Went to a strip club last night. Real classy joint, hot girls. Didn't spend more than $40, no private dances allowed...

Went to a strip club last night. Real classy joint, hot girls. Didn't spend more than $40, no private dances allowed, just tipped dancers. One girl I was eyeing came over, I tipped her a couple of dollars and she asked me to add her on Instagram, said I'm handsome and said to message her. I'm 99% sure this is a work, but would any of you hit her up and go for coffee? For context none of the girls asked any of my friends on our table for a number etc, and I wasn't dressed flashy either, just decent. I'm not the most handsome, but I get 2 dates a weekend atleast off dating apps. I'd like to take her out and be casual unless it's a work. Looking for advice, b

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U wanna date a stripper?

Just do it and see how it goes user. If you get the feeling something's up just back off

Yeah

Best characterization of strippers I've ever heard: Broken people who want to break other people.

Not my line, but used to be married to a (former) stripper. Can vouch for truth.

Thanks for the warning. Well aware. I just want to do something like this for the life experience. I'm just curious if I'm being worked, or she's actually interesting. If I was throwing cash, I would have had no doubt. But I didn't. I was just nice and complimented her tattoo and didn't try to touch her.

They usually don’t date guys they meet in the club, so I’m guessing she’s lining you up as a sponsor.

So you think she could be interested? I'm not familiar with strip clubs and whether they share personal details often etc.

Yeah that's definitely a possibility. But I wasn't even throwing cash. All my friends were walking up to the stage and throwing bills but I wasn't. Don't want to message her if it's a work tho

What do you mean by work?

I know a former stripper. She wished you gave her more money so your instinct is right. It's a work.

OTOH, they're fun to be around so just go back and see how you personally feel. Just don't think it's going anywhere.

I'm friends with a former stripper. She was telling me how she dated a AAA baseball player who was "fine" with her job until he wasn't. He started paying her $5k a month to not strip.

Playing me for a mark. Trying to get me to come in next time she dances, or be a sugar daddy, or pay for sex. I'm mid 20's and not exactly flashy about money. So it makes no sense why she'd try to get money out of me.

I'd be chill with that. Be friendly, hang out, not tryna get exclusive. Just looking to get laid and not pay for it.
Yeah I don't want to pay anyone lol

It could well have been an actual come-on. I've got a friend who strips still. Her current problem is that she's unpartnered in her private life and occasionally has small lapses with clients. She's pretty disciplined about it, but it does happen.

Could be an opportunity for a fuck buddy; could be a scam. Pretty easy to tell. Just don't remain silent about anything important and get it all out on the table ASAP.

Thanks user. An fwb would be nice.

I was eyeing this other girl all night, and asked her when she danced. I was joking around with her when it was her turn and she seemed into it, and rubbed her booty against me, a big no-no and got into trouble for it with the manager and avoided me all night. It was a nice confidence booster. I'm assuming it's coz I wasn't being crude like most guys. Felt good tho

Then that's great. Just know she is expecting you to give her some money. However that's what you're supposed to do there, so it's cool if you want to be around an attractive woman for a bit.

When you first meet with her, be very explicit. If you're only looking for casual fwb, say that in the first five minute. Ask her if she's ok with that not turning into a proper relationship. Ask when you're going to start fucking. Since she's working as a stripper, a kind of sex-lite work, she'll be comfortable with this kind of transactional approach to sex. If you get a bad feeling, just walk and move on.

>I'm not the most handsome, but I get 2 dates a weekend atleast off dating apps
I'm 30 years old and I only had ONE gf. Fuck. You.

Thanks for the advice user. I'm not sure I'd be able to talk to someone like that.

Have sex

I’ve dated a couple strippers. They both had orbiters they got money from for sending nudes/cam shows. They both had burners they used for clients.
I didn’t pay for anything, but I’m not sure that will be the case in your situation.

i can see your attitude in this post, guess how easy it is for girls to see your attitude in real life.

she's probably just into you. just go for it

Nah if I have to pay for anything I would nope on out of there. How'd you end up dating a lot of strippers? They're usually hot af and I bet great in bed

>I'm not sure I'd be able
It's easy with only a little practice. If you're even thinking about a fwb stripper, you'll need to be talking that way out of pure self defense.

Gotcha. Thanks user. Also, what about std's? Fairly common I presume? Do they get tested or anything?

>only 2 dates a weekend, no big deal brah

You are probably way more attractive than you think you are. You are probably like Brad Pitt circa 1994 level attractive, you dumb fuck.
You brainlets don't deserve the good looks you've been given. If I was attractive, I'd be a billionaire by now.

I really am not. I just dress well, am funny and work out. Plus I'm brown.

It just happened. I don’t go to strip clubs, met them out and about.
They were attractive, but no better/different than any other piece of ass. Got sick of them because they made tons of money but were always broke.

You sound like a really nice guy trying hard to be a gentleman. She smelled a mark and she's going to try and get some $$. Strippers (and normal women) don't go for that sort of guy. Might as well see how it goes tho.

This. She isn’t going to fuck you for free. Strippers heads are all fucked up. They associate money with sex. Even if you date you are going to be paying out your ass cause she expects it.

>std's? Fairly common
Sure. Defend yourself. Whores in legal countries do get regularly tested, but this isn't that.

Modern thin condoms (better QC on the materials) are far better than the ones from decades back. Small loss of sensation in exchange for avoiding chronic infection. I use Durex, as a rule.

Thanks user

Nah, I try not to do anything too fedora like.

As if this is just a stripper thing...
You’re describing most women in general.

Just out of curiosity, where do you live, OP?
Strippers in Portland for example are pretty much normal chicks because stripping there is pretty much normal.

Former serial stripper dater here.
Theyre great for a lot of reasons. However, theyre awful for the worst reasons.

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DC. This was a pretty upscale establishment.

How do I do this user? They're hot af and some of them are legit just working a job to pay off school. Pretty hot as long as I don't fall in love lol

What the fuck is “a work”? A single instance of work is called a job.

Did yours smell like...well, I called it stripper Axe?
Like a mix of fruit, flowers, and perfume.

Working a client. I may be using it wrong. Wwe wrestlers work the crowd by pretending it's a real. That's a work. It's a verb. Same here. Wondering if she's tryna get more money or actually wants to hang

OP here. Update: messaged her. Doesn't look like she read it. But soon after posted a story saying she wants a new man and lacks attention lmao

Probably a 50/50 chance.
If she mentions her amazon wish list nope the fuck out.

Yeah I'm not paying at all. Other than that I'm willing to go in and have fun with zero expectations

My experience was that they were pretty much like any other chick. But they seemed to know that they weren’t meant to have “boyfriends” because honestly, who wants to date a bitch that takes off her clothes for money?

Huh maybe it’s slang I’m not familiar with

Where you from?

That makes me sad, user. I totally get where guys who want to "save" them come from, but I also now see why that's a bad idea.

East coast

Good attitude. She’s probably just trying for the Cinderella story, but she’ll be happy going out on some dates until it sinks in that that isn’t happening.

Ah west coast here maybe that’s it

Fuck it dude date the stripper if you got the money. If you aren’t getting your moneys worth or shes clearly taking advantage of you just dump her. Could be really fun in the short term.

Cost of doing business...
They were both lazy, and it’s a lazy way to make good money. They were willing to strip so they could work very little and make a decent wage at the cost of their personal lives suffering.
Rule number one: don’t feel bad for the stripper.

She responded, didn’t she?

Yeah, I guess that's true too. Anyway, she hadn't responded yet and posted a story so probably took me for a mark idk

Nah, she didn't.

>condoms
You boys realize that std viruses are smaller than latex chemical bonds?

No, first I ever heard of this

bait

look it up, nigger

She judged you as a possible non-crazy source of reliable income. They look for guys who look like they're lonely but not dangerously crazy, and well-off enough to have spare cash for them, but not so rich that they have lots of women after them already. You're her target market. No reason not to meet her, just remember it's a sales meeting and she's trying to sell you something. You might as well decide beforehand what you think and how much you're willing to spend on her.

You're being worked, but that could mean any number of things. And a guy throwing cash isn't the guy they'd want. That kind of guy moves on to the next girl after a week. They want a nice reliable middle-of-the-road guy that will always give them a few hundred bucks when they need it. As long as you know what the deal is, go for it.

They aren't stupid. They can read who'd make a good client. Only an idiot would think that a guy who throws money on stage would make a good long-term client.

If it's fwb, the benefit she gives you is sex (or feeling good about yourself or feeling loved or whatever), and the one you give her is money.

It's not difficult to date strippers. They're on dating sites. Divorced high-school-dropout single moms with tattoos and criminal histories. If you're into that, fine.

You can assume she has herpes and HPV. Risk of HIV is about the same as any other person you meet.

Bingo. First guy here who knows what's up.

I can vouch for this. I girl who told me she was a stripper after we started dating and one week she took off and I get a call and shes in rehab for fentanyl and is dating another dude while we were a month in, so I fucked her facebook up and told every dude who she got money from that she was using it for dope. now no one talks to the skank

As if you would know what’s up if it bit you in the ass.
Bunch of opinions from dudes who haven’t the first clue itt...

Plenty of dudes talk to that skank.
You’re just not one of them.

lol I'm sure, shes literally homeless and lost some teeth now. I bet she'd be your type

You’d like to think that, wouldn’t you.
Guessing she’s partying her ass off on someone else’s dime and never gives a second thought to your dumb ass.

think? driving down town you see her posted in front of a circle k. keep wishing

If she didnt give you free access to her premium snap then it doesn't matter

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Sure, user...

shows how much you know about small towns where you know everyone. seems like you dont have a clue how to meet people, right? lol pussy

Meh, I didn’t get my heart broken by a dopehead stripper.
Feels good.

same, I found my fiance soon after that. you NEVER had your heart broken beacuse you never been with anyone lol sucks to suck doesnt it

Fuck sake, user. I'm glad she didn't respond then. I'm new to the city, don't know too many people here. I was out with friends but if she could sniff that out in 10s that's impressive

Please elaborate, user? Now that I think of it, the guys sitting alone in corners had girls go sit with them and talk for a while. My friends tossing cash on stage barely got any attention at the end of the dances

>std viruses are smaller than latex chemical bonds

Your propaganda is stale. This was an issue in the 90's about how much actually got through the latex condoms of the time. It was part of the antigay hysteria of the AIDS era and reinforced by Catholic zealots.

Actual facts.
- It's pore size, numbnuts, not bonding length.
- Pore sizes in lambskin condoms are well-known to allow pathogen transmission.
- Pore sizes in latex condoms could be larger, but not over the whole device, but specific pores taken as manufacturing flaws.
- Breakage rate is far higher than any transmission through pore leakage.
- Virulence is non-linearly related to dose size. A few virus particles are frequently not enough to infect because the immune system has enough capacity to suppress. It's when it gets overwhelmed that you get infection.
- Don't fuck a stripper if you've got a paranoid world view.
- You can eliminate all risk in the future by becoming an hero.

The people telling you 'to go for it" never had dealings with women like these. You say it's just one and done for the experience, but trust me, all women who do sex work for a living (not casually out of necessity to feed their kids, etc, etc) are text book sociopaths.
This bitch will try to get you to develop feelings so that you just become another source of cash and validation.
STAY AWAY!!!

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not that user, IMO they're just average when you get them out of their natural environment. Complete disasters IRL with money, substance, responsibility, etc.

>legit just working a job to pay off school

Are you 12? The vast majority of these women are professional hookers with a drug and/or alcohol habit, and have made a very, very long list of bad choices to find themselves in the situation they are in.

Grow up.