My girlfirend of three years has been cheating on me for a whole year, withher boss, who's double our age. I'm 23...

My girlfirend of three years has been cheating on me for a whole year, withher boss, who's double our age. I'm 23, she's 22. For 3 years i gave her my everything, promised her everything and She decided some 40+ guys dick was more important.


The part that kills me though is what she said when I asked her why. Why she had done it. She said:


"user, I'm young. I'm 20. What's wrong with enjoying my years? Plus, you got depressed when your parents died. You stopped giving me all your atention. I needed to find that somewhere else."


"I didn't want to share you and you just had to take your brothers and make yourself a legal guardian. You changed me for them."


"This is your fault"


We had promised each other everything. She tossed it aeay without a moments thought.


Fuck Sup Forums I really saw myself with her for the rest of my days. Watching her smile when she slept. Listening to the beat of her heart after making love to her and laying my head on her chest, smiling in the park, the movies at home or a restaurant.


She destroyed me Sup Forumsros, was it that wrong ti be sad about my parents passing? Was it wrong to take charge of my brothers so that they wouldn't have to deal with family members who don't really love them?

If you're not making this up you should actually kill her.

There's no way this can be real.

But dump her ass, and send proof of her cheating to her parents.

Not at all, they passed a little over a year ago, and this is what she said after confronting her. I just feel drained

I wish it wasn't, I wish I could wake up and see her next to me. But it's not going to happen. She's with him now, and I feel like I've lost almost everything.

Hang on until your brothers are old enough to take care of themselves and then kill her and her boss. Try to get away with it but if you don't it's not like you have anything to lose

Deadass if this is real and u wanna talk hmu on Facebook Joey F e n I e l l o

I'm so mad I actually could, but is it really worth it? I wouldn't mind throttling her boss, but even thought she did what she did I don't know if I could hurt her.

Don't actually kill her boss.

He's a dude in his 40s who is probably counting his lucky stars to get anything at all.

The blame lies entirely with her. Dump her. If you've got what she said in text, screenshot and send to her parents.

Dude, you're a hopeless beta cuck. You have to fight back this time, or you will set a pattern of behaviour for yourself. The next chick will let you watch her fuck other dudes and the one after will let them fuck you in the ass.

She is woman.
All women are whores incapable of loyalty.
Therefore, your girlfriend is a whore incapable of loyalty.

If you dump her, know that every other woman is exactly the same way as her, and if given the opportunity will act the same way.

Knowing this, if you can get over her retardation, you might as well keep her, given that you already have access to her pussy.

For what it's worth, I couldn't get over betrayals like that, but I am now very aware that ultimately it is not personal and women act like this unless there are societal constraints against it. But in the West, men mistakenly gave women rights, so the only women available to men are going to act like whores.

Enjoy.

It was your turn and now your turn is over. Move on. It meant nothing to her.

Op is a cuck

I actually do have their entire conversation history. Im thinking about sending it to his boss and his family. Hers too.


I don't see how this makes me a cuck, I didn't enjoy what she did and I feel bad it's only because I legitimately love her. Obviously because of this whole thing I have no intention of even looking for her. I just wanted to vent and ask Sup Forums's opinion.

Hey dude,

I'm going through some similar shit.
Pretty rough breakup, girlfriend of 2 years, deeply in love, helped me so much through my mental breakdown.
Saw our lives together.

But she cheated on me, it's been 4 months now and I'm still fucking broken and I just think about killing myself all the time.
Some stuff happened after our breakup that was fucked up, and I won't go into cuz this isn't about me.

But dude, just hate her, don't worry about what she said, and try your best to not let it affect how you feel about yourself. It's hard, but it's so important.
Her actions are shit, and honestly don't reflect on you, regardless of what she says the issues were, a decent person would talk those things out and either try to fix them, or decide that they can't be fixed and call it quits.}
She is shit, and I know that for a long time know, you're going to be fucked up and confused, feeling like you hate her, but love her and miss her and can't go on without her.

I don't know if I can really say it gets better, but shit, lots of people get cheated on and move on, just give it time man, don't put pressure on yourself to feel a certain way.
Cut contact and just focus on you and your feelings.

Get back up,and become a man she regrets cheating on,healthy n satisfying revenge

I would rather leave her out of my life entirely.


If anything this is the most honest way of saying it.
Why?

This is the best course of action. You risk very little and will probably destroy many of their relationships

That's not a woman, that's a demon.

Cut all ties, abandon ship and save as much as you can for yourself to get back on your feet. You just had an encounter with the kind of evil that can grow and fester in human beings and twists them into monsters. That's the only accurate description of someone who would do such a thing, and THEN try and explain it away with some inane bullshit.

This is not a person you can rely on, this is not a person you can trust. Her smile was false, and she was smiling because, in you she had a sucker who will give her nice things. She took the first opportunity to try and get someone who may give her even nicer things.

There can be no future with her unless there is a profound change, and there's little hope in that (especially if she's attractive, she'll find some other sucker eventually).

Learn as much as you can from this experience, it can teach you a lot about human nature and how to tell of someone is using you. If you do that you can have a greater future than you ever could with her, just be careful that this experience doesn't grow and fester within you, and turn you into a monster as well.

I'm sorry to hear that Sup Forumsto, I hope things do get better for you, I don't thing anyone deserves anything like this. Thank you for your kind words. We can move through this, I know it. As hard as it is.

She’s just a kid. That’s great you took in your brothers and it was the right thing to do, but come on man, please tell me how you expected her to react to that situation

Not letting it fester might be the hardest thing of all. But I think.i understand what you're saying. Thank you user.
I know it's a hard situation to bear especially for a girlfriend/boyfriend. And I didn't expect her to deal with it like a champ or fully grown adult. But if she was unhappy if she wanted out or wasn't okay with my decisions she could have said something. Or she could have dumped me outright. I would've preferred that a hundred times over to her cheating on me for a Year

Not OP btw

Nigga are you real? You have to expect some remorse at least from your girl if she pulls this kind of shit, and blaming him for his parents dying and taking care of his brothers, that's the red flag of the century man.

In short, I would expect her to leave.

You have no idea of the EPIC DODGE you just performed. She was the size of a giant bullet bill. Fuck that shit.

Enjoy your life as much as you can. You might be depressed and shit so it's going to be hard, but you can do it, just focus on each day until things start to feel normal again.

After 4 or 5 years, she's going to break and you're going to be on top of your game without realizing it. Let yourself gain a few pounds then make them muscle. Get some money, it doesn't have to be much, dress well, make your room nicer every day.

Do not fap out of plain horniness or obligation, do it like you want to please yourself seriously, learn from it, learn how your body works. I've yet to see a faggot who doesn't think he knows his body completely at 18. Nobody does, we've all been there.

Whatever you do, just don't go back to her. I know it's like tying your balls in a knot, but don't do it. Delete her, block her number, instruct your friends kindly not to give you any message from her. Promise it to us Sup Forumsastards.

Do not get a shitty job just to make money, nah, get fishing for a place that you like and you feel comfy in, make it your own, climb, earn more in time; don't be greedy.

When you feel you've doubled your resistance against similar women, begin your search anew... go for a wife. It's not going to be easy but you can do it man.

AWALT.

Take the scar, move on, let it heal and don't make the same mistake again.

This. All she has to do was leave. And I would've understood. Hell I can barely handle it and they were my parents. I get that she can't. But she decided to pull this.
I guess that's seeing the silver lining in all of this, thanks Sup Forumsro. I will try. I will move on. I just jeez I wish she had a bit more sense. I just don't get it and I don't think I ever will. All she had to do was leave. Say it plainly and then walk away. That's all.

Hey OP, shit’s gunna suck for a while, no doubt about it, but try not to sulk in it, it only ever makes things worse. Dwelling on it will definitely make things bad. Trying surrounding yourself with friends and family as much as possible, maybe find a really intense hobby, maybe some sort of sport or physical release, there are many ways to be able to move on and keep yourself together. If it still eats at you, please see a psychiatrist. Don’t wanna hear ‘bout my Sup Forumsros killin themselves now. Stay safe fren

>"was it that wrong ti be sad about my parents passing? Was it wrong to take charge of my brothers so that they wouldn't have to deal with family members who don't really love them?"

Fuck no user the fact you'd even question yourself there is baffling. That's just what you do if you aren't a manchild/degenerate.

She sounds like the sort of person who needs to be executed.

You found out she's trash. You also found out you have to give to receive. Why are you crying about it? Move on sissy dick

Thanks for this, I have to move forward but damn if it isn't hard.
Thank you, I needed to hear this. I needed to know there was some sanity in this world.

i ain’t even reading your diatribe. i didn’t say anything incorrect. i sincerely want to know how he expected her to take that. Like a champ? Like a responsible adult? A good mom figure? Does he expect her to communicate it rationally like another man would? ... because any of those would be asking too much if she’s essentially just a child

I think those questions were meant rhetorically.

Also, the person she is right now should definitely die, but by becoming another, better person. OP can help her with that by leading by example after cutting all ties and becoming the man he was destined to be.

also yes i would have expected her to leave as well but that again is asking too much of a child

No prob OP. Again, I cannot stress enough, being around friends and family is honestly crucial. Stay around the people you know care about you, it makes too much of a difference. And even just owning a punching bag or something, even if you’re not physically violent, physical excercise increases dopamine, and all sorts of shit like that. Much luv

Like I said in response to I know it's a hard situation to bear especially for a girlfriend/boyfriend. And I didn't expect her to deal with it like a champ or fully grown adult. But if she was unhappy if she wanted out or wasn't okay with my decisions she could have said something. Or she could have dumped me outright. I would've preferred that a hundred times over to her cheating on me for a Year

Though I see that you think that was too much to ask or expect of her

do everything you can to never talk to her again. pick up a new, addictive video game and play it for a few weeks. then find a new hole to rub. people cheat on each other all the time Sup Forumsro. it's shitty but it's reality. at least you found out before you got married and she took half your assets

Honestly OP, I was in the same boat you were though it was the best friend rather than the boss in our case, and your best bet is to ruin his life in the least legally worrisome way possible for you. Hers, too.

YOU go out and enjoy your life. Find a respectable girl (or slutty faithful trap, I'm not here to judge) and love her the way she deserves, and reward the nasty slut who fucked around on you with the scorn and disdain of her family, whom she has brought shame onto by becoming the community bicycle. Also the guy, who clearly knew you were in the equation and stuck his dick in a transient whore anyway. Fuck both of 'em: write a series of emails or fb messages to their respective families and close friends and recreate the Scarlet Letter by forwarding their shitty private texts, with context when necessary. Don't let either of the skanks get away with it

You didn't deserve this, OP, and I feel for you

If you are not reading how do you expect me to explain anything...

Anyway, for the others that may be interested (as well as OP). She's not a child, at best it's an defence mechanism of some kind, at worst it's malicious manipulation,doesn't make a difference tho.

You must expect the best from your partner if you want a future together, if they fall short, help them get better. In this case it's not possible, she's either actually fucking retarded like you say, in which case it would be unethical to stay with her, or she knows what she's doing, in which case run for the hills.

Id say you got lucky finding out how batshit crazy she is early on. 3 years isn't that long of a time. Just block and keep yourself from trying to talk to her focus on yourself and brothers tbh. She'll probably try coming back but fuck that sheit

I’m goin to bed OP, school early tommorow, but I think it’s safe to say we gotcha backs Sup Forumsuddy. Stay trye to the ones that love you, stay based. Night fren

I mean, getting back at them is fine, and not letting them just get away with it is obviously important to prevent this kind of shit from happening in the future, but OP should be careful that it isn't perceived as "just petty bullshit", since that would be counterproductive

You've got everything you need to balance the scales again

I would send it to them. Keep it professional when addressing the boss, but don't be afraid to be more personal when addressing her parents.

Make sure you highlight the flippant way she dismissed how your parents' passing affected you - it should horrify them as parents themselves, and really get her in the shit.

keep in mind that the #1 thing girls hate to do is fuck new guys so there's always a chance she'll come crawling back. Girls think something inside them dies every time they have a new dick in them so they always prefer guys they've fucked before, or in the absence of that, guy friends they know and trust.

I'm sorry to hear that you had to go through that, and I do think I am going to get back at her. And even though I will make sure they are found out. I think I agree with what another Sup Forumsro said as well, the best way to.get back at her is to be some one she completely regrets letting go of.

And he should tell her to fuck off when she does

Of COURSE it's gonna seem petty! "Revenge on my cheating whore ex girlfriend with no moral compass and a gaping gash" is seen as a petty thing to people who haven't been hurt by infidelity before.

Either forward the messages and emails, and any other incriminating evidence to friends and family of hers who liked OP, and any relatives of the dude who think he's an upstanding middle manager type, orrrr just doxx the shit out of her and let the crowd do the rest.

Don't worry about seeming petty, OP, the people who don't are the ones whose opinions will matter the most. Go to the liquor store and let the jager do the hard thinking for you, it will arrive at the proper decision

WTF THIS NIGGA SENT ME DICKPICKS

I've had a similar experience with my ex, 8 months ago now, still can't get it out of my head. Learn from it, but try not to let it turn you into a cynical piece of shit like it did for me...

I really need to take my own advice, but yeah focus on yourself that's important.

BOI LEMME IN ON IT

Sure wont help anyone if OP ruins his life tho.

You're right that he should prolly spread those around to people she knows

Who cares

Sorry you can't get a girl to truly love you

Wise post, have a rare pepe

it's up to him, if it's a few years from now and she feels guilty about that could be a fun couple of months but then I'd dump her for sure. Clearly can never trust her again but she could be good for some make-up sex down the road.

But yeah, def never trust that chick again

>best bet is to ruin his life in the least legally worrisome way possible for you. Hers, too.
How

>how
Get the guy fired and make the girl a social pariah by exposing her slutty ways to the community of people who will no longer trust her, either the women who won't want to be friends with her or else risk her fucking their partners, and the men who don't want their gfs and wives to think they're fucking this gross slag. Once her family knows, she'll be "cousin Janet, who cheated on that nice user boy"

I was well received by her family so I feel like I should let them know what happened. And why I wont be around anymore.

I think that even though we are young she could've still said she couldn't handle it. Or walked away completely. This thing she did is unforgivable.

Thankfully I have my brothers. I don't know what I would do without them. I have my Sup Forumsros who took the time to read this.

I won't let this take me down, I know it's going to hurt but if I really think about this objectively he departure or her infidelity does not hurt as much as losing my parents. I do love her, but she showed she isn't worth it.

Lol what a narcissist cunt.

Would dump after she was strangled to death

>jeez
Good troll op

I’m gonna tell you what to do, and you’d better do it, because I’m right.

Stay with her. Forgive her. Say you’re sorry. Work things out, tell her if she does it again, you’re done. If she agrees, good. If not, you gotta get out. Assuming she agrees...

Make nice and pretend it didn’t happen. From her perspective, you’re being understand, and a good little cuck.

Make sure you get laid regularly. This is key. Getting laid and being in a relationship gives you the confidence and the “glow” needed to be successful in phase 2.

Phase 2: Make a tinder account. Put your best effort. Go to bars, whatever.

Do whatever you can do to get laid, a lot. Don’t let your girlfriend know, obviously. Hide it well. Fuck ALL the girls you can. Short, tall, thin, fat. Lose your standards, volume is key. Work your way up to better girls, and eventually... find one you prefer over your girlfriend.

It’s win-win. If she finds out, hey, you forgave her once, she should forgive you too. But I suggest not letting her know.

Then, when the time is right, leave the fucking bitch out of the blue. You don’t even have to tell her you were cheating, though you may find it satisfying. However, in most cases, your smug satisfaction combined with her uncertainty is the best revenge.

Seize your dignity from the jaws of cuckoldry OP.

Hi Op,

my condolences. However, keep in mind that

NO MATTER WHAT SHE SAID, THE CAUSE OF HER ACTION IS NOT YOU

it's her own fucking decision and it's not your fault. Disgusting to see this all the time. Just know that bosses will often be very attractive to female employees for they are in charge. They have power and money, a social status and so on. They would've fucked even if your family was still alive and you would've given her all of your attention. She's just a vapid whore, be happy about you dodging this bullet. Just imagine you already had kids with this person... she would have acted no different.

>I need all of society's power to keep my women from running off

SAD!

This. Don't listen to any anons who say he isn't partly to blame. They both knew what they were doing. Probably laughed about it to together, got off on it. Shame them both. Especially the boss, get his family to leave him and have him fired. I hope he loses fucking everything. Giving me a justice boner just thinking about it.

OP is not guilty of anything, but his choices led to where he finds himself today. He said he loveS her genuinely, which means his skank-detector isn't calibrated properly and he needs to get that fixed.

Lots of anons have left sound advice as to how to do that, so I'll refrain from it

As much as I despise cheating bitches, I’m of the firm opinion that a man’s, and woman’s, private affairs ought to stay private. Warn a cheating slut’s boyfriend? Fuck yes. Tell her boss, or try to get her lover fired? That makes you the loser.

How loser? Either there is an honor system and he fucked up and deserves retribution to the utmost capacity, to ruin his life as much as he carelessly ruined OPs, or there is NO honor, in which case OP should ruin his life just for shits and giggles to feel a bit better. Either way, that old fuck should have his life ruined.

There are like 2 people out there with some kind of morality and it happend you are one of them. Dont waste your time with other people ever again. Keep them all at an arms lenghts and dont get emotionally invested since you always will be operating at a loss, especially at your young age especially with people you dont know half of your life (and even then, people change, quicker with every day). keep to yourself and maybe, maybe when you hit your 50's you can try and open up more to people youve been knowing for a long time now, until then, dont even bother, especially with women. Good luck my man

You sir, respectfully, are a fucking retard.

That's closer to the truth of the situation, have a pepe

I agree with you. It's actually quite weird that he also didn't notice what was going on between them for a year. But then again, OP had other troubles that could legitimately occupy him

Aw, it looks like he's having a blast in there.

This is what "festering" looks like

This was exactly my thought process

Don't be such a bitch. People are shit and life is cruel, but the answer to that isn't to become a scared little cunt. Learn from your mistakes, but don't stop living. Be an existential hero, who knows the tragedy but keeps on being righteous. Fuck cynicism. Be a pessimist but live the fuck out of life and be a good guy, do drugs, work hard, fuck good pussy, tell jokes, laugh a lot, tell secrets, fuck the haters. Fuck them all and love then too, because everyone is such wonderful fantastic pieces of beautiful shit.

You are retarded if you think in todays times you can get any serious emotional relationships with strangers at young age. Female or male but especially with females.

Revenge can be healthy and can help you move on. However, if you do send stuff to her family and his boss it will just confirm to them that she did the correct thing in leaving you. You’ll feel better, they’ll feel better, so you may as well do it.

Women are incapable of the quality men refer to as "love". What women call "love" is something entirely different.

What a naive idiot. All men of the West are in this predicament. When your own woman, if you think you have one, decides she wants to leave on whatever whim entered her moods that day, let's see how well you are able to keep her without breaking the laws. Breaking the laws runs the risk of you winding up in prison.

No man can "keep" a woman in the West. Whether the woman remains or not is entirely on the woman's WHIM, just like it is with childbirth. If a woman's whim decides there will be no relationship or birth, there will be no relationship or birth.

Yeah nah its boring shit and if you dont want to get emotionally invested in something you are just wasting your time since what do we humans have if not our emotions and fetish constructs, just bodily functions. You are reducing yourself good luck with that but im not 18 anymore and dont give a fuck about 90% of the shit you just listed now kys faggpt

Pull a fucking Zeek. This girl deserves it.

I'm not OP, but this is great advice. Basically my approach.

I'm sure deep down, like me, you're a romantic. But the world is far from honorable. Maybe in another age. Until then, ruthless pragmatism it is.

>not into fun
>not into work
>not into relationships
>not into sex
>not into humor
Who are you, the dalai fucking llama? Get outta here with that castrated crap you depressing sack of shit.

Didn't say that.
I mean you that if you give up hope and isolate yourself by keeping everyone at arms length you will eliminate even the small chance you may have had to find people who are worthwhile, which will make you a bitter cunt who spreads his bitter cuntitude around everywhere.

>However, if you do send stuff to her family and his boss it will just confirm to them that she did the correct thing in leaving you
Dude, she cheated on him with another guy and told him his feelings were worthless. At this point what she thinks is as irrelevant as she is. OP needs to just dump on her life and leave her behind

What's wrong with spreading bitterness everywhere?

Humanity deserves all the suffering it receives, and despite this, it still has not learned even after thousands of years. So it should suffer longer and harder.

OP here

I don't think I'm going to just close myself off from the world. I don't want that, I do think she screwed me over hard but I'm not going to let her take my happiness all together.

I do want to thank everyone here, for reading for talking to me, for insulting for whatever. I want to move on. It's going to be slow and I'm going to have a hard time but I can do it.

I'm going to make sure that when she regrets it, I have no regrets myself and that I can tell her wholeheartedly to fuck off.

nice trips but you are just another faggot who basicly recommends op to do the same shit over and over and over again. At least im not some fucking sadist

You are thinking too far, you can find so many things worth of your attention and seeing op being emotionaly invested, its only a wise thing to keep a distance for a time and recover. Doesnt mean he should never be in a relationship eber again but to take it slowly from now on especially since he is pretty young.

Its more a plague than anything but its how i, or we function and maybe op too, better learn how to control it quickly before losing it completely by the time hitting 40s

best wishes, OP. things will get better

have a cat, I hope you get some good luck from its cuddles

What you lost was a lying cheating slab of expired fuckmeat.
You did the right thing, for your brothers. I would be honored to call you my friend.
Forget about the whore.

Don't live for the hope that she will regret it. People who do evil things in this life do not regret or have a shred of remorse or sorrow over their choices. I guarantee you have put entirely more thought on this than you have.

Women all the time get their unborn babies shredded apart in the womb in abortion clinics, and they don't give it a second thought nor do they care to justify their actions. If they can do this without giving a shit, you think she's actually going to feel remorse like she has a conscience or something? Time to grow up lad. The belief that people have a "conscience" is the Santa Claus fairy tale for adults.

>humanity has suffered so much
>humanity is shit
>I KNOW, some more SUFFERING should set things straight!
People this retarded are actually alive and think they are superior to you.

What part of
>learn from your mistakes
Did you not understand?
It's like if you ate raw chicken and got sick and then thought, "I don't think this food thing is worth my time."
You are a fucking idiot, sir. That doesn't mean other people can't grow and stay positive regardless amid all the tragedy. Get fucked, loser.

OP so help me you only enable this shit if you let her get away with it. Time to send the juicy dregs to all her relatives. Post it on your Facebook, and warn the world of this whore. Post her info (and nudes) here. She used the death of your parents as a weapon, manipulated you to give her everything while her boss gave her dickings. You ruin her life and fight not only for yourself, but all the men who've been cheated on. Don't be another Cucktale. Fight

You got what it takes to ruin both her and her boss. Do it OP fuck them up

Yeah, I mean, OJ did nothing wrong according to my view of morality. I would say knife-murder is perfectly acceptable OP

Don't tell me you're one of those bleeding hearts who thinks holding hands and singing kumbaya is the cure for humanity's sickness.

This. Don't do it with venom, just with the air of polite warning.
Send the email to her family and the boss' family and be like
>sorry for the hurt this might cause but I just want people to know the truth so they can make informed decisions, *post details of affair*
Just be factual.

Hey OP,

I'm sorry you have to go through this.

You are 23, you are still young. Pain is part of life, things may get better.

Please just know that I think no matter what happened or what happens that you are a good person for taking care of your brothers. You are a good person.

Sometimes shitty things happen to good people. It's sad, but it's life.

You have to go through your parents dying, you have to go through being cheated on. That's fucked up. But please know that you can come out of this stronger.

Some people (hoes) are just shitty and trust me, it's much, much better finding out now than after 10+ years of marriage.

Focus on yourself, focus on your brothers, cut all ties with that bitch (it will hurt a lot, but it is necessary and in long run it is much easier), do not contact her ever.

She kicked you down, was not even trying to support you at your lowest, so why the fuck should ANY cheating bitch be part of your life anymore?

There are good people out there. Keep looking.

>better learn how to control it quickly before losing it completely by the time hitting 40s

Better learn how to control what quickly? The romanticism inside? What were you referring to my man?

That's an incredibly painful experience you've had. All you can do is learn from how you treated her and try to understand why you, she, and her boss all behaved as you did.

I lost my ex in a less tragic way,but I also gave her less emotional attention than she desired. I thought fucking her constantly was enough, but it turns out caring about her long term is a factor. I was verbally mean.
I've learned from what I did and I still love my ex.

I hope these words reach you well.

What sickness? Quit projecting your own bitter waste of a life onto humanity. The world is full of individuals.

stop thinking that you're so important someone will give their life for you, even if you would for them get it in your hjead it's not always the same for the other party, same goes for op, so get over those useless feelings and understand life is about fucking everyone around, both figuratively and physically

>gets angry
>call people sir
>food analogies
Fuck off brainlet, you must be especially stupid to be upbeat in times like this. Either that or you never experienced misery in your whole life. Either way, good for you but learning from your mistakes implies exactly what i have said, keeping people at a distance until you recovered and proceeding to be very cautious about your every action.

Emotions, temperament, romantic feelings. Everything concerning individually formed constructs that may not be shared by the masses or in other way. Dont fall for thots, dont trust fake people etc etc