i am having a problem keeping my partner hard during intimit times and im not sure what do about it. when it happens he tends to recoil and say sorry over and over again. he says its not my fault but i find it hard to believe because up until this point he has been fine
is it my fault ? is there anything i can do to help him feel less embarrassed when it happens?
stop dating beta males, fgt
Cheeky finger!
odds are he's just having a mental rough patch or a side effect of a medicine or lack of drive. Like sometimes it happens.
any tips on how i can help him?
Are you boring? Do you suck his dick like your life depends on it? Do you humor his fetishes? Are you the "missionary position for the sole purposes of procreation" type of girl?
If you answered no, yes, yes, and no, respectively; then likely this:
If you answered the opposite, then you both may be the problem, since maybe he watches so much porn that vanilla sex isn't exciting enough for him.
>girl
kek
Source?
The only advice I can give is to ask for advice anywhere but here.
thanks dude
you make a good point but it cant hurt
are you ugly?
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He's probably watching porn when you are not around. Had this problem with an ex. Always kinda hopes she would catch me in the act and go along with it and join me.
Tits or gtfo.
i mean im not the worst but i wouldnt say im model worthy either
Why would you assume that he's fine?
because he hasnt had an issue up untill this point with staying hard
are you fat(ter)?
You can attest to being pleased by him up to now? What else do you think has changed about him around his recent lack of passion for you? He have mental health history?
ive actually been loosing weight and goingthe gym with him every saturday (still wouldnt say stick thin but have a little cushion around my hips/thighs)
My guess is he has a porn addiction. Speaking from experience, you can get in a routine where you jerk off a dozen times a day and real sex becomes a problem.
If you actually love him then just talk to him and ask him how much he jerks off or watches porn. He may lie, but I bet it's a lot, and it's probably to better looking girls because we tend to pick the most attractive people for jerking off.
If he doesn't jerk off for 7 days straight, I bet he'd be rock hard the next time you go at it. If all else fails, Viagra is there for a reason.
he has mild ptsd and depression but thats all he has told me. he use to be very open about his problems but lately it feels like i have beg him to tell me what is wrong. its also a chor to get him to tell me what he wants even if its not sexual he just wont tell me what he wants for dinner without a small "argument"
thanks dude! thats pretty comforting in a weird way
Distance is a sign of cheating or his depression has actually gotten really bad. Both things could cause problems in bed.
anything i can do to help his depression? (i trust he wouldnt cheat on me )
Have a heart-to-heart with your man. If he needs help, ensure that he gets it, if you can. (I have the distinct feeling that you won't as you're not in a position to bring about such change in him, but maybe you can pleasantly surprise him for once.)
have you tried... asking him?
True depression needs professional help and medicine, there's nothing you can do.
It might not be that bad though. If you think he's the one, ensure him that you love him and that he can share anything with you. If communication fails, a relationship fails in my opinion. Talking about why he is depressed will help with the depression.
It could be something he just wants to tell you because he feels guilty, or he doesn't want you to freak out and judge him.
For example, when I was really serious with a girl (2 years) we told everything to each other, but whenever we talked about our fetishes I never told her my favorite porn is loli/cartoons. I thought she'd judge me and labelled me a pedo. Keeping this from her ate away at me. "She wouldn't like me if she knew I was into that". I grew distant and depressed, never told her, and we ended up breaking up because I was convinced she didn't love the true me.
here.
Of course she didn't! Didn't you see what this user/femanon/whatever the demon is wrote in this very opening post ? Why the asshole just assumed that its man was just fine until recently!
well, if this is a recent issue and he was performing normally up until now then he likely needs to go see a doctor about it as that's a sign of serous health issues
He apologizes cuz he masturbated when he shouldn't have.
Drive ain't shit, he fucked up
OP gone? Good!
Buh-bye
>you make a good point but it cant hurt
oh ho ho
yes, yes it can.
and it will