ok b im fucking hallucinating I'm so sick so we're going to all improve ourselves today
>blunt self improvement thread
you post a problem, I'll post my most honest answer. If you are not willing to hear new and unique ideas then gtfo tbh
I'm not here to lie to you I'm here to help you skip the bullshit and get right to the source
my answers are truth and fact to MY life experience. Your life will differ from mine. This is ok.
fire away b
I know i'm evil. Very evil and twisted, but it has taken me very far in my short time on this planet.
wat do?
you are not evil, or twisted. not even remotely, and I'm glad you realise that it has not aided you.
You have, for some reason(s) or another, developed an identity, or what many practices call an Ego. You've essentially designed a convenient suit of armor that plays off your own suffering.
Isn't that strange? You created this identity BECAUSE it hurts you. I will never fucking understand why the concept of Ego is almost inherantly negative.
It never seeks to you. It will only seek to stop you from existing to your fullest potential. One of the most empowering feelings is also one of the hardest to do, as you're essentially "denying your own logic"
being able to look yourself in the Ego and say, "this is fucking retarded" and remove it from your life, is the day you will taste real power.
Check out some Buddhist texts if this topic interests you. it has changed my life.
I'm always brutal and savage as fuck, I don't give a shit about people and I'm addicted to my gf's pussy. People respect me and others fear me. I have my own place and a 70k job, wat do?
How do I escape my limitations? In a world where genetic limits limit our potential. I am not exceptional. I am not special. I am not that great. I can't even attract a mate. Not tall. Not strong. Not particularly good looking. No matter how hard I try, I'm average at everything I do.
How do I escape my fight?
How do I live as more than a puppet tangled in strings?
It's not possible. I am trapped. And so are you.
Escape by accepting that you wont
I can't.
You cant cant
Sleeping now
same as what I wrote above, this, to me, is a form of identity or Ego that you have chosen for some reasons or another.
What is the point of constant violence and "savagery"? We're not hunters and gatherers. There's no primal danger when you walk around outside.
Being "addicted" to your gfs pussy is a worrisome sentence. If you lose her, if she dies, if she dumps you.. guess who's going to feel like a giant entitled baby because his CHOSEN ego was bruised? You, man.
If your life is so stale and normy and built around the expectations of the common mass, then you and your identities will work well together.
If you're tired of always being angry, sad, hateful, and jealous. If you're tired of being a literal beta slave to your own emotions... then fucking change it.
Self improvement is under every rock, around every corner.
It seems as if my entire life is controlled by my anxiety. I'm always worried and overthink everything, I never have the courage to talk to people or stick up for myself, I never try out new things, I can't focus on simple tasks, and I spend all my time doing stupid shit instead of being productive, pursuing my interests, or otherwise making something of myself.
How do I get my life in order and stop being such a damn puppet to my anxiety?
So I’m really into this girl and we connect really well but there’s a few problems
1st is when she texts me she’s really bad, like takes hours to respond. At i thought she was ignoring me i don’t think she is
2nd is that she’s moving a couple hours away soon which could be an issue cause we’re both younger
Just wondering if i should go for her
Side note she wants to see a movie or something this weekend, just the two of us but it was never specified as a date
I have no issues or self improvements, I live from day to day, slaying puss like an alpha. wat do?
only action i can get is from a married chick.
paranoid that my previous job will find an error i made and sue me for all i'm worth and more and ruin my life forever.
constantly bored and nothing is keeping my interest
yes user, we are trapped, and there is great beauty to be seen in that very fact.
You're clearly screaming to let this suffering go, right? You want it to change. the constant inferiority. the outcast feelings. loneliness. jealousy.. contempt for life...
I still struggle in that avenue, but I've never felt more hopeful that it's possible to break free from. As I explained above to these anons, Ego and Identity comes as a form of attachment. You have attached yourself to the idea that you are inferior, and in one fell swoop, you made it your reality.
You chose those limitations.
So many cultures and spiritualities look at the idea of our "origin and true power" some even believe that we are manifestations of a one Divine energy.
In this historical set of beliefs, there is nobody more important and powerful and meaningful than you... and you.. and you, and me, and him.. and her, too.
I built myself so many limitations and have myself all these little "suffering" trophies like 'I'm depressed' and 'I can't do that because i have anxiety'
literally handing myself my own limitations. The hardest part is realizing you have the power to fucking stop.
pretty sure there is some ridiculous same-fagging going on in here. And ofc. not a shred of truth or knowledge.
this attitude is banned here user.
"i can't" is an identity of suffering. You're choosing inferiority for yourself in this moment. What else could you choose, I wonder?
if Quan Duc can set himself on fire and not move a muscle, I think you can get rid of some ego clothes that you've put on
Show feminine penis
You sound like you're 12.
Stop worrying about women who don't text back, it doesn't mean any more than she's not some tween girl who's addicted to her phone, this is good.
Continue to text the current girl and mirror how she responds, but text back a little quicker. If things progress you're fine.
Continue to text other girls and meet them.
It's a date, but you're not "dating" or whatever label, you're just hanging out because you might be interested in eachother. Don't get all fucking weird. Just wear your normal clothes, brush your teeth, don't use mouthwash or anything strong smelling. Don't fucking use axe. Don't bring a condom, I don't think you're old enough for that. Ask if she has a movie in mind. Don't text that it's "your treat" or any of that bullshit, just offer to buy snacks or some shit there.
God speed user. Oh and try to read her body language. If you aren't sure, don't push, but feel free to knock her leg with yours a bit, whatever, just don't spill the spagehetti!
>Why is my dating life so horrible?
I'm 24 and i've only had one girlfriend for 2 weeks about a year ago, her boyfriend was verbally abusive and wanted her to be someone else she wasn't
She was pregnant before we met, and decided to keep the kid
Later on I run into a slut, red head tomboy(can't say no)
Had sex, tried chasing her as a girlfriend
but she was chasing her ex who was a self destructive nihilist that got herpes from a meth addict then said addict died
She dry humps him after we fuck, then cuts all ties
Glad I didn't get her though, she was a on a different level of stupid
I just didn't wanna feel alone
I'm a crippled faggot wat do?
Hi user. I see you called someone a "faggot" I'm assuming you meant this jokingly, but I've been mulling this over in my head for several minutes and it does not sit right.
Let me please (re)iterate you on this word. Not only does it aim hatred at a large group of people that I myself and many of my friends are a part of, the word has the power to tear down and undermine a fight that we have been fighting for decades. I don't know where you stand on the issue, but I'm assuming you value your rights to equality as a citizen of this country.
You may think that this is only a word, a mere configuration of letters, but this word is the foundation that keeps LGBT people held in the depths of inequality, while men like yourself toss around hateful slurs in a joking way thinking immaturely that you are immune to hurting anyone. This is not true. Next time you throw this word out (however jokingly and privately you may thing you are using this- in this era NOTHING is ever private), think about those who have struggled for the right to feel safe in their own country.
The word "faggot" creates a hostile environment and makes many LGBT people feel unsafe around those who have enough power in society to use such words. Don't make me feel unsafe. I have a right to my safety. And although I have tremendous pride in being a mature, strong, bisexual woman, it really sucks when your words get in the way of my pride. Thanks for your attention.
I meant it literally OP.
Read question again.
Thanks man, but I’m far from 12 lol
Just the first girl Im interested in since a really shit relationship i had a while ago so I’m just a little weird about it
Thanks tho
same here user. anxiety ruled me for a long time.
I sound like a broken record now, but read some of my above responses about creating identities for yourself, and egos.
If submit and say "I have anxiety" then you have just given your anxiety ego more power.
Do leaders become elected because people forget about them? or because we feed them our attention and energy?
Energy in - energy out.
Anxiety is trickier though, imo. Recognizing that it can create an ego doesn't change what the sickness is at its core.
It is your bodies natural response to an unnatural environment.
Consider how much technology has shaped our world. Do you know your neighbors? Do you go to parks, and socialize with people of your community? Do you go into the woods ever? Do you walk around? What sorts of food do you eat? How is that food made?
Everything you subject your body and mind to, will become part of you. Be aware of what's entering your body. Every billboard saying "buy my product"
"no, buy mine instead!" go here. shop here. look at this phone number. look at these colors. LOOK. LOOK. GIVE ME YOUR ATTENTION.
our culture is dominated by the idea of capturing your attention. When so many waves of thought enter your head 10 times a day.. 1000? 100000? You begin to wonder just how choppy your Waters really are.
The use of psychedellics is the only way I know that can push you beyond your limitations. It can free your mind, and calm your Waters, forcing you into the Here and Now. This is scary to us.
It is an alien feeling, and that is terrifying.
user, look up Monkey Mind idea, mindfulness practices, and also, just be more alert of how much you're demanding of your own body. Its not invincible.
Blow jobs, hand jobs, and rim jobs
Get creative, take note from porn
I'm straight but worked in my towns gay district in a sex shop
One a gay dude and his hot chubby black chick friend (really into BDSM) came in,
Turns out the gay guy had anal cancer and his boyfriend broke up with him
That guy was better off without that douche bag
RESPOND TO ME FAGGOT
I'm so lonely
Become a fanatic.
buy a rifle and train with it.
carry out a assanation.
and perhaps you can change history
first, suggest a different date idea, like an adventure, or a craft like painting. A dinner is too forced of a social interaction. there's no "escape" at dinner.
Don't take her to dinner first. Give the date some space. that makes everybody more comfortable.
Secondly, what the fuck do you mean she's "bad at responding"? I wasn't aware that she is a means to an end for you? It almost sounded like you liked her until I read this. Is she your possession? Can she not have vested hobbies and interests that occupy her time and she's not able to text her prince charming on demand??
Does she owe you an explanation for all her actions? is she not an individual, just like you?
Women are not aliens user, they are people. If you're interested in dating them, you're going to want to enter these situations with a WAY better mindset.
What you're describing is a surefire recipe for her never talking to you again. Monogamy can be incredibly backwards thinking. If distance is going to shatter your love, then you're not in love.
Anything can work for you two. It's your partnership. The only rules that apply are the ones that you BOTH agree on.
if you don't love yourself, don't try to love another. Help yourself firstly user, and watch your happiness BLOOM.
You're never not in control.
Work hard and keep at it
No one is born a success, they work towards it
It sucks, but it works
TD;LR BUST SPOOKS
im secretly cheating on my wife literally since we've met. should i stop?
Tell her, she needs to know the truth
i have a goal in life but just cant bring my lazy ass to do it.
that is likely because your interests are all invested outwards. Have you taken a look inside, yet? most don't even know how or what that means.
"lay not up your treasures where moth and rust doth corrupt" is a biblical quote that i find a lot of power in: Earthly desires, material pleasures, objects, people.. they all fade and wither in time. Time is a dangerous love to chase, for it will never stop running.
I suffer from an ego lain in time. I'm very critical of my self beauty, and as I age, guess what will wither and fade?
My physical beauty :)
but in knowing this, I gain nothing but appreciation. I gain power.
Same issue
Do it as much as you can tolerate, and keep at it
QUIT IGNORING ME YOU PIECE OF SHIT
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Are you asking for replies? Maybe I'll write a response.
this user speaks a lot of good words. Don't jump the guns in ANY relationship.
You wouldn't date somebody who you don't like as a friend, right? So why not figure out if you can even be fucking friends first lol
what the fuck does this mean?
Finally
Thankyou
That's one of my real issues
...
In these situations user, there is always a turn, a road, a choice that we make in ourselves that makes the issue worse.
You sound very bitter of this experience. Don't you think that very bitterness has gone too deep, as to affect your very recollection of memories??
What is stopping you from looking back on these experiences, learning each lesson you can, smiling at the trials and tribulations that you endured, and continued to press on forward through this beautiful life?
Oh, yeah, the only thing stopping that is you and that crazy lil brain of yours ;)
seek out new avenues OP. ask yourself how these "drug addled whores" came into your life, and what you can do to prevent that from happening again. Try different social groups. try new things. get out into the world and explore god damnit
They didn't leave me bitter honestly
Just more aware of people can be
But I do need to go out more and expand my firends list
and the Slut didn't do meth, she had depression from bad relationships (Sex addiction)
She was cheated on with a meth head
do you want to continue down a life of dishonesty, knowing that every day, you're hurting yourself and a person you love?
that's up to you user. Deceit has never brought me happiness. It probably doesn't bring her happiness, either.
That's why you're hiding it from her. Because you're choosing to hurt her and that's a difficult thing to admit.
I've been in a similar situation user. When i admitted my treachery and fault, I was offered forgiveness...
what a beautiful moment.. to abuse somebody's love, and trust, and to still be accepted and loved by them.
that is a human being and a relationship worth cultivating. The question is always, are you happy with your current cultivation?
grow a garden user, and make sure to water those thoughts.
you answered your own dilemma. It's 100% on you.
Figure out what is draining your energy, and what gives you energy. Think back to the MOST meaningful times in your life, when you feel exhilarated and free.
focus on those. We need gas as much as any car... ours just comes very differently.
Aside from practical matters, is human interaction necessary?
>new and unique
>gives the most basic 'get over it' advice
that ones cute
you're upset about things that are.. just ok?
they're not even problems user. You're creating the problem, because that is Ego, and that's what Ego does best.
"boo hoo im sooo hurt, look how much pain I'm in, all these bad things keep happening to meeeee im so important tha that the world is personally attaching me boohoo"
is this a familiar internal monologue? Wouldn't it be nicer to be able to look okay those thoughts and laugh at them, instead of becoming them?
your choice, as always
awareness is an important feature for us. It helps us prepare for what may come, but don't let these "maybes" become reality until they decide to first.
use what you've learned to push on. You're not "too late" to dating. My partner is much older than me, and that's ok. He's just a person. that's why i love him.
can you imagine if I created an ego that judged his physical beauty? something that withers in time? What a good way to miss out on a beautiful relationship.
>782
Yeah, be aware but not dramatic or paranpoid
What the hell is the other half?
I can't get a relationship to begin with
That's why I used this anime to represent myself
A super cute girl started talking to me and shes totally interested but she has so much to talk about and im so boring. How do i talk without sounding like an aspergers mental patiant?
It is the most necessary thing in the entire world, if you're asking me honestly.
I have devoted my life to seeing humans grow closer. Technology has driven us apart in many unique ways, but it can always bring us together.
Could we have invented languages if we never had community? Would Technology exist if we didn't work together to create it? What is learning, if not the bouncing of ideas? What is technology if not an extension of our unyielding love to our fellow human? Why do festivals exist? Why do plazas exist?
Maybe a better question, user, is 'what the fuck else is there'?
Community is everything. We have suffered a dent in community. You can see this in depression, anxiety, child suicide, self depreciating memes...
we're suffering, and not enough people realize why. we need each other. Check out the Russian human deprivation experiments from the WW eras. Love is a requirement to our survival. That's not a doctor suess quote.
You can literally die from isolation alone.
when did I say get over it? Does it make you angry to realize that you're holding yourself back? Because it fucking should. It should make your skin boil until you rip those identities out of your life.
"get over it" offers no solution. I am doing my best to recommend relevant resources and topics to the anons of our thread
>does it make you angry to realize that you're holding yourself back?
you think you're a psychic now?
I'm a guy. I've been catfishing this lesbian girl for months. She says if she doesn't have me she'd kill herself, and I have reason to believe she'd follow through with that.
What do I do?
don't worry about what bad things may or may not have happened to you. If you don't feel like you're having any success finding friends and humans, then why not try looking for answers in the THOUSANDS of cultures that exist in the world?
or.. is your way the only way to live? ;)
asking questions can be a really great way of carrying a conversation. we love to talk about ourselves especially! Don't be afraid to use online resources to learn social skills if you feel like you're lacking some
seriously, don't beat yourself up over it. We play so many retarded little social games with each other, it gets tiring. I like to find the people that i can interact with without the predisposed BS that is small talk / social expectations
live your life user, not theirs.
You're fucked take the L and move on
Are traps gay?
Insecure as fuck, literally no confidence (struggle to talk to ppl when I first meet them/go up to ppl) because of this I've made like, 3 friends at uni since sept. Suffer from delusions a LOT, and sometimes feel psycho.
Wat do, OP?
Except for socializing I think most culture are dumb, even American
Ubuntu being on philosophy I like
And yeah, I live like the pepe pic/anime
Dam engineering school
I'm currently going through different medications for depression and anxiety disorders. Started the medication a few weeks ago. Past few days have been a rollercoaster of moods. I can't bring myself to do work. I can't barely do things that I used to enjoy such as vidya. This is probably temporary. But I am lost for now. I feel like I'm in limbo for an undetermined amount of time while life still goes on in the background. What to do?
I'm not a psychic. If you read my OP, you'd understand that I'm speaking directly from my personal experiences. Your life experiences will obviously be very different. Only you can decide if you're holding yourself back, however, you came into the "blunt honesty and ill hallucination" thread, so i figured you were seeking my opinion on it
and yeah, I think you're holding yourself back, if even my saying this upsets you, what does that, in itself, say?
offer her nothing but love, support, advice, and resources to heal, then, GENTLY explain that it is not acceptable for her to pin her survival on you. She's being immature, but i can't judge. I've been in her shoes, telling somebody that "if you do X and Y, I'll kill myself"
what a truly fucked up thing for me to say, isn't it? What a burden that must have been on her mind... What pain did I chose for the both of us?
ego is a strange thing. strange enough to use suicide as a bargaining chip.
suicide is serious, but so is emotional abuse.
Bruh im so fucking bored all day every day what can I do?
Before some very big events in my life, my willpower, and general quality of life, seemed much higher.
Less socially anxious, more patient, better with comedy, better willpower, better memory, better critical thought. You get the gist.
The memory wasn't as much of a problem before I tried weed. But the important part is that, it is now.
Everything feels cloudy. Solution where?
>im not a psychic
>im just making assumptions about you based on one post
lol
>if even me saying this upsets you, what does that, in itself, say?
i didn't get upset, I found it funny that you tried to throw random insults at someone hoping it would stick. if it did upset me it would say that i dont like being accused of things that arent true.
you're so simple minded.
see some of my above responses about ego and Identity. It's a huge crutch in our culture especially. There aren't many more relevant things I can say about creating negative identities than what I've said above.
Insecurity is frustratingly a choice..
the hard part is discovering why you chose it all, and then how you can take steps to choose a new path.
do you like feeling insecure? Nooo..?
Seek the change. it's everywhere. Explore the world. What even is "confidence"?
life is insecure. we're all insecure. You'll die, I'll die, life ends, and in that way, it's literally not secure.
so, if nothing is secure, what are you afraid of? You've only got this one life, don't be afraid if it :)
what's the worse thing that can happen? Somebody says no? then what? did you explode? did you die? is your social life shattered?
cmon, man.
no
>making assumptions
psychics say they are 'telling the future' or 'understanding you on a personal level'.
She is saying 'Im telling you the advice I can give you from my experience'. She's telling you to take it or leave it, for fuck sakes!
Psychics are completely different.
Take em off
I'm 20 and I feel like I'm stagnating, uni is putting quite a lot of stress as well as lack of friends (I have many acquaintances which feel like .jpg's just there but bring nothing into my life). Typical day for me is uni, gym, cook, study/play/relax.
What should I do about my situation? (I feel quite happy just feel stuck)
you are not lost, user, that is what those pills are designed to do. They make everything "just ok"
but, as far as severe depression goes, "just ok" is a serious step up.
My advice is to give yourself time. Decide if you're better than "just ok" right now. If you need them, that's good, use them as a TOOL not a SOLUTION.
the solution to anxiety and depression comes only from within us. From our minds, our poisoned thoughts. Our culture and lifestyle breeds these diseases. It's up to you to discover and learn how and why you are in so much pain.
If you ask me, the cure to anxiety and depression is quite simply self care, self love, and self respect. With those powers in your palms, you're free to color the world in beauty.
What a day that will be when you get there, won't it user? Go start tonight. jot down some quick ideas from my comment. prepare your next road out of this suffering, and don't forget your boots.
I've never been able to do good for myself on the behalf of others. Not able to face the facts that my actions could harm another human being (not even in critical moments). I've been beaten and made fun of. I wish i would be able of playing dirty and enjoying the benefits it brings. But i just can't.
curious how we can become bored in a world of few limitations.
try psychedellics, or traveling, or whiskey sniffting. Go explore. You're an explorer, and you're sick of the same valley that you've explored over and over.
Go to the next valley..?
i am severely addicted to cannabis right now, for the last 5 years. it's not for everybody, and that's ok.
I have written many things above on the topic of feeling sorry for ourselves and like our experiences somehow wound us. It's just not true.
Things happened to you. That's ok. Can you extract a lesson from it? Try it. Can anything more be done? then let go.
UNFORTUNATELY I HAVE TO GO ANONS, THANK YOU FOR TALKING TODAY. YOU ARE ALL CRAZY FUCKING DEGENERATES AND THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT MAKES THIS A COMMUNITY. REVEL IN YOUR ODDITIES AND STOP DOUBTING YOUR POWER. I L Y
>insulting me
>still in the thread
>not mad
c u r i o u s
No drugs.
its a guy
eeeewww
Hm?
Where did they say that?