Is this a good tinder profile? i worry it's too much info all at once...

is this a good tinder profile? i worry it's too much info all at once, but i think it would also filter out a lot of girls that i simply wouldn't get on well with..

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That's legit AF, but I doubt you'll get hits.

id take out the last 3 lines

take out the part about being anxious and masturbating to much it's not needed. Girls like the slightly cute anxious stuff so just show it through your dates not through the profile and the part about autism.

i was wondering about the last two for sure, but mentioning anxiety related to gym is bad why? showing weakness?

ye i am trying to find a balance between scaring everyone off and just scaring off the people who judge too quickly

mostly just keeping it brief

ok thanks. i shouldn't tell them i have autism before meeting them? i feel like i have to warn people otherwise they think i am uninterested in them during the date, but it's just because im stuck in my head over thinking everything trying to make sense

make the 2nd part a bit shorter maybe because iTs cRiNgE bRo

ok thanks

ok cheers, ill try without the last 3 lines like another user said

Here's my edited version for you:

"I swipe right on everyone because I have fun talking to people about random topics. I get bored listening to small talk and hearing the same stories everyday.

I like movies and games (RuneScape anyone?), as well as puzzles, art, and being active, particularly cycling. I tend to work out from home instead of going to the gym.

I have autism, but I am learning how to cope with it"

Don't say you are lonely. It makes you sound like a loser, and no one wants to date a loser. Don't mention anxiety with the gym, because it doesn't really matter or add anything positive. Certainly don't mentioning fapping - you will not get any attention at all if you do.

Whether or not you mention your autism is tricky. I think it is fair to be upfront about it, but a lot of people will probably see it and avoid you for it. You could leave it out but find a way to mention it after a conversation has started and progressed a bit.

i see how you have edited it to be more positive, that's very clever. comparing it to mine i can see how negatively i have written it, including flaws that aren't relevant.
i broke up with an ex recently so i do feel like a loser and very lonely but i see your point. ye i guess fapping doesn't really do anything, i'm trying to stop it as well because it makes me less interested in talking to girls overall, i just see them as sex objects.
hmm yeah my thought process was similar, if they want to avoid me for it.. then i think that kind of person would find it hard to deal with me anyway, i guess i don't need to put it in the profile and i can mention it after talking for a while, otherwise they might have preconceptions about me that aren't accurate.
thanks a lot, you've given me a good perspective of it that i didn't see

Keep it simple stupid, lemme write it

"The most outgoing autistic man you'll meet. Your mom will love me"

Then some emojis or your height or whatever

it's not accurate for me though, i am not very outgoing and i don't want to meet their family.. unless i am reading into that much and it's just to "appear" that way, when they read it.

Ok but simplicity and a little joke goes a long way. At least with girls, it's always the weird ugly and fast girls that have giant bios. I'd much rather start talking to someone with a short funny bio that hooks me in.

Dating is a game and you gotta fake it til you make it. Tinder is a hookup app, sounds like you're liking for okcupid or match.com

that's true, i see your point.
i do want to hook up, that's what i used to use tinder for, but since being in a relationship (first time) i feel like i am not fun enough to do it now. i don't want a relationship again though, it's so stressful and tiring to deal with.
i did used to have a fun based profile when i was hooking up and that simplicity seemed to work well, so i agree.
>I'd much rather start talking to someone with a short funny bio that hooks me in.
i agree, thanks.
>Dating is a game and you gotta fake it til you make it.
i hate that phrase, even though everyone keeps telling it to me. i think it's because it feels like i am lying or pretending to be someone i'm not - though i guess i could see it as pretending to be someone that i would like to be -- fun.
REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
my head hurts. thanks guys.

This

what does 'legit as fuck' mean = truthful? accurate? i wasn't sure when i read it the first time

Legit; good.

Good luck op you'll find love. Remember your pictures matter 10x more than your bio too

thanks man, yeah i probably need to learn how to take a good picture to show my personality a bit!

why the fuck would you call yourself autistic in a tinder profile? nobody expects to hear the truth on a hookup app, just tell them some half truths that sound good and are believable, that's all your need to do but you'll probably end up fucking that up too.

I would stop eating cheesy bait but that's just me i guess.

Hahaha this is correct

it would be an experiment to find out how people react, rather than just assuming the worst.

>that's all your need to do but you'll probably end up fucking that up too.
lying is easy, but i don't like misleading people - i prefer to have someone i can meet up with regularly and relax around 100% - if i have lied to them, i can't relax.
if other people can do it and can just enjoy it, that's good for them, but i can't seem to do it.

i have told most of the girls i have hooked up with that i am autistic, but normally only doing it face to face after having sex already, most of them don't seem to care, some don't know what it is, so i have talked to them about it before and they have given me helpful advice and perspective.

not very cheesy user, if this was bait then i would make it a lot more autistic.
i like asking genuine questions here because everyone is user and is very blunt with their comments - other social media are never honest, they just say what they think other people want to see.

i didn't say lie numb nuts i said half truths. if you go around in your autistic haze expecting random girls to accept your aspergers or whatever you have then you are inexperienced and delusional.

ok well i don't know what 'half truths' is. so an example is i find it hard to differentiate between those things, i see black and white but not the grey in the middle if that is a good analogy, it might noe be. can you give me an example of a half truth?
i don't expect them to accept me, i like it when they tell me if i do something weird, so i can learn to adapt. if they don't know i am like this, they may just think i am being weird and creepy and not say anything, but in reality i just don't know when i have crossed the line.
i like learning, but my approach might not be the best to combine it with hooking up as well.

the truth is that women dont give a fuck if you are an aspie or not, thats how little they care. but just putting your aspergers out there like that will put people off because you've demonstrated your autism in the second paragraph of your profile. people WILL judge you as being weird and creepy even if you're not because neurotypicals aren't that upfront with their problems. why are you trying to make it harder for yourself? if you are autistic then that will inevitably come out and they will care or not care. doing some kind of filtering thing will just turn people off that would have originally given you the chance if they got to know you a little better. this is just weird and will make girls swipe left on a fucking HOOKUP APP.

i guess i don't understand why they aren't upfront with their problems and find it hard to grasp that. it would make the whole process so much easier if we were all upfront about stuff.
i see your point, i wasn't intending to make it harder for myself, it was intended to make it easier.
yeah that is a good point they will just naturally see it leak out of me when we start talking or interacting and i shouldn't try to make the decision for them.
it seems like everyone i match with now only wants to date or have a relationship, not sure if it's because of my age, but probably due to my pictures and profiles being autistic so they don't see it as sexy.
and because it's a hook-up app, i sometimes think i need to put something sexual in my bio to reduce the amount of people asking for a relationship.. but that would also filter out people due to them thinking i only want sex? it's so confusing

women aren't going to be upfront about wanting sex. they will say dates, or a relationship, but really they want sex just like every man on this earth. they can't say they want sex because that ruins the mood and doesn't build excitement.

for women, sex is like watching a movie and they can see the end anytime they want. they want to feel the emotions, the build up, and then the climax after a successful date. they don't want to jump to the end of the movie because that's boring and pointless. that's how they think about sex. everything they do and say is just to build their emotions so that the sex is a release of emotions and a climax to everything prior.

hmm after sitting here thinking for a bit, i see the point that they just don't give a fuck about it or not, because if someone told me that.. i wouldn't care either. i don't care much about them, as long as they are nice, laugh etc.. i have basic requirements and i guess others do too - but i put mine down to having low self esteem, whereas other people see to be very happy, even if the pictures don't represent their real lives.. so maybe they feel like i do too, but they decide not to care and get on with it.

unless you are Chad, don't put anything sexual in your profile. you want them to think about sex with you without it being a full blown conclusion. it should be a maybe and a what if. if women know they 100% will have sex with you it ruins the end of the movie.

i see, that does make sense. that is a good analogy. i guess thats why some like to go out dancing as well, it's like in the animal kingdom where the birds dance and attract others.. it's like the process of a movie as well with that excitement.
at the moment i am trying too hard to be friendly and not seem like a creep, but inadvertently not being exciting, fun or seeming interested... so my 'movie trailer' is a very good representation of the entire movie, so they don't watch it.
thanks, i need to write these posts down so i can read them again and learn to remember.
sorry if it feels like i am echoing your comment when i reply, the process of writing it down helps me understand.

Just put "yeah i like cuddling" That always works

i see, that makes sense.
one barrier that i find really hard is when they want to meet in a cafe or somewhere first - i assume to check if i am who i say i am etc in the pictures. i am not good at 1 on 1 verbal communication in a public place, how could i get around this issue?
i have never met someone in a cafe/pub and then gone on to have sex with them. it has always only ever been, them inviting me to their dorm room, hooking up and thats it.

Girls read bios?

i see girls putting 'looking for a big spoon' in their bio a lot, is that basically the same thing and it is 'down to fuck' but less sexual

Yeah it's basically the same
You can literally fix a hookup or date someone with just that.
It attracts girls so you just gotta make good conversation based on what you want.

You're going to scare everybody off. Get rid of the lonely shit, and the shit about runescape. Get rid of all of it. wtf nigga

don't play it too safe. and don't be afraid to use negative expressions or be afraid to disagree with her. if you are too nice then all she feels is good emotions, but negative emotions are powerful too. when you use both you make her feel both at once and your movie trailer becomes more interesting to her.

for the most part on tinder girls do want to know that you seem cool and that a first date wouldn't be awkward. they want to know you at least a little bit before meeting up. its more about not saying or doing anything stupid than impressing her so much that she has to have a date with you right now, it doesn't work that way.

there's no way around this. you simply need more social experience and learn to get good at it. having autism (if you actually have it) will make the process slower but it's not impossible to get to normie levels. go on lots of dates and screw it up a lot.

most likely you'll end up with a girlfriend anyway and this whole dating process might not become such a big deal if you keep at it. thats what happens to most guys.

if they message me first it's normally referencing something in my bio

i see, thanks. ye my conversation is always different, i think because i don't really know what i want. it must be confusing for them when i give such a range of signals.. they must not know what i want either, and probably don't care to ask.

Keep it short but powerfull. Dont avoid importand topics, you wanna fuck just be obvious. you got nothing to lose anyway.

damn ye i am learning a lot today. i spent ages thinking about this when typing it down, but glad i posted here first.
the runescape thing helped me once before, i met an asian girl and we did the christmas event together 2 years ago, now we log on skype together and do it each year. she used to play when she was younger but stopped due to busy life but it's so much fun because i just type so much shit in runescape, talking to other players and laughing with her

you seem to know my situation very well lol, ye i have been doing that, avoiding negative expression and disagreeing. hmm yeah that makes sense, if a girl is too nice to me then it is nice.. but it feels like something is missing. the challenging each other and talking about stuff does make the bond better and good for learning about each other.
how long do you think to wait before asking to meet up? and is not responding to messages quickly genuinely a thing that you have to avoid doing?
i just enjoy talking and giving witty comebacks so i don't bother to wait, but i can understand that might make it less exciting, if they don't have to wait for me to respond.

hmm ok thanks. i agree. some people have told me i should give up but i know i can do it, it will just be slow and i have to keep learning.
i did have a girlfriend last year even though i told her i didn't want to date, she just said we should try it and see how it goes, so we did and it was ok but i don't really want to do that again, so upsetting when it ends.
i got my diagnosis in my late 20's and only know about it for a few years, since i found out i have been trying to understand 'why' they gave me it and seeing if i can change.

ok thanks, yeah i need to keep it short, i have a habit of typing too much. sometimes i read back my messages after i type them and i just burst out laughing because they ramble on for so long and don't stick to the point, i get bored reading it.