Well it’s halloween and I think I messed up big time. Pretty sure my girlfriend is gonna break up with me, even though I don’t think I really did anything wrong. I need some advice, but first here’s the story >gf spent night at my apartment last night, she doesn’t have work or school today >but she is staying over for the day while I’m at work, playing with my dog and what not since we have plans later tonight >she texts me if she can use my PC to do some homework and play a little vidya >I say sure, give her pin >about an hour goes by and I get a picture message >it’s my porn folder >”wtf is this???” >ohfuckohfuck >it has at least 300+ photos on there of naked girls >a lot of them were personally sent to me, ex gfs, Snapchat sluts I know, etc. >not shit you can just look up on pornhub >I sit on the text for a while, am at an utter loss on how I even explain it to her >finally respond “babe just let me explain when I get home” hoping that buys me time to think about how the fuck I can even possibly explain it >she sends me a Snapchat of her deleting the whole folder >that bitch >I don’t respond even tho I am absolutely furious about it >I didn’t think I’d ever be in this position, so I never bothered to back it up anywhere >she accuses me of cheating even tho I have never cheated in my life >am sitting here at work typing this
Now I know a lot of you fucks have porn folders too so maybe you can level with me. First of all, I am being honest. I’ve never slept with, flirted, or received nudes from anyone other than who I was dating at the time. That being said, yes I have saved nudes I received because they are extremely fap worthy. It’s not like people only fap to their GFs/wives. It’s not like I don’t love her, I just like a little variety when I fap in my alone time
That being said, how do I explain all of that to her? Anyway I can salvage this? Either the gf or the spankbank?
Might as well post pics of your girlfriend since its over.
Owen Walker
either you're a moron, or a troll. either way, GG.
Gabriel White
Stop being a cuck. Tell her these were your spoils of war and they were yours to do with whatever you like. Turn the anger on her, accuse her of being so fucking insecure that she tries to deny you a look at your past girls, I mean geez, every guy does this. If you can't spin this and shame her for being an insecure bitch, you are a cuck, my friend.
Jaxson Anderson
pretty sure you can run a disk recovery and get some of the pics back. also, break up with her, after explaining to her that a mans porn folder isnt to be touched. also post a pic of the thread in which you will post her nudes for maximum kek. chase no hoe dude
What the fuck are you even worried about? Unless you had child porn, some bestiality, trannies or other gay shit there isn't much to explain. It's a folder of porn and maybe some ex girlfriends. A lot of dudes have that kind of shit. Calmly explain you haven't cheated on her or talked to any other girl since you've been together and that you don't see anything unusual with having a porn folder (most guys probably have one), but how did she end up in that folder in the first place? The fuck was she doing snooping around? Change the PIN on your laptop and fuck that bitch. Also perform a file recovery and get that shit back if you care about it at all.
Austin Taylor
I honestly wish I was kidding. I don’t want to lose her, I just need to find a way to explain that it’s really not that weird
Colton Nguyen
Look at your hand/gf and tell her that you need to stop being a larping faggot online.
Landon Johnson
you're an idiot for even thinking you have to explain this to her. its a porn folder. she's in the wrong for snooping, and for deleting it.
Daniel Martinez
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Noah Ramirez
I have a folder named People. In it i have photo reference for my art. The subfolder, women it pretty big. I would explain it a reference material.
Jonathan Johnson
No nothing illegal or totally unordinary. I mean how do I spin this? Should I form a logic train and ask her if she ONLY thinks of me when she touches herself? I mean I can see why she’d be upset considering it’s past gfs and all, but she’s pretty upset and she has never been this upset at me
Parker Fisher
Oh boy you really are a cuck
Anthony Adams
Yeah nah m8, the first guy was right, share pics
David Wilson
you're making it worse by acting like you did something wrong. you told her you would explain, like there was something to explain. since you pussied out and backpedaled, she's confirmed her views in her head and cemented you as being the bad guy. have fun climbing out of the grave you dug yourself.
James Smith
That's kinda like my girl claiming i'm cheating on her after watching porn. Every fucking dude does it. If she's that insecure, tell her to take a hike.
Also >finally respond “babe just let me explain when I get home”
You're a fucking retard.
Christopher Scott
I fail to see how asking how to properly approach this in a manner that isn’t totally headstrong or sounding totally insensitive makes me a cuck, but alright dude
I'll tell you what I'd do. She disrespected your privacy by snooping through your file's, then compounded that by destroying your personal property (deletions.)
I'd kick her to the curb unless she was VERY sorry and repentant.
You did nothing wrong.
This is all on her.
Jace Martin
If this helps with something you can actually get that folder back ;)
Alexander Nguyen
My wife was upset when she found my porn folder because they were all younger and more beautiful than her, so I imagine they get butthurt because of that. Self-conscious or whatever. And my wife deleted my porn folder, too. I just told her I'm a dude, it is what it is. I still love her. Sorry about looking. Maintain transparency, and hide your shit better if you want to continue saving. Porn is probably unhealthy, especially going down the rabbit hole and pushing the boundaries, and it's addictive. Just continue showing your girl attention and don't let porn distract you from human interaction. Most dudes have a porn collection.
Carter Parker
Thing is, I don’t want to lose her, I like her a lot. That being said I am pretty pissed that she did it, upset or not.
Camden Turner
Your wife sucks
Joseph Parker
>she sends me a Snapchat of her deleting the whole folder she deleted the folder you delete her from existence
Jeremiah Evans
Nah, she's pretty badass, just emotional and sensitive from time to time. She's my best friend.
Ryder Ward
>THIS the best you can do is apologize and move on...let her know how normal this is but that you’ll work on it if it really upsets her or whatever
Finally, someone who actually gets it. Thank you for the advice. And I wouldn’t say I’m addicted or am a total creep about it. I don’t even feel like it was that unhealthy of an amount if I’m being perfectly honest. It’s just I like having them for fap material when I’m alone. Normal porn doesn’t do it for me in all honesty, I like real pictures of not pornstars, if that makes any sense.
Aiden Sanders
Guarantee she has something you'd be upset with. Also, why is she digging through your stuff. Also, you could've hidden it with a simple check box. If she's dumb enough it's still in the recycling bin. Or just recover it. So many problems and inconsistencies in this story
Christopher Davis
Dude it's nothing weird, try and explain that to her.
Also make a new folder, right click and click hidden. Then all you have to do is open start, type 'show hidden' and it'll give you the shortcut to where you toggle hidden files and folders on and off, that's what I do if you only need low level security. Takes seconds to access but is totally gone normally.
Jeremiah Gonzalez
She’s smart enough with computers to know that you’d have to delete them from the recycle bin in order to actually delete something. But hopefully a file recovery will do the trick
Carson Rogers
You should've set better ground rules for the relationship from the start. I got tired of these kinds of arguments, so the last time I got serious with a woman I laid them out.
> you may ask to look at my phone, etc. > if you look, you'd better be sure I'm cheating because even if you find nothing; we're done for the lack of trust
> my private time with my friend's is mine, don't intrude.
> I don't need you, I want you. That is how you should feel too.
I grant her a lot of latitude, and she does the same for me. It's been four year's and it's been good for 95% of it.
OP you'll never regain her trust. Start over.
Jeremiah Long
My wife found me asleep on the bed with my dick still in hand and the porn still playing once
She accused me of pedo because the video was titled "teen cam girl" or something
Had to explain to her that they don't let underage girls on porn sites
She calmed down
Was still butthurt that I was fapping to younger hotter women
Nothing else happened because I refused to apologise because I'm not a cuck faggot like OP
Grayson Sanders
Yeah not great. For the future, I would suggest hiding folders better (within other folders, with inconspicuous names, or even better password protected with admin settings), but the fact that she found pics of your exes and flings that you KEPT is not good at all. What if you found out she had pics of all the dicks she's taken before you? Even just one, how would you react, knowing she kept them and probably masturbates to them? Honestly, I'd be mad if she deleted them too, but I wouldn't be stupid enough to leave them lying around on the desktop.
Kayden Thompson
Walk into the house and instantly demand her phone and social media passwords, if she wont give those then you flip the shit on her. Why is it ok for you to snoop through all my shit but you wanna value your privacy. Then tell her to get the fuck out if she wont, between the porn and you acting like you dont need her she'll either capitulate or bail. Either way I feel like you win.