Be me

>be me
>have 8/10 qt3.14 gf
>long distance relationship
>she got out of an abusive relationship before we got together
>he almost raped her which gives her ptsd everytime we try to have sex

now she just told me
>she was in a really low place a few months ago
>felt uncomfortable with the traumas her ex gave her
>decides to go see him to sleep with him and maybe get over the trauma
>she does this behind my back while we're 600km apart
>mfw I got cheated on, but she did it with good intentions

help Sup Forums, what do? she's literally the girl of my dreams and I don't want to break up with her.

Thats a difficult question.
I'd say fuck her and then decide what to do

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I would but she's not here right now, long distance and all

>My gf had an excuse to cheat, so is it ok???

Ask yourself, cuck.

Man this is a weird one.
I think you have to break up with her since she cheated on you but I feel she did it with good intentions just as you said.
She could be lying of course.

If you can forgive her then stay with her.

i tried fag why do you think i'm here i need hear others' opinions

thanks for the input

She had sex with her ex to try to get over her trauma of him raping her, read that fucking sentence OP. Either you're retarded or the master of getting cucked

Haha if you ever talk to her again, even 1 word you are a cuck for life. 6 billion bitches to pick from, turn her into a fuck buddy, her words are meaningless, as are 99% of words from a bitch.

Wow you sure have a nice viewpoint on women

>good intentions
Your girlfriend just cheated on you OP. No amount of "affirmative action" will help your girlfriend move on besides her actually just moving on, not throwing herself back onto his dick.

She fucked him while you were in a relationship with you. End of story. If I were you, I'd break up with her.

Yeah, i'm willing to bet that wasn't the first time, nor will it be the last she fucks the shit out of that "abusive" ex.

Just wait until she starts fucking him all the time to help her trauma away

OP If this is real you got to stop being a lil bitch and break up with the broad.

She's fucked up in the head and there ain't no fixing her, you'd just get hurt again.

in general she's very sane and rational just this once did she do something fucking retarded

>km
Subhuman non-American piece of shit detected. GET THE FUCK OFF MY BOARD EUROCUCK!

no

stay with her until you fucked her. Then break up with her.

She is not the girl of your dreams, your dopamine flooded brain just thinks that. Damaged people never are.

Wtf since when has anyone ever cheated on someone "with good intentions"?

OP ask yourself this: would the girl of your dreams cheat on you for any reason? I feel for you my man. Unfortunately it was over the second she decided to cheat. Continuing to talk to her will only make it more painful when you do eventually break up, and she will cheat on you again if you stay with her. I know you liked her a lot and it will be very difficult to get over her, but trust me it will get better. Cut off all contact and move on as soon as you can.

Second this. You just don't go near messed up people.
They leave you more broken than you were originally. Get out while you still can.
There's no reason to think she's not going to go fuck him again citing PTSD

POST NUDES OP

lol, you are a positive cuck now

>I got cheated on, but she did it with good intentions
You must be a new kind of retard if you think this is ok

theres only about 3.6 billion women on the planet...

Long distance is lame. Get yourself a gf who lives near you, so you don't have to worry about dumb shit like this.

She is cucking you. Run. Run now.

nah

i've always been pretty positive, i have reverse anger issues lol, i couldn't even yell or be mad at her

long distace is lame as fuck but where i come from the women make a sack of potatoes look fuckable

It is not "just this once". I've seen it happen time and time again, she WILL cheat on you again with him, if she has not already. Especially women who have said they were sexually abused.

Where you from, faggot?

>abusive relationship
>goes back to make it better????

Op, you see, there is a thing called fucked up girls. You see it all the time in porn vids. Have you ever watched facial abuse or meatholes or any of those Gonzo vids? The girls were raised wrong or something and they crave to be treated like shit.

I'd bet dollars to donuts she was abused at home, and this guy is opening up the door to the fact she likes abuse now.

It would be ok if you lived near her. Fucked up girls are fun to party with. But having an emotional relationship??? No way, there is no win for you, at all, anywhere. She is fucked up and she will lie and lie and lie.

TL;Dr, move on.

welcome to the club!

you know if you stay with her she's just going to keep cheating on you. good luck pal.

>but she did it with good intentions
OP that thought is a malfunction in your brain, it's denial. If you don't fix that thought your life is going to be one giant world of hurt that leads to alimony and child support and giving half your paycheck away. That's a decade from now so you better slap yourself in the face and wake the fuck up.

netherlands but probably the worst part, farmer's region

I was in a similar situation some time ago. My advice is to break up with her.

You're gonna have a fuckton of trust issues, arguments over this shit, just shitty times in general due to the underlying shitstorm this is gonna stir up inside you and her. It's gonna affect both of your behaviors in ways that you can't even think to connect with this incident, as in getting pissed off over random shit, getting jealous for "no reason," lying to each other and being shitty in general. IN ADDITION to being in a long distance relationshit and feeling batman because of the cheating.

You'll feel like it's a bad idea to break up. I mean, she's the girl of your dreams right? She had the best of intentions right? Shes so hot right? You are a hostage of your fear of ending up alone and not finding someone you like as much.

The sum of the bad you'll feel is a lot less if you just dump her, as opposed to dealing with those issues for 1-5 years (been there done that). It's like drinking a jug of piss now instead of having someone pour a little bit of piss in everything you drink in the next few years.

Or just be a bitch and submit, fuck if I know.

There are plenty of goats and cows for you to fuck OP

You've been tricked, she lied about the rape thing to fake a personality and some depth, also to give the an apparent root to her insecurities born from the fact that she regret their break up and still thinks about him. Now that she cheated on you behind your back and satisfied the fantasy she was having all this time, she feels bad, but not for you, be aware. She feels regretful she proved herself to be a bad and egoistic person. She pities you.

Get yourself a nice traditional farm girl and never be cheated on again and have lots of kids and a simple, happy life.

are you listening to yourself?

>doesn´t let you fuck her.
>instead lets the guy who abused her fuck her "to get over the abuse"

You´re lying to yourself if you tell yourself that it was "for good intentions".

She probably made that shit up anyways to make you pay for shit or for attention, and then made it up some more so that she doesn´t have to fuck you but instead can keep fucking the dude who apparently fucks her rightly.

Even if you want to be with her you have to dump her right now and hope to fix it later if possible.

Letting it slip is the worst possible idea.

Break it.

You dumb.

OP, just one word.

> Rationalise

She wanted to fuck her ex. She rationalized afterwards to make herself feel like less of a bad person and to try to convince you that what she did was ok.

Remember that. Her action came before the reason. The reason is the excuse.

And she will always, always play the victim.

Get a girl from South Holland or Brabant.

I say you one thing. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Become a cuck or dump her. She anyway seems to play hard the victim card and seems to have mental illness. She decides to stay for a long time in an abusive relationship. She probably has strong daddy issues.

i live in den bosch man every chick that lives here looks gross

She's a piece of shit and you're a stupid fuck. Either leave her or be a nutless sack of shit, the choice is yours

Of course she's lying. Or some shit she told herself or made up in her head. This bitch is crazy. Unless you know right now you love her and want to spend the rest of your life dealing with her shit, you need to get out of this relationship.

And since you haven't even fucked her...just run very far away.

Trust me. You're better off ending it now than realising in a few years when it's over what a pathetic fuck you were by giving her another chance.

We all sell ourselves for different prices

What price are you willing to sell yourself for OP?

>decides to go sleep with him
>does this behind my back
>good intentions

Nah nigga you need to fucking open a can of MAN and squash that shit alright. Don't be a cuck for a puta that doesn't respect you. Instead tell her "hey, make all the excuses you want. I'm grown enough to know when I'm being taken advantage of". You got to stick up for yourself, get 9.34 hitches by learning from this experience and developing confidence by talking to women and or working out.

*Fuck her and leave.

Easy, keep her on the back burner and openly cheat. Detach yourself from her and make 0 effort. She's just a hole to fuck now, she tossed her worth out when she cheated. Get some new pussy, stop being a cuck.

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Listen to this user.
Also, how would she react if you started fucking bitches to get over the trauma she has caused you? I bet she wouldn't like it.
Cut her out of your life and find a gf that's not a cheating whore. Your gf will continue to cheat on you. She will find other excuses or maybe even blame it on you.

Doesn't matter if she is 8/10 if she doesn't fuck you, but her ex.
Why do you think she didn't discuss her plan with you beforehand?
Because she either had none and just fucked him and made up an excuse afterwards or she knew you would say no.
Either way she gave shit about your feelings/opinion.
The only sane thing is dump her.
Why live in a sexless relationship with a cheating whore?

countries not using the metric system.
please tell me all about how it must be european

She willingly slept with her rapist? She is used up, user. Best to move on.

So, what will you do?

fuck a pizza

user, now that she fucked her ex, did she get over her ptsd? Just curious...
If not, why wasting time to think about the options?

Let me put it to you like this

>she was in a really low place a few months ago
>felt uncomfortable with the traumas her ex gave her
>decides to go see him to sleep with him and maybe get over the trauma

A girl thats worth your time wouldnt use shitty excuses like that. You dont heal from a burn by sticking your hand in the fire. Every person goes through low mood now and again she just chose to use it as an excuse to cheat. Lastly, wtf do you mean felt uncomfortable with the traumas? That doesn't actuality make sense. Name one person who's comfortable with their trauma

fuck haar gast, pijn is tijdelijk, je eer voor altijd