Wizard here. How do you find someone willing to have sex with you?

Wizard here. How do you find someone willing to have sex with you?

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Be attractive.
Should that fail, find a whore.

Not even that, just don't look like shit. Even if you aren't totally attractive, you can get women with some decent charisma and a bit of luck.

I don't look like shit. I'm no supermodel but I'm not disgusting either. Somewhere around average in the looks department.
I guess I must not have any luck then. Or maybe I don't have any charisma. Or both.

So... It's 2 parts, Trying to not be a repulsive human is half. Hygiene is important, style is a smaller component. Having a good personality is key, no one will have sex with you if they hate your guts unless you're a 10 or rich.

The other half is volume. Meeting people is the only way to well... meet someone. If you don't work in a place with a wealth of new faces, you have to make a point to hit up all the social encounters you can. You never know where the next girl or guy that will find you attractive will pop up, and you never know who might be friends with them, be affable to everyone. Do stupid shit like Pokemon Go or hit up the gym if that's your thing.

In review: Take care of yourself, don't be a total gnard, meet as many people as possible.

P much just note above.

I'm not repulsive, and people generally seem to enjoy being around me.
Where do 30 somethings meet? Most people my age are married with kids, or at home trying to get some rest before the next day of drudgery at work.
The people who are out socializing are in their early 20s and haven't given up on life yet.

Settle for whatever likes you (as in you are not getting what you like) and let her ride your dick.

Should all that fail get a hooker. A trip to Tijuana with some dependalbe asshole will make it worth it.

For $500 you can pay a whole trip, fuck all night long and even party a little. Avoid drinking or getting wasted tho.

I'll settle for any woman who actually wants to fuck me. So far there haven't been any. Hookers don't count because they're only doing it for money. If I wanted to fuck a hooker I would have done it years ago.

Find a local BJj gym. Dont hit on the women there but BJJ will build confidence and or just take away your want for women. You'll eat sleep breath jiujitsu.

You do kinda have to live in a bigger place, I moved from Rural America to Vegas and then later Portland. It was night and fucking day. Tinder was great, Every activity I did (Ultimate Frisbee, Bowling, 5K fun runs, D&D meetups) was stacked with girls that would have been 9s in my old life. A lot of them single too.

If you find the right girl and cant fuck then what? Anxiety to have sex can fuck up your boner

You cast a seduction spell, I personally have had a good experience with vinus-rohypnol but a friend of mine swears by chloroform-cumragia.

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You best bet would be going there if you are not that old, and if you didn't age like shit.

Hell, there was this guy at college that was 25 and looked like 40, some random roasties even made fun of him over it. He didn't gave a shit, instead he gave all the fucks, mostly to said roasties because you know, roasties be roasting their beef.

Just don't do any autistic dance or screech like a freaking retard when something goes off. Keep your cool but be fun.... this off course regarding sex, if you want a relationship get a hobby that fulfills you and surround yourself with said hobbies.

>I'll settle for any woman who actually wants to fuck me
Don't be that stupid for fuck's sake. Sex is part of the relationship, not the main dish.

I thought you were asking how to perform better, get off the anxiety to perform well or whatever. This was my problem, paid hookers and no regrets to be had.

A relationship with a roastie will end up badly.

How old are you? I'm in the suburbs of a major metropolitan area so there are plenty of people around. I haven't tried tinder because it seems like the odds are stacked heavily against average men.
I don't know. I guess I'll cross that bridge if I ever get there. If she's actually the sort of woman I'd want to be with then hopefully she'd understand and we could try again next time.
Unfortunately seduction spells are a bit beyond my current power. So far I've only mastered spells like repel females and dispel attraction.

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This kinderfucker gets it.

Where did you got roof tho?

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>get a hobby that fulfills you
I'm into outdoor stuff like skiing and hiking. Met a decent number of women though those. We get along well and have fun together, but none of them want to be more than friends.
I'd definitely prefer sex in the context of a real relationship. But beggars can't be choosers. At this point, there's a very real possibility that I'll die a virgin, so I'll take what I can get.

Tinder is roastieland. And if you set down your standards you will surely score. Watch out for neggressess tho and always remember to wrap your junk.

What are women looking for in a profile on tinder? I've never used dating apps like that so I have no idea what to expect, other than the horror stories about average men not getting any matches.

Well, I got off after the first few updates. Some people tell me it became a pay-2-win bullshit.

Since you are not a looker you should go along the lines of being cheeky and fun. Not overtly sexual.

>Ay babes
>Wan sum netflix and chill?
>Ama a straigh up white gangsta
>Bitches be craving these chills yo

Yikes, those lines sounds so cringe. Do women actually go for shit like that?

chloroform-cumragia is a fairly simple spell the regent required is easily prepared by anyone with highschool alchemy knowledge or access to the dark repository.
You need to seek out your local vendor of alchemical supply's and follow word of mouth to find the reagent you require.

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>Wizard here
Can't you just like, cast Mage Hand and use it to jerk yourself off? Thats the same thing, right?

Or if you're high enough level, you should be able to just conjure someone up to help you out?

You pay. I'm almost 22 and still a virgin and I will probably end up paying for sex because I am not interesting or good looking in the slightest

I've tried that, but mage hands still chafe my dick from jerking me off too much.
Working on improving my conjuration, but conjuring a person is still beyond my ability.
I don't know about you, but for me the thing that makes sex so enticing is sharing an intimate moment with someone who actually wants to be there with you. Paying for it completely defeats the purpose.

Off course you are not supposed to write like nigger, you are mostly not supposed to write allthesame. If you can voice them it would be dope and might save you both some bullshit.

If she finds your voice boring then you dun goof'd and you casted Repel.

But mostly, it's open flirting back and forth. You shall learn how to volume yourself... if you are not an asperger retard.

Lower your standard in women then you’ll get pussy all the time.

>for me the thing that makes sex so enticing is sharing an intimate moment with someone who actually wants to be there with you
How the fuck would you even know that if you are a wizard?

Seriously, sex is overrated, you are romantizing it and wasting time on made up bullshit instead of going out to talk to roasties. As soon as you can easily and willingly pull up a roasite then move you game up and put sex as an added bonus, not as your main goal. For most guys it comes naturally, unless you are a sperg.

Just go the hell out.

I still have no idea what it means to "flirt" though. I've heard it's basically just being friendly and having fun, but that never works. I've also heard the PUA side of things with negs and various other scripted things that you're supposed say to get women to like you. I'm not a very good actor though so I doubt I could pull that off.

I can't go too much lower than female human with no penis.
>for most guys it comes naturally
Obviously it doesn't for me. That's why I'm posting this thread. If it came naturally I wouldn't be a 34 year old virgin.
Obviously I don't know what it's like to have sex, but I do know what it's like to jerk off, which I'd imagine is pretty close to having sex with someone who gives zero shits about me (prostitute, etc). Unless she actually wants to be there and shares an attraction, why even bother?

>female human with no penis.

What an odd notion, can't women do everything a man can do? If so it would REQUIRE a penis.

Gauge her reaction to basic shit.

>Her/Xer/Xir: Hey I like your hair
>(You): Hey thanks, I also like yours
>Her/Xer/Xir: hehe, thanks
>(You): is it your natural color right?
>Her/Xer/Xir: hehe why?
>(You): Just wondering how it might look down there
>Her/Xer/Xir: Oww you perv
>(You): *wink* *wink*

Just don't be explicitly sexual if you are not comfortable with it, or if she is not into you. Once you feel some kind of chemistry you go a little rougher and rougher until she doesn't get mad about you asking xer how she likes to suck it... off course, if she gets mad you will have to backpedal a lot or drop it allthesame.

Money....full.stop

>(you): Just wondering how it might look down there
>Her: WTF creep!?!?!1 That's sexual harassment and I'm calling the cops!!!!11 I'm going to tell everyone what a creepy weirdo loser you are. Fucking creep. Don't ever talk to me again.
ftfy

Asking for relatioship advice on Sup Forums is a ridiculous waste of time. Either that or you're trolling.
Almost nobody on Sup Forums have ever got to first base with a girl.
That's why there are so many overt and covert misogynistic posts on Sup Forums. So many posts obsessed with "degrading" and "using" girls.
Sexual frustration does weird things to adolescents. Never any good.

Just go to the bar at 9 or 10 at night and chat up any women you find attractive that are showing off a lot of skin. Most nights you can trip and fall into a vag

Yes it does comes naturally, how the fuck did you learned to speak? By trail and error? Making mistakes? No? You were a perfect asshole since birth didn't you?

Off fucking course not, everybody can learn it. Not everybody will have the same natural skill or looks to avoid most of the bullshit us ugly fucks have to endure but you gotta be willing to face straight up rejection, being ridiculed over nothing and mostly fucking up on a daily basis if you are that desperate to learn.

If you are in any major city you can travel maybe half an hour to some bar meet some random roastie fuck her and never see her again, or maybe seeing her and not even remembering her. Shit happens but so what? There are 4 million assholes in my city, over half of them are female and maybe a quarter are legal, which would make 1 million assess to wreck.

It always comes down to number games, even the most autistic PUA to ever exist can tell you about this, you know, that asshole that wrote a book and is a Vegas walking show or something.

Well, shit happens. Off fucking course you are not supposed to do that straight up, maybe once you are dating or something but never straight up after meeting her.

How hot do you need to be for this to work? Aren't all the more attractive guys doing the same thing?
I learned to speak as a young child, like everyone else. Then everyone else learned to have sex in their teens or so. But I missed that boat. It's cute when a toddler learns how to speak. It's not cute when a grown ass man has less experience with relationships than the average middle schooler.
When I was in my mid 20s my friends used to try to help me hit on girls at bars. It never worked. I have no idea how people manage to do that and get any success. They were always just weirded out that I was trying to talk to them.
>maybe once you are dating
If I were dating I probably wouldn't be posting here. That would be a huge milestone for me, and right now seems so far out of reach.

Did you ever learned anything from your friend? You just go to a decent bar and talk to girls until you find what works... just don't analize what you are doing when with her.

And if you are that much of a coward asshole try to watch Corey Wayne on youtube. If you can't beat the fear of whooing women you are never gonna make it. You HAVE to flirt, you have to learn to touch them, you gotta learn what your coward ass didn't dare do in highschool.

They didn't really know how to teach. It was mostly stuff like
>just go talk to her bro
>it's easy
>it'll come naturally
And then I go try to say hello and she just ignores me and keeps talking to her friends. Pretty disheartening and after a few rounds of that I gave up.
I also have no idea when/how it's appropriate to touch someone. Pretty much the only physical contact I have with other humans is occasional hugs.

If it's outside a bar it's way harder. Roasties are easier to approach, but as I said, they are toddler games compared to wooing a girl IRL. No PUA will ever teach you that since it's hard as fuck to pull off for ugly shits like us.

Since you are obviously asperger or retard I will exlpain it more slowly, in a bar you will get 1 out of 15 girls insterested in you. Outside a bar you might get 1 girl out of 80 to be interested in you. Shit sucks worse if you are that much of an aspie. But the odds will definetely get better over time once you stop giving a shit.

Just for the record, am NOT ANY KIND OF WOMANIZER and am ugly as sin according to mostly everybody I met until I hit 25. That was the time I decided "Fuck women" and stop caring what they think. Oddly enough I started performing better until I scored some random whore in a bar for the first time at 27.

Two fucking years learning the rope just for one hit and ditch. Am not interested in a relationship right now but I get more compliments now than I did in my 27s... hell I get complimented at all, I couldn't even talk to girls in highschool without being laughed at.

So either suck it up or stop venting your bullshit here.

The math just doesn't look good here...
1/15 girls interested.
1/10 of those give me her number.
1/10 of those respond.
1/10 of those go on a date.
1/10 of those go on a second date.
1/10 of those come back to my house.
1/10 of those come to my bedroom
1/10 of those have sex
So I only need to approach 150 million girls at a bar and one of them will have sex with me.
How many lifetimes of going to bars is that?

This is the gayest shit I've read all day.

>don't try to meet a girl, go wrestle with other dudes to build "confidence."

If you are looking for that kind of confidence join a boxing or muay Thai gym.

get some money. hire a prostitute.

Get friends. It's 200% harder to find a romantic partner without common acquaintances

Have money. If I thought hiring a prostitute would help I'd have done it ages ago. I wouldn't enjoy it. She wouldn't enjoy it. What would be the point?
I've been working hard on this the past few years. Lost most of my friends in my late 20s due to apathy and depression. Now I'm finally starting to build a social circle again. But I'm worried about asking out anyone I'm going to see often, because if she says no it's going to be awkward (at best) for everyone every time we see each other.

it's easy bro
just be yourself
youll find the right one eventually

For fuck's sake, then kill yourself. Am on my way out. If you are not willing to play agaisnt those odds you don't deserve shit then. If you come here and tell me something along the lines of over 200 girls rejecting you then come make some bullshit thread about women being cunts.

Otherwise an hero.

What do you think are more realistic odds then?

Ok am out, I got rejected nearly on a daily basis at my 26-27. Grow a pair.

Ok, laters. But can anyone else give more insight on the real odds? I've probably barely spoken to 200 women in my life, and that includes waitresses and cashiers. If the odds are really 1/200, I probably still have another few lifetimes to wait.

Fuck off OP. I gave you legit answers last time. Don't start spamming.

If you don't want to be a part of the thread, then leave. But I have nowhere else to turn. You guys are the only ones I can talk to about this.

What a tard. ITs more like this OP:

Of all women:

1/15 girls interested.
9/10 of those give me her number.
8/10 of those respond.
10/10 of those go on a date.
8/10 of those go on a second date.
8/10 of those come back to my house.
9/10 of those come to my bedroom
9/10 of those have sex


So basically, out of every woman you see out in the world, 3 of every 100 will have sex with you. The trick is figuring out which ones are interested, and only bothering approaching those. You do that by learning body language. You can easily get to the point where 50% of the women you approach give you their number, and then it becomes 37 of every 100% of women you approach will fuck you. And that's not bad at all. That's about where I'm at. 1 third of every woman I hit on with the intent to have sex with has sex with me.

Stop being a fucking incel and actually try, what do you think a girl will magically appear in your bedroom? Not even the grandest of wizards could pull that off.
Seriously though, you haven't even tried tinder because you read some bullshit made up statistics? So youre just gonna give up? People like you really piss me the fuck off because i used to be the same way...
Just make yourself look like... not a greasy incel, stop thinking that women are the only thing that matters and without their worship youre nothing, believe it or not, they're just regular human beings with thoughts and opinions and stories just like you and me... i know it may be hard to believe.

Tl;dr stop being a faggot

Do you look like a greek god or something? 37/100 seems practically miraculous. I can't imagine ever having that sort of luck. How do you approach them and what do you do to keep them interested? How attractive are you /10?

There's no such thing as attractive out of 10.

I'm bit overweight and not muscular but I dress nice. I don't like my nose and I keep a beard because I get a 5 oclock neckshadow at noon, and the beard helps hide it. I make good money, but I don't flaunt it. I drive a beater from 2004. I do have really nice eyes, but that's about it.

The single most important things you can do are:
1) Dress well
2) Be confident.

I know enough women to realize that they're just regular human beings, and like all regular human beings they want to have sex with the most attractive people they can. However, due to the dynamics between men and women, they can just have sex with the top 15% of men, leaving the rest of us in the dust.
How do you dress? I have enough money to dress well, but I don't know what to do to dress well.

Sorry your inbred incel cuck. Unlike you I am a natural casanova with charisma through the roof. One smile to a 10/10 3.14qt pie and her panties are coming off, one wink and a hand gesture of a gun shooting at her direction and her pussy is squirting. With my charming good looks and unmatched confidence I have girls for different days of the week. My god like physique, I am 6'4", IQ of genius level, 230 lbs of lean muscles, and a 850hp highly mod z06, the women can't resist. My manhood has created more wheelchair disability than your work has filed for worker's comp. I literally have 2 women in my bed right now while typing this. One is licking my asshole clean and the other is driving my dick like a shifter. I can literally fuck both of these women for 4 hrs long and make them orgasm 7 times each before spraying my essence on their face giving these ladies a softer and more youthful skin complexion. And yes, I do this everyday and night. I only date the best of the best, tgis excludes the really desperate fat ugly slam piggies. I could have them all but I am leaving those crumbs for you, that is, if you can even get in their pants. Wow, you're really pathetic.

I guess I ignored your other questions.

No - see last post.
Its not miraculous, I just have a good idea they are interested before I walk up.
I joke with them. Ask them about themselves. Don't talk about myself much, just enough to instill some mystery.
As for approaching, its easier than it seems. Usually its something simple like "Hi, mind if I sit here?", and then ask them something. If they make eye contact at that point you've got a damn good shot. I never use pick up lines.

Nah bro, im like a 5/10 and i have the sexe on the reg

>I know enough women to realize that they're just regular human beings, and like all regular human beings they want to have sex with the most attractive people they can. However, due to the dynamics between men and women, they can just have sex with the top 15% of men, leaving the rest of us in the dust.

False. They don't want to have sex with the most attractive men they can. They have a variety of things they look for, but its not that. They want to have sex with the man that makes them feel the most alive. The man that makes THEM feel the most attractive. The man that makes them feel the most comfortable.

Scoring is 90% about the way you make them feel about themselves.

>How do you dress?

Business casual, mostly. I can't really help you there. You gotta experiment and find your own style.

And just a followup thought. do YOU only want to have sex with the most attractive woman you can find willing to let you put it in?

Because I certainly don't. Sure, I only have sex with women I find attractive, but past that its not about looks. Its about how much I enjoy their company. How witty they are, or how funny they think my stupid jokes are.

go to a doc, tell them you have anxiety and take lexapro/escitalopram. Wait 3-4 months and you'll be ready to talk to women like a normal person, then they'll want to fuck you ugly or not.

I'm not just talking about physical attractiveness. Wittiness, empathy, compatibility, humor, etc, are all elements to what makes someone attractive.
I can talk to women. I just can't get them to want to have sex with me. Do these miracle drugs make you sexier?

Fuck off Russell

If they make you more confident (i dunno, do they?) then that by itself will make you sexier.

Key word being “willing”. There is a big difference to wanting to fuck you and being willing to.


Self-improvement and a sense of empathy. If your’e 400 pounds and have no personality, than no one will want to fuck you without paying them. You are paying something in the end, but money is the easy way out.

I've been working hard on self improvement. Lost 15lbs in the last few months or so. Working on diet and staying involved in outdoor group activities like skiing. I hope eventually it's enough for someone to find me attractive.

Dude you're attractive enough, you lack confidence and that's likely due to anxiety even if you don't think you're anxious.

I've been on this shit for about 2 months and the changes has been great. Only issue is you'll get tired and sleepy for the first month or so but if you work through it the sleepiness fades away eventually.

I wish i'd started taking this drug years ago.

I definitely lack confidence. I don't know how well going to a doctor and asking for drugs is to work though. Seems like they're pretty careful with that shit these days.

OK. Where can I find gf?
Just talk to random stranger in a club?

I see you're retarded too, go to the doctor you dumb faggot.

Also, lift 2-3 times a week, buy a barbell and dumbbells or whatever they are and do it at home, you don't need to be fucking ripped, just a little definition (particularly in your biceps and triceps) is all girls really want.

What do you recommend I say to a doctor?
>i can't get laid, help
I have anxiety when it comes to relationships, but not really in the course of everyday activities.
And yep, good call on the dumbbells. I've already got a set and been working with them. They're part of what's helped me lose the weight this year.

tell the doc you have trouble building relationships, you lack confidence around women, perhaps reluctant to speak to people, nervous when speaking to your boss. Just speak frankly with your doc.

read up on people's stories on plebbit/r/lexapro/

I think my problem is far more localized
>have trouble building relationships
definitely
>lack confidence around women
not really. i'm fine around women except in the context of trying to start a relationship
>reluctant to speak to people
nope. i had some trouble with this in the past, but now i actually have a pretty easy time speaking with people
>nervous when speaking with your boss
definitely not. work and career is one area of my life where i'm completely confident and feel at ease
Long story short, I don't think I have a general anxiety disorder. I'm just completely fucked when it comes to forming intimate relationships with women.

You won't, just give up and concentrate on your wizardry.

I'm sorry, man. I'm in the same situation as you are right now. The best thing you can do is give up. Don't listen to this "confidence" bullshit, it doesn't work and it just makes you look out of place. Its It's pretty obvious to everyone in the room when a soft spoken guy is trying to act as if he has everything going for him. People see right through that. We'll never get out of this hole we dug ourselves into decades ago. Try to find happiness in things you like and forget about relationships.

I've been trying to find purpose in other things. Hobbies, career, etc. By most measures I'm actually a fairly successful dude. But going this long without a relationship just tears me apart inside. I don't know how much longer I can keep going on like this.

you need to have friends that are girls. that's seriously all it takes. don't fall in love with every girl. if your libido is that high talk to your doctor.

i have always had friends that are girls, and through them i met way more girls then i ever would have. it's not that you are unsexable, it's just that desperation comes through in our pheromones.

be a better person

How many female friends would you say you have? I've been trying hard to make friends for the past few years, and I guess I've got a couple. It's honestly very difficult to make friends once you get out of college. Everyone is doing their own thing, but I'm trying.

It tears me apart too. I'm only alive until my parents die, after that I'm getting physician assisted suicide. But, for now, I just indulge in mindless activities like video games, movies and music with the occasional toke up on the weekends. People like us are just a result of natural selection. All we can do is just accept it and move on.

Honestly don't knock hookers. I highly recommend seeing a professional for your "first time" if its later in life just to get the jitters off and increase your confidence.

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Buy a hooker? $300 and you can guarantee to lose your v card.

he shit on it earlier in the thread. stupid faggot

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Well you're pretty fucking depressing...
I did that for quite a while. Mindless indulgences. Escapism. Drugs.
Then I tried to get my life back on track to where I could maybe find a relationship. Worked on my social skills. Expanded my social circle. Started working out. Bought a house. I really don't want all of that to be for nothing. I can't go back to where I used to be.
Have you tried hookers? I'd get one in a heartbeat if I thought it would actually help, but I have serious doubts. I don't think paying for sex would help me find someone who actually wants to be with me.

i've seen probably over a thousand hookers in my life (i'm kinda old and kinda rich). I've also been married and had sex for free with about 30 different women. I do, sincerely, think it will help someone like you. feel free to ask me whatever you want about hookers, I enjoy talking about it on Sup Forums cause I can't really anywhere else

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It's a depressing situation, what do you expect? Why delude yourself into believing otherwise? Hope just hurts you in the long run, after all. I know its not what you want to hear. We all want to make it, but that train departed long ago. You're literally decades behind everyone your age.

Oh and reading the other part of your reply, if that is really true, you will have no problem with women and I really truly recommend an escort to get you over the v card hump

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Great, thanks. I've got a few hooker questions:
Are you someplace where it's legal? Here in the land of freedumb I don't want to end up losing my virginity to Bubba in prison by getting caught up in a sting. There are legal places in the US, but I'd have to book a flight and make a weekend of it. Not out of the question if it would seriously help me, but not trivial either.
Do hookers make you feel like they're into it? Are they actually into it? What's the most awkward part of the whole situation?
How do you deal with payment? Do you pay before or after? Do they expect tips? Tipping in the US is complicated enough as is, with every industry having different expectations.
Are they generally friendly and open to chatting for a bit, or is is more of a "get your dick in and get out" sort of situation?

dress really foccin nice m8

ngl I'm not disgustingly ugly, but I do get women's attention when I wear some nice adidas and pay for shit with large Bills

1. Find someone you want to have sex with
2. Repeatedly punch them in the back of their head
3. Wait for twitching to stop
4. Have sex

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Ask for head.

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Incels LOL

Usually talking like a man to a woman, instead of human to human.

I can't kill myself yet. I couldn't do that to my parents. But I can't keep going on like this. I'm going insane.
I'm not sure how seeing an escort would help though. Sure, I'd technically no longer be a virgin, but I'd still have no idea how to attract a woman. I'm worried things would just be worse once I know what I'm missing.