Hey Sup Forums, sorry for being a pussy. Just got dumped by my girlfriend of four years. Shit hurts...

Hey Sup Forums, sorry for being a pussy. Just got dumped by my girlfriend of four years. Shit hurts. Any advice for coping?

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First love?

First real love, I’d say.
I’ve been in other relationships. Definitely not as long.

sorry man i dont but im kinda going through the same thing rn

Here's all you need to do.
1. Buy some roofies
2. Break into her house
3. Rape her
4. Take her back to your house
5. Continue raping her.
There you go buddy, cheers

ask to get her back

call her fat, make her suicidal

Don't be pussy. Just rape her. Consent is a social construct.

listen to this

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Sorry to hear man. Why'd she dump you?

It's good to get the first one out if the way. They never work out and you'll learn most of what you need to carry a relationship the rest of the way from this experience. It just hurts for a while

On the real shit dawg, sit down and think it through. if you think she's worth it, then try and see if it'll work out, if not, walk away. too much time together will make you depressed, and you'll miss her more.
have a rebound, get your mind off her asap or you won't stop thinking about her.
whatever you do, don't hate yourself, don't hate her, she's still a person.
keep your head up man, stay safe, us retards love you, faggot.

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grow up. life is suffering, sometimes more, sometimes less. life goes on. whatever. you will find someone new. don't give up and keep your head up. see it as a opportunity, not a loss.

I was definitely thinking about this, lmao.
I am a good boy

That’s the part that hurts. I don’t know why. Nothing was wrong up until the moment it was over. I’ve never seen her act so cold in four years.

You’re probably right. It was definitely a learning experience.

That made me tear up, man. I love you guys. Fuck.

idk man this seems like a fat loss to me. it's an opportunity, sure, but still a loss

times are gonna be hard for ya but Ye will guide you to the light. Blast Jesus Is King too to find a newfound love in christ

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Shes definitely gonna suck some lucky dude off and you'll never know

Start dating as soon as possible.

I am a widower and I kept putting it off. It ate me up and the net thing I realized I hadn't dated in 6 years.

I'm not saying you will be that extreme but it just isn't something to put off. Just start dating casually. It will get your mind off of her and help you move on.

Why’d y’all break up user?
If she means that much to you. Try to win her back.
If not then I suggest keeping yourself busy. Hangout with friends play some vidya, work some overtime, find a hobby. You need to distract yourself for a few weeks and keep yourself busy.

I’ll take that into consideration, thank you. I’ll give it a week, and maybe see how things go. Ever since I started dating her, I kind of backed out of social media. I’m going to try getting back out like “hey I’m alive.”

She kind of just decided to make me feel like shit, then leave. It’s like she wasn’t even her. I couldn’t get through to her, and she blocked me out. I wish I knew why. I tried so hard.

Unfortunately, I’m consumed by college courses and it feels like that’s all I have right now. It fucking sucks.

Sounds like she’s probably just going through shit user. She’ll probably be speaking with you soon and want to work things out.
Is she bipolar by any chance or suffer from depression.

My current gf is diagnosed with bipolar disorder and depression. I go through break ups with her a couple times a year. I’ve been with her for 6 years now.

She just loses control of her emotions and does impulsive things like that thinking it’s the right choice, then in a day or sometimes even a week she’ll be contacting me apologizing and wanting to work things out.

OP is your initials T.B?

She doesn’t. I think she knows exactly what she’s doing. I just wish I had some insight. If anything, I’d probably have been the one to do something like that.

Nope, unfortunately.

Hey not here to rub salt in.... promise. Just acouple of questions. Did you love her? Would you have died for her? Did you want to marry/be with her the rest of your life? Would you have had kids with her?

I loved her more than anything. I’d easily have given my life for hers. She’s the only person I ever saw myself being with.

I’ve never wanted kids. Ever. Then I met her, and I felt like we’d be awesome parents. She changed me as a person. I wanted so much more, with her.

Women are unpredictable with their emotions. I doubt she’s going to throw away 4 years for no real reason. Maybe she’s testing you and wants to see if you would put in effort to keep her.

It stinks, but the only way to deal with it is to keep moving forward.
Take on a new project, a new skill, study, qualification, put all your effort into it and improve your situation in life.
When that is done, do something else that is useful.
Also, do new things in general, and don't allow this to make you bitter long term.

If it was out of the blue, either she had been thinking about it for a while but couldn't find the courage to do it, or something has happened that she doesn't want to tell you about

>I don’t know why. Nothing was wrong up until the moment it was over.

Been there man, that shit's awful. Hurts worse than if she died. As best I can tell it was because I got the thumbs down from her friends at work. Remember lads, she's not yours, it's just your turn. Women don't experience love the way we do (if at all).

Also keep in mind that building a guy up to feel like he's king of the world, then wrecking him is a fetish for some chicks. I've overheard women complaining that their bf didn't cry hard enough when she dumped him.

one of the many pieces of bad advice in this thread.
dating other girls immediately will just make you feel like shit, it won't stop you thinking about her.
don't wait 6 years, don't wait one year, but be true to yourself.
give it some time and don't use other girls to soften the blow. that just means you are spreading your misery to others.
you won't feel anything for them, because your consumed by your previous girlfriend, and then they will be the heartbroken ones.

Also, first love doesn't mean "lol it's just a practice run lol", first love if it works brings the most successful and lasting marriages, and holds the strongest natural bonds.

I had a girlfriend for several years with what I thought must have been borderline personality disorder. she would blank out at times, for hours or days, so the look in her eyes and face was like she was a different person. she broke up with me so many times I lost count.
their mental illness affects you in the long term. try to encourage her towards cognitive behaviour therapy.

girls poison their friend's relationships, they will spend months or years knocking apart her image of the boyfriend until she finally sees him as worth less.
and they'll be nice and fake friendly to you in person.
same applies with 'gay' friends of your girl, and especially any make friends. they ALL want to fuck her, without exception. they will wait years for the chance.

I’m glad you understand what I’ve been through user. I’ve been helping her through all these years and she has com far from where she was 6 years ago. She still gets really emotional and impulsive. But she doesn’t let things escalate. She went from breaking up with me a like 3 times a month to breaking up with me 4 times this year. And she realizes her impulsiveness a few hours after she did it and apologizes. Of course I don’t support her behavior and tell her that we need to keep working on it. But she has come a long way.

It depends on how hot she was, believe it or not. If you loved her but she was just average looking, it will suck but you can move on in a month or two. If she was a real hottie though, that shit changes you. Every new girl you date you'll start to resent and mistreat because she's not the one you miss. I stopped dating completely because of it.

dont go on Sup Forums

trash personalities with trash opinions and they're proud of it. poisonous

based

Just good luck and give your self time

Would have liked for my relationship to continue as yours has, it was stablising to some extent and she was as you say, realising and apologising more, but circumstances meant there was a break and we didn't have time to repair and stablise. I still miss her and it has been 4-5 years since we were together. She still writes occasionally, a couple of times a year, but I can't seem to reply to them. It either just feels I would write negativity or it would be futile.
I could have done with having someone who understood at the time, I was isolated and for a long while thought I was the crazy one because her behaviour made no sense at all.

Mine was beautiful, highly intelligent, well educated, from a good background, cultured, spoke four languages and had an awesome sense of humour, the chemical bond was very strong too.
Therefore, my mind is ruined, and nothing feels the same. I feel like a liar when I'm with other girls.

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Just end it man, what's the point of going on after than traumatic heart break? Why bother with life? She will never love you again, and you will never find that feeling again.

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It’s never too late user. If you think she’s worth it. I say give it a try.
I wouldn’t have gone through the trouble I did for my gf if I didn’t think she was worth it. And so far it has paid off. And I’m only more in love with her and she’s the same with me.

Just know it takes time, but eventually you will move past this.

It doesnt get easier it just becomes normal. I wish I could offer something more positive but I am currently going through the same thing except it's been like 2 months. I want to die. She is moving on, I am living in the past.

Vigorous masturbation user...

Im a virgin, but im not broken like you.
The worst thing you can do to a human is to give them something and then take it away, you took it for granted, you got used to it, now get unused to it or keep crying.

What the fuck kind of advice is that. You’re a virgin (don’t mean it as an insult), being intimate with someone you’ve been with for years adds more of a connection that you probably wouldn’t even comprehend.

Geeeeeeeeyyyyyyyyyyyy

Bruh feel this scary hard
Scared I can't find someone in my league that I will be as happy with

M?

being a virgin doesnt make me stupid, i know it hurts, i can relate, i have feelings too.

But im probably more in control of my emotions than you are of yours and thats not something i cant teach you. There is no easy way to get over it, but having the right mindset will help a lot. Right now you dont want to get over it, you think you do but you dont, you want to get her back with every fiber of your being because you are listening to your emotions instead of being rational about it.

Not op.

You can’t understand it, unless you’ve had a long intimate relationship. I’m not saying you’re stupid but you really can’t comprehend how it feels, you can try and pretend you understand but you won’t unless you’ve gone through it.
And it’s not as simple as having the right mindset.

and how would you know what i can and cant know about feelings?
i never said its just the mindset, but it would help, after all it is just a matter of thinking and time that will get him over it, would you not agree that mindset and attitude are important?
because if its irrelevant, he might aswell jump off a bridge to end the pain.

Because you haven’t experienced a relationship like that dipshit.

It’s like me saying “I understand how starving Ethiopians feel, I skipped lunch and am really hungry.”
“I understand depression, I got disconnected while I was in the middle of a game”
“I know how those raped women feel, someone accidentally bumped into me once in school”

That’s what you sound like.

Self improvement is the only option, live life for you not for her

Scrolling though and saw this comment and the one before. I’ll say you’re an idiot without reading anything. You don’t know shit if you haven’t been in a relationship like OP and saying you can understand makes you a a dipshit. You must be 18-19 cause you think you know something when you don’t know shit.

Go out with any friends you got and get to the drinking, helped me out after a 3.5 relationship

Lmao you called him a dipshit too and I didn’t read your comment until after I called him one.

It will hurt for a long time. Time heals. Go fuck some young bitches.

Not trying to insult that user. But he really doesn’t understand what OP feels like. And he’s a dipshit for trying to act like he understands exactly what op and others in a similar situation are going through.

and you sound like a dipshit because you claim to know what i know better than me, when you don't know shit.

my whole fucking point was that he is listening to his feelings too much, EVERYTHING you said is totally irrelevant. thanks for proving that you are an idiot.
i said many times that i know its not easy, but do you have a better solution than to try and fight his emotions with a better mindset?
oh you dont? then why the fuck are you in this thread?

I already gave op some advice, faggot. And I can relate because I went through something similar. So why don’t you fuck off. You gave shit advice and can’t even begin to comprehend what an intimate relationship actually is.

show me your advice then.

Try crossdressing or sucking cock. Go tranny

Someday you’ll see you’re wrong but okay user

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There’s my advice. From someone who actually had gone through the shit OP went through and not pretending to understand his situation like a fucking virgin.

thats the thing, im right and you cant refute it, but because i've never been in a relationship, you think i must be wrong.

thats pretty stupid and dishonest, had i said i've been in a relationship, you would have agreed with me.

You could say you’ve been in a relationship and have fucked. But it’s obvious you haven’t based on your bullshit worthless advice.

if its really over trying to get her back is TERRIBLE advice and the other part goes together with what i said, you can play video games while not obsessing over your pain, infact its kind of hard to do both at the same time.

This is literally the last thing you'll want to hear right now, but the solution is time. It fucking sucks, I know. I've gone through the same shit. Just take it easy and hang out with the lads. Don't take it personally. Just give it time.

im sorry brother.

get a motorcycle

No I wouldn’t. You’re a fucking twat and the more you argue you aren’t it makes it the more obvious. Look at me guys I smart too.

Like I said you wouldn’t understand. If he was with the girl for a short period of time, then getting her back wouldn’t be a solution. But 4 years of an intimate relationship. That’s a lot of time invested. And if you keep reading op’s response and how I go into more detail. I give him more advice on what he should do.
user stop trying to understand. You don’t. One day you will, I don’t doubt it. But until then, shut the fuck up and let people who have gone through the same give the advice.

If someone asks advice on how to be a beta bitch, I’m sure you can help them out. But you don’t belong in this thread.

I'm so sorry OP. it must suck. that's a long time gone to waste. you'll be okay though, I'm sure you'll find someone way better than her. or maybe she'll come back to you? she could be having a rough time mentally but I wouldn't know. just leave her be for a bit, relax and maybe do something you enjoy (not drinking or drugs though, will just make you more unstable). and don't listen to the user cunts telling you to kill yourself, it's really not worth it. stay safe dude.

>had a gf
Fuck off normie

Its not as bad as you think, all wounds need time to heal user, if she left you shes not there for the long run, the happiness and laughter will return,

lol get a gf you fucking disgrace

No sad music
No sad movies
It’s hard, but this should be a relief
Fuck as many girls as possible and don’t fall in love again anytime soon

Just cry it out don't bottle it up.
Or do what I did make fun of it make fun of her make fun of yourself.

I went through the same thing not to long ago. Honestly get tinder. Bang some randoms. Get the anger and anxiety out of you. Then start thinking about if you wanna get back on that metaphorical horse..

Fastest way of getting over someone is getting under someone else user

Get over it pussy

Just go fuck (with protection) any chick you can get your dick into. Enjoy being free. Time Will help heal. Be a fucking beast! Meet people go out get a hair cut, change something in your life.