25 year old virgin here, or actually not depending on how you see it.
I have finally got a gf thats deeply into me. We had sex. Oral and vaginal penetration
The thing is i didnt cum. As a virgin i imagined im gonna cum right after the condom is on but it was the opposite. I was fucking her for over half an hour - 3 different positions and blowjob in between - and yet i couldnt cum. Eventually she didnt want to continue saying she is bad in bed. Something was clearly wrong but i think it was mostly me overthinking shit for the first time. Im 17cm and white and i was hard most of the time, sometimes halfhard cause of the stress i think. My favorite position was her sitting on me lying but it was hurting her
Stop watching so much porn. Seriously thats what porn does too you. Even today and ill fuck and not cum or itll take me awhile if i been watching alot.
Jonathan Allen
take a rim- and footjob
Julian Collins
relax
and stop watching porn
Lincoln Diaz
I'm going to say combination of porn and first time jitters.
I didn't cum first time I fucked too.
Carter Powell
>I didn't cum first time I fucked too.
I knew a guy in HS who said the same thing
Aaron White
Condoms can do that. You’ll be ok OP. Just relax and enjoy it
Brayden Hall
Didn’t finish first time either, but that was because I realized I’m allergic to latex. Dick started itching like crazy and at a certain point I was just fucking to satisfy the itch
Justin Campbell
buy a sex toy, it's more healthy than using your hand to jack off because it's actually realistic
Grayson Richardson
Oral was both ways btw. I was licking her out good. 25 years of theoretical experience. Could it be the condom ?
stop caring that you didnt cum, hope that your gf understands this is pretty normal for a first timer. back off porn, focus on being comfortable with her and don't feel pressured
Some people have harder time cumming when nervous/stressed, and some people don't.
I watch porn every day and masturbate several times daily. When I lost my vcard, I came like 3 times and didn't go soft. Girl never noticed because she squirted all over and thought it was all her juices.
Even now at 30, I still masturbate daily and fuck almost daily as well. I browse at least 2 hours of porn on weekdays.
Don't think it is because of porn. It isn't.
Tyler Sanchez
most likely it wasnt as satisfying as it could because you both are nervous "perfoming well". happens to almost everyone at least once. having a clear picture in mind what sex should look like will hold you back. a lot of guys cant even get hard for a long time in their first relationsship. first things first: enjoy yourself, then look after her enjoyment. If youre having fun, shes most likely also having fun (true for decent persons, ofc rape is onesided, but i think my point still comes though). ofc condom numbs the sex a bit down, but not too much tbh
Can confirm, it's because you're nervous, just get closer to her and be comfortable around her, soon enough you'll cum.
Also I can't com with a rubber on, I need to fuck raw to be able to cum or finish myself and make her swallow it
Kevin Lee
>25 year old virgin here >We had sex. Oral and vaginal penetration
Even if you didn't cum, you had sex. Also think this is made up.
Eli Rivera
Some people have a higher sex drive than others. This could certainly be an issue.
Landon Gonzalez
It was most likely the condom. It is nowhere near feeling her raw puss sliding up and down your dick.
Condoms suck. Pull it off while you're hitting it doggystyle and you'll come in seconds.
Jeremiah White
Try without condom. Feel your mind get blown.
Carter Jones
If my girls too wet and I'm wearing a condom I don't feel shit.
Camden Richardson
Could be the condom. My first time I didn't cum because of how weird the condom felt for the first time.
Juan Reed
You're not used to it or each other and your mind is too preoccupied fitting the action. Sex is something you feel, not think.
Gabriel Sullivan
Use lube. If its her first time or one of her first times it will hurt her for a while until she starts getting used to it. You might be desensitised from watching porn and/or masturbating. Give porn a break, and masturbation, wait until the next time you have sex and you should be sweet. It took me a couple of goes to finally enjoy it as the feeling was different my body wasn't used to it for pleasure instead my body was only used to masturbation as pleasure and I watched heaps of porn which made it worse
Jace Phillips
This 100% Even now I struggle to cum with a condom on..... Raw everyday (with my gf)
Cooper Fisher
This is just a mixture between not being comfortable, it being your first time, and wearing a condom. Performance anxiety is real. Remember, sex is supposed to be fun. The girl I was most comfortable with during sex was a great time. We laughed, took breaks, talked, and just made an environment where putting on a show wasn't what it looked like. It was really more like love honestly. It was good.
I feel like when I have sex now i'm putting on a show and its boring. I don't cum and I don't really enjoy it.
Ryder Sanders
same thing happened to me OP. Condom caused me not to feel anything, which I didn't realize since it was my first, caused me not to cum, which in turn caused me to go soft. Was horribly awkward. Girl was understanding though, but wouldn't let me go in raw.
Noah Cox
This.. also remember. She can't get pregnant the first time you have sex.
