Sup Forumsros I need advice
>gf has always been a bit more adventurous than me
>she’s drank before, but never gotten wasted (we’re both underage)
>she’s going to her friend’s party this Saturday and told me she’s going to “try new stuff” (probably a dab pen or weed, she’s never smoked but always wanted to)
>I’ve never tried and really don’t like drugs or alcohol, call me a pussy I don’t care
>every time she mentions it, my heart starts beating so loud I can hear it, my stomach drops, and my lungs won’t fill up
>I just care about her so much and even though I know she’ll be fine it really bothers me
>I don’t want to be manipulative or controlling so I play it off like it’s fine
>it really bothers me but I just try to put it out of my head
What do, Sup Forums? I don’t want her to underage drink/smoke weed/pop pills but I’m not going to be another dad for her to rebel against. We’ve been together almost four years and I really love her. Please help.
>pic related is us
Sup Forumsros I need advice
Lol she’s waiting to get her pussy pumped by a real bull. She’s growing up dude. Say bye. She knows she can do better than you
AFAIK it’s just her and her female friends going. Anything can happen but I doubt she would do that, she’s super sensitive and seriously the kindest soul I’ve ever met. If worst comes to worst, we’ll cross that bridge when we come it. I’ve never been worried about her cheating, though.
"sounds like fun, let's go have a good time" and go with her. If she's telling you about it she's probably hinting at an invitation anyway
shameless self-bump, trying to get all the help I can from the Russian robots
>we’re both underage
get the fuck out of Sup Forums
I’m not really into that kind of shit, Sup Forumsro. What you suggested makes logical sense but I’m swamped with college apps anyway. My parents would be double pissed at me for not doing shit for universities and for going to this. They would literally kill me and it would be a major shit show if I ever got drunk or high, not worth it for me.
Kill yourself faggot
user I’m an 18 year old high school senior. I mean underage to legally consume alcohol or marijuana.
OP, could you clarify what your concerns are?
Lol she's getting blacked in the next 6 months no doubt about it. Best just end it now and resign yourself to the incel life until you grow a pair my guy.
It’s this physiological response that’s fucking me up. I’ve never had anxiety issues or anything but this is like 25% of what I think a panic attack would feel like.
I guess I just feel it would jeopardize our relationship. One of our mutual friends got really into raves and shit a while back and cut us both off after she stopped playing vidya with us and just did drugs all the time (mainly molly and weed), it totally ruined the friendship and I’m scared I’m going to lose someone else.
My parents also really like her but would change their mind if they found out. We’ve built this relationship since we first realized we liked each other in 20 fucking 14 and I think she’s putting at at stake. My guy friends all smoke and shit and it doesn’t bother me but with her it’s different.
*putting that at stake fucking typo lmao
Wow 2014! No one cares kid. She's going to become a pot addled slut once college comes around if this is what she's like now.
Drop her sooner rather than later.
Under aged drinking won't exactly kill you and the absolute worse that could possibly happen smoking weed is getting caught with it in a state where it's not legal or you get the munchies so bad you overeat. if you don't want her popping pills just say you think it's dangerous,but maybe you're making too many assumptions. If you can just ask her what she means specifically by "trying new things" it could ease your mind quite a bit.
OP is always a faggot
dubs check'd
we’re happy and I don’t want to throw that away. I really care about this girl, I’m not going to just ditch her at the drop of a hat.
Thank you user, I’ll get more details about it. I know that the health effects aren’t too bad, it’s the social/relationship consequences I’m scared of. I just don’t want anything to come between us and this is the first time I’ve really seen a red flag/potential problem and I don’t like it. I’m conflicted on if I should say something, I never want her to be scared of me/feel like I’m making her choices for her. Thank you again for the advice though, you’re there for a Sup Forumsro and that means something to me.
Oh well I tried. Just remember this post when she goes off to parties without you on college and gets (willingly) stuffed in every hole. But maybe you're into that.
bump
Honestly if it's just weed and nothing else, there won't be much change at all unless it's something she starts doing every day. Anyway good luck
I appreciate your honesty user. I respectfully disagree but we’ll have to wait a couple years to see who’s right. Thank you, friend.
>we’re both underage
BANNNNN
Yeah I don’t think there will be any psychological effects. It’s just that she’s more rebellious than me and I thought it could potentially fuck up our relationship. I know she’ll be fine health-wise, though
See
You only have to be 18 to be on here. I meet the requirement.
Hhhhhhh
bumping thread with shibe
Ah, my mistake. At least I bumped your thread OP. Carry on.
>it would be a major shit show if I ever got drunk or high, not worth it for me.
jesus christ you are a colossal faggot
I appreciate it. Stay if you like, what do you think about the situation?
You don't satisfy her social and sexual needs. Dump her, or man the fuck up. Or do whatever you want, this is a free country. Fucking teens.
She’s gonna get high/drunk off her ass and probably cheat on you but act as if she was too messed up to consent, despite that happening 5 minutes later than when she initially started flirting with the guy
Good thing you’re a cuck OP
I live with my parents Sup Forumsro, I’m in high school
>come home blazed/they smell liquor on me
>they fuck my life completely
or
>I get away with it
>I feel guilty forever, might fail a drug test for job/internship/athletics
My parents have done a lot for me. The least I could do is follow their rules while they’re paying for the roof above my head. Real shit I love my parents and don’t want to fuck up that relationship either. I care about people, it’s kind of fucking gay but so be it
>she’s drank before, but never gotten wasted (we’re both underage)
jesusfuckingcristnigger
underage&Sup Forumsanned
OK. Now because at this point on Sup Forums and the whole fucking world, helping a fuckwit like you ACTUALLY not fuck up their life seems like the only way left to troll this godforsaken place:
>I don’t want to be manipulative or controlling so I play it off like it’s fine
Bad.
Never. Ever. Play. Shit. Off.
If you were just bangbuddiez and not in a serious relationship then, sure.
But if you care for realz about her then you gotta risk finding out if she REALLY is for you, and that can only happen if you share your honest feelings with her.
Important: tell her you're going to be there for her regardless what she chooses to do and that you're not going to try force her not to do anything, but tell her that you need to let her know what you genuinely feel.
Actually tell her that. That you'd rather be completely honest with her than live a lie with her...
Well really, and this might be tough to hear, but if you have difficulty communicating your concerns with her openly after all this time, it might be a red flag
See all that shit you told us? Tell her. If she's that important, tell her. Be honest and communicate, the two most important things in a relationship.
I don’t want to jump to conclusions, this is possible but I won’t assume too much too quick. If she cheats that will be another issue but I don’t see that happening.
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>What do, Sup Forums? I don’t want her to underage drink/smoke weed/pop pills but I’m not going to be another dad for her to rebel against.
Well maybe it's time you start to become a man and BE a "dad" for her... that she DOESN'T have to rebel against
I know you want the nasty and the whole romantic thing that you've had for four years now, but if you gotta lie to yourself to be with her then "the bitch ain't worth it".
But if both of you have the emotional maturity lol and she appreciates what you feel and even if she still wants to explore she is willing to be completely honest with you about what she feels, and then you gotta step up and hold safe space for her to share WITHOUT you showing any fear or codependent attachment to her, then you can both work it out.
Like you can't be desperate bro!
You gotta have the confidence to be willing to lose her and all her pheromones if she turns out to be bad news for you: only then can you be the better man and hold safe space for both of you to share honestly...
Just go and enjoy the company, not the drinks or whatever else they got. I don't smoke but I still hangout with friends that do and they can smoke while I'm with them and I don't have to participate. I'd recommend going bruv
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Ya it's terrifying. Ya you gotta be the one to do it. Even in this age of all kinds of gender equality bullshit there are still physiological, hormonal differences between men and women that make it harder for her to be the one to do it first, let alone all the existing conditioning that we still very much inherit.
TL;DR you want an awesome LTR?
Tell her what you feel. Be honest.
And don't freak out.
Even if she does.
And most of all, be there and be emotionally strong and righteous for her.
>Peace and strength, young Sup Forumsrother
She don't give a fuck about you, let her go and find someone else. Relationships before age 25 are just experimental anyways. Shes obviously not a match for you.
hey OP you’re a faggot
Just set boundaries mate and stick to them. If she wants to do stuff that you dont need in your life, no matter what it is even if its harmless, then tell her your cool with out that and walk away from her like an adult. Dont make it an ultimatum though. There are tons of people that feel the same way about shit that you do so go find them and be around them instead, no big deal.
Also maybe ask this type of thing in the advice board. Where anons will go a little easier on you
Again, colossal faggot.
Hey, ask if she wants to be dropped off. If you're concerned about her drinking it's better that you would be able to pick her up so she isn't driving herself anyway, and you can kinda get an idea of how many people are there and you might be able to determine who is there from what cars are parked outside.
you are a giant bitch and you should start trying to improve yourself, instead of trying to control her actions. also, underage b&
>were both underage
In b4 b&
>mfw I’m 18
>kek
This is some genuine wisdom though, you’re right. It’s always better to face it then run from it, right?
I seriously feel like I’m floating when I’m with her, I can tell her absolutely anything. Except for my negative emotions, fuck Sup Forumsro this is something I need to work out. Thank you for the help and honesty.
Will do, thank you. This is hard but necessary.
Based as fuck. I need to just be open. If we get through it we end up closer, if this goes south I dodged it blowing up in the future. Some of the realest shit I’ve ever heard.
Legitimately don’t know if I can due to time but I can try, thank you user
I won’t ever forget this thread, this shit will stick with me. You might have just changed my life, Sup Forumsro. We need more men like you.
Good idea, we need rules. I would but I like my Sup Forumstards. It wouldn’t be the same if I knew they were sugar-coating it.
Good idea, not sure if I would have access to a car at the time but this would help a lot
Recent grad. Boi you sound paranoid wouldn't be surprised if she gets blacked by tyrone or a tall chad. If you don't want to experience druggie stuff with her that's fine but she will eventually dump you. It's always the same story at uni freshman couples cheat eventually one of them I knew was even married. Cheated with her sorority sister haha. Seen pretty much all of it. Start growing pair one way or another. If it doesn't work out it better to leave a future roastie and you'll come out with your head high
Just try some fucking weed and you'll see how it's not a big deal at all. I fucking hate pussies
I know it won’t kill me but my biggest fear is disappointing my parents. I know that sounds gay as fuck but this is Sup Forums so I can be honest. My parents would never see me the same. I can’t fuck things up with the most important people in my life.
Bumping to keep thread alive, I want the most input I can get.
The "new" stuff was having as many dicks in the room at the time stuff her holes while youre at home fapping it.
you are a super huge cunt, how hard does she just rail you in the ass?
I'm the one suggesting to go. I graduated HS back in June and I know how time can be constrained by AP, IB, clubs, and athletics because I did it all. Take a small hit to your grades and turn in an assignment late if neccesary to be at an important event like that bro. It's neccesary to balance your time and I'm not saying go out every night with her but at a party she wants to get experimental at is a time you take a pause from work and be there so you two experience it together even if you don't try anything. That lets her know you're there for her and you will have peace of mind knowing what exactly is going on with the new experience. Trust me man, I didn't have this exact situation but I did take a few hits to my grades to make the most of my time in school and it was worth it because I was considered a good student and got the scholarships (not that it mattered since the national guard is paying for my school) and I got the good memories with friends
Try mushrooms then bro, cant get caught if you just walk around the wilderness for a day tripping balls and it will give you insight on the greatest of drugs
Kek, possible but I don’t think this would realistically happen
My mom? Unclear who “she” is
I just have a really good relationship with my mom and dad. They’ve done a lot for me and they’re paying my college + grad school tuition in full.
Quad
you obviously dont even see her as a real person, just something to give you a floaty feel. the only real advice anyone can give you is to grow up.
I’ve put all my effort into school and I’m applying to hyper competitive universities. This is good general advice, but I planned on putting this shit off until I was actually an adult with my own life or at least already a high school grad.
There would be a missing person report out instantly kek, I want to try smoking and probably a like an 80 microgram tan before I jump into this shit. That’s for when I’m not accountable to my parents and shit, I’ll do that after college.
is the thread about your mom? how fucking aspie are you?
I’m naïve because I’m young, I admit I’m a bit of a retard but I think we have a real connection.
I’m kind of low IQ sometimes but admittedly that reply was to the post where I talked about my parents so I was confused
Ok retard might as well let her get railed then. You won't need or have a girlfriend at your ivy league slavery lmao
just to be clear, i was calling you a pussy re: your parents, and asking if your gf was dominating your holes
Acid is too long, like 12 to 15 hours for firstimers and the come down is uncomfortable unless you've got MDMA. Mushies are like 5 to 8 hours just tell your parents your going hiking for a day and actually go hiking...
Hopefully I can live the NPC life and earn at least six figures doing a job I enjoy. So many hoops to jump through to get there though, Sup Forumsro.
Oh yeah I’ll admit I’m a pussy, I would rather be kind of a beta with them and not fuck up the relationship and get my tuition paid. I’m very lucky to not have issues with my mom or my dad, I can’t blow that. Will admit that I am gay because I am OP.
Good idea, after I graduate I might actually try this.
Bumping
go find youreself a nun
your path is never to decide what is or isnt ok for your partner to do. your goal should be to accurately see who your partner is, and who you are, and decide if you are right for one another. hopefully by working together to figure it out. you should be having this conversation with your gf (so you can fix yourself, not because she is wrong, or to try and control her)
Audibly kek’d, thanks for the bump
Needed this perspective, makes sense Sup Forumsro. Communication is key, right? Thank you for the input.
Not underage if ur in aus
Lemme get her high and drunk OP.
Then I can obviously give her a good railing like she wants.
Prepare to see her on blacked.com
the trade off is no guns and shitty internet though. Australia is based but I feel like living there would be inconvenient.
>confirm that I’m an amerifag if you thought I was Canadian or something kek
Kek’d quality bait, thanks for bumping
Underage b&
Shameless self-bump, any advice is appreciated
I’m 18, see
Jesus it's like Facebook in here. Just fucking kill yourselves
kek how?
Bumping to keep thread alive, say whatever you think even if it’s just “kys”. I want to hear what my Sup Forumsros think.
late to the party but damn dude chill the fuck out
she's gonna leave you anyway if you don't stop being so neurotic
I usually never really worry about anything, drugs is just one of the few things that I get anxious about. Thanks anyway, though.
stop being a faggot and go party with her, kid
You're in a bad situation, you are growing up with her and she may grow into someone you don't vibe with. If you try to restrict her she will resent you and yet if you don't you may grow apart. Just communicate your concerns and if she is ok with it, she will respect it. If she isn't than maybe she already is growing into someone not right for you.
my parents would kill me and I’m busy with college shit lmao
Thank you for the honesty. Yeah, i know people change but I would like to think we’re still compatible. I just need to face shit instead of running from it. I’ll talk to her about it.
Dude, you’re overthinking shit. If you don’t consistently smoke, then weed leaves your system pretty fast. Just try it, you’re a kid and its ok to take risks.
ever stop to think why? what is the actual reason for your anxiety? do you even know anything about drugs or just what you've been told?
I know my piss would be clean pretty fast but hair test could still cuck me. Plus I just don’t want to disrupt my good relationship with my parents. After college or during one of my college summers maybe but for now I think the risks with my parents outweigh the benefit.
I have a lot of friends who smoke. It mostly about my family, I think. It just bothers be because her smoking could indirectly fuck up our relationship by changing my parents’ opinion of her.
Also, that other friend that ghosted us
She’s my dream girl just the way she is and if she gets into the drug shit it will change the way I see her. I just don’t want to screw up what we have.
how would your parents even find out? why do you care so much what they think? theyve done a number on you man honestly, one day you're gonna have to do what you want and not what they want
There's a really simple answer to this:
She is an independent person and you have to allow her to make her own decisions. A lot of teens use alcohol and weed and aren't irrevocably ruined. If you're worried about her, offer to go along and be a sober chaperone to make sure she's safe. Just don't cramp the mood and ruin your relationship, you straight-edge dweeb.
Also, underage b&
fucking underage nerd faggot gtfo this site
I’m not superstitious but I just feel like the truth always comes out somehow. In order to keep them from knowing I would have to hide that it happened, that just feels wrong to me. I’ll do what I want when I’m paying my own rent/mortgage and living my own life.
Good and wholesome idea. I might be too busy to go to the party though.
I’m 18 Sup Forumsro
I'm and listen — she's not "changing" she's going toward adulthood and wanting to try adult things. She's not "changing" in the sense her values or morals are degrading, she's in the process of growing up and exploring.
Don't let your rigidity become, in your mind, her shortcoming, or you *will* ruin your relationship.
Are your parents going to be there? Dude, grow the fuck up and quit worrying. OMG PARENTS GONNA KILL ME! Have sex.
>I’ll do what I want when I’m paying my own rent/mortgage and living my own life.
This is based. I really think I’m so uptight because of how my parents raised me.
>my dad had three siblings who all went to jail for drug related charges
>he worked his ass off to get out of the trailer park he grew up in and off welfare, went to a really good college and became a lawyer so I could have a good life
Same with my mom
>grew up in the ghetto in Chicago, was an anchor baby
>worked her ass off
>became a doctor
They both say they’ve never smoked weed and they almost never drink. I know how hard they worked for me and I don’t want to disrespect them.