Dependant Depressed GF

>Dependant Depressed GF

When I imagine the perfect woman, I think of a needy depressed broken girl who needs to rely on me. Like her parents are either dead or one is alive and abusive and or a drunk who tells her she’s a fat bitch or something, and I’m the only one who can help her smile. Make it so she never wants to go home and will do anything to make sure I stay with her and willingly give her body to me. She wears pyjamas and or oversized hoodies all day, no doubt mine since she isn’t a fat bitch, and is like a foot shorter than me since I’m fucking six foot three. Straight fluffy raven black hair that just barely touches her shoulders is key, but hair dye would also be a turn on, specifically in the blue and purple category. Tiddies between C and D cup will be just fine but ass must come first.

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Okay.

You don't know what you are asking for user. That is not how it works. A depressed gf fucking sucks.

Cringe. You wouldnt want that

this

OP should have sex btw

you do NOT want a BPD girlfriend. that's what you're describing. work on your low self esteem, OP

know how you feel
have what you want, except the cup size- is just 75b and she is not depressed

you have to handle her right, she will always believe you are the best thing that will happen to her
you can also fuck her in every way you want bc she know she will never find someone better

I have finally found the cringe shit i came to Sup Forums for,thank you OP

My wife has been struggling with depression her whole life. We've been together 17 years, married 15.

You want to know what sex with a woman who is depressed is like?

non-existent.

depressed suicidal girlfriend < girlfriend who has hope in christ and sings in church every sunday

> girlfriend who has hope in christ and sings in church every sunday

those are the freakiest

Now that you mention it, I actually do wanna know. What is it like? Does she enjoy it?

christian girlfriend = best girlfriend

>don't stick your dick in crazy
don't forget it
or you'll regret it

When she's in a dark spot, which can last a couple months or more, depending on how work, family, etc are going, it is literally non-existent. There is no contact for her to enjoy.

When she's on an upswing, sex is frequent, and she seems to enjoy it as much as she did when she was 20.

First of all, its downright pathetic wanting a woman just because she is "broken". That shit says a lot about the type of person you really are OP. Also, a girl like this is all fun and games until you get past that honeymoon phase and you realize just how fucking useless and draining she is as a person. You don't want someone like this in your life OP, trust me.

I've been through two of these women in my lifetime, one should have been obvious from the start (I was young, and "knew everything") and the other evolved into it within the last year of the relationship...

The first was my first long-term relationship. I was 17 turning 18, she was 16 turning 17 when we first met. She had mommy and daddy issues, shitty home life, etc. Her mom was drunk, beat the hell out of her one night, and kicked her out. She moved in with me before she turned 18. By the time she was 18, I had saved up enough money to get an apartment and had already purchased my first car. It became overwhelming over time, and drained the life out of me.

The second time was disguised as a perfectly normal relationship for the first 5 years. Entering into year 6, things started to change rapidly, and I stuck around because that's what I would want someone to do for me if I was unraveling. However, I say that knowing I'd pull myself out of whatever rut I'd find myself in, and not try to keep myself in it. She took comfort in doing nothing and staying "safe" while I had to put in all the work. It got overwhelming even quicker than the first time, because I had been down that road before.

In short... You don't know what you're asking for, OP. It's taxing on your soul, dude. Even with the best intentions (for yourself, to utilize the weak-minded or for her, to be a caregiver) you will be in over your head in no time.

Had this, was with her for two years her depression brought me down and made me feel like shit, you don’t want this op

>implying women arent naturally dependent and broken

We've raised them to be that way for a long time and you expect the training to wear off in 1-2 generations?

>It became overwhelming over time
How exactly?

Leaving my BPD GF was the hardest shit I’ve ever done, but I’ve never been happier.

OP wants a slave, not how it works in the real world.
Go fap and live life

or perhaps just dilate

There is a difference between having a woman who is dependent on you but still finds a way to be useful, as opposed to someone who is not only useless but sucks all the life out of you.

>Leaving my BPD GF was the hardest shit I’ve ever done, but I’ve never been happier.
Why?

Because even in a situation where you're exploiting the codependent behavior, you're still "maintaining" her well-being enough to neglect yourself along the way. It doesn't necessarily equate to major incidents all the time, but it's a snowball effect. Those little nuisances of dealing with someone like that just get old, and you'll get sick of repeating the same cycle over and over again.

Not the guy you're asking, but imagine being around someone 24/7 who literally does nothing except the bare minimum.

They go to work. As soon as they come home, the disappear into candycrush, or a book, or the internet. All while you have your own employment, but then have to take care of pets, laundry, dishes, cooking, cleaning, childcare.

And then when you confront them about it, even to just suggest therapy, they blow up at you, accuse you of "keeping count," "having resentments," "not being supportive."

Now imagine that situation where there is a legally binding contract between you two, and the state is guaranteed to make you lose 50% of your property and pay to that person if you can't deal with "being supportive" anymore.

imagine thinking that her constantly being depressed wont have backlashes like self harm or attempting suicude

How do you deal with it?

Prior to my late 30's, I fucked around.

Then I realized that didn't solve anything.

Now, when she hits those months where I'm not getting my physical and emotional needs met, I drink a bit more whiskey, go to the range more often, and make sure our son is decently taken care of.

Yeah yeah it might be cringy and pathetic but its completely natural for a human being to find the urge to protect and being needed to be a trait attractive to find in a potential couple.

The feeling of self satisfaction when people help others wether its trought volunteering at a homeless site, donating clothes/food, helping the old lady carry her grocery bags, cooking food for your friends and simply being complimented by your coworkers for a job well done.
Its one of the few saving traits on the disgusting human nature and its more and more seldom seen these days.

All this being said wasnt to say "get a depressed gf" not at all, it was just to shed some light on to why this exists on the first place.

sounds like you are overwhelmed by normal wimins, feel insecure around them and possibly scared of them.
so you want someone definitely lower then you on the food chain so you can feel you have the upper hand.
why not go for a mentally disabled girl? possibly in a wheelchair?

Is she hot, at least suck dick good? Maybe post a pic

I am the guy he was asking and I couldn't have said it better myself.

>Is she hot, at least suck dick good?

just broke up with mine because she refuses to believe anything i say is correct, no communication = no changes.

Nope, not posting a pic.

My wife is the most beautiful woman on the planet, early 90's Kathy Ireland is a close second, but that's about it.

When she's on the upswing, she sucks cock like a fucking machine.

It's a balancing act, some of her mental issues are my fault. I went through a period of time post deployment(s) where I just did what the fuck I wanted to do, to include other women. She found out, but stayed because of love. The rest of her issues are probably genetic or nurture related.

This is how it feels having a "cute" depressed gf after a while.

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Preach, brother!

>They go to work. As soon as they come home, the disappear into candycrush, or a book, or the internet. All while you have your own employment, but then have to take care of pets, laundry, dishes, cooking, cleaning, childcare.

This. My brother's wife is the same way, only difference is that she doesn't work. She will spend all day immersed in her shit while he busts his ass all day so they can make ends meet, and as soon as he comes home he has to practically take care of 4 children (their 3 kids as well as my useless sil). Its depressing to say the least.

This sounds fairly close to my Ex-wife.
Don't do it user. You will be the only thing between her and suicide. If your relationship is terrible and you want out, there isn't one. Not unless a chamber is emptied, or a rope gets pulled taut.

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accurate. The novelty wears off super quick.

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Motherfucker... I'm done.

This right here says it all.

He gets it.

He's been through it.

I'll smoke to that.

Are you guys gay or something? All of those things sound perfect. Maybe if you weren’t such a manchildren you wouldn’t mind taking care of a girl as nature intended.
I couldn’t imagine actually getting mad if my girlfriend didn’t cook dinner or something.

Based. Take good care of your wife user :)

Here is a thought, instead of feeling sorry for yourself, set a goal or two. I cannot and will not do life FOR you. You need to figure your shit out and stop going through with someone holding your hand. Stop putting your eggs in other peoples baskets and fucking do shit on your own.

Imagine being in a relationship where the other person contributes anything instead of not only taking, but taking everything for granted. Let me rephrase that..

>Imagine being in a relationship.

fuck off user

No, we're just probably older than you and recognize a red flag when we see one. I'm not surprised to see a post like yours, though. This is the same board that's into chastity and cuckolding.

There are ways to get pussy other than becoming a servant or a caretaker. There are ways of feeling content with yourself without being one or the other, too.

You're not grooming your needy co-dependant girlfriend into being a loyal object of your desire. You're grooming yourself to be a doormat.

What is there to even contribute? I’d be fine with a girlfriend who just hung around. I don’t see a problem with it unless I were a manchild who expects a mommy gf to make me sandwiches with the crust cut off.

See the problem with this scenario is you become the parent to them, and before you realize its to late because you love that person and want to help them. A relationship is a 2 way street. its about compromise and give and take. Maybe you don't have enough life experience, or maybe you have not lived with another person yet. So I can't hold anything against you. Trust me when I say its work sometimes and its tough. If done right the work pays off and its incredible. But again it takes 2 to work at it.

I would like to argue against only and solely the weight part.
They tend to never get fat unless they are literally being a leech instead of your partner.
Also several years of abuse have tought her body to stay fit and on shape to run away from her sexually abusive step dad.

To every other point. Amen.

>Are you guys gay or something? All of those things sound perfect.
Right, they sound perfect but from personal experience I can assure you that they are far from the closest thing to being perfect. It's like that other user said, the novelty wears off VERY quickly.
>Maybe if you weren’t such a manchildren you wouldn’t mind taking care of a girl as nature intended.
No son, there is a difference between supporting a person rather than having them leech off of you.
>I couldn’t imagine actually getting mad if my girlfriend didn’t cook dinner or something.
Then you've never had a super rough day at work made made only worse by the fact that you also have to cook dinner for yourself as well as the person whose only job was to have that one thing ready for you.

How about expecting a partner that shares 50% of any work that needs to be done in the shared living space?

What would you think about having a roommate, just a roommate, that did nothing in the shared space?

Relationships are a proper partnership, not a servant/queen dynamic.

I’m 30 and haven’t been in a relationship in like 8 years, so that’s probably why I’m not seeing a redflag, but I don’t see how unmotivated gf = making me a doormat.
Would a more independent woman be more likely to leave over nothing and treat me like a doormat?
If being a doormat means that I’m pretty much taking care of her like a parent, I’m fine with that. I’ve never been happy outside of a relationship, so I’m not going to take it for granted.

It's ok user but what about the natural progress of evolution then?
If your partner is kinda useless can you actually on your own cook, clean, work, raise your kids, teach your kids to not be abusive rapists thiefs school shooting pieces of shit, pay the bills, stay as a productive member of society and stay completely and perfectly healthy (both psichologically and biologically) afterwards?

Because i have no problem if it comes to doing all of these things for myself but having to to it x2, x3 or even x4 times while keeping my cheerful and optimistic attitude towards life is a whole other topic.

I'll do my damnedest until the next time I get pissed off and let shit in the house go to shit to wake her up. ;)

just got out of a relationship with what you describe and its not worth it user

>super rough day and cooking for yourself
Literally ever day is awful and I have to cook for myself anyway, so it’s no biggie. The fact that she’s there at all would make up for it.
I’ve never had a roommate who has ever done any work, so I’m used to it. Although I have been living alone. The fact that I would have a girlfriend at all would make up for the extra chores. Expecting more seems greedy.

Oh boy... Have you got a lot to learn.

First off, sport. Can I call you "sport"? I'm calling you "sport"...

The girl that "just hangs around" is the polar opposite of a "mom gf".

What you're describing is a house plant that you fuck on occasion. A penis flytrap, if you will.

It seems fairly simple, right? Wrong.

You see, a penis flytrap doesn't just require water. Although it routinely does, without falter, there are other variables at work here.

Instead of maintaining humidity, temperature or even lighting, you're in a situation where you're maintaining every other aspect of the penis flytrap's existence. She isn't just hanging around without consequence. She's hanging around in anticipation of everything being provided to her. At what cost does that come to you? A full-time gig for a few strokes and the occasional blowjob when she's not in the depths of despair?

>The fact that I would have a girlfriend at all would make up for the extra chores.

Might want to start with a cat or dog, user. That isn't a healthy attitude to have.

this 100%

>She isn't just hanging around without consequence. She's hanging around in anticipation of everything being provided to her. At what cost does that come to you? A full-time gig for a few strokes and the occasional blowjob when she's not in the depths of despair?

Fucking this.

holy fuck thats accurate as fuck

Hello Mr. Pedophile.

I’ve had pets. I don’t need animal companionship, I just need to be a in relationship.

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I'm in a relationship right now with a girl very much like this the only key difference is that she's consistently taken steps to get better. Since I've met her she's gotten a full time job finished the degree she'd been putting off for years and finally started to see a fucking professional therapist instead of just dumping her neurosis on me hoping I'd have some answers. If you are a patient person and the girl actually puts in effort to get better it can be a rewarding relationship. But if they just leech off you get the fuck out before her hooks are in deep because she will slowly drag you down with her.

Seems like you dont have the maturity for one.

The problem with an unmotivated girlfriend is that your pursuit of pussy already puts you in a position of motivating more momentum in the relationship than her. Doing "all" the work on the relationship side of things is being a doormat, whether you see it or not.

Another user made a very good point... He mentioned that it says a lot about someone when they deliberately target "broken" women. There's a big difference between baggage that we all carry from one relationship to the next and then deliberately going after shit shows because you know that the bar is set low. You're essentially saying that you're cool with being the work horse because you know that your only way of being in a "successful" relationship is by being with someone who is dependent upon you. Women like that see men like you as targets, and not a knight in shining armor.

Why are you role playing in your reply?

How do you figure?

Just ended a 5.5 year relationship with one these. You do not want that. I promise.

It's called abstraction and simplifying concepts you bastard.
If a problem is excesively complex or otherwise too simple and straightforward yet is not understood you abstract the concepts and use other stuff as an example.
In this case he reduced having a depressed overly needy gf to having a penis sucker plant.

To be so needed that you'll take a woman who will just walk all over you, and make you feel guilty for the times you try to stand up for yourself, should be a huge red flag that either 1) you're not mentally healthy enough to be in a healthy relationship, or B) you're looking to manipulate the shit out of a woman who isn't mentally healthy enough for a proper relationship.

Either way, the unconditional love of a dog is best for you and society.

Dependant gfs are the n 1º path to getting a daugher with a dad complex.
When not presented with an imposing strong female figure the daughter often gets overly attached to the father.
Just some random useless trivia.

I had a crush on a depressed girl, but the comments here are suprisingly eye opening

They’re dependent on me and I’m emotionally dependent on them. It seems like a fair trade off. Being single is worse. Like I said, expecting more would just be greedy, and even for your perspective, it would be like shooting myself in the foot whether I stay with her or not.
I’ve asked a dozens of girls in the past few years and I haven’t had one date. Being in a bad relationship is success, because otherwise I’m stuck feeling sick and getting 3 hours of sleep over the fact that I don’t enjoy a single aspect in my life other than the hope of finally finding someone.

If you're at the point that you would rather be a tampon than an equal partner, you need to do three things.
1. Find therapy
2. Go to the gym or find some other physical exercise to do daily
3. Find a hobby that brings you into contact with healthy folks.

It’s just a bunch of boomer who bitch about their failed relationships. Don’t take them too seriously.

"boomer"

I'm not sure there are many 60-80 year old folks on this site.

1. Therapy is a scam.
2. I’ve been competitively lifting for a decade. I’m already more fit than 99.99% of men will ever be.
3. I have hobbies and don’t enjoy them.
I’m literally just co-dependent, and nothing else will make me feel happy. I’ve been in relationships and they are the only time I’ve felt happy.

You’re not clever.

In that case, I'm sure there's a single mom with mixed kids waiting for a guy like you.

No, but I'm factual.

Nah, find a girl that is cheeky, funny, smart, lively, etc. You will never regret it.

This conversation describes many aspects of my break-up with my BPD GF in summer. Those kinds of girls are just fucking heavy and if they're good looking, they'll just switch dudes after couple of months, because "it just didn't work". They never put work in the relationship, you are the one carrying them from their problems and need to hold hand in simplest of tasks. Fuck, my ex gf started crying when her car was having issues with sparking plugs and was panicking like crazy. She also cried like crazy, when my female friends (who I have known for many years, longer than her) wished me happy birthday with emojis and stuff.

You have to constantly carry her, also monitor your own words and behaviors, because she can raise suspicious thoughts over anything, you can't be yourself and you can't honestly say everything, because again she will grow suspicious on you for no fucking reason. It's fucked up and you get to fight her once in a while. And of course, you are always guilty.

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I'll take a chubby smart girl (what I married) over a skinny depressed girl (what she turned in to) any day.

I think there could be a serious connection between suicide and breaking up with a depressed girl (depends on the girl)

OP has never had sex

Yes relationships fail, I have had a few, they ultimately prepare us for ones that matter and are worth it.

This guy gets it.

Well, unfortunately there's a big life lesson you're going to have to learn about being comfortable with being alone. That old philosophy about being content with yourself before you're able to be successful in a relationship is true. Jumping from relationship to relationship doesn't really teach you anything about yourself, you're just filling a void, literally and figuratively speaking. You're gonna fail attempting to get women, you only completely fail when you stop trying. You have to be okay with being alone, then rejection, then meaningless sex, then relationships. You don't really have a firm grasp on your likes/dislikes and your own pros/cons until you've just accepted the inevitability of it all and just gone with the flow through each stage of it with your head up instead of just your dick.

i'd suggest you to:
1. read the "bambino" manga
2. watch "ftpstudentaction" videos and will witt on prageru on yt
3. study some intellectual topic (nothing existential, more like law or history)

these things helped me to stop being obsessed with a girl like this, try them if you want

>fucks up multiple relationships with boomer retardation
>thinks advice is valuable

See, I also wanted something similar, but with the end goal being that I actually help this person. Most depressed/BPD girls/guys don't want change, they want to use you. They're not going to be dependant on you, as much as you're going to be on them. It's all manipulation and guilt-tripping, and you'll think that you're helping, but in reality they are destroying your life by playing on your empathy. I'm not saying that this is always the case, though, and I'd happily be proven wrong.

Yup I did fuck up a lot, and learned a lot. Now im happily married. With a great family. Sorry user, maybe one day you will get to a place where you are truly happy bro. Good luck.

Had a depresses gf. Feeling somehow responsible for her mental well being was not nice, it takes a toll on you after a couple of years. She had a panic attack when I told her I would leave her if she didn't get professional help (she always had some shitty excuse). She did but I left her anyways, then I got depressed and she came back to take care of me only to find out we still loved eachother (she fucked someone else once when we broke up and hated it too, can't blame her I would've done the same but no one wanted my depressed dick).
I did the whole fucking ride, it ended up nice but I don't know if I would do it again.

>i want human trash to care about because im lonely and bored

this

>rejections to meaningless sex to relationship
Not trying to get herpes just to get into a relationship.
>content with yourself
It’s been nearly a decade. I’ve tried to be happy, but it’s just not the way I’m wired. And if people could be happy by themselves, why would the be in a relationship with anyone? Checkmate.

The one line in that image is "I jerked off like 200 times while you were at work"...

That's a depressed trap. Can forget about C or D cups then.

>She wears pyjamas and or oversized hoodies all day, no doubt mine since she isn’t a fat bitch
hate to break it to you but depressed girls who stay inside all day drawing art commissions aren't gonna be skinny. Even if they start out skinny form say abuse that lids to them being malnourished they will put on weight adjusting to this new safe lifestyle you're presenting them.