Hey Sup Forums. My dad died tonight, anybody else dealt with this shit...

Hey Sup Forums. My dad died tonight, anybody else dealt with this shit? How do you get past thinking of them alone and cold somewhere. It's doing my head in. It's 3.53 an and I can't sleep thinking about it. Help.

Acceptance

But he's dead so he can't feel alone and cold. It sucks but it gets better with time, remember him as he deserves to be remembered

Remember when he raped you? Consider this a good thing.

Don't have your own kids....

Are your religious?

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No, I'm not.

I'm trying.

Solid advice

Easier said than done, but you're right I guess

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Not bad user, not bad. Thx.

Very sorry to hear about your loss OP...
Unfortunately what happens beyond death is very much impossible to know. I don't believe that your father is alone and cold somewhere. I am not a religious man by any means, however I would say that if there was a 'soul' that animates our bodies, then his 'soul' would have simply left his body and would have either already entered a new host to animate or is currently waiting to find a new host. Like I said before, noone can honestly tell you what happens beyond the grave. However I hope you can find peace in what I am trying to give you here. I am sorry for your loss once again these times are going to be tough, but you'll come to adjust to him not being around eventually, it is what he would want anyway. Your father wouldn't want you to be moping around grieving his death for years on end. He would want you to toughen up and make him proud. Don't let his death be in vain, do something that would make your father extremely happy.

Goodnight OP

Sorry for your loss.

You can write down your feelings and thoughts in a journal.. You can also try to draw/paint your emotions - I know it sounds silly but it helps (me).

Yes, I'm trying to tell myself these things, and of course, it's not him anymore. Still, the mental image persists. Thanks for your kind words.

I do write sometimes, I will try that if I don't get past it soon. Thanks user.

Feel your feelings over this. The good, the bad, the ugly. Dont fight it. Submit

I have no choice right now, it's too real. I can't process it and get to sleep. It's in my face.

my dad died 3 years ago. i remember feeling almost...violated by it. like the notion was so unexpected and unnatural that it just couldn't be real. that whole year was a weird haze, and i was already trying to pull out of a nervous breakdown for unrelated reasons. I remember some days feeling numb. cavernous. Other days I would blow up at anyone about anything, and then other days i'd feel like everything was fine, just laughing and socializing and being perfectly comfortable in my skin. Those were the worst days, because come night time i'd feel so ashamed about being unburdened or not hurting. tore me to pieces.

anyway, i dealt with it by keeping myself around people. reconnecting with friends i'd lost touch with. being forthright about when i needed to be around people, or when i needed to be left alone.

youre going to be a weird mess for a while. that's the only unifying thing about how everyone grieves. everything gets messy inside.

as far as concepts to help you, regarding thoughts of your father being nowhere, what helped me was to think of the concept of reality being made of countless spreading branches, and i happen to occupy a reality where my dad passed. but there's a reality where he lived. and there's also a reality out there somewhere where my dad is still alive and well, and in that reality i still get to call his phone and hear him. im glad that reality exists, even if im not occupying it.

really good post

idk your dad dying tonight really didnt affect me, so i dont get how id even deal with it ??

>philosophy from someone who unironically typed "noone"
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solid advice

Right in the feels.

Sounds like you were denying your feelings and causing an internal struggle in ur brain.

I don't own many of these good advices that other anons posted. I just wanted to stop by and say that things are going to get better. But don't go looking for light. It will come when you are not looking for it anymore. Cheer up, pal. You got this

The fact that you'll stand in cront of yohr fathers coffin is testament that you both did it right. I hope one day my son will stand in fro t of mine.
You can worry about him but do so knowing it changes nothing outside of your head.
Feel sad but honour him for what he's done for your family and hope that you can do the same (or better) for yours.
There's nothing you can do but look after those who are left.
Good luck m8

samefag from prior post here. i dont think that's true. some days i'd cry my eyes out and sometimes i'd be robotic and sometimes i'd feel like it was just tuesday. i never forced myself to be numb or pretend to be happy. it just happened.