How do you deal with a breakup, Sup Forums?

How do you deal with a breakup, Sup Forums?

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drink

drink

Find someone else to fuck for the time being, then find someone you want to be with. Oh, also just get on with the rest of your life, if you were a co-dependant then this might prove difficult

Doing this is a good way to gain weight, destroy your wallet, and wind up an alcoholic.
Smoke pot instead. It's cheaper and less addicting.

The fastest way to get over a girl is to get on top of another one.

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Usually go on a 1-2 month bender of smoking a ton of weed during the week and drink and take coke all weekend. Find a new girl for some casual fucks. Clean my act up after a couple months of partying the pain away til eventually I find a new girl.

Alternatively pick up a new hobby if you prefer a healthier option

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Lift weights.

Let yourself grieve. You don't do yourself any favors by avoiding it. It's a process.

Kino and Vodka

Best formula:

>Fuck other women, sooner you can, sooner you'll feel better
>Lift weights
>Involve yourself in hobbies (music, whatever)


Seriously though the old adage this user said is actually true. I dated a BPD girl for like 3.5 years who as you can imagine was literally insane, most toxic relationship ever. Of course the sex was out of this fucking world, and I was hooked on her. Even after we broke up we fucked for like 8 months after that off and on.

Really the only thing that broke me away and cut the cord was fucking a new girl. I tried not to for a long time but finally broke down and did it, and the sex was frankly mediocre but something about it cleared my head and I never went back to my ex ever again. Then I just moved on and dated/fucked other women. Completely changed me and made me primed for a healthy relationship. Met the right one, been together 6 years now.

Don't listen to this loser op drinking is much better

This.
Try to reflect if you did anything wrong in the relationship also, and then try to start fixing whatever personal issues made the relationship difficult.
Improve yourself so that the next time it goes better. Dont listen to anyone saying to drink, that is how you start the downward spiral into becoming a miserable basement dweller (Sup Forums isn't the best place for advice. Shocking.)

Burn my name in gasoline on her lawn.

>smoke pot instead. its cheaper
whoa their buckaroo gonna have to stop you right there, in what world is it cheaper to go get a g for $10 to 15 then buying a few beers for maybe $7
just drink OP eventually you'll be so drunk you won't even remember who she is

Yeah, nothing like a depressant to help you overcome sadness.

1. Do not drink! You are just gonna get more depressed.

2. Go to work, find time for yourself. Got a hobby? Want to play games? Do it now, enjoy the freedom

3. If you want to you can smoke weed to relax.

4. Gym is helpful, something else to do if you gym, or any exercise.

5. You are going to find someone else at some point or another, you need to become independent again first. Love is gonna find you when you are not looking for it.

7. Relationships are hard, so are break ups. You will feel sad from time to time, but you need to grow and realise that you enjoyed your time with her, you'll have plenty more relationships like that.

Peace my brother, know the feeling but hopefully you'll find those tips useful! :D

Greetings from Scotland x

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Well it's been four years since the collapse of my relationship with my ex BPD girlfriend, who I had foolishly asked to marry me. We were together for almost six years and as this user said, BPD women are truly bat shit insane. I'm beginning to think She may have messed me up for life. I drank a lot year one, smoked a mountain of grass and managed to fuck her attractive (but just as crazy) childhood friend but the pain and negativity is all still right there every day.
Tldr: I don't know that you can just get over a breakup without the right circumstances. It's a combination of time stimulants, and will power.

I think I got lucky, but I too, feel that I have "long term damage" from my BPD girlfriend.

I haven't even seen my bpd-ex for like 7 years and I still sexually fantasize about her as fucked as that is. The sad truth I've come to realize is that you'll never get sex as good as with a BPD girl -mine was a mix of BPD and childhood sex abuse .... as messed up as it is, between that and the insane emotional turmoil in the relationship, it was the perfect storm for sex that was out of this universe.

Imagine a personal pornstar who would do anything for you, while simultaneously worshipping you and your cock, treating you like they can't live without your cock and cum.

Of course they hate your guts right after the fact, but during, it's literally a drug. It helped that when I dated her she was in her prime... 18 years old, DD tits, skinny body (like never heavier than 105lb) and was always wet AF and ready to go.

Anyway, I digress. I think she also fucked me up a little bit with what "normal" relationships are supposed to be like. The next couple I had after her, were pretty tumultuous - and looking back on it, I think a lot of it was my fault because I "learned" things from my BPD girl.

Eventually I settled down with my current gf, wonderful person and very normal and healthy relationship. Because of this I occasionally feel "bored" but I always remind myself it's a million times better than my BPD ex. That girl literally almost killed me.

oh the same thread for the millionth of time today

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Dude, you describe the situation perfectly my ex and I met in high school, she have an amazing body; 130lbs soft, pale, dark eyes and tits that at the start were DD and grew to GG sized tits. To this day the most perfect tits I've ever seen. As you said the sex was earth shattering, with minimal effort I got her into anal and for like a month she was addicted to it every time we had sex she wanted anal, eventually she slowed down on that but it never went away. To this day I fantasize about her, her moans, her smell, how her skin and pussy tasted. it's maddening how deeply and badly she is in my brain.

I've tried many things but nothing scratches the itch. This must be how addicts feel.

swift and sure

>a g for 10
Not everyone lives somewhere shitty. I can drive three minutes and get weed tested in a lab for $3 a gram.

Coom

i also was with a sort-of bpd chick for several years, and am not in the best mental health state myself (what a surprise right); we split for good around last x-mas and i still think about her, still look at old texts/letters, pictures. it drives me insane to think about 'what was or what it could have been' i have been dating/fucking some milf off tinder for the past few months and unpopular opinion - the temporary bandaid solution there only makes me feel worse.

maybe it's best to spend a year alone after a serious relationship but that may not work for everyone.

Keep busy during the day, cry at night. When i broke up with my gf after 8 years i thought that he was living like crazy screwing guys all over so i begane fucking everything that moved, traveled. i heard later that she was at home all the time doing nothing, feeling like shit. Don't be me, be true to your feelings an you're going to be okay.

The "what was and what could have been" stuff will eat you alive. I have to force myself onto another train of thought when I start spiraling down into those kind of thoughts, or else I spend the rest of the day intensely miserable. taking time to be alone can be very beneficial. I have done it for a while now and it's been one of the few things that help. After my ex not being in a relationship with a female has been liberating. I tried to start something with her childhood friend who had a lady boner for me but it was never going to go anywhere. She wanted to fuck me, but she also knew that if my ex found out, or if we started a relationship she would never forgive her. After that I decided to be alone for the foreseeable future. Not having someone else's wants and needs to consider not having to worry about a crazy person's out of left field bull shit has been fantastic.

Yeah but alcohol gets you around loose women and pot just locks you on the couch

yea tbh user i have lots of sleepless nights. i'm pretty old (35) and wasn't really good with women when younger, she wasn't by any means my first gf but one of the first very serious ones, we talked marriage n stuff. the sex with the tinder chick was horrible at first but that was 100% on me, thinking about the ex. tinder chick has now ghosted me within the last week i have no idea went happened there, but we weren't like in a serious committed relationship. but for an over-thinker like myself ghosting really sucks, we have slept together for 3 months. now that will be in my mind too the 'what went wrong' in this case rather 'what could have been'.

still far and away more bothered by the other ex. i very well could be for years. i hope we both eventually move on, get better, and make it user.

>you will love when you're not looking for it

This trope is not true at all. I've only ever had relationships when I hit on girls in real life or on tinder/okcupid.

In my case she came around when i wasn't prepared. It all went so smoothly so i'm sure she set me up.

Lol I turn 30 on Saturday, and again same situation, was never a ladies man, but I'm not a hideous man either. She was not my first girlfriend, or first serious relationship but she was the only one who I was absolutely head over heels for. It wasn't just the sex, it was her, who and what she was beyond the mental Illness. For me the last year has been a harder one because I found out through the grapevine she married some guy she hardly knew, got knocked up and finally got on medication for her BPD. She has a son with that guy now. And every time I think about it I feel like I wasted years of my life trying to build a future with her, only for some random douche to get the prize.

Take it one day at a time. Get to know yourself and love yourself. Video games and old movies are my way of dealing with it. When enough time passes by. Get out there and find another nice girl. But don't be that guy and use someone as a rebound. Take it this way, she wasn't the one and she's still out there. There's a reason OP why they write songs about this sort of thing.

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I'm this guy -- I'm also about to turn 30 in like 3 weeks. I've been where you're at, but don't think of it that way. Keep your wits about you and realize you're romanticizing her, and your relationship and what it could have been.

The REALITY is that it NEVER COULD HAVE BEEN and never will. The reality is you cannot medicate BPD - you might mask some symptoms here and there, but there's no cure, theres no medication that will change her.

The REALITY is that this guy she married is probably put through the wringer daily, they probably have a really shitty relationship regardless of what you see on social media. Their kid will probably have a shitty household to grow up in.

That's the reality of it. You're stronger, you're better. You made a conscious decision to leave her and live a life that does not include such insane mental illness and turmoil. Follow through on that commitment.

i know these feels and pains :/ i'm not even sure if my ex is with someone pretty likely as its been just about a year now. she is not big on social media which was something i liked; though there is no way for me to check into it which is probably for the better. except it'll be added to my think-about-it list more then likely. maybe i should go into therapy or something.

Damn that's insightful. Mine wasn't bpd but her mentally ill mom fucked her up good and she was terrible at resolving disputes and communicating. And she blames being asian on her absolute refusal to get therapy for her troubles. I keep thinking what could have been and romanticizing, and ultimately I was the one that fucked up and caused her to break up, but any guy that she's with is going to have serious troubles staying happy with her. I know I did.

i posted above about my own woes, but should add i come from divorced parents, no siblings, and have horrendous communication problems as i tend to hold it all in then snap later. never had anyone to talk to growing up and it has impacted my adult life significantly. idk if any other anons know this feel. might have saved my earlier relationship had i made my own improvements.

The follow through part is hard. The nights can be very long and lonely. Going from affection and sex constantly to nothing at all was rough to put it mildly. But it is getting better if for nothing other than time passing. Still hurts but what more can be done?

Focus on your lifts, studies and friends. Force yourself to say "yes" to more social events you would otherwise wouldn't. If you can, travel abroad if you can. Find some thot to fuck.

She has very similar things. If she would make those improvements and just see a therapist, I would have much more justification for being sad. Right now she's a workaholic to escape her troubles and she's going to drive every future guy nuts with her crazy. And I can't really feel bad because I feel like I was emotionally abused for years.

>few beers
have you ever been drunk?

>Feeling bad about someone not loving you

Why are people so fucking retarded?