2 years ago, my gf admitted to me that she was never interested in sex and only did it to please me. Since then, she completely denies any kind of sexual approach, except for the bimonthly handjob.
For a while, I coped with cuck porn with her as a self insert to fill the void and compensate for the lack of intimacy, but I came to realize the degenerate behaviour won't fix the problem.
I really dont want to end this 10 year relationship, hookers and cheating is a no-go for me either. Every time I consider seperate ways, I hear other people with their stories about "The one that got away" because they put sex on a pedestal. I dread to make the same mistake.
Talk to her about it, maybe? "Hey, this is a problem for me. Let's talk it out and see if it's solvable".
If it's solvable? Great!
If it's not solvable? Then decide if you can be okay with this or not.
If you can be okay with it? Stay together.
If you can't be okay with it? Break up.
Do you also need help with chewing your food you stupid idiot?
Elijah Scott
After two years you won't be making that mistake. If she hates sex, why not have a break. She won't have sex with anybody.
Grayson Wood
She likely just hates sex with OP. Maybe he's small or shitty in bed.
Gavin Sanders
Yes, and no. I think that those that “put sex on a pedestal” are always biased. It’s something that you’re missing, and when you get it (be it from someone else or from her) everything else become a important. You want what you can’t have. But. It’s what you value. A relationship is something that both you and your partner value, love, and work on. And when you hate it, you realize what there is to keep it there. If those reasons aren’t enough, then you wouldn’t last anyways because people always change. It’s about someone you can change with. Otherwise those dislikes can bleed through your personality and have the same affect: she cheats because you’re Distant, your body language, and phrases has changed. Another ten years and you both could resent each other, and felt that the time is wasted. The point is: what is IMPORTANT to you. What can change, what is okay, even if you dislike it, to change. What is it for you?
Brayden Howard
she just doesnt want to fuck you, she is probably fuck all kind of dudes on the side, this is irredeemable, you fucked up for years down the line
Bentley Campbell
yes - i was at the diabetes clinic and the girl was so fine - she was eppin for sure. i grab her by the waste and look in her eye but after sex she says "nice finger stick needle dick gg"
John Hall
I knew a girl like that.
She spent 9 years and got married with a guy who was shitty in bed and small sized, she never enjoyed sex with him, she even suffered from chronic vaginal pains because her mind loved him but she couldn't stand feeling him inside her anymore.
Then, she met a guy, handsome, tall, good in bed with a huge dick and she had the best climax in her entire life. She left the short guy and she is now litteraly a whore in bed with all her new lovers.
Kevin Cook
my wife was like this and eventually said that if i wanted affection to find it elsewhere. So I did. When I told her about the encounter she got very aroused. I continued on to fuck over a dozen women, many of whom were fucked together by me and my wife. The first time it happened it was with the wife and a woman I'd been "courting" and her best friend who I had already been fucking behind her back. I almost died that night, but it was well worth the memories. At what age, if ever should I reveal my power level to my son?
Lincoln Rogers
If you want a GF just for the sex then ye go right ahead and break up since she doesnt give it to you. Otherwise buy a sex doll,onahole, use your hand for pleasure and keep wtv your gf brings to the relationship
Lucas Jenkins
>women like sex just as men
Yeah sorry but she must be screwed up if she does not like sex at all, don't physically starve yourself just because her sex drive is broken, leave her, you deserve better, wanting physical intimacy is not putting sex on a pedestal, it's normal, she's the one that's abnormal
John Sanchez
If I'm dating someone and she doesn't want any intimency, no kisses, hugs, nor has any sexual desire towards me then I consider that relationship dead because that's a massive part of what I want/need in a relationship, depending on who you are maybe you have other things going for you like kids, financial security, sharing rent and shit like that but if I'm getting a gf/partner then I want to love and be loved
Kevin Wilson
because shes already fucking someone else user
John Gray
Spanish fly or GHB...
Eli Allen
this one's very common, if she's already getting some mad niggadick why would she want to have sex with you?
Angel Reyes
This, sex is a normal part of a healthy relationship and if you're not compatible you will just resenting her more and more.
Andrew Perry
To put sex on a pedestal is to prioritize it over everything else, to want it is normal and healthy. If you two can't reconcile then it's best to split.
Jaxson Thompson
OP here. Thanks for the replies so far. No real obligations holding me back, except her switching countries to move in with me. But I don't consider this a major issue. The will and love is there, but she doesn't seem able to change this.
This is a perspn who does not even look at porn. I even installed a keylogger over a month to check up on that - she is completely pure.
She is not a gold digger either. I am not affluent. The money is just enough for rent, food, video games and some trips now and then.
I am already coping with porn and whatnot. But there is the thought knowing that I am sexually missing out gnawing in the back of my head. Of course there is some sort of intimacy like cuddling kissing or showing off. But it does not go further than that. I am more curious if anyone ever had experience with asexual partners in the past. On hindsight, I should've asked on /adv/.
Jose Diaz
This is too logical for OP. I mean he is coming to Sup Forums for relationship advice with a 10+ year gf. Don't expect him to have more than a single digit IQ.
James Diaz
Affection is clearly important to you, discuss your feelings with her but you may end up either admitting you need to break up or find affection elsewhere. Also, sounds like she may well be cucking you, worth investigating
Leo Anderson
/r/deadbedrooms has an advice part iirc.
Christian Torres
Wait, shes in another country and she doesnt want to bang when you see each other? WHAT ARE YOU GETTING OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP???
Michael Edwards
you probably misunderstood.
Ayden Garcia
There are some people who doesn't like or see sex as satisfying. Maybe psychological damage, nerve damage or just low sex drive. Oddly my younger brother is like that.. But regardless if sex is important enough to consider asking anonymous strangers for advice, I suggest you consider it a priority of a sort and settle for nothing less.
Noah Murphy
Rape her. A woman must obey their man. She must learn that the hard way.
Justin Clark
So she can't make sacrifices but you can? That's not how it works.
Wyatt Russell
Get out of that shitty relationship. Having sex with your partner is the one good thing about having a partner. all the rest is bullshit. so yeah. quit being a bitch and be a man and dump her frigid ass.
The saddest part is that you are wasting your time here on earth trying to make something broken work.
Seriously, there are chicks out there that would love nothing better than to fuck you sideways every damn day. so go get a better one, or have nothing at all. both options better than you are living with now.
Ryan Miller
She might wanna check her birth control. Some girls have no sex drive after being on the pill etc. for a while. My ex-wife had the same problem as your girl. Once she was off it, it took about 6 months but she got her sex drive back.
The key word here is communication. Youre both gonna have to find a level where both of you can cope with the situation. Basically its not normal to not have sex. Period. Youre not the problem, she is.
Brayden Cooper
>He cucks his wife and shes into it
What sort of meme cuckquean magic is this?
Brody Morgan
She's fucking black dudes behind your back, dump that bitch
Gavin Anderson
this
Alexander Cox
>he doesn't have a fulfilling a meaningful friendship with his sex partners Sad!
Easton Thompson
shes cheating on you
1000000000000000000000000%
Ian Kelly
look at this poorfag can't even afford quality memes
Grayson Stewart
Question: Does she takes the pill? I had a similar problem with my gf, when our relationship started, we fucked a LOT, and even started going into swingers parties and what not... Then little by little she started losing her sex drive, till we were having sex less than 1 time a month, and she was just doing my fetishes to satisfy me (footjobs, orgasm denial, etc) So she went to her doctor and she told her to get off the pill to see if it would improve her sex drive... Aaaand, one month off it, she's back the sex beast she was when we started (and better yet) Give it a try, it's worth it
Gavin Myers
>paying for another woman when you dont have enough yourself and not even getting laid
holy fuck you're a literal cuckold soyboy provider.
Parker White
If she is on or has used birth control pills for a long time, it could have screwed up her sex drive. That happened to my wife. Even after five years of not using them her sex drive is gone.
Isaiah Rogers
meme market has been hard on my portfoilo
Mason Walker
learn to invest better u nerd this market will rip you apart if you don't pay attention
Robert Martin
That happened to my wife too but that is almost always a temporary side effect that most women get over in a few months. Took mine like 3, she didn't need to go off her pill.
OP your GF is probably legitimately Asexual. It's a real thing and in some cases can be onset by trauma. If she is not willing to see someone about a past trauma or is just fully asexual then you will probably have to move on.
Easton Martin
1. Talk with her and tell her how important it is to you.
2. Get her permission to seek sexual release outside your relationship. If she refuses, she is a controlling cunt using your frustration.
If my wife is hungry, she has three options:
a) she makes food b) I make her food c) she goes to a restaurant
Would kind of bastard would I be if I refused her all three?
Moreover, the fact that she *used to* do it to please you and now no longer does should be a serious warning concerning what she has come to think of your happiness.
Blake Walker
>Some girls have no sex drive after being on the pill
This is also a serious possibility. BC pills utterly killed my wife's sex drive. As soon as she stopped them, it came roaring back.
Justin Bailey
Take the handjobs with gratitude
Leo Peterson
Hey OP, I don’t think you’re putting sex on a pedestal. Sex is an important part of a relationship. I am in an eerilie similar boat to you. When I bring it up with my wife she gets very defensive about it, but she’s confided that it’s because she’s very self conscious about her body. She’s on the bigger side and the sex stopped when she put the weight on. It’s a big hurdle for her to get over but I’m trying to be firm that sex should be an regular thing for us. We don’t have kids yet and I don’t want a dead bedroom before we look to conceive. Could it be a body image issue? Could couples therapy help?
Mason Ramirez
Yeah OP, she wouldn't have fucked you for 8 years just to please you and then tell you she never enjoyed it. I mean man, we women are retarded, but not that retarded. It has to be something related to feelings and attraction, maybe something happened, maybe you've gained weight and she feels your ego is to fragile to tell you that. Maybe she's dealing with some issues, who knows. Sex is a natural thing, you're supposed to be attracted to your partner in a sexual way to have a successful relationship. Talk it out.
Asher Lewis
/thread
Levi Russell
This right here
Leo Barnes
This seems like wisdom here.
My wife is also slightly obese; she knows it; I know it; she knows I know it, but also that I still find her extremely attractive.
I tell her. I show her. I am not saying that you or OP do not, but she might need more a more explicit demonstration of that attraction.
Aiden Evans
nice making shit up retard.
Landon Jones
>slightly obese That absolute state of Ameri-mutts
Kayden Gonzalez
>no sex >dont wanna cheat >dont wanna dump live in misery then, cuck
Leo Butler
You’re a cuck. Leave her already.
Gavin Rogers
I have some theories.
1. She's played away from home and has an STI and doesn't want to give it to you or own up. 2. She's been recently raped and traumatised and can't bear the thought of it. 3. She's petrified of getting pregnant 4. She's gotten pregnant and had an abortion without you knowing and doesn't want to repeat the process. 5. She doesn't have feelings for you anymore and has just grown out of love with you. 6. Your love-making sucks and you try to behave like a pornstar in bed rather than actually being an attentive lover.
Parker Edwards
Not Americuck, friend, and thankful for it.
When I say "slightly obese", I mean that literally. She is just barely into the BMI area in which one is classified as obese.
Having 38-J tits doesn't hurt, either.
Easton Ward
>/thread
Daniel Cooper
sauce on pic related? anyone got a link?
Hudson Turner
I think you’re onto something. I’m pretty quiet when it comes to foreplay and could spend some time really showing and telling her how hot I find her. I’ve got nothing to lose so I’ll give it go. Thanks, dude!
Levi Barnes
if you're effectively not in a sexual relationship with her, how can it be called cheating?
Elijah Myers
You're welcome.
Just tell her just how attractive you find her; everyone needs to feel attractive.
Wyatt Morgan
Wise frog is wise.
Henry Price
sex is a staple of a happy relationship. You need to decide whether you're okay with not having it since this girl seems to think you're okay without it. Actually, even worse. She jerks you off twice a month, indicating she knows you want it but is simply refusing. So decide if this is important to you and talk to her about it.
Austin Ramirez
>twice a month
Actually, it is worse: bimonthly means "once every two months", not "once every half-month".
That is much more brutal.
Xavier Foster
it means both
Parker Russell
Gay dude reporting in.
Been not exactly in the same situation, but pretty similar.
5 years with a guy who has the sex drive of a damn rock. Like literally, we lived together for the last two years and only had sex like 10 times or so.
Fun part is he got upset several times when he found out that I had downloaded lots of porn, that I masturbated practically on a daily basis, and that I talked to lots of guys online (and they weren't even "that" kind of friends).
One of the very last times we talked about the lack of sex I basically told him: No wonder why 100% of your previous boyfriends cheated on you.
What I can tell you about my experience is: Despite sex not being the number one thing in a relationship, it is truly a basic thing. No sex leads to frustration, that frustration leads to love dying out, and well.... where there's no love anymore, there is no need to go on. There may be a will to keep going, but there really is no need.
Andrew Parker
Dude, if u want to have sex in your life. you''re going to have to find a relationships that satisfied your need. if u want something get it from someone that will reciprocate.
Jack Fisher
Oh, fantastic. It's one of those words that is demonstrably wrong in its meaning, but sufficiently widely accepted by semi-literates that it is somewhat recognised.
"Irregardless" is another one.
Christopher Powell
dont u love how language evolves and words gain new meanings not due to new events being discovered, but due to idiots not understanding the use of a word and propagating it?
Christian Roberts
Dude if you're installing a keylogger this relationship was over a long time ago. At this point it's just an infatuation with comfortability.
Bentley Perry
Fucking soy everywhere.
Benjamin Rodriguez
If OP hasn't fucked off could he tell me one thing. Have you talked it through fully and if so what excuse does she give. This could be the pointer needed to answer your question.
James Watson
Words acquiring new meanings is no big deal, but a word coming to mean its exact, literal opposite is kind of a problem with regard to comprehension, especially when the new meaning is the result of illiteracy and ignorance.
added for use and not for correctness biweekly is clearly the victor but people don't correct often enough to stomp that use of bimonthly into the curb and out of existence
Gabriel Nguyen
Shes getting it from somewhere else. End the relationship if you care that shes riding some other guys dick while youre not around because she definitely is.
Leo Peterson
those dictionaries present the use of a word, not its meaning. Thats why if u search for a foetus, ull find "baby" as a synonym, cuz thats how ppl use "baby", when they try to ban abortion. Or "bald". It oesnt mean "with little hair". It means "with no hair", but ppl use "bald" to mock those with little hair
Bentley Taylor
that sounds so shit bro, ditch the bitch... my girl love it when i dump load in her on the daily even twice a day....my ex wouldnt even swallow
Leo Jones
Sure thing Jimbo.
(Sorry for trolling around, in advance)
Hudson Perry
fuck your stupid op
flip it on her. Stop doing whatever it is, she likes to do and say you only did it because she liked it
hurr durr
Bentley Perry
The proper way to express the concept of "once every two months" is "bimonthly". The roots of the word are clear.
"Once every two weeks" would properly "semimonthly".
Of course, since you are correct in that the correct and incorrect are already fucked together, both words have become useless.
It happens in other languages as well.
怪し ("keshi", meaning "abnormal", "strange") combined with ぬ "not" to create 怪しからぬ, which would seem to indicate "not abnormal", "not improper", but it is understood to mean its opposite: "improper", "bad".
Fucking language.
Parker Gray
...
Daniel Williams
Talk to your grill. Voice your fucking thoughts. Try the advice that isn't soy central in the chat. Last resort is to rape her, if she likes it, then gj bud.
Dylan Hall
> marry her
Married people don't have sex anyways, so problem solved.
Jackson Davis
break up with her, this behaviour is not acceptable in a healthy relationship. you have needs and its not healthy for you to stay with her.
just because you spent a long time making this mistake doesnt mean its too late to fix it
Jack Jenkins
what are you doing spouting solid advice on Sup Forums? gtfo
Samuel Wright
>tfw have two different words for each of these meanings in my language. >tfw anglos doesn't even have different words for free as in freedom and free as in free beer.
Elijah Jackson
Eh? What's your language?
Jap: 自由 "free" in action. 無料 "free", meaning "without cost".
Jacob Hall
proves my point - thats how "dictionary" is used, cuz u r dumbasses
Jacob Smith
That's not how language comparison works.
Luke Russell
Thank you for your brilliant rebuttal.
Parker Hall
Portuguese. Bimensal for twice a month and bimestral for every two months. Livre for free as in freedom and grátis for free as in free beer. I'm not trying to say that my language is superior though.
Christopher Ramirez
Well you obviously don't know anything about linguistics beyond a laymen's understanding.
Jaxson Howard
When he is 15
Anthony Morgan
its not - u read "j" as "h" and u still have "h", dont u?
Hunter Campbell
Not that guy but you've never elaborated on anything, and saying it's "obvious" is an assumption only you recognize.
Liam Gonzalez
She will leave you. she has lost interest in you. Asexuality is quite unlikely. She is already cheating or she is going to chear on you.
Been in a similar situation. Told me she does not want to have sex, that it hurts, blahblahblah. A few months after that she left me. Then found a GF, then a BF and had a lot of sex.
You do not believe this. I would also not believe it if I was you. But I guess you relationship will soon be over. Sorry.
Gabriel Anderson
Fpbp
Also OP is a giant faggot without balls
Christopher Thompson
English has these words too. "Fortnight" means biweekly. Anyone who uses "bimonthly" to mean twice per month is a fucking idiot and the problem with the devolution of the English language. Bimonthly means every other month. Biannually means every other year. And so on.