix this before it pushes me out of my career?

Literally brighten up your life, go out for a run on sunny days, buy brighter clothes, see things not for what they are but for what they can be

Im so sorry

Weed. Shit will calm your shakes and keep you safe

You think all of the above because you're validating yourself within the validation system of people on a different mental frequency to yourself. A) Stop self-deprecating B) Stop measuring yourself against people who you think are your 'peers'.

Let's put it in simple terms. If you went to a party that was exclusively people who talk like you, act like you, have similar opinions, similar moral systems and sense of humor, you would have the time of your life.

Find your 'tribe' and your avenue/lane.. Happiness is about knowing who are you are being surrounded by the people where you belong.

Being in shape is more than physically appearance - although that is important. Being fit means having a good diet, which is also good for cognitive function to then become more confident/charming etc.. Not only that but if you're subconsciously insecure of your image, this is not a solid foundation for a healthy relationship.

>buy brighter clothes
I appreciate the sentiment but nigger what
I don’t want any more attention drawn to myself, and I’m sure my neighborhood will be better without a sad day glo Quasimodo bouncing around the streets.

What tips do you have for successfully keeping a solid routine? I can make routines and follow them but I always find myself going off track within a few months.

Google CBD

Honestly can't advise you on this one. This is a medical issue, see a professional.

It wouldn't hurt to experiment with natural techniques such as meditation.

I've been taking adderall for a bit now and it's been working great for me. I have adhd and it's allowed me to focus better and clears a lot of my anxiety. So far i haven't had any problems at all, should i be worried?

>Real shit
I am not attracted to Real, human females, it's only animated porn
>any ideas?

not the same guy btw

This is good advice I just can’t get past the point of breaking the ice
I must say something explicitly retarded every time because I’m always left on “acquaintance”
I just want a lowkey bro to come smoke weed and bitch about chicks and pet my dogs and shit
Hell im not picky, but I do agree I hold myself to absurd social standards

Swap out black for grey, sweatpants for jeans, hoodies for jackets and you will feel confident no time

I'm not a fatass but I don't really have muscle tone either so I could do that. Maybe the dressing could use some work too but I just might have shit taste and not know it, wouldn't know how to fix it either tbh. Wym by hobby exactly?

I'm more of a shut in to be honest, I don't know what I could do that I like, but do you have any places or suggestions that I can force myself to and get through?

Yeah I'm not in bad shape at all honestly, BUT my muscle tone isn't great and definitely can use work so I may try and work on that.
Here's where the problem lies...I try to be myself I guess but I draw too many damn blanks and I don't know how to be charming really. The self confidence could use work too, it's not like I'm scared but I usually don't talk unless spoken to because I never have anything to say and if I do it doesn't come out the way I want it to and seemingly fucks me up.

Anyway please anymore help would be greatly appreciated, I NEVER had a girlfriend in my life so bare with me

Do you have college or some shit?

If it's prescribed by your doctor then I can't really comment. However, I must say the pharmaceutical industry doesn't have your best interests at heart. I'll leave it at that.

If you're buying adderrall from the streets. Maybe it helps but don't self medicate. You're literally a ticking time bomb. Drugs lead to nothing. This is from experience.

Stop watching porn and only masturbate when you are horny or have an erect penis and an uncontrollable urge. Eventually your brain will rewire itself. Porn is very toxic to the mind because it releases unhealthy bursts of dopamine much like a drug.

Religion and politics. If you can find someone that shares those two things with you, You can make a lot of headway. Try a church or political group. If you are non-religious, look for an atheist meet up.

You need a confidence booster? Do a simple workout routine. Like SUPER simple. Something like 50 pushups matched with 30 situps, just as long as you feel as if you are making some sort of progress, you should feel good no time flat

It's prescribed. I also don't really have a addictive personality and i've never done any other drugs other than adderall. True you're not wrong about the companies. I'd never buy anything off the streets so there's that.

But my mind instantly hops to it, I can't even think of that girl I want to fuck in class

Porn isnt unhealthy fuck off, just spend a day maturbating like 7 times to that shit and youll burn yourself out.

Breakaway from him and reevaluate your friends that he introduced you too crazy people tend to hang around each other. He might try to hang around you, always make an excuse to why you can't hang out with him you really have to focus on your work or some gay meme. Find a new social group. Make sure he hasn't given you any bad habits.

Hes new to the campus, his only friends are us in the drama group, but I see your point. I'll try.

Social skills are something that need to be worked on like any other skill. You have to follow certain conventions to get along with fellow humans. The more situations you are exposed to, the more socially versatile you will be. Basically, work on it... go out.. go to clubs.. make small talk with cashiers.. etc..

By having a hobby, I mean have something you're genuinely interested in and passionate about. Genuinely - being the key word. It doesn't matter if it's guitar, maths, writing or poker.. having a purpose in life other than being your girlfriends lapdog is much more attractive and sustainable. Girls typically want to come aboard your ship. Not have some servant who rubs their feet.

If it's prescribed, I'm not going to try and act more knowledgeable than your doctor. Maybe think of a plan to not permanently rely on it. There are other ways of achieving similar effects such as meditation.

Maybe you need to see a therapist. You clearly have an addiction. It's no different to cocaine really. But trust me, if smack heads can quit heroin, you can quit jacking off to weird porn. At the end of the day, it's all will power.

I will do this, but shit that alone isn't going to solve my issues

At least you're in spirit

I want to do something productive but I want to fap first and my brother is sitting on the other side of the wall and idk why he can't do anything at home besides sit at his comptuer :( like go fix something there's plenty of broken shit around here, we're taking this nice property for granted and it's all gonna rot

at least I think I'm doing my part some of the time but fuck I just wanna fap to soemthing dirty so I can clean or something for my last couple hours awake for the day before I go work for 14 hours tomorrow

At least someone believes i can, but i can't afford a therapist, i can't even afford water from a well

I couldn't give a shit about politics and I really don't dwell in it at all.

I do believe in God though. You suggest I just go to a church and try to mingle there? Not good with strangers at all and I would most likely freeze or leave if left alone.

Fap then read a chapter of a book. It's impossible to open a book and not learn something.

For sure. I'd rather not rely on it forever, just need it for a year or 2 to get on track. Went undiagnosed for so long so i need to get back in the swing of things. My depression and anxiety stems from fucking up my life even though i know i'm reasonably smart, so i should be fine in the near future.

Here's the thing, I'm not so in-tuned with myself. I have no fucking clue what I have a serious hobby. I play stupid ass video games like a normal teenager and surf the web. Realistically there's nothing good for that

Absolutely. Attend a church group, go to church, ect. Great way to meet women. Try to bring family and friends. It'll make you better too. Don't go there with the intent of meeting women, go there with the intent of becoming a better person.

yeah I wanna tidy up my room a bit and then read some

I'm gonna go fap outside fukk it

My family gonna be poor af soon. Have some plans to make money, but i can´t find the motivation to even start. My life is so disorganized.

Good people like that only get worse with time fam nip it in the butt ASAP. Also maybe start looking at other clubs or hanging around somewhere else if you don't want to be around when the toxicity starts to show because trust me fam it will.

Yeah I'm sure you'll do just fine. Just never get detached from the fact that adderrall is a DRUG. You're altering your brain chemistry. If you take this shit long term it's going to change you 100%... for better or for worse.

Well you've said all you need to say. You're a god damn teenager who plays video games like the billions of other kids who think their lost, and unique.

I don't mean to sound like a dick but being a teenager is notoriously confusing and hard to comprehend. I'm in my 20s and still don't really know where I want to go but you're going through puberty/post puberty. You'll find yourself eventually.

Focus on yourself. As hard as it is, your families financial struggles shouldn't be at the forefront of your mind. You're parents (i'm assuming) are grown adults and should be able to carry themselves. If you must be involved.. use it as motivation to be successful. If they truly are going to be poor, you'll find motivation.

i want to have sex with you asap. how do i achieve that?

>come to my house in Leeds, england
>have vagina
>???
>profit

Unlucky, feelsbadman

Hey user, are you me? I can completely fucking relate.

HOW THE FUCK, can I stop watching porn?
Is is destroying my life, and my college grades. I don't work out because of it, and I don't have social encounters with friends. I'm not fat, nor am I messed up psychologically, (I watch normal porn, still get hard, everything is fine with me sexually), but how can I stop watching porn????

Thank you. I'll make sure to keep it in mind and not depend on it.

Just stop. Simple as that. Do some research, try and get it into your head that every bit of porn you watch is backwards progress. Get professional help if need be. No one is going to restrain you.

But I have massive gigabytes of downloaded content saved onto external drives.
What do?

Terabytes*

Reformat

Imo Delete it. Right now. Go delete this minute. You'll feel amazing. I know you can.

I feel like this is bait but obviously get rid. If a heroin addict sits on heroin, he will inevitably end up using again.

or you could always dump first.

That will just cause me to build it up again.
Fuck.

What I will do is encrypt the drive, and give the decryption key to someone I trust, and if I want to look at it, I can't.

I appreciate the help, I will be doing this.

You're making a shitload of assumptions.
>past puberty
>barely a teen, 19

When did I say I was lost and unique?

32, married with kids. Wife thinks it is okay to have sex once a month, maybe twice if I'm lucky. Shit's getting old fast.

Tired of porn, literally worn it out. Normal porn does nothing for me anymore. The only that turns me on is seeing pictures of girls I know.

I've been lucky enough to talk some girls into it but then I'm left feeling like a desperate perv. Most either won't send pictures over social media or they won't because I'm married. I know I'm not getting shit when they start asking "What about your wife, that's what she is for."

WTF do I do? Seriously, there are girls I would give my left nut to see nude..

I'm doing really bad in my last year of college. I am failing one class and I am depressed. I feel like nothing is going right in my life. I'm addicted to masturbation and I'm too fat. I need to lose weight and find a gf but depression destroys my motivation.

Talk about the intimacy issues with your wife. Tell her you feel like things are getting bad. If she doesn't want to fix things get a divorce.

I don't give a fuck about anything anymore and struggling to finish school. Any tips to keep myself going?

Been down the "talking about it with her" road on numerous occasions. I don't think she is messing around or anything, she just isn't interested in sex anymore like she used to be. Seems to be a common issue among married women.

One of the girls I was messaging actually admitted that another one of my friends - a supposedly happily married guy with a nice looking wife, had messaged her as well, and spoke of the same issues I'm having.

It's almost like these women decide once they are married and have kids, sex isn't important anymore. I don't know. All I know is I'm about to fucking lose it.

Get into a sports or fitness club and socialize with some of the people in the club. The social circle will help you keep going to the gym fam and the hormones released from exercise have been proven to help with depression.You could also try joining a club that is interested in what you are, the main goal is to get you out of your dorm and into some healthy socializing the isolation that comes with school life is really bad for your health. Also read up on nutrition look for sources from Australia since they actually give a shit about their peoples health over there, Americas health studies are laughably bad because most studies are backed by companies trying to get sales. Focus on bettering yourself and girls will come to you don't focus on getting into relationships since they'll form naturally and even if you got into one right now it wouldn't better your situation just distract you from how shitty it actually is for a while.

Thank you user. I think you are right that getting into a relationship will only distract, I've never thought about it like that.

Try couples counseling or seriously think about getting a divorce nothing good comes from an unhappy marriage. Also maybe try taking her on dates and hire a sitter or have your kids stay at their friends house. Try to rekindle the love man.

My best friend dog died.
Her dog was everything in her life. Growing up with it. What's the best way to support, Assuming I am somewhat socially retard?

Np fam I was in the same boat. I'm actually Schizophrenic and have serious social anxiety problems so I need to figure that out. I've just been trying to better myself before I get into a relationship because they eat up a lot of time and distract me from the things that I need to do to better myself. If I got into a relationship right now things would probably get really toxic for me.

I just really am unhappy. I have solid hobbies and am in school with a job but feel so bummed out

>My best friend dog died.
>Her dog was everything in her life. Growing up with it. What's the best way to support, Assuming I am somewhat socially retard?


Take her out for some Vietnamese.

>I'm actually Schizophrenic
Holy shit dude. I hope everything is going well for you. I know firsthand how devastating that illness can be.

Social semi-retard former fullretard here. Take her to a place with light human interaction hike, the park, a nice restaurant, or any place where no one will see or care if she is crying and ask her how she feels about the situation. Things will probably be really heavy for her just let her get it all out. Don't say things like cheer up or things get better. Try to understand and relate with her, show her she's not alone and that you care.