I'm happily married to a wonderful man. I married a virgin and he has been my only partner. Aside from a couple of boyfriends in the past to which I gave blow jobs to not much of a sexual experience. I find myself in this horrible new predicament in which I am dying to try with someone else but would not dare to cheat on my husband who's pretty much the perfect partner.
Please tell me I'm awful for even contemplating this.
One of my exes was incredibly skilled with his hands and I find myself having fantasies about this at times. We never got to fully have sex but this particular guy seems to be in my head about the matter. This was back in high school. I am currently a PhD student. so it has been while.
>virgin >boyfriends in the past to which I gave blow jobs to pick one
Nathan Gray
Kill yourself
Easton Bailey
you first.
Jacob Peterson
intercourse wise. You want me to write a freaking novel?
Nathaniel Campbell
here is my take on this.
i had no sexual experience prior to my wife. she was similar to you - had a couple boyfriends she fooled around with including everything but sex.
here is my take on this. and we've been together for almost 20 years now. I'm still attracted to other people, sometimes even fantasize about other people. i'm sure she does too. but actually being with someone else isn't going to satisfy that itch. i'm not unhappy at all with us or with our sex life and that's fine with me. if you are unhappy with your husband then get a divorce, but don't do it thinking that you'll be able to just have sex with a couple different people and THEN be ready to settle down. because you'll be in the same predicament down the road. the temptation will always be there, it's just a matter of if you're willing and able to control it. perhaps marriage isn't your cup of tea.
You should talk to your husband. Tell him he doesnt satisfy you sexually, you will be fucking other men. Not that hard. Hes been fantasizing about fucking other women since the first time he fucked you. If you wanna fuck other guys, you're gonna have to be cool with him fucking other women.
Samuel Jenkins
you just won the internet and made my day.
Thank you for this advice.
I love my husband. I do not want a divorce. We have an amazing family. I just never felt this way before.
John Allen
cool story bro.
Liam Bailey
i'm the previous poster - my wife had done everything but sex with her prior boyfriends, and i'd consider her a virgin. the idea that giving someone a bj is losing your virginity is absurd to me. this whole fooling around makes you not a virgin thing is something created to simplify sex education imo. but its your world boss.
Justin Evans
I don't want to be in what some people call an "open relationship" meaning we go and fuck other people. That's not what I want. I also do not want to cheat (but really, this is what eventually I was thinking would happen)
Ultimately, I do understand this won't satisfy anything and will just ruin years of a wonderful relationship and affect our kids.
Lucas Adams
You sound like a slut doing any mental gymnastics necessary to justify your adultery I hate the world you should kill yourself you stupid slut
Leo Edwards
agreed.
Angel Davis
awwww you are sweet. and eloquent too!
Zachary Fisher
find a way to educate both yourself and your partner. it doesn't have to be different people, techniques and skills can be learned. try your hardest to be open about your feelings but make sure he doesn't feel attacked by the situation.
Parker Cook
what the fuck is this you stupid fucking cucks? who gives a shit about this whores marriage??? post tits or gtfo. im seriously disappointed in you fucking virgins.
Jaxon Torres
That's the hardest part.
He is an intellectual and everything becomes a debate not exactly a conversation. If not, then he feels I'm asking for his guidance and advice and whatever I put on the table gets brushed off.
I did tell him I'm sexually frustrated. I proposed a few things but he is not into that. The truth is he is a very physical person and when it comes to me I need something before the physical part gets to happen (watch porn to put a random example)
Carson Nelson
awww another cute one. what's wrong with being a virgin?
Jose Harris
post tits or leave you fucking slut
Carter Hughes
You're most likely losing attraction to your husband. He probably isn't searching for higher goals and probably isn't on the his way to higher status. Your natural status seeking sexual strategy is kicking in.
You may end up being a hawk in terms of game theory. You may end up cheating on your husband, finding higher status as a result. You may gambit against your husband and get a divorce. You may bet on your husband and attempt to get him to be a better man with higher status - This should be done with the threat of divorce. A lot of men will be: "I've got the wife, now I can relax and cruise through life." I wouldn't blame you if you got a divorce - this is natural if your man isn't pumping you with cum for children and competing in sports / business.
Robert Thomas
make him listen to a podcast on foreplay. maybe you could make it fun by trying out new things for him?
William James
Tits or gtfo
Dylan Foster
Men are just as much whores if they have the opportunity to. Men without choice hold onto women dearly. Men with lots of choice have to remain consistent even when women throw themselves at him.
Men are polygamists if given power and status. Women are hypergamists if given "rights and freedom."
Owen Hall
>you just won the internet How did user do that?????
Evan King
write me a fucking novel
William Cooper
no.
Mason Smith
Being closed off from your life partner is damaging too. Obviously some things have to be kept to yourself, but sex is hard to be guarded about without building resentment. You'll have to at least talk to him at some point.
Brandon Hernandez
He is quite successful. I am actually very proud of him. So I don't think that's the thing.
Now, I have to admit he has stopped doing things that "wow" me. And honestly he is taking a lot for granted. Your post gives me a new perspective in what to bring up on our next conversation.
He has also put on some weight. and "jokes" that he is happy I'm still a rock star. I put effort into it, he doesn't. But again, highly demanding job in a very high position. I tried to excuse him letting go...
Tyler Gomez
Why are you cucks responding to this bait?
TITS OR GTFO
Michael Gray
This is a great idea. Any recommendations? I love listening, reading and watching sex related stuff. He doesn't but he would do it if I ask.
I used to wear sexy lingerie for him and send him pics throughout the day. One day he was in a meeting and someone next to him saw the photo. We laughed about it but he told me it's best if I don't send them anymore. That was a bummer and killed this cool thing we had.
Brody Collins
how old are you both and do you have any kids?
Evan Clark
We've been talking. He agrees things are not what they used to be. He is open to suggestions on my part on what I think could fix them.
I just have no idea.
Elijah Walker
dude relax. try having a conversation for once.
Justin Lee
What part of tits or GTFO did you not understand ?
Nicholas Anderson
we have small children (toddlers)
We are both in our mid thirties.
Jose Peterson
The part where who the fuck are you to tell me what to do?
Matthew Bell
>What should I do? stop LARPing for one
Logan Young
says the fag pretending to be a chick
Hudson Miller
FFS this is a gender confused Manlet who wants attention with a fake story, why the fuck do I still come here?
Why do I want to have a conversation with some dude LARPing about being in a virgin marriage?
Kayden Sullivan
Cage him and cuck him. Find a bull who knows what he's doing and have hubby watch and learn. Letting him out of his cage is totally up to you, but maybe have him achieve some goals for release like lose a few pounds, demonstrate mastery of a new foreplay technique, etc. Something that makes YOU happy. Of course it would have to be consensual and he might think it's a scary idea, but I bet it would fix the problems you are having and once he's been locked up for a couple weeks he'll likely see it's a lot of fun and not that scary.
Ryan Smith
hahahahahahahahahaha
Isaiah Hughes
If that was the case I believe that person (or Manlet like you called it) needs a psychiatric ward. Because there's so much stuff you can make up and be way more interesting than this.
Elijah Taylor
ahhhh! Now I get it!!! LARPing! because you think I'm pretending to be a woman! I'm so slow. hahahaha still pretty funny.
Dominic Gonzalez
One of his employees (well, former) asked him to fuck his wife (this was a while ago, I was not in the picture yet) We had a whole convo about this. How that guy wanted another man to fuck his wife. I would not enjoy that dynamic. Neither would he.
Thomas Torres
Ok, so just cage him and don't do the cuck stuff.
Jace Taylor
So far you have been given some amazingly stupid advice , threatening divorce really is the thing that solidifies a relationship. The only truth mentioned so far is that your female animal brain is battling your person brain. The animal brain is always seeking the male that is more dominant and provides the most in terms of status & material gain. Listen to your person brain to recognize what he does for you and the damage a failed relationship will do to your children. Use your person brain and actually talk to your husband. Don't tell him he's no good at sex but talk during sex. If the previous guy had "magic hands" 1) let your person brain remind you are looking through the lens of nostalgia and he probably wasn't a s magic as you remember and 2) if that's what got you off "train" your husband to do that. I'm amazed at how infrequently people don't just talk during sex saying stuff like "keep doing that" or "go back to what you were doing before" or "why don't you try this"
Ryder Ross
Dude, Everyone knows everyone on the internet is a dude, until proven otherwise.
Colton Morgan
idiot >:C
Charles Thomas
Another brilliant post. Thank you.
This is great advice and perspective. Also a pretty accurate description of how I feel at the current time.
Grayson Stewart
Before I leave (which will be soon) I'll post a timestamp. No tits tho.
Luke Howard
underage b&
Logan Morgan
WHORE
Go see a shrink you fucking nutcase. Or get a hobby. Or just kill yourself, there's enough whores in the world. You said your husband is a wonderful man. Well if you love him don't break his heart and ruin him forever you fucking cunt.
If this is a troll post: congrats, you made me mad.
Joshua Howard
your skin is thinner than the average sjw transcuck
Jack Taylor
okay whore
Luke Hernandez
Without the tits you could still be a dude. Have you seen the trap threads?
Austin Sullivan
Hang yourself you stupid cunt
Blake Campbell
why do you care if these dumb fags believe you?
also, as a married woman who's been in your position, we talked about it, simple as that. Here's my conclusion: It's normal to want to be with other people, it's normal to fantasize, it's normal to have a crush.. but that's all it is, a crush. But once you get to know anyone else you'll just be comparing them to you husband and missing him and how amazing he was. Simply put, that's because you married him and are willing to accept his flaws, so his positives shine even more. You won't get that with a random guy, you won't get any fulfillment out of sleeping around or a new relationship.
also, try telling your husband DURING Sex what you want from him, trust me ;)
Carter White
have you seen the average tranny? tits aren't proof anymore these days
You will be miserable if you leave. You say your have a great partner.
Remember, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side, and if you try and come back, and your husband takes you back, things will never be the same again.
Dylan Hill
Try communicating with your husband on his technique with his hands if that's the only thing you miss about your ex.
Stay off Sup Forums and stop looking at porn. It's a gateway to all kinds of degeneracy and temptation. Seriously, porn will mess you up. I speak from experience.
Also fantasizing about other men is nothing but a half-ass way of cheating. Having a wandering thought is normal, however it's when you entertain/indulge those thoughts that it becomes the problem. A lot of people will disagree but it is what it is.
You want to keep your marriage and sex special? Keep it with your spouse and stay away from this crap.
Also don't be afraid to communicate. That's one of the biggest downfalls of most relationships.
Aiden Davis
if you we're just going to be a whore why did you even get married? cheating is a fag thing to do no matter what gender you are. Just get a divorce already because you don't deserve anything steady, you stupid fucking cum dumpster
Brody Parker
This is why sluts are not date worthy. One sex act with someone either than you, and they lose the ability to be loyal.
Carter Robinson
>this is what eventually I was thinking would happen So you can't fucking control yourself?
Charles Lewis
Chill dude. Learn to differentiate thought vs action. If she committed the action I would agree with you. But the fact there is enough self-awareness to recognize the thought as bad before committing to action is a good indication. Everyone has less than noble thoughts on occasion, its what you do with these thoughts that count.
Christopher Edwards
Communication is the key. Just talk to him. Tell him what you like and what you want. Whatever you do, don't cheat. It's like jerking off to porn or eating chinese food. Half hour later you get the urge again and it's never satisfied. Then it snowballs into a real problem. Just talk to the dude, he can't read your mind.
Nathaniel Young
In addition to staying off Sup Forums, I would say cut the social media. Social media is the gateway drug to unhappiness. No matter how great your life is, it will always fail in comparison to somebody else if you're able to scan the entirety of a planet's somebody else
Angel Nguyen
Honestly open relationships arent that bad . Just set boundaries, only fw clean ppl (be safe) and just remember who you love. My bf is the same way but me no cap im a hoe. I love my man to death but he lacks in.. places. So we decided to add others to our sex life. He gets to experience other women and i get to experience other men. NSA. Plus im bi so its definitely a win win
Christian Brown
/ thread Please kys OP for everyones sake.
Isaiah Miller
Make love to your husband. Everything else is adultery, a sin which will land you in hell for eternity. Choose God and your husband, because the devil tempts you and he wants to drag you in the abyss.
Grayson Myers
Lmao id fuck god too
Josiah Nelson
me too but she already said she doesn't want that
Owen Butler
if you're trying to give her legit advice you're dumb, when it comes to cheating, women make up their minds instantly, she didnt come here for advice or any of that bullshit. She just wanted some validation, she wanted a bunch of dudes online to go, "yeah go ahead blah blah you're totally in the right and this will totally have no repercussions." When it comes to what a woman wants to fuck, they always have their minds made up, she already said she wants her ex. She doesn't deserve pity, and I would give no pity if she was a he either.
Lincoln Smith
wrong.
see - > all of her responses admitting it would be a bad idea and thanking people for telling her not to do it
William Nelson
1 mil bucks she'll eventually cheat on him
Brandon James
oh yeah I bet you guys really changed something in her, you guys really righted the polarity in her moral compass, she's now going to go back out into the world and never think about cheating again. We should just all gather on a message board and hypothetically solve all the worlds problems because all of these hypothetical conversations make a complete difference.
Asher Martin
Tell your husband. If he's the perfect partner, then he'll want you to be happy and tell you to go get it out of your system
Easton Perez
you're not describing the perfect partner, you're describing a cuck, but hey who knows, maybe he is a cuck so you might as well ask? He married an unfaithful sloot so I wouldnt doubt it
Kevin Rodriguez
Samefag
This isn’t reddit. This isn’t twitter. This isn’t Facebook. Post your tits or gtfo. That is the rule of Sup Forums. It’s always been the rule of Sup Forums. You haven’t fulfilled the requirements of your gender claim. Therefore, you aren’t entitled to attention. Sage goes in all fields
Oliver Nguyen
Sadly the rules don't hold up anymore, look at all these fags giving him attention
Adam Rodriguez
Virgin detected. Stop begging, for tits its getting old boys
Asher Edwards
It's not begging. Rules are rule fuckface. Go beg for attention on Omegle
Elijah Gray
Don't be a fucking whore. You shouldn't need to be fucking told this. If you want to cum, do it yourself or ask your HUSBAND.
Asher Kelly
Sounds like you fucked up big time.. You were no virgin meeting him hun, I agree kill yourself.
Christian Gomez
you're obviously a stupid, the rule was not invented just to look at some dumb bitches saggy fat sacks on her chest. The point of the rule being created was so people couldn't just post "hey guys im a grill give me attention" and then receive a bunch of cat faces and cutsie language. If you don't understand that, you must be a tard, women don't know what being equal is like, in this day and age they get preferential treatment. Its about bringing them down to our level, so they know they cant just say dumb shit and say they're a grill so its okay
Cameron White
Clearly your a slut cum dumpster who deluding herself that she has any other purpose than servicing cock and being a meat hole for cum and piss. Be happy. Make it so you service as much cock as possible. Embrace what you are.
Julian Reed
Youre stupid . Its the internet we dont have shit to prove to each other. If someone is a girl or want to pretend to be a girl who tf cares. Youre the idiot if you take the bait anywho.
Then yall wonder why women dont stay on this site. Constantly harassing us and shit lmao
Jaxson Taylor
Here's a little bit of a different response:
Have you considered talking to your husband about it? My GF and I (soon fiance) have talked about this a lot. If we ever get the "seven year itch" there's plenty of ways around it that are better than divorcing or whatever.
We've agreed if it ever happens, that we'd both rather explore another person together rather than separately. There's also plenty of other options: realistic sex dolls, toys, etc etc that might scratch the itch.
Also, be sure you actually want to be with another person, rather than simply seeking sexual excitement. Sometimes sex gets boring after so many years and you don't even realize it; because even bad sex is "good". Maybe you two just need to spice it up; roleplay, costumes, fetishes, bondage, piss-play, whatever floats your boats.
Ironically, having these conversations with my gf seems to keep us both only interested in each other. Having the open communication seems to seal the deal. We've been together 6 years and I'll admit there have been times I wanted to fuck other women, but other than a fleeting notion (like seeing a smoking hot chick in public or something), those feelings don't last unless I'm missing something. This has happened 2-3 times over the last 6 years, and each time I identified what I was missing, talked to her about it, and we resolved it. Usually I was missing excitement, or felt a lack of connection (didn't talk about sex as much lately, or things got a little hum-drum, etc)
Maybe approach it that way, well, WELL before cheating on your husband. Frankly, too, if you decide you can't live without fucking another man you need to tell your husband that as hard as that might be. It'll hurt, but he'll live better knowing in the long run. Cheating crushes people in ways that can be avoided with simple honesty.
Dominic Watson
you will never be satisfied just kill yourself
Sebastian Howard
>happily married
you must not be if you're going to cheat on him
Jeremiah Reed
Just get gangbanged my black men. One time is all you need . It. Will satisfy that cooter for life
Juan Hughes
FUCKING. WOMEN.
Luis Mitchell
Bait/pasta aside, this is why you don't wait to have sex and why the whole "chewed gum" or whatever metaphor they are using now is fucking retarded.
Eli Brooks
This also isn't your safe space. Post a pic of your tiny dick or GTFO.
Thomas Martinez
Oooh, you're an angry little snowflake.
Tyler Brown
I am? Okay
Grayson Peterson
>virgin
>I suck cock and get finger blasted
I hate sandniggers but the fact they would stone a whore like you makes me happy.