You know what is really funny? The shows, by trying to pander about feminism, have gone completely against the feminist message of the books.
GRRM is a huge feminist, but he is also a pacifist. He believes that women are able to get stupid men from stop killing each other in useless wars. This is better demonstrated in the religious chant that Sansa sings during the Battle of the Blackwater in the books.
>Gentle Mother, font of mercy, save our sons from war, we pray, stay the swords and stay the arrows, let them know a better day. Gentle Mother, strength of women, help our daughters through this fray, soothe the wrath and tame the fury, teach us all a kinder way.
This is the core of GRRM feminism. It's why Ellaria Sand in the books is so great, she understand that more war is evil and just wants to end the cycle of revenge. Show Ellaria is a bitch who kills her entire family for not wanting to hurt a little girl for revenge. Book Brienne is a girl who yearns for the ideals of knighthood, and tries to fulfill them by protecting the weak, but also hates killing and is legitimately traumatized when she ends up murdering some bad guys. Show Brienne is a psycho killer.
Now, I know GRRM is an atheist, but I know also he was raised Catholic, and I can't help but see a lot of Marianism in his treatment of pacifist feminism in the book. Which is not surprising, Westeros is a medieval society, so you can't have Marxist feminism, the only way a feminist message can be relayed is through religion. Which is where D&D fuck up. You see, they are secular Jews who consider religion something stupid Republicans follow, but which doesn't have anything to fulfill in a world, even a medieval world, except as a excuse for rulers to exercise their power. Their own ideological prejudices make them blind to a main theme of the book series, but they have a feeling it was supposed to be feminist, so what do they do? They get badass women killing men while saying one-liners, of course.