Alex

*Edit*
This is the definition of consent I am referring to and have consulted in writing this statement:
plannedparenthood.org/…/sex-and-…/sexual-consent
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I would like to preface this statement by being transparent about what my priorities are in addressing a recent sexual assault allegation against me:
1) reducing harm to the person that I assaulted by being publicly accountable, and 2) using the public nature of this statement to open important conversation about sexual consent. In that order. The intention of this statement is no way to gain sympathy or forgiveness.
I would like to address an incident that occurred in 2008 between an individual and myself, who will remain anonymous for their own safety and comfort. In the last year, I have come to understand the sexual encounter I had with this person was non consensual and constituted assault. At the time, I had thought that my actions were consensual and now understand that this was not the case. This encounter did not meet the criteria for getting consent.

What did he mean by this?

Other urls found in this thread:

plannedparenthood.org/learn/sex-and-relationships/sexual-consent
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some tumblr thot regretted having sex with a dishwasher

He has the cold, dead eyes of a rapist, doesn't he?

its not hard to see when someone is consenting and not... he seems like hes trying to cover up. "its rape culture and the patriarchy that clouded my eyes. now i realize its not that way XD" rape culture and the patriarchy was what allowed you to do it and is agian is whats allowing you to get away with it. piece of shit

He mentions that he thought he had consent at the time. WHich means she totally felt bad for sleeping with a mac-lite and cried rape after the facts.

>he thought he had consent at the time
no it means he was with an unconscious or uncomfortable person who was too scared or inebriated to actively say no...

he was freaking 18 yrs old. we just wanted some pussy m8. while being drunk

anyway virgins like you wouldn't understand

>he was freaking 18 yrs old. we just wanted some pussy m8. while being drunk
ive been in that situation too but i never raped anybody or made them uncomfortable by making advances or saying creepy shit.... its not hard to be a decent person. being 18 and wanting pussy while drunk is the worst fucking exceuse ive ever heard.

Nah roastie got a little toastie for sleeping with an ugly mofo and cried to all her friends how alex toootally raped her

>ive been in that situation too but i never raped anybody or made them uncomfortable by making advances or saying creepy shit.... its not hard to be a decent person.
of course you haven't. you've never gotten laid

anyone else staying till midnight to see if the album drops on bandcamp?

>Planner Parenthood

Glad to know our society gets our moral authority from degenerate baby-killing factories.

i have sex daily. i have 3 partners. im in a poly amorous relationship.

holy shit its from 2008

idont even know if i wanna be a musician now cause i used to treat sluts bad when i was a teenager

were all fucked

plannedparenthood.org/learn/sex-and-relationships/sexual-consent

The article in question.

>i have sex daily. i have 3 partners. im in a poly amorous relationship.
wow look at you. 3 partners and you're poly wow. i Totally believe you now!

Of course you dont sleep with the p4k crowd. They've all been brainwashed to cry rape to advances from ugly men.

you dont have to believe me but its true. typically people are more comfortable being close to or having sex with people who respect others and dont defend rapists.

Just remember in the heat of passion when you're all making out and taking off your clothes take a second and say

"As a man I am doing my best to destroy the patriarchy and rape culture, that being said I would like to have consensual sex with you, say yes and I will pleasure you to the best of my abilities, say no and I will provide you with a safe bed or ride home at my expense."

It's that fucking simple

That just means you’re a cuck

not that being a virgin is bad or that misogynists dont have sex and all good people do.

kek

we don't even know if they fucked

where did alex said he raped her?

Nowhere. But people think sexual assault= Alex waiting in the bushes to grab some innocent's girls pussy.

where there's the consensual sex line stop and start? couldn't technically a girl say any kids of sex wasn't consensual at anytime?
lets say i spank a girl hard while im fucking her doggy and she kinda didn't like it. couldn't she come back years later and say i sexually assaulted her

its really at a point for public figures if you wanna fuck girls you gotta pull out your phone turn on the voice recorder and ask if you can fuck them

or text them to agree you're fucking them

Going by their definition of consent, yes. Dont sleep with anyone folks! It'll come and bite you in the ass.

so how do u know you've consensually had sex with your partners?

Yes, I would recommend not acquiring any sort of fame so they can rapebrag about their experience with you

degenerate filth lecturing people on morals? foh

>tfw me and my friends used to run trains on girls back in highschool
>it was consensual but some of those girls were definitely disrespected and probably left feeling horrible
>tfw my dream is to be a musician

its over for me boys

Just pray that girl continued her degenerate lifestyle and will end up dead soon

Damn, I missed out on my high school days.

this

post pics or bs

I abused this person, and I have not held myself accountable for this.
I want to further express how completely sorry I am to this person for any shame, humiliation, or social isolation that they have experienced following my actions.
In part, I have been shielded and protected from accountability or consequence by a community and a culture, that has prioritized my narrative over hers for years.
I am learning how my actions and negligence have traumatized this person and I would like to express how deeply, deeply sorry I am to them once again.
I hope that being publicly accountable will relieve the survivor of some of the trauma they have faced due to my actions. I would like to take any and all steps necessary to help facilitate their recovery process and needs for moving forward. Several weeks ago, I made the choice to cancel all of my upcoming shows and agreed with my label to halt my album release. I have taken a step back from any creative pursuits to start putting my energy into seeking counseling and attending consent training.
Being ignorant of consent is no excuse, and I would like to thank the people in my community and elsewhere for providing resources about this.
This is necessary and overdue. I want others facing similar experiences to understand the importance of holding themselves accountable for their actions and begin educating themselves. Most importantly, I hope the person that I hurt can begin to heal and that we can collectively start believing survivors and addressing similar accusations very seriously.

top cuck

Wait so somebody waited 9 years to confront Calder about an incident from when he was 18?
What conclusion can anyone draw from that

it was his ex gf too btw

Why do I keep hearing this?

I'm super confused user, I can't think of any scenario where this all makes sense.

This is good but get a signature and make sure she's sober.

justice for alex

"silence means yes?"

fuck off creep. we're pretending you don't exist.

bragging about how much sex you have on Sup Forums rofl

Consent it really cool for sure and necessary in my opinion, if Alex fucked up he fucked up. I just hope that this doesn't lead to any witch-hunts in which any woman can just say she was raped after the fact. In California this is the law though
:( retroactive rape feels bad. I always ask for consent before having sex to the point of it getting annoying for some women I'm sure but I still think it's worth it. I've had some women tell me that they were into me asking, like so they could be like "Yeah fuck me dude" but other times it's been more like "Um, yes just fuck me already god." Still worth asking every time though...

sounds like he got caught, and now he's trying to play their own narrative that men do things like this out of ignorance to his advantage.

fag

"Ryan Shanaman no, the definition of assault has not been skewed over the last few years, it has become more defined than ever. If you think for even a second that we need to hold on to archaic laws and belief systems (rape culture) that were put into place by men in the first place you are sorely mistaken. You need a wake up call , quit being foolish as hell"

WOAH LADDIE THESE COMMENTS SURE ARE A GOOD READ

what did she meme by this?

Its that rape culture. Thats why all men are rapists and I cant get a job. Not because I spent all my parents money on chicano studies.

so sex= rape

when its with your ugly ass

damn

i wish for once men will come together and stop giving these dumb bitches attention.
for a month don't like their stupid selfies. don't approach them in the streets just fucking ignore
fucking parasites would be begging for a guy to give them validation. all these false rape culture would disappear overnight

funny how people think alex put out this statement to "save" his career. like, dude was a fucking dishwasher barely making ends meets. there was no career to save in the first place.

and thats the sad part, he truly believed that the encounter he had with the girl eight years ago was consentual. but now because of the rape culture, whoops turns out he is now a rapist and have the only thing left that gave him joy taken away from him. poor guy.

what will that do. the problem lies with the teachers and professors. making evwryone to think that they are a victim

This is why the mem in the industry continue to do this. The posts in this thread are proof if that.

i never heard of rapebrag. is that where they pretend to be victims so they can get the attention daddy didn't give them?

can you imagine getting done for some silly shit you did 10 years ago

man i was such a horrible teenager if i ever were to become a semi famous musician i dont even know what sorta shit people gonna bring up about me

i know for a fact ive wronged more people than calder could even dream of

Thats the point that people make. The culture needs to change that allows women to be sexually assaulted.

just an 18 yr old rapist then bro

This. I approve of dead black babys though.

Midnight

what the fuck

Whats wrong user?

Yeah.

Scary times we live in

look at the balls on this one johnny