So, after 8 and a half years, 2 children, a home, family, all that good stuff my fiance left me for another man...

So, after 8 and a half years, 2 children, a home, family, all that good stuff my fiance left me for another man. She wants almost nothing to do with the children (6 and 2) and just seems to be trying to run the fuck away. Suggestions on how to repair my life or any other comments?

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sue for full custody of your kids
collect child support from your ex grillfiend
raise your kids
be happy

Fiance, 8 years, who was stalling?

Pretty much already have full custody. She's going to start giving me some money this month as far as I'm aware. We're trying to keep it out of the courts. Nice thing is her parents are on my side.

She want's to run away and ruin 3 different lives? Destroy hers. Guilt trip her. Tie her to the kids. Never let her forget. Lawsuits and revenge her the fuck down.

send this pic to local police and say her new boyfriend found out you're a nigger faggot and this is a hate crime

We were together for 8 and half. I proposed in sept. of 201. Wedding was set for this oct.

2017*

That's kind of the path I've been thinking about taking.

that's not gonna last. Take it to court, get full custody before she changes her mind. You know how girls are.

That's nice about the whole keeping it "out of courts" thing. :)

Anyway
>Get a lawyer fucktard, and have him draft up some custodial papers, she has to sign (with full legal rights and a sliding scale child support).
You know, to keep it out of the courts.

The first thing you wanna do is if shes ever in your home, start recording your conversations. Inside your home, you have no requirement to inform her of your recording for it to be admissable in court. Get her to admit she doesnt want the kids. Prove her incompetence. Those two things alone should win you full custody but otherwise its very difficult to win since you are male, and even then you might not get full because "blah blah children shouldnt be without a mother blah blah but taking away dad is perfectly fine blah blah"

I've been talking with her mom about getting legal papers drawn up for kid stuff. I'm not a total fucking idiot.

Keeping it out of the courts means trusting the woman who just betrayed your trust in the most extreme way to not betray your trust again in a lesser way.

Take it to the courts.

MGTOW

Sue for child support.
Make sure that bitch be sending you the cheques.

Other than that you don't want her cuz she a lil bitch so raise your kids right and find another woman with class

She's the one that really wants to keep it out of the courts. She would get put through the ringer with how she found this guy and the actions she's taken. I have a fuck ton of documentation on things. I'm pretty sure she's afraid to go to the legal system.

Get that shit on lock down get it in writing and you can financially cripple her for life as she has to report earnings when calculating child support (if she doesn’t and lies you can send her to prison for falsifying court documents) and then find you a nice tight piece to fuck on the side

Believe me, that's crossed my mind.

Have you got a good support network or are you basically alone?

With a good network of family and friends it makes it easier to move on, if you're alone it's a bit tougher but it can be done. Stay strong and forget about her, that chapter of your life is over, she made her choice.

First and foremost, you have to be the rock for your kids, they won't really understand what's going on, after a couple of weeks they'll probably stop asking where mum is, so don't bring her up unnecessarily it'll make it easier on you, get yourself a routine that works for you and the kids doesn't matter if it's different to what you used to have as long as it makes your life easier, learn to cook basic meals, simple meat and veg, you're responsible for your kids health. Be there for your kids when they need hugs or love, it'll be tough on them too. Their mum's just abandoned them for whatever reason, they don't need to know details at this age.

Hope at least some of this helps.

And as she left and has been alienating the children it looks bad for her ideally the one who brings shit to head first is the one who wins and as you have the house and stability a judge wont remove the children from your care as they have a “routine”

Of course she is because they will make her legally have to contribute financially. Don't be surprised if you get a little money sent but then the flow stops and she falls out of contact or something.

GET A FUCKING LAWYER

SUE HER ASS

GET SUPPORT FOR YOUR 2 CHILDREN

DO IT NOW

MOVE YOUR ASS YOU BETA COCKSUCKING FAGGOT

That's kind of the funny thing. They've hardly asked for her at all. She just fucking lost it and checked out. Her mother kept telling me I was in an abusive relationship and her daughter is fucking crazy and she finally crossed the line. I did the vast majority of the cooking and stuff anyhow. It just drives me insane that she could not only do this to me but our children. She fucked with my little girl and it maddening. I'm also worried about my son but he's only two so I hope he won't be as fucked by it.

This.

Get legal help. You need a third-party looking out for your interests.

noted. thanks brother

Kill her

NEVER, I REPEAT, NEVER TRUST A WOMAN

She WILL try to fuck you
Her parents WILL try to fuck you
The state WILL try to fuck you

Get some legal help, get alimony for your kids that SHE is leaving and teach those poor things that women are all the same.
99% that you got cucked, ruining her life for that is the least you can do.

That's a good thing, so you already have the two harder things under control which will make the transition to single parenting easier.

Sounds like she has mental problems that she needs help with, that is no longer your responsibility but it is something you'll have to be weary of.

Kids are resilient as long as they have support, yes it's tough on them but they'll survive.

Take her to court and lock her into caring for her children before she decides to ditch you and the kids.

Also, I’m sorry to hear this happened OP. I’ve been engaged for three years and sometimes I worry about my choice of partner; I hope what happened to you doesnt happen to me. Good luck.

>I've been talking with her mom

user, allow me to give one perfect piece of advice that ANYONE should know.

When it comes to legal matters, you keep your whore mouth SHUT to ANYONE but your lawyer. Fuck your family. Fuck your friends. Fuck ANYONE who could be involved with the defendant/prosecutor/witness process in anyway possible. Your lawyer, the only person who legally has to keep their mouth shut is the only person you talk to about the legal proceedings.

If you fail to follow this simple advice, then you deserved to lose all the money/legal rights you lose when the shit hits the fan. People are flippant and untrustworthy by nature - you've LITERALLY just experienced that with your fiance. Don't be an idiot and lawyer up immediately. Her parents may flip at the last second to take the kids from you, and they'll win because you've given them everything every step of the way.

You may think I'm being paranoid, but I've seen a lot of good friends get so fucked by the legal system. They've lost jobs, riches and family because they just couldn't keep their fucking mouth shut outside of the courts. Be smart user, don't make the same mistake.

8.5 years, 2 kids, and you never married her.

no wonder she ran off with another man.

hell.... sounds like a real bitch. U sure she isn't bipolar? I mean she could just be crazy and having a fit. Otherwise just accept that you're in a better position than a single mother would be. First off it will be easier for you to find a chick who will put up with raising your kids since chicks are more likely to do that shit. Second you'll be more attractive to women because you're a single father and all that shit. Just bite down, man up and endure. It will turn out for the better eventually!

she will come after the children. Lawyer up right now, i guarantee it will cost you more in the long run. Most states have a large favor going to the woman, regardless of circumstances. I personally know instances where the woman gets the kids without having a job, with several types of criminal backgrounds including theft, assault and drugs, or with severe, diagnosed mental disorders that are not well controlled on meds. In almost every case in my experience, the guy has been a fairly upstanding dude who just shacked up with crazy.

Get to a lawyer and protect everything

Aww, hell with that. Sue her for child support.

not to nitpick, but if he has the higher paying job, he wont get alimony, she will. Child support is different from alimony.
otherwise, yeah, lawyer up.

Best advice I can give is make sure you put your foot down sometime. That was my problem I trusted her too much because of how I was raised. I can guaran-God-Damn-tee that my next time around things will be different.

It's not all bad had user. Family friend had a concrete company had his wife do his book keeping. He paid her and all she had to do was work a few days and watch the kids while he was working. Well she cheated on him once. Got caught he forgave her for the sake of his kids. Found out it was happening agian and that she cheated the day before their wedding years ago. He quietly went through his books making sure everything was in order and quietly sold his company to my boss with the intent to buy it back later. Hired a lawyer and blind sided her with divorce papers. Her parents were on his side under the condition they could see their grand kids. They told the court how their daughter was a piece of trash etc. He got full custody and is banging a chick that looks like a super model and he's probably gonna marry her. So it can work out don't worry user you will get it

That's a long story that I don't really have time to post right now. Sorry man, I know it sounds weird but that wasn't the issue.

Several people have been asking that considering she does have depression and anxiety issues. There has also been the thought of drug use considering her appearance and outlook changes. I thought I was going crazy for thinking she was acting so odd but the other night her parents came over to have a drink and her mom said "You're not crazy. We see it too..."

I work for the county and I'm in good with several lawyer and the like. Though there is some fear of the legal system I'm not too concerned. With my career I've made sure all my ducks are in a row.

That sounds a little more in line with the way my situation seems to be going. It just sucks right now because there is so much fucking anger and depression and just so many shit emotions. I'm generally a pretty happy go lucky guy but this shit has just punched me in the face. On the bright side I'm doing better and have been working out like a boss and remodeling the fuck out of my house.

He got lucky he was a good guy too. Luckily the kids are still young makes the transition not as hard. I would still lawyer up though my father got fucked bad because he waited on getting a lawyer.

thats actually not a bad idea, if you're a man who knows divorce is on the horizon, "sell" all your assets to a friend or family member you trust, then get it back once the dust has settled

Because standing in front of some faggot in a robe will magically make her not being a lazy, child abandoning thot?

Fuck that, OP GET A LAWYER... This thread is older than the time it'd take you to pic up a phone book and call around asking for "FAMILY LAW" lawyers to discuss you getting some papers signed.

It paid off for him because she did try to go after his company with intent to sell but he was technically an employee of my boss and didn't make much so they threw that out right quick lol. And since they both technically worked for my boss and got paid the same now, no alimony.

That's the thing that I always come back to. I'm 34 and have had my fair share of relationships falling apart. Some of them pretty serious ones. I can get past that shit. I can get past being left for another guy. It's just this shit with my kids. To do that to them is just fucking vile. My ex and I didn't fight, got along great everything was good. Pretty much our only fight was over this situation right now. It fucking kills me. Then when word gets back to me about shit she's said I lose it. Her brother is dating a girl that my ex works with and is friends with. My ex's mother had to set my ex's brother straight on stuff because he was being feed all the bull shit my ex was giving the girl he was dating. He's pretty pissed about stuff now too.

buy this and put a bullet in the back of her fucking skull, worthless whores dont deserve to live

i'm jealous, believe it or not

Keep the moral high ground. Don't do anything stupid.

Already have one. Tempting but no. I'd be more inclined to use it on the guy she is with but I wouldn't do that either. Only thing that saved him was the thought of my children not having me.

Why?

That's the overall plan.

It's what happens. When my parents spilt it was ugly. I'm the oldest of the siblings and I knew what was going on but my younger brothers really didn't and it has been much easier for them not so much for me. Hopefully your ex walks out and doesn't come back. If all goes well maybe you will meet someone else and start to get that whole family feeling agian.

Dude, you're lucky. My ex has my kids just enough that I have to pay child support, but I still need to look after them. She even asked for alimony! Lucky the judge shot that shit down, her guy can look after her bitchass. I love my kids but her faggot ass lawyer keeps trying to motion to dismiss my claim to full custody. It's already cost me $100,000. I would love it if the cunt went away and had nothing to do with us anymore, I've got another Court date in July and hoping to get my kids back permanently.

>40cal
>back of the head
to do what? leave a bruise?

edginess aside, if you fear about her mental stability buying a cheap gun may not be a bad idea, more importantly you need to tap your house with hidden cams so you can turn them on when ever she comes over for a "talk", women get incredibly ugly when they're desperate and this will be the only thing that can save you if trys to make false abuse charges

>Filename

I would prefer she just left us the fuck alone but I don't think that will totally happen. I get the feeling she is trying to put on a good face. She tries to put her time in and then fucks off. You better believe though that when those kids are old enough they're going to know everything that happened. Believe me, when they hear the whole story they are not going to want a fucking thing to do with her.

come to my place ill test it on you faggot

Good luck dude.

As I said, I already have one. I am considering the camera thing though.

HEY user! Get a fucking vasectomy now! DO it while there is no nagging cunt in your life that is going to want you to stuff another kid in her.

This next one may just be smarter than your last cum dumpster and know how to get things out of you.

Well brothers, I have to get ready for work. Thanks to all of you! I've been a Sup Forums goer since almost the beginning of this site and I very rarely ever post anything. I would come her for the laughs and to call someone a faggot from time to time. Though, as many of us know Sup Forums will always be here to make you feel horrible and wonderful all at the same time, so I accept the being called a faggot, beta, cocksucker, idiot, etc. etc. etc. Because even in those words there is comfort. I got your back too bros. Wish me God speed in the road ahead as I try to rebuild my life and my children's lives as I wish you God speed in your journeys for porn, laughs, feels and your own life. I love you you beautiful bunch of faggots. Thank you Sup Forums

die in a fire faggot

Cover your ass. My mother used us as tools to fight in court. Got a pool and a puppy so when they asked us were we wanted to be we would answer her house. Because if that's were the puppy was

OP, this threads been up for over an hour, did you call a Family Law specialist yet to draft those papers?
>EVERY FUCKING SECOND COUNTS ASSHOLE!

Immediatly change locks and file for custody. Document everything. Keep your head and be cool. Custody is about the kids so her not being around not having interest is an automatic win. File for child support AFTER you have a court recorded custody decree. Lastly, find a good baby sitter but don't bang him/her.

Your kids will end up being ok.

Lol

say that shit to my face not online motherfucker see what happens

I had this same thing happen. Was with an ex for 7 years, engaged for 2, and she left for some dude she met at work. We had 4 cats, no kids, a rabbit and 2 turtles. All hers. She left them all with me and took off to TN with the dude, and acts like she never knew me now.

Oh man, look at the tough guy online tryin to act tough...never seen that before

GET THE LEGAL DOCS!! You know, to 'keep it out of the courts' You are FUCKING YOURSELF if you do not do THIS ASAP!!

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you need to be a man ,, simply let her go infact encourage her tell her these things happen but pleed with her to keep in touch depending on howbig your balls are even off her money and tell her thiers always a bed for her do what ever she wants but keep in touch at least once a month

Keep it out of the courts why? That's stupid for you to agree to.

you should run off with another man too

>She would get put through the ringer with how she found this guy and the actions she's taken.

That couldn't matter less. You're a moron I feel bad for your kids